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Bijoux0021
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:10 AM
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/5089197/Having-a-sister-makes-you-happier-and-more-optimistic-say-psychologists.html

Having a sister makes you happier and more optimistic, say psychologists

Having a sister makes you happier and more optimistic, a new study shows, but the same is not true for having a brother.

By Kate Devlin
Last Updated: 3:49PM BST 03 Apr 2009

Growing up with at least one girl in the family also makes people more able to cope with their problems, according to the study.

Daughters tie loved ones closer together and encourage them to communicate their emotions more effectively, the researchers believe.

Prof Tony Cassidy, from the University of Ulster, who carried out the study with researchers from De Montfort University in Leicester, said that having a sister helped to promote good mental health.

He said: "Sisters appear to encourage more open communication and cohesion in families. However, brothers seem to have the alternative effect. Emotional expression is fundamental to good psychological health and having sisters promotes this in families."

Girls who had sisters also tended to be more independent and keen on achievement, according to the findings.

The effects were stronger among children from broken homes, suggesting that sisters might lean on each other more for support when their parents divorce.

Prof Cassidy added that the lowest scores were among boys who had only brothers.

"It could be that boys have a natural tendency not to talk about things," he said. "With boys together it is about a conspiracy of silence not to talk. Girls tend to break that down."

The study questioned 571 young adults, aged between 17 and 25, about the make-up of their families and their emotional well-being.

Only children tended to score in the middle range for happiness and optimism.

Liz Wright, the co-author of the study, said: "With only children we found that they had lots of strong communication outside of the home. It appears that they have as much social support as those with siblings, but it does not come from within the family."

The findings will be presented today at the British Psychological Society annual meeting in Brighton.

Lin Lin
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:14 AM
I don't know whether it is ture,But I have 2 sisters,I feel very happy and we love each other very much:D

serenaforever
Apr 4th, 2009, 02:27 AM
well I have a sister, and she really ticks me off sometimes :lol:

drake3781
Apr 4th, 2009, 03:20 AM
Makes a lot of sense. ;)

eck
Apr 4th, 2009, 03:22 AM
That's absolute bull.

I feel very very very antsy even with my sister.
And in no way I feel optimistic.

ElusiveChanteuse
Apr 4th, 2009, 04:34 AM
No wonder I'm always so pessimistic and sad.:sad:

supergrunt
Apr 4th, 2009, 06:06 AM
well having a brother certainly doesn't do it..
jk love you :hug:

azza
Apr 4th, 2009, 10:51 AM
my sister is fucked hope i never have to see her again thats bs

Ellen Dawson
Apr 4th, 2009, 10:54 AM
I don't know whether it is ture,But I have 2 sisters,I feel very happy and we love each other very much:D

Same here. We have our moments where we disagree but all in all, we're very close. :D

The Dawntreader
Apr 4th, 2009, 11:24 AM
Yeah, i'd go along with that. I'm probably closer to my sister than my older brother.

Interesting note, she's the only girl i've ever fought, and promptly lost.

We were 8 and 10 at the time though:lol:

Bijoux0021
Apr 4th, 2009, 12:00 PM
I really don't know. I guess it could be true depending if you're close in age. From my experience, my sister is 6 years older than me and we didn't get along at all. We still don't get along. She was more of an authority figure to me than a sister. My mom and dad were always out working and she practically helped raised and disciplined me. So I grew up resenting her, because I felt that she was not my mother and had no rights to do and say certain things to me. She would ordering me around and so forth and getting me in trouble if I didn't listen to her. She was very strict and not loving. Even though we're both grown adults today, she still sees me as the little sister who should obey her.

Lin Lin
Apr 4th, 2009, 12:32 PM
I really don't know. I guess it could be true depending if you're close in age. From my experience, my sister is 6 years older than me and we didn't get along at all. We still don't get along. She was more of an authority figure to me than a sister. My mom and dad were always out working and she practically helped raised and disciplined me. So I grew up resenting her, because I felt that she was not my mother and had no rights to do and say certain things to me. She would ordering me around and so forth and getting me in trouble if I didn't listen to her. She was very strict and not loving. Even though we're both grown adults today, she still sees me as the little sister who should obey her.

I totally understand you,but I think she is very much loving you,she really cares you very much,you must be very important in her heart and maybe she always wants to protect you.Try to understand her,I actually feel happy for you.:)

Lin Lin
Apr 4th, 2009, 12:33 PM
No wonder I'm always so pessimistic and sad.:sad:

You have no brothers and sisters?:hug:

Bijoux0021
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:19 PM
I totally understand you,but I think she is very much loving you,she really cares you very much,you must be very important in her heart and maybe she always wants to protect you.Try to understand her,I actually feel happy for you.:)
:awww: Thanks. You're right. But as a kid, I didn't see it that way.

Marshmallow
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:36 PM
You know... I think I can understand what they're trying to say. I have a quite feminine personality and I tend to be the one who patches up things after arguments between my brother and my mom. And I do encourage all that communication stuff.

But my main problem with the article is when they say: "It could be that boys have a natural tendency not to talk about things," he said. "With boys together it is about a conspiracy of silence not to talk. Girls tend to break that down."

I find this really annoying because I don't think it's really a natural gender difference, as much as it is a socialised one. You probably find proof of this from the people in this thread calling this bull... the set of circumstances you need to get feminine personalities and affects etc (as pointed to by this article), probably weren't all there. On the whole boys and girls are reared differently and this explains many so-called "natural differences". Combine this with individual differences... the generality of the message comes into problems.


I guess what I'm trying to say is that if I was writing this article, I could emphasises the behaviours and tendencies that help family relations, without atributing them to gender and hence passing them off as natural differences - because people get the wrong idea and it's just not true that way. The truth seems to be that behaviours typically associated with females (the product of girl oriented child rearing) can help better family relations. In truth, there are boys who carry out this role and girls who don't.

So I don't think the article is bull... it's just written in a bullshitty way.

Hope that makes sense. :unsure:

Marshmallow
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:41 PM
BTW I like the thread. Interesting topic. :yeah:

vadin124
Apr 4th, 2009, 01:51 PM
these psychologists are paid to come up with this BS?

biggest load of tosh i've read all year!

next.

Destiny
Apr 4th, 2009, 02:02 PM
Preach

Barrie_Dude
Apr 4th, 2009, 04:19 PM
3 sisters. I am the only boy. I love my sisters

saul1333
Apr 4th, 2009, 08:50 PM
my sister steals my money :lol:

i cant leave any around without hiding it and she still searches.

No Name Face
Apr 4th, 2009, 10:59 PM
I have two sisters, and they're 7 and 10 years younger than me. Not sure if this applies to me, per se, but they definitely are a positive force in my life. :)

moon
Apr 4th, 2009, 11:53 PM
My sister has caused me nothing but drama the last few years. I finally just stopped talking to her. My friends have been more like real sisters, than she has.

Keadz
Apr 5th, 2009, 12:01 AM
I have two brothers. I always thought it would be cool to have a sister.

missing out :sad:

The Daviator
Apr 5th, 2009, 12:24 AM
No wonder I'm always so pessimistic and sad.:sad:

+1 :lol:

Cashif
Apr 5th, 2009, 01:15 AM
I have two elder sisters and I absolutely love them. Though I am very close to my mom, it is to them that I approach for advise or when I am sad. WHenever I speak to them, I feel relaxed and happy, so totally agree with this:)

madlove
Apr 5th, 2009, 01:39 AM
my sister is annoying though.

Infiniti2001
Apr 5th, 2009, 02:59 AM
I do not have any sisters :sad:

bad_angel_109
Apr 5th, 2009, 10:20 AM
lol, maybe a big sister. i cant see a little sister helping u become more happy, especially if she's 4 or more years younger than u. if u had a younger sister who was like 1 year younger than u, it'd be ok imo. imo having an older sister would make u more happy than having a younger sis. i wish i had a sister :(

moon
Apr 5th, 2009, 07:41 PM
lol, maybe a big sister. i cant see a little sister helping u become more happy, especially if she's 4 or more years younger than u. if u had a younger sister who was like 1 year younger than u, it'd be ok imo. imo having an older sister would make u more happy than having a younger sis. i wish i had a sister :(
maybe you're right, because my younger sister, was too much drama.

Grafitini
Apr 5th, 2009, 07:57 PM
The study questioned 571 young adults, aged between 17 and 25, about the make-up of their families and their emotional well-being

Why? I, don't get this, why this number and age group?

I, have two sisters.

Grafitini
Apr 5th, 2009, 08:09 PM
My sister has caused me nothing but drama the last few years. I finally just stopped talking to her. My friends have been more like real sisters, than she has.

I, don't know why but, I'm always shocked and stunned when family members fall out, and stop talking. I, have two sisters and to think that I'd have such a disagreement with them, that it meant we would never communicate again, well, it's just unimaginable. But I hear this more and more, from others, that, 'I have a brother/sister I don't talk to anymore' and so on.

Where I used to live, it was a very tight-knit community. Your parents lived two streets away, your uncles and aunts lived just around the corner, and other family members lived nearby. Recently I've noticed, families are moving further and further apart, it's as if they can't wait to distance themselves from each other. For me, family is everything.

Hey, I hope everything works out for the best, sincerely.

moon
Apr 7th, 2009, 12:21 AM
I, don't know why but, I'm always shocked and stunned when family members fall out, and stop talking. I, have two sisters and to think that I'd have such a disagreement with them, that it meant we would never communicate again, well, it's just unimaginable. But I hear this more and more, from others, that, 'I have a brother/sister I don't talk to anymore' and so on.

Where I used to live, it was a very tight-knit community. Your parents lived two streets away, your uncles and aunts lived just around the corner, and other family members lived nearby. Recently I've noticed, families are moving further and further apart, it's as if they can't wait to distance themselves from each other. For me, family is everything.

Hey, I hope everything works out for the best, sincerely.
thanks. .
i'm not saying, we will never talk again. it's just that we're different, and i find it hard to be around nonstop drama. but some people choose to have their lives like that 24-7 sooo...

Lin Lin
Apr 7th, 2009, 12:55 AM
My sisters are the most important people in my life,though we sometimes disagree with each other:)

égalité
Apr 7th, 2009, 01:53 AM
Not my sister. :spit:

young_gunner913
Apr 7th, 2009, 02:05 AM
Not my sister. :spit:

:spit::sobbing: poor nick. :hug:

drake3781
Apr 7th, 2009, 03:24 AM
I do not have any sisters :sad:


I'm not surprised. :hug:

skanky~skanketta
Apr 7th, 2009, 04:29 AM
LOL!

My parents must have had a great time then, cuz it's just me and my sisters in the house. Three girls. Honestly though, the ferocity only comes out when I find any of my clothes chucked in my sister's closet! Likewise I must say. Our youngest is still far to young (she's 6).

skanky~skanketta
Apr 7th, 2009, 04:39 AM
I, don't know why but, I'm always shocked and stunned when family members fall out, and stop talking. I, have two sisters and to think that I'd have such a disagreement with them, that it meant we would never communicate again, well, it's just unimaginable. But I hear this more and more, from others, that, 'I have a brother/sister I don't talk to anymore' and so on.

Where I used to live, it was a very tight-knit community. Your parents lived two streets away, your uncles and aunts lived just around the corner, and other family members lived nearby. Recently I've noticed, families are moving further and further apart, it's as if they can't wait to distance themselves from each other. For me, family is everything.

Hey, I hope everything works out for the best, sincerely.
I find it a little strange too, however I can understand it. I am the second of three girls in my family. My elder sister Valentina is 29, I'm 26 and my youngest sister Virginia is 6. Now, Val got married earlier this year and I remember the whole of last year was really, really hard for my because well, I didn't really like the guy. We'd always been really close and all of a sudden she falls in love with the guy, and is around him all the time. What really infuriated me was that he didn't bother taking the time to get to know me or anything.

I'd always imagined being close to my brother in law, but it didn't turn out to be the case. So what I did was just be curt with him and my sister. I was pissed at her for not understanding my situation! And the worst part was that she didn't even know I was pissed, which was disappointing cuz she had always known before knowing the guy.

I dont feel like talking about this anymore. Sorry.