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Gonzo Hates Me!
May 15th, 2003, 07:00 AM
I have this tendancy, that I abhor... I want to know if other people like me have this tendancy too! Well, I have never had a boyfriend. And the tendancy is, I am too hormonal to search I guess for anything platonic. I always go out to meet Someone. I have a different crush everyday, and I crush ever so much and oh so easily! And I want to be friends with all my male friends, but I wouldn't mind kissing a lot of them either--nor would I mind if "it" "turned into something more,"--and that's stupid!!, but these are my daily abnormal functions. I just really want a boyfriend!

And then there's that phrase--that redundant phrase/solution/answer/attempt at sympathy: "When you're not looking for one, that's when he'll come to you." That's easy for them to say because they've had boyfriends! Or wait, a lot of people who don't have boyfriends say that because maybe it helps them get to sleep at night I guess, but obviously they say it just to say it because they, well, don't have a boyfriend.

And me, I am about to be 19 and I still have never had one... OF COURSE I will think about It--all the time, if I have lived for 19 years without ANY romance in my life. And my school-- especially when I go to a school with so many Greek, Latin and French men running around with gorgeous accents and skin and hair and bodies, playing frisbee shirtless in the grass, and the all American soccer players who look like male super models-- of course I want a man... oh, and who can forget where I live! The melting pot of all melting pots--I CAN'T HELP IT. If I could--I would. And if I tried not to think about It, wouldn't that be thinking about not thinking about It?! I can't NOT think about It.

And then everyone says, "Oh trust me, you don't want one." Well, oh trust me, I DO! Why?! Because it happens with people, it's a common childhood and growing experience, part of the process--whether your partner treated you like crap, or you're one of those mysterious "we've been together for four years" couples... it's all an experience. I want some sort of boyfriend experience-- is that so wrong?!

I keep track of all my romantic escapades--and it's been a lot, some notorious ones, some fantastic ones... but just because I get ass here and there doesn't mean I am still not a hopeless romantic dying for that first love or something along the lines of that and I just want to know if there are other people like me out there who want to hold someone's hand and have people ask you, "Oh, are you two together?" and make-out in a movie theater after dinner at the Cheescake Factory!!!!!!!!!!!!

:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:

GBFH
May 15th, 2003, 07:08 AM
well if you want a boyfriend, what's preventing you from getting one?

Gonzo Hates Me!
May 15th, 2003, 07:09 AM
GBFH, it only it were that simple! Nobody wants me like that!

King Satan
May 15th, 2003, 07:10 AM
well if you want a boyfriend, what's preventing you from getting one?
Yeah Nwando
You're a very sexy girl, what's the problem?

King Satan
May 15th, 2003, 07:10 AM
erm, nevermind :o

GBFH
May 15th, 2003, 07:13 AM
GBFH, it only it were that simple! Nobody wants me like that!

hmm....you could always hold out on sex until they give you a fun date ;)

lol, okay, stupid suggestion....and i'm tired, lol! I'll try to post something better later today! have a good night, everyone!!

King Satan
May 15th, 2003, 07:14 AM
hmm....you could always hold out on sex until they give you a fun date ;)

lol, okay, stupid suggestion....and i'm tired, lol! I'll try to post something better later today! have a good night, everyone!!
Night sweetheart :kiss::wavey:

Gonzo Hates Me!
May 15th, 2003, 07:27 AM
G'night GBFH

Well, I have come to this since I have never had one:

-I am not the most intelligent person
-I am not your 'stereotypical' black person of how a black person is stereotyped to be
-I am not drop deap gorgeous--I guess most people find me an exotic beauty or something

I don't attract intellectual people because I can't hold a conversation with them! Black guys only want me for some ass because I only meet black people who want to hook-up, otherwise, I don't have anything in common with a lot of black people. White guys and Latino guys that I've hooked up with who have liked me are the same, they like black girls, but we are too different overall because they're too bling bling, let's play b-ball and listen to 50 Cent for me while I am too dorky, watch tennis and listen to Vanessa Carlton for them! LOL! It's just "Get Mine, Get Yours." And I am not drop dead gorgeous, so I can't get a guy to be with me completely for my looks and then actually fall for me afterwards. My personality is very sarcastic, cheesy, silly, sometimes emotional, and downright weird, rarely an intellect. So I have come across very few guys who like ALL of that and like ALL of me-- I guess.

King Satan
May 15th, 2003, 07:34 AM
. So I have come across very few guys who like ALL of that and like ALL of me-- I guess.

and what happened with them? (if you don't mind me asking)

and who are you kidding, you're not gorgeous??? you're beautiful babe! :)

(i'd date you in a heartbeat btw;))
why don't you date steam? :)

Sam L
May 15th, 2003, 07:38 AM
I can totally understand. But put it this way, at least you're a straight woman. If you go up to a guy and ask him out, what's the worst thing that can happen, he'll say no. I'm a gay male who's not openly gay. I'm shy and men don't even know I'm gay. So how the hell am I going to get a boyfriend? :rolleyes:

Oh and I'm also older than you. Hope you feel better. :p

"When you're not looking for one, that's when he'll come to you." - That only happens in movies.

maratski
May 15th, 2003, 10:46 AM
lol arwenita

I think I should follow ;)

AKTW
May 15th, 2003, 01:37 PM
GBFH, it only it were that simple! Nobody wants me like that!
Nevermind. :) It's not a big deal.You're still young.

AjdeNate!
May 15th, 2003, 01:49 PM
I can totally understand. But put it this way, at least you're a straight woman. If you go up to a guy and ask him out, what's the worst thing that can happen, he'll say no. I'm a gay male who's not openly gay. I'm shy and men don't even know I'm gay. So how the hell am I going to get a boyfriend? :rolleyes:

Oh and I'm also older than you. Hope you feel better. :p

"When you're not looking for one, that's when he'll come to you." - That only happens in movies.
I was about to type this exact same sentence!

the cat
May 15th, 2003, 03:20 PM
You stick to your standards, Nwando! :kiss: And don't succumb to the pressure of living up to a certain stereotype. That's not fair to someone as diverse and open minded as you seem to be.

maratski
May 15th, 2003, 03:27 PM
Wow, then that makes 2 of us Ilhame :)

Hope they accept me in my outfits ;)

SJW
May 15th, 2003, 06:09 PM
Nwando i totally know what u mean! :p

im attracted to black guys first and foremost....ok. but which ones of them want more than just a fuck? and which ones of them are trying to work their way up and go places? hmmmmm! if im with one we rarely talk :rolleyes:

white guys...hey im attracted to some! but i feel around me there are two types....the wiggas (who fall into the black guys category :rolleyes:) and the preppys who i could hold a conversation with but im sure it would be all about them..i listen too much :rolleyes:

i know it pisses u off but i think we are both gonna have to hang in there :rolleyes:

im so pissed off im not into having a proper relationship at the moment :rolleyes:

Vincent
May 15th, 2003, 06:19 PM
http://www.smilies-world.de/Smilies/Smilies_klein_1/ylsuper.gif ME

maratski
May 16th, 2003, 09:20 AM
Ummm, don't worry about the clothes. I'm sure we can find a modern hermitage these days. ıf not, we can make one for ourselves in the lovely forests of Switzerland. How is that?? We can even go out and roll in the snow in winters!!

Sounds lovely :)