I'm just after posting this in Brigade but I know most of you don't post there and would have good advice to offer. I kept the post gory details free for our strangely inclined straight posters here.
So, I need a little advice.
I went out for my birthday at the weekend and got absolutely smashed as you do. So, there was this guy from my maths class there too and he was even worse than I was and he randomly decided to tell me he was gay. I'm sure you can see where this going.
Anyways so we went outside and proceeded to do the deed but my taxi was coming soon and we had the ingenious idea for him to stay at my house. We made up excuse he missed his taxi. So he stayed at mine and we picked up where we left off. He woke up sober and was pretty annoyed/embarrassed and left my house early. I don't even know where he went because apparently he didn't land home for another 5 hours after that.
As you can imagine the whole awkward phase is starting to play out, well not so much on my part as I've been there and done that whole awkward thing and cbf bothering with it. But I can see that this is really tearing him up. He was in better spirits today but he was pretty bad yesterday. He still avoids all eye contact with me but at least he's acting normal-ish towards others. IDK he told me that he was bi and that he'd thought I was hot for a couple of years but I'm wondering whether he is actually straight and it was just because he was smashed.
What should I do, should I reach out and just say that we'll forget about it? Although, I was his first sexual experience girl or boy so I'm not sure if there are many feelings attached at his end and that's not somewhere I really wanna go. Should I just leave it and see and only talk to him about it if situation worsens. I mean I've been in this situation before but not with someone that it was their first time and I see in school. Advice?
but in all seriousness this is a tough situation, maybe he's not come out yet. or maybe he actually just doesn't know what sexuality he is
it could've been a drunken one time thing, but i'd try and talk to him outside of school because its obviously uncomfortable for him in class, maybe online? and i'm guessing your not the type of person to go on gossiping about your latest fling right? just be mature about it, and if you understand where he's coming from and visa versa then everything will be ok.
I've been in that situation before, and some dudes will feel awkward or guilty after hooking up with another guy. I doubt it's because he's straight, mostly because I'm a firm believer in the whole "drunk words are sober thoughts" thing. He might just feel uncomfortable with his sexuality, and to him you're a reminder of that. If you're friends with this guy or are going to be seeing a ton of him then talking to him wouldn't be a bad idea, but otherwise I'd let it be for the time being and see how he reacts after some time passes. If it's really bothering you then of course you can try talking to him, but I dunno how he'd react so soon after the fact and because it was his first time.
Sorry it's awkward man. Believe me, I know how you feel.
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