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Jan 15th, 2013 05:03 AM
Stamp Paid
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Mary Cherry. View Post
What if he was black?
Girl you a mess
Jan 15th, 2013 05:02 AM
azinna
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Nicolás89 View Post
And the husband wanting gay sex doesn't necessarily mean his marriage is already broken or that he doesn't enjoy having sex with the wife or anything you have said for that matter.
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Originally Posted by shap_half View Post
I won't be able to do it unless I know that they are in an open relationship and she knows that he sleeps with men.
Yes, up until now there's been the assumption -- one that I often shared -- that the man is propositioning you without the consent of his wife. In three cases, I've had the long-term girlfriend, fiancee, and wife come to me and basically say she knows and it's fine. I still didn't go for it, but that's been my Catholic upbringing getting in the way.

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Jan 14th, 2013 06:45 PM
pierce85
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

I definitely wouldn't get romantically involved (I don't harbour delusions) but I've had sex with several married men.

Sexuality and human libido is a very complex issue to treat it as something despicable. I personally find that if there's 2 individuals condoning to an act, there's nothing wrong with it
Jan 14th, 2013 04:20 PM
Dominic
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Mary Cherry. View Post
What if he was black?
How would that change anything!?
Jan 14th, 2013 03:24 PM
Mary Cherry.
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Dominic View Post
Hmm good question.. I definitely wouldn't look for that but probably wouldn't say no if the guy was really hot and likable. I mean if it's not me it's gonna be somebody else anyway.
What if he was black?
Jan 14th, 2013 02:22 PM
alfonsojose
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

It feels great to be the other
Jan 11th, 2013 11:02 PM
Helen Lawson
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Flavia P. View Post
It's true, though. I don't look for married guys but I know that a lot of guys do and have a fetish for straight-identifying guys/men living a straight life. It is what it is.
I only dated straight men who recently came out of the closet.
Jan 11th, 2013 09:09 PM
Flavia P.
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Ok.
It's true, though. I don't look for married guys but I know that a lot of guys do and have a fetish for straight-identifying guys/men living a straight life. It is what it is.
Jan 11th, 2013 07:41 PM
Sam L
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

Shouldn't things be judged on intention?

If a guy is in a happy relationship with their spouse with kids etc.. I wouldn't enter a relationship even if he wants it.

If the marriage is already broken down and they are living separately and not having sex etc.. then I would.

BTW, there are so many straight cases where marriages have broken down and the divorce is refused by one or either partner.

It's simple, if he tells me that his wife doesn't like him anymore and doesn't have sex with him, sure I can with him and make him happy.
Jan 11th, 2013 07:40 PM
ToopsTame
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Nicolás89 View Post
We are like that? huumm I learned a new thing today.

BTW isn't Nene telling that to a straight woman?
I didn't mean to generalize this as something all gay men want to do. Obviously a lot of us in this thread do think married men are off limits. It's just something that I've seen a lot of. Guys on the other side of downlow relationship, guys who know that the married man they're messing around with is deceiving his partner etc. Not a fan of that.

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Originally Posted by pancake View Post
Huh? Since when the gay posters here represent the whole gay community? And you honestly think that people are being 100% serious? I mean it's a hypothetical question, most people are likely to do things differently when they really are put in the said situation.

Also, is the same question targeted at straight people and lesbians here? If not, there should be no comparison about if it's 'one of the attitudes' that 'exist' in the gay community. I mean ask some straight men if they would jump at the chance when they could fuck some super hot married women and they would probably all say 'HELL YEAH! Do you even need to ask?', but in reality they may actually stay faithful to their significant another.
You're right, straight people and lesbians do it too, I don't think it's a good thing in their case either.

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"Kant war ein idiot." - Nietzsche

Reading Kant always annoyed me. Then again this was the stick-up-his-ass guy who would have strict daily routines including taking walks at exactly the same time every day, so it's not surprising to see that attitude leak into his works.

Maybe you are also participating in the destruction if you reject the guy, but don't preach to him / tell his wife about his indiscretions? To use Gagsquet's favourite analogy, if you are at home and you hear a guy get beat up outside your house but don't do anything about it, are you morally OK?
Reductio ad absurdum? Obviously there are different levels of participation. My point was that you cannot absolve yourself of responsibility by saying that the guy was going to cheat anyway, you were just the vehicle.
Jan 11th, 2013 07:34 PM
Nicolás89
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Originally Posted by Flavia P. View Post
Yeah, but I wasn't thinking about it from a moral perspective. More from the perspective that tons of married guys are on the DL looking for diq and they don't go home without getting wet often unless they're totally gross
Ok.
Jan 11th, 2013 07:32 PM
Flavia P.
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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This is a moral question, any person regardless their sex or gender can be exposed to a situation of this sort.
Yeah, but I wasn't thinking about it from a moral perspective. More from the perspective that tons of married guys are on the DL looking for diq and they don't go home without getting wet often unless they're totally gross
Jan 11th, 2013 07:16 PM
Nicolás89
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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It sort of isn't though
This is a moral question, any person regardless their sex or gender can be exposed to a situation of this sort.
Jan 11th, 2013 06:42 PM
esquímaux
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

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Are the marriage bounds special to you? It's a genuine question, because based off your posts, it sounds sacred for you.
Very much so, and based off my posts, I suppose it goes without saying Guess I shouldn't hold it to such high regard. After all, some people get married for other reasons (security, economics).

The attitude of doing anything to score "a hot fuck" shouldn't define the gay community as a whole, but as far as I've personally observed, it is rather pervasive. I intentionally did not make this a public poll to respect others' privacy and garner more honest votes. As stated earlier though, the views and opinions on this board shouldn't summarily reflect the gay community. I do thank everyone for their insights on this topic. I've come to realize that my view of marriage is too black and white and archaic.
Jan 11th, 2013 06:36 PM
melodynelson
Re: Question for homosexual males regarding married men

This conversation hits pretty close to home in more ways than one. I think people make mistakes and we have to live up to them, accept them, and deal with them in our own ways, regardless whose fault is whose.

Casting stones and such, glass houses, etc etc, that's pretty much what I think. If one believes in Christianity (not that I do), then all sins are equal. If you don't, well, whatever, I don't want to make this a religious thing but one bad action is equal to all others, but yes, outcomes of each vary obviously.

Far worse things happen in my opinion than infidelity, regardless of gender or sexuality involved.
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