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Gallofa
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:31 PM
Since this seem to be the week for "confessions" I thought we could maybe discuss our views on this topic. What are your views on?

1. Having more than one username
I can't say that I care how many usernames any of you have.

Whether they are to win Board games, to impersonate famous people in a humorous way or simply because you signed up wrongly and now have two user names, I don't really care. What is the big deal with that? In the old Board, some people explained that they felt like they had an "internet image" and if they wanted to bash someone or reveal that they were gay or a nun, they would create a different user name for that.

Is that a bad thing or not? why?

As I say my only concern with people with multiple user names is that they might use up space on the server, but I can't really imagine it takes all that much space, does it? Poe? anyone?

2. People telling lies about themselves
Again, I don't much care if they do.

So what if someone wants to look like a supermodel for a couple of weeks or pretend they've been to Japan and married a super star. But this opinion is linked with the fact that I don't believe you can really make friends with someone based exclusively on contact on this Board, so to consider someone more than a "board friend" I would have to have contact with them outside the boundaries of the Board. And once you are friends outside the Board, a "oh, btw, I didn't go to Japan" is no big deal to me.

Are you really friends with people you only know from the Board? do their tiny lies about whatever really impact your life? do you lose sleep over them? do you feel betrayed?

Do you have more friends on this Board than on real life?


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BTW, this is not about personal confessions. No need to tell your story, just your opinion :D

gentenaire
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:35 PM
It's a thread similar to this one (started by Rebecca) that exposed Alexis.

I've never lied about who I am on the internet and I've made plenty of online friends (quite a few I've met in real life). I would feel betrayed if one of these friends would turn out to be someone else.

per4ever
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:36 PM
oh Tine..I'm actually a girl :D ;)

irma
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:38 PM
I never tell lies about myself since what would I achieve with that? I learnt the truth when I was 10!

Crazy Canuck
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:39 PM
Gallofa - thankfully your thread appears that it will go in the right direction, unlike mine of a similar title a while ago.

Okay so my opinions...

Multiple Usernames - It is of my opinion, that while it is harmless to me, I don't think people need more than one. Is it so hard to be ourselves, or have to play games fair like everyone else?

People Telling Lies About Themselves - When it's somebody I have had no contact with, I don't care whatsoever. If it was someone I have spoken to off of the board, depending on the magnitude of the lie I am sure I could continue relations with them. If it is something that I have been somehow implicated in where I was personally insulted by many people for pointing out what turned out to be true, then I'd likely be rather smug at the end. I just don't understand why it's so hard to be ourselves that one needs to make stuff up. Though I've seen some explanations of this in the past week, it still makes me a little sad.

As for having more board freinds than real life friends - certaintly not. I have few people on the board i would consider "freinds", yet have many in real life.

Crazy Canuck
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:41 PM
There ARE some lies about character that I think are harmless..

For example, lets say that someone joins the board and posts as "Jennifer Capriati", and they actually play out her character.

I think it would be pretty clear to everyone that she isn't really Jennifer, in which case it's just harmless amusement.

DutchieGirl
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:41 PM
I don't lie, and actually, I have gone on to meet a few people from this board in real life, and all have been realy nice, luckily! :D

But if I was friends with someone on the board, and ent to meet them but found out they had been lying all the time I would be a bit angry! ;)

gentenaire
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:42 PM
Originally posted by Rebecca
There ARE some lies about character that I think are harmless..

For example, lets say that someone joins the board and posts as "Jennifer Capriati", and they actually play out her character.

I think it would be pretty clear to everyone that she isn't really Jennifer, in which case it's just harmless amusement.

Very true, that's not lying. Pam Shriver, Xavier Malisse are pretty funny posters ;)

Crazy Canuck
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:43 PM
inkyfan - I also have met quite a few and as far as I know, neither side was shocked.

All three times it worked out swell :)

I'm pretty sure that if I were really a man, that Steam would have outed me by now :D

DutchieGirl
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:44 PM
btw... Hi girly! ;)

DutchieGirl
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:45 PM
lol Bec... it's strange, but I was working out the other day that I have actually met close to 20 people from the net in real life now! :o And all times have been fine (so I guess I'm lucy so far). :D I don't think that many people tell big fibs about themselves on the net... ok, some do obviously, but I think most people are pretty much truthful (apart from some white lies here and there, which we also do in real life too). ;)

Crazy Canuck
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:47 PM
Well I've met 5 from the net, 3 from this board. The other two lived in my home town, and ended up working with freinds of mine who encouraged the meeting (it's a small world on icq random chat).

All worked out well in terms of being honest, but the first two creeped me out as they insisted on meeting more.... and I wasn't interested like that.... :p

gentenaire
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:49 PM
At another board I often post, someone once posted something she regretted later and instead of just saying that, she started posting on the board using a new name, claimed to be this first girl's best friend and roommate, then said that her friend had just died in a car crash. People were pretty upset that this poster with whom they'd often chatted had died! Then people started noticing holes in her story and the truth came out.
This obviously made quite a few people truly angry! This isn't something to laugh about.

An online friend of mine, someone I used to chat with daily really did die in a car crash a few years ago and it upset me a lot. She was Irish and I was planning on going to her funeral, but couldn't make it because I was loaded with Uni work at the time. This was real, this was a real person who'd never lied about her identity either. I'd never met her in person (though I was planning to) but her death upset me a lot.

DutchieGirl
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:55 PM
oh, that's sad Tine! :(

Bec, most people I've met have been from Europe! lol So I don't have that problem of them being creepy and always wanting to meet me! ;)

per4ever
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:58 PM
that's sad Tine...how did you figure out that she died?

I can imagine that if I would disappear..nobody will know what happened..unless my belgian friends call my home..

gentenaire
Dec 6th, 2002, 02:02 PM
She was engaged to another poster I knew well, her best friend would also come into chat sometimes. I heard from another chat friend from London, someone I've met a few times and who had met Diana in real life too, she'd been informed of her death by Diana's best friend. This London friend, Diana's fiance, her best friend, they were all at the funeral.

Beat
Dec 6th, 2002, 02:07 PM
horrible story, tine.

i just think that some people are too keen to give away details from their life. and since they feel their lives are not interesting enough, they have to spice up things a little bit. it's (usually) quite harmless, but then again it's slightly stupid, too.
i come here to talk about tennis and other things, but i never had the intention to tell every detail from my life and this way make friends on this board. it's the internet, it's kind of anonymous, and that's the beauty of it, no? i just get the feeling that these people invent things to make themselves seem more interesting and are hoping to get many friends through this. they should really get a life. it's somewhat sad.

disposablehero
Dec 6th, 2002, 02:31 PM
I wanna lie. Can someone PM me with something good to get started with? Thanks in advance.

gentenaire
Dec 6th, 2002, 03:10 PM
How about you tell me your name, disposable? You can start from there, invent a significant other, look for a pic of hot stud and post it, say you really are an important business man with a MBA from Harvard.

BritneySpearsIsHot
Dec 6th, 2002, 04:31 PM
It doesn't actually bother me if people lie to me, i guess it reflects on there insecurities and if anything deserve understanding.

I only have 1 username and the real me has been here all the time, it would have been easier for me to make up someone fantastic, but i'm just plain boring crap life me

Maybe i'm more life hardened than most

I dunno........................

Kuilli
Dec 6th, 2002, 09:49 PM
Ok, here's my 2 cents worth:
1. I really don't care one way or another if a poster has more than one user name. If they feel the need for it for whatever reason, I have no problem with it, and I don't pay much attention to it anyway. Whatever makes them happy, I guess. Plus, with all those name changes lately, I'm having hard time keeping track of who is who anyway. ;)

2. The lies.....same thing, 99% of the times I don't really care if the posters lie or not. I'm sure whoever lies, has a reason for it, and if it's either right or wrong reason, who am I to say. The few people with whom I talk the most, I do care to some degree. But again, a little lie here or there won't really change my opinion about them.

As far as being friends goes, I guess it really depends on how one defines a friendship. I wouldn't really consider a person with whom I have talked only on the board, a friend. And, I definitely wouldn't lose a sleep over them and their lies.

When it comes to the people with whom I also have a contact outside the board (even if I haven't met them), I guess it depends on the lies, on how well I think I know the person and on how much I care about the person. Little lies wouldn't make much difference to me, something bigger may or may not hurt me to some degree. I guess it all depends. So, if Gallofa is really a 50 yo old male from Antarctica, I would still talk to her, I mean him. :p ;) :D

I still live in a real world most of the time, so I definitely have more friends in real life. ;)

Ben Brigham
Dec 7th, 2002, 01:32 AM
Great topic Gallofa! :)

I want to confess ;) that I don't care about poster with multiple usernames just as long as they aren't causing any friction. If it's just to take the piss out of the board or their poster friends than I see nothing wrong with it.

I want to confess ;) as well that whenever I see a thread in GM that says 'Hi I'm new' I automatically assume that the junior member is an impostor, not in a bad way but just that I already think they are a poster who just created another name.

In fact I confess ;) that I think we're actually a small board. Probably no more than 200 real posters and the rest are impostor names and abandoned names.

Kuilli
Dec 7th, 2002, 02:10 AM
Originally posted by per4ever
oh Tine..I'm actually a girl :D ;)
K, I just found that out yesterday when you posted those pictures of yourself. :p ;)