[Sean.]

Again, I'm just speculating here, I don't really know the details, but it's possible you're just expecting things to happen too fast. What sort of time frames are we talking here between meeting, texting phase, dates, etc.? Days, weeks, months?

[Nicolás89]

Ouch! Sean is being brutally honest.

He's saying the truth though, you really need to clear your mind, you're dating around (not saying that's a bad thing) testing your dates even. You probably just want the feeling of being liked more than the guys you've been meeting.

[VeeJJ]

Originally Posted by Matías.

Ouch! Sean is being brutally honest.

He's saying the truth though, you really need to clear your mind, you're dating around (not saying that's a bad thing) testing your dates even. You probably just want the feeling of being liked more than the guys you've been meeting.

Bitch, way to turn. Didn't you just say you do the same shit scheming bitchesssssss

[Sean.]

Originally Posted by VeeJJ

uh, calm down. How into either of them can I be? We went on one date. It takes me a few dates to really have a feel for a guy and if they are the right guy for me. Everyone is on even playing ground right now.

Sorry, I didn't mean to be rude or anything. Apologies, if I came across too strongly, I just trying to understand the situation.

I think it's a bit different from stuff I've experienced. How are you meeting these guys?

[VeeJJ]

Originally Posted by Sean.

Again, I'm just speculating here, I don't really know the details, but it's possible you're just expecting things to happen too fast. What sort of time frames are we talking here between meeting, texting phase, dates, etc.? Days, weeks, months?

Short ones. Not much time has past. And I don't want an "instant boyfriend just add water" kinda guy. I try and prolong the dating process as long as humanly possible before relationships happen. I'm still just looking for that assurance that I wasn't a total loser on our date and stuff.

[delicatecutter]

Maybe they're just not that into you?

[Sean.]

Originally Posted by Matías.

Ouch! Sean is being brutally honest.

He's saying the truth though, you really need to clear your mind, you're dating around (not saying that's a bad thing) testing your dates even. You probably just want the feeling of being liked more than the guys you've been meeting.

Again, apologies for the brutal honesty VJJ, but this is the impression I get too.

Not that there's anything wrong with that, we all like to feel wanted.

[VeeJJ]

Originally Posted by delicatecutter

Maybe they're just not that into you?

Possible and totally fine. send some kind of message. Obviously the eagerness is a sign and if it continues much longer I get it but still i leave the option for a mature departure open.

[Nicolás89]

Originally Posted by VeeJJ

Bitch, way to turn. Didn't you just say you do the same shit scheming bitchesssssss

I try to stick with one guy though.

[VeeJJ]

Originally Posted by Matías.

I try to stick with one guy though.

It's not like I didn't on purpose, just because I go on a date with one guy doesn't mean my dating life automatically becomes reserved until he's out of the picture, thats dumb.

[Sean.]

Originally Posted by VeeJJ

Short ones. Not much time has past. And I don't want an "instant boyfriend just add water" kinda guy. I try and prolong the dating process as long as humanly possible before relationships happen. I'm still just looking for that assurance that I wasn't a total loser on our date and stuff.

Try setting up a second date after a short while, I'd say them agreement to another meet is a pretty good signal of interest. You really do have to relax your 4 hour rule though!

As for the ones that just ditch you, thank your lucky stars you got out when you did, because there's only a whole lotta heart ache waiting for you later on down those roads.

[LeRoy.]

Do these people know u r posting their pics and names for thousands of people to see ? Do you have their permission to post these pics? Someone could end up in major trouble because of this.

[delicatecutter]

[Sean.]

Originally Posted by VeeJJ

It's not like I didn't on purpose, just because I go on a date with one guy doesn't mean my dating life automatically becomes reserved until he's out of the picture, thats dumb.

Sorry, I find this really strange. Normally, if I'm interested in somebody, I don't really have eyes for anyone else.

Unless you didn't know the guy before the date?

[VeeJJ]

Originally Posted by Sean.

Try setting up a second date after a short while, I'd say them agreement to another meet is a pretty good signal of interest. You really do have to relax your 4 hour rule though!

As for the ones that just ditch you, thank your lucky stars you got out when you did, because there's only a whole lotta heart ache waiting for you later on down those roads.

gracias, and no offense and i'm saying this just cause I get the vibe, I'm not a 16 year old boy dating around. I've unfortunately had the dreadful luxury of being a train wreck of a relationship for two and a half years with a grown man. This isn't my first rodeo. everyone is subject to a decent amount of insecurity within their personal life.

Originally Posted by LeRoy.

Do these people know u r posting their pics and names for thousands of people to see ? Do you have their permission to post these pics? Someone could end up in major trouble because of this.

Go away.