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Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:10 PM
So i was at this office at grad school yesternday and i saw this super hot hotie. :devil: so i told her she had nice glasses (me = lame) but she started smiling and we started talking. but there were no clues about her gayness. she definately seemed to enjoy talking to me though. but still i could not tell. so i finished my bussiness and walked out. :banghead: :banghead:

this is the great gay problem, if you meet someone who think is hot and how do you know if they are gay? do you ask them out? Do you say goodbye and not risk it? what do you do?

SelesFan70
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:16 PM
I would strike up another conversation with her and see if that one goes as smoothy, but I'm not well-versed on "lesbian mating rituals". I mean, if it was a guy you could just grab your dick (pretending to adjust yourself) and see if he responds...but women... :shrug:

kabuki
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:16 PM
"Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go." - T.S. Eliot :D

bionic71
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:20 PM
Is she aware that you are gay?

Just talk to her again...get to know her better....and if after a while you still have no idea...ask her out for coffee or lunch, something informal and out of your work/school environment.

Most importantly....be yourself and relax...even is she is not a lesbian and romance is out of the question, you can still develop a friendship.

kabuki
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:22 PM
By the way, I voted "You Just Suck" because it tickled my fancy, not because I actually believe it. :lol:

Sam's Slave
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:23 PM
ask her out!!!

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:28 PM
By the way, I voted "You Just Suck" because it tickled my fancy, not because I actually believe it. :lol:
:lol: i thought it was a fun option :devil: i was also hoping to encourage others to add it to their polls.

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:28 PM
Is she aware that you are gay?

Just talk to her again...get to know her better....and if after a while you still have no idea...ask her out for coffee or lunch, something informal and out of your work/school environment.

Most importantly....be yourself and relax...even is she is not a lesbian and romance is out of the question, you can still develop a friendship.

well i kind of look like if you are not in the community you would not guess but if you are you might guess. so i cant be sure. but thats part of the reason why i was annoyed, i didnt even get her email or number :( ! i have bussiness cards in the mail (yay!) so that if feel unsure about asking for contact info.

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 02:29 PM
ask her out!!!

if i see her again i will. :sad: :)

Helen Lawson
Aug 30th, 2005, 03:24 PM
Too bad you're not in Hollywood, you could just play the 75% gay/25% straight odds.

Did you meet her at like the Gay and Lesbian Student meeting? That could give you a clue. Young Republicans, you're probably barking up the wrong tree. Marlene Deitrich always told me one of the great benefits of having her drop-dead gorgeous looks is, whether a woman was straight or gay, she's sleep with Marlene. So what can I say, hon, unless you're a dead ringer for Marlene Deitrich, you'll have to take a chance at rejection!

SJW
Aug 30th, 2005, 03:43 PM
i know what you mean. i dont know why im offering advice but what i would do is:
ask her out as a friend and be flirtatious and see what her response is. the more she enjoys it, the more flirtatious you get. and before you know it, voila ;)

ivanovic
Aug 30th, 2005, 04:24 PM
So i was at this office at grad school yesternday and i saw this super hot hotie. :devil: so i told her she had nice glasses (me = lame) but she started smiling and we started talking. but there were no clues about her gayness. she definately seemed to enjoy talking to me though. but still i could not tell. so i finished my bussiness and walked out. :banghead: :banghead:

this is the great gay problem, if you meet someone who think is hot and how do you know if they are gay? do you ask them out? Do you say goodbye and not risk it? what do you do?


ask carry bradshaw

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 06:41 PM
i know what you mean. i dont know why im offering advice but what i would do is:
ask her out as a friend and be flirtatious and see what her response is. the more she enjoys it, the more flirtatious you get. and before you know it, voila ;)

wow, i never thought to do that. :devil: its kind of evil and kind of hot :devil: :o :tape: so you know i am going to have to try it next time.

Jakeev
Aug 30th, 2005, 07:43 PM
I would strike up another conversation with her and see if that one goes as smoothy, but I'm not well-versed on "lesbian mating rituals". I mean, if it was a guy you could just grab your dick (pretending to adjust yourself) and see if he responds...but women... :shrug:

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Barrie_Dude
Aug 30th, 2005, 08:00 PM
A) You do not suck!!!!!!!!!

b) What was the harm in asking her out for a coffee? Something innocent, a chance to get to know each other better! I say go for it!

Helen Lawson
Aug 30th, 2005, 08:18 PM
I would strike up another conversation with her and see if that one goes as smoothy, but I'm not well-versed on "lesbian mating rituals". I mean, if it was a guy you could just grab your dick (pretending to adjust yourself) and see if he responds...but women... :shrug:

There's someone who does that to me all the time. I thought maybe he had like groin itch or something. You think it's a come-on? What's the response he'd be looking for, because Helen would be into it.

CC
Aug 30th, 2005, 08:19 PM
Why are we so scared of rejection as if it's the worst thing ever? I can't say I've ever been rejected but still.

PamShriverRockz
Aug 30th, 2005, 08:19 PM
A) You do not suck!!!!!!!!!

b) What was the harm in asking her out for a coffee? Something innocent, a chance to get to know each other better! I say go for it!

Top advice! Go for it.

*JR*
Aug 30th, 2005, 08:51 PM
I new some gay activists from liberal politics B4 I left NYC years ago. They'd wear keyrings (the kind with clasps on both ends) hooked to a beltloop on their pants as a "signal". And it went into more detail, I was told. One side (I long ago forgot which) meant dominant, the other submissive. But he also said that in San Francisco, the meaning of "left side vs. right side" was the opposite!
:scratch:

Martian Willow
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:03 PM
i know what you mean. i dont know why im offering advice but what i would do is:
ask her out as a friend and be flirtatious and see what her response is. the more she enjoys it, the more flirtatious you get. and before you know it, voila ;)

Outrageous and entirely shameless flirting is usually the answer, as long as one is prepared to put up with making a fool of oneself every now and then. :)

SJW
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:12 PM
Outrageous and entirely shameless flirting is usually the answer, as long as one is prepared to put up with making a fool of oneself every now and then. :)
oh, thats routine for me. :)

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:20 PM
Why are we so scared of rejection as if it's the worst thing ever? I can't say I've ever been rejected but still.
its just the dating game, but real reject is something i wouldnt which on anyone, just be glad you have never felt it. :)

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:21 PM
Outrageous and entirely shameless flirting is usually the answer, as long as one is prepared to put up with making a fool of oneself every now and then. :)
i think you are most correct

Wigglytuff
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:27 PM
I new some gay activists from liberal politics B4 I left NYC years ago. They'd wear keyrings (the kind with clasps on both ends) hooked to a beltloop on their pants as a "signal". And it went into more detail, I was told. One side (I long ago forgot which) meant dominant, the other submissive. But he also said that in San Francisco, the meaning of "left side vs. right side" was the opposite!
:scratch:

gay activist come in to varieties regular and weedhead hippie which kind was this? :devil: before yall start bad repping me, i was just kidding...maybe :devil:

SelesFan70
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:27 PM
There's someone who does that to me all the time. I thought maybe he had like groin itch or something. You think it's a come-on? What's the response he'd be looking for, because Helen would be into it.

Hel, just lick your lips slightly and toss your head back...I'll let you tell us what happened. :devil:

Helen Lawson
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:30 PM
Hel, just lick your lips slightly and toss your head back...I'll let you tell us what happened. :devil:

I get the picture, hon. He's married though, do you still think it's a come-on?

*JR*
Aug 30th, 2005, 09:53 PM
gay activist come in to varieties regular and weedhead hippie which kind was this? :devil: before yall start bad repping me, i was just kidding...maybe :devil:
Well Jiffypoo ;) I only knew these folks thru Progressive Politics, but almost nothing about their personal lives. Except I vaguely remember one mentioning (a gay bar, I guess) called The Anvil as his favorite hangout.

Mark was the first person I ever had a friendly debate with where I made a point I've tried to here: that glbt's (in "Griffspeak") :p need far more than porn (and now sitcoms) but 2B fully portrayed as "people, not just pelvises".

HAIL-VENUS
Aug 31st, 2005, 06:43 AM
Lmao...you suck :toothy: But, seriously, I've been in this situation many times before. All I can tell you to do is to engage them in a charming, witty, and slightly flirtatious conversation. Put you personality on display. If she likes you (for either lover or friend), you can count on seeing her again. I really am not an advocate of "just go for it", because I often like to put myself in other people's shoes. And I don't think I'd like it very much if another woman asked me out and I wasn't into women. So, I'll say, just try to feel her out. Allow her to put the moves on you by making yourself so fucking hott and sexy that she can't resist. It's not that hard to do. Trust me.

marmite1
Aug 31st, 2005, 07:25 AM
I would get to know her as a friend, then you will find out if she is gay or not.