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Old Jan 11th, 2009, 11:06 PM   #1
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Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

So, due to the huge percentage of gay people on this forum, why not just have a thread where people tell their coming-out stories in as much detail as wanted?
It can be inspiring for young gay people worried about how people might react, what time might be best to come out, and just for general interest/entertainment?

I haven't come out yet to everyone, so I don't really have one really. But I will add mine when it inevitably happens...
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Old Jan 11th, 2009, 11:20 PM   #2
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

Well im only out to my close friends (and the majority of a small little town on the west coast of Ireland but we wont go into that). In June there, a few days before my 18th, me and a friend we're having lunch and he came out to me so I just thought 'what the heck... im gay too'. I would never have told anyone had he not said first lol then I asked him to tell a few others cause I was too embarressed to do it myself. It was all a bit fortunate really and not particularly inspiring. The parents still don't know, im hoping that if I drop enough hints it won't be so much of a shock when I do eventually tell them.
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Old Jan 11th, 2009, 11:28 PM   #3
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

Long story short... I came out when I was 17, I'll be dead by the time I'm 22.

Don't do it.
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Long story short... I came out when I was 17, I'll be dead by the time I'm 22.

Don't do it.
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Old Jan 12th, 2009, 12:36 AM   #5
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

i was in religion class with my best friend at the time. and i wrote it in a letter. the face she had while reading was priceless, we were dying of laughter.
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Old Jan 12th, 2009, 01:07 AM   #6
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

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Long story short... I came out when I was 17, I'll be dead by the time I'm 22.

Don't do it.
What happened Dave? That sounds horrible.

I'm sorry to hear about that, but everyone's situation is different so i wouldn't tell everyone not to do it.

I came out a little over a year ago to my brother first, then my one of my best friends(fag hag ), then my parents. Technically, I came out to my best friend who i've been friends with since I was little, but he's in denial bisexual too. Same thing happened with a friend I met through tennis, we eventually came out to each other. Everyone took it so well because despite living in a small, narrow-minded area they are anything but that. My parents needed some time to deal with it, but now it's at the point where my mom asks me which guys I think are good looking on the soap operas she watches.

My advice would be to read the type of people you're around and find your own way way of coming out at the right time. It's not easy, but I feel everyone is put on this earth to face challenges and adversity in their life so even though it's hard eventually you have to stand up for yourself and do it.
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

i won't give my coming out story because its really bad
my advice : be prepared for all consequences when you do decide to tell
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

So far I've only told one friend, it just kinda slipped out. After I said it I was like "holy shit I cant believe I just said that". It felt good though and she was cool with it.
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

I was sitting in my room with one of my flatmates and he said that everyone knew I was gay. I didn't respond, because I didn't know what to say. About 3 months later I sent him a message and told him about what had really happened (I had sex with one person almost 1.5 year before and nothing else) and that while I was curious I was not ready to commit to boys first. I was dating girls and I decided that I wanted to make sure that I was really interested in them and not just doing it to hide you know? So I told him that yes, I tried it once and I was not asahmed and that I was still growing.

Then, after being dumped a bit later I tried again with boys. I had trouble developing any emotional attachment and I felt uncomfortable in gay areas and with some people...I really tried to do many things and they didn't work. Then, I kind of gave up and decided just to date girls for now. I told myself that I am not ashamed or embarassed about being attracted to boys, but that I just would not pursue them. If one came to me, then I'd see what would happen. I then told my friend Guilliame and then a few weeks later he came out too and kept trying to have sex with me Now its really awkward and I'm more confused than I was before and I still don't know what to do

From my experience, its hard to be out when you don't fit in with other gays and when people you know don't know any gays and so they might act differently around you. I don't like the idea of websites or clubs - I don't dance or like that scene with girls or boys - so I was at a loss of what to do even if I wanted to meet boys. So I kind of gave up trying. Until I basically got molested But still, I think you have to take your time until you feel all comfortable with yourself. Because once you come out, you can't go back in, right?
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Re: Tell Your Coming-Out Story (In Brief, if needed)

I came out gradually to my friends at 16 and it was the best thing I ever did. Now the only people who don't know are my parents but I'm trying to pick the right time.
The thing I was most scared about was telling my best friend because he is a guy and he's straight and I thought he might get the wrong idea but he was amazing with it, nothing changed and now we can joke about it.

So yeah, coming out is good kids
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Coming out is so overrated. Personally, I've never felt it was anyone else's business and the process forces you to label yourself.
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i came out in high school. it sucked. but that was over 10 years ago.
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My sister told everyone
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Coming out is so overrated. Personally, I've never felt it was anyone else's business and the process forces you to label yourself.
For me, at least, coming out was the thing that allowed me to be my truest self. Before I came out to even my closest friends, I didn't tell them I liked Britney Spears, as stupid as it sounds. And, when asked if I watched Will & Grace, I would say no. So, it's those little things that I don't have to pretend to like/not like, and be myself.

And, also...it's nice that when I see a hot guy, I can say, Holy fuck he's hot.
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For me, at least, coming out was the thing that allowed me to be my truest self. Before I came out to even my closest friends, I didn't tell them I liked Britney Spears, as stupid as it sounds. And, when asked if I watched Will & Grace, I would say no. So, it's those little things that I don't have to pretend to like/not like, and be myself.

And, also...it's nice that when I see a hot guy, I can say, Holy fuck he's hot.
I thought I was the only one like that.

i.e. I didn't tell anyone I like "The Golden Girls" before I came out.
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