Originally Posted by Хлоэ
bad thoughts and etc?
I wish I could tell you there was one surefire way of recovering - I know when I was at my worst points I'd make threads like on this on forums (never on this forum though, I had appearances to keep up
) just hoping someone would be able to give me a step-by-step guide of how to get better. But the reality is everyone needs to find their own solution, and what helps one person recover from depression doesn't work for everyone - don't believe people who say getting exercise everyday or just trying to think positively or just trying to bury yourself in work/social life to not give yourself time to think about your problems, are guaranteed cures - they work for some people who have depression, and they MIGHT work for you, but they didn't work for me, there's nothing guaranteed about it.
The only advice I feel I can really give you is to give yourself time, lots and lots of time. A couple of years ago, I kept trying to set myself deadlines for when I wanted to be cured of depression and be a "normal" person and not have to take medication, and when I didn't meet the pressure I was putting on myself I just felt doubly worse... I kept trying to overdo it by doing too much before I was ready, like I tried to start university twice already because I felt it was unacceptable and embarrassing to still be living with parents when (seemingly) everyone my age wasn't, I kept trying to force myself to go out nearly everynight because that's what "normal" students do and that's what it seemed like all my old friends from school were doing (judging by their Facebook photo albums
), I kept trying to deny I was still feeling worse inside than I should've been, but each time I tried to do all that I just ended up going back to square one.
It's only been in the last 12 months when I accepted that it's going to take however long it takes and that it's going to have to be gradual that I finally started to make progress (to use the cheesy psychobabble, I only started to recover when I "stopped defining my life by other people's / society's expectations of me and allowed myself time to find what was right for me"