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Well, my g/f has just told me that she thinks that it's best for us to call it quits :sad: The reason? The most stupid one!She told me since she has a very fragile health and is sick too often,she does not want me to worry!!!(Isn't it totally natural to worry for ppl u love?:confused: ) She loves me too much for that!

Do u break with someone cuz u love them too much??? Who does that???And I can't do anything about it because I am zillions kms away from her :( everything is in her hands now and I don't like that. If she decides not to get in touch anymore,there is nothing I can do about it!!!:( I just hope that she's reacting like this cuz she is sick and can't think clearly :sad:

Why do relationships have to be so complicated?You would think that when the two persons love each other,it should be easy.Well; it isn't!Arghhhh :confused: :(
 

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Well I did ask her if she's found someone else and she said that she felt hurt that such a thought crossed my mind! I don't know what to think :confused:
 

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she might not necessarily have met someone else, she might be having problems with the distance, her feelings may have changed - it could be all manner of things, the troof though is that shes probably using her being sick as a cover so as not to hurt you completely. Everyone does it im afraid.

Big hugs to you hun *sympathetic smile*
 

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Julie said:
she might not necessarily have met someone else, she might be having problems with the distance, her feelings may have changed - it could be all manner of things, the troof though is that shes probably using her being sick as a cover so as not to hurt you completely. Everyone does it im afraid.

Big hugs to you hun *sympathetic smile*
Thanks :)

I have asked her about the distance thing and she said it's not the problem,she said she still loved me and she was crying on the phone(well we were both crying). She said she doesn't think it is fair for me to put up with a g/f who is sick all the time :sad: And before hanging up she told me she will always love me!I am completely lost!:confused:
 

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That's women for you - always fobbing you off with crappy excuses.

So much for honesty in a relationship. They don't even have the decency to tell you the real reason for breaking up.

I guess that's just the way it has to be. How can you know what they want when half the time they don't even know what they want? Pfft...

Just tell yourself that you are better off without her. I think if that's the way they treat you, then they aren't worth knowing anyway.

Well there it is, rant over!
 

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She is not like what u just described above :) She has always been great with me,I have spent the most fantastic time of my life with her when we met.I just don't get it though. I mean how can u break up with someone cuz they worry about u?:confused: I know that last time she was ill,her friend told me she thought she would die :sad: Maybe she thinks she's protecting me somehow? I don't know, i just hope i am not fooling myself here :(
 

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Sorry, I probably got caught up in myself there. :eek:

I think, since she is very ill, she has enough to worry about making sure she herself gets better. She probably still cares for you, but at the moment feels she can't cope with the relationship as well, and doesn't want to have to worry about you worrying about her.

Give her some time and space and let things cool down for a while. If she still cares for you, that won't go away. If you love her, just make sure you are there when she is ready for you. :)
 

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rocktheboat...
sometimes people sacrifice their own wants and desires for the person they love. perhaps that is what she's doing. maybe she feels you can have a better quality of life with someone who doesn't have all of her ailments. if this is so, then the distance between you two definitely does not help. but if you truly love her, then do everything within your power to make her believe and feel that no one could take her place. you see, she probably doesn't feel good about herself...and wants to spare you the problem of having her in your life...maybe you should pay her a visit soon...REAL soon. :)
 

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Sorry, I probably got caught up in myself there. :eek:

I think, since she is very ill, she has enough to worry about making sure she herself gets better. She probably still cares for you, but at the moment feels she can't cope with the relationship as well, and doesn't want to have to worry about you worrying about her.

Give her some time and space and let things cool down for a while. If she still cares for you, that won't go away. If you love her, just make sure you are there when she is ready for you. :)
Thanks for that :)

I thought about that too :) but i love her so much and the fact that she is ill doesn't change the way i feel,i mean i love her even more. It just makes me sad that she does not want my support even if i am far away.
 

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rocktheboat...
sometimes people sacrifice their own wants and desires for the person they love. perhaps that is what she's doing. maybe she feels you can have a better quality of life with someone who doesn't have all of her ailments. if this is so, then the distance between you two definitely does not help. but if you truly love her, then do everything within your power to make her believe and feel that no one could take her place. you see, she probably doesn't feel good about herself...and wants to spare you the problem of having her in your life...maybe you should pay her a visit soon...REAL soon. :)
Thanks for ur reply :)

She knows that i can never love anyone else but her :) She is my all :) I wish that I could be with her and show her my love but I don't have enough money to afford the trip :( It makes me sad to know that she is ill and i can't be with her :sad:

:fiery: @ distance !
 

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oh and she said it would be fine if i find myself someone else! :eek: she knows i can't live without her !:( This is very depressing! Looks like love is not all we need ! :confused:
 

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..just give her sometime to herself - let her think things out, sooner or later she'll realize shes making a mistake if in fact she solely broke up with you because she doesnt want you to worry..

.. and err as far as her health goes - maybe she can't handle being in a relationship at this particular point in time - she needs to take time out for herself and take care of herself first .. the only thing you can do is tell her you dont agree with her decision but let her know that you'll still be there waiting for her when shes ready..
 

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i agree with DD, maybe if u could afford a trip somehow things would get better:)

*hugs*
 

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Amanda, if you are in here you better stop messin!! where are you!?
 
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