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Cassius
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:01 PM
The girl I most fancy in the whole world is probably leaving college.
She's in my maths class, but she's going for a job interview at 11:00am on the 4th of December.
I wished her good luck (and I genuinely meant it), but if she gets the job she'll leave college and I'll never see her again.
She lives a couple of miles away from me, but we don't socialise together.
I talk to her quite a bit, but about normal stuff like music and films and homework etc, but she'll probably be leaving college before Christmas, and the next time (and possibly the LAST time) I'll see her is on Thursday and I desperately want to tell her how I feel, but I'm lame at telling beautiful girls stuff like that. I always freeze up and stutter and mumble.
She doesn't fancy me, that I know, but she doesn't know that I fancy her and I want her to, and after that she can like me or ignore me or whatever, but either way I'll know that I told her.
I would ask my cousin for advice, but she doesn't have a phone at the moment, so, PLEASE could you all give a shy 18 year old some advice about how to tell a beautiful girl how I feel.

BritneySpearsIsHot
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:06 PM
I was recently 'released from my contract' at work and i too am shy. I liked this girl, but didn't know how to say anything.

I didn't know i was losing my job, i didn't get chance to tell her as i was escorted out of work, i regret that i didn't say anything.

She may like you, she may not, but don't end up with a regret like me, any girl worth anything will appreciate the flattery you put on her, if she's nasty about it, she's worth nothing

per4ever
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:11 PM
can't help you....I suck at this :o I always wait...and then regret it when my chances are all done :(

Tammy
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:13 PM
..im quite shy when it comes to expressing my feelings outright i find it extremely tough to do so as well..

..so i would advise you to write her a note - a letter detailing your thoughts and feelings towards her could do the trick and well its a hell of a lot easier writing down everything you would like to say then confronting her with it .. or you could very well just swallow your pride and hope for the best..

..anyhow good luck with it :) - but one thing is certain and it seems you already know she has to be told - dont let your chance pass over because if you dont tell her now then you probably never will..

TheBoiledEgg
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:15 PM
How do you know she doesn't fancy you ???
she said so ???

asking someone extremely hot is pretty tough to do, the longer you leave it the harder it becomes.

I've made some past errors and didn't do anything, and I've not seen that girl again :sad: and no idea where she is now.

Martian Martin
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:16 PM
I know what it's like to be shy and be your age Cassius, well I'm 19, lol, but no difference practically.

I think the good thing here is you've spoken to this girl before, it's not like you've never spoken to her and she doesn't know who you are. You don't have to tell her how you feel just now, all you could say is, you'll miss talking to her when she leaves, so could she maybe give you her number, so you could just have it and you two could meet up again sometime?

vw43
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:16 PM
Oh dear - you men really are hopeless aren't you..tsk, tsk, tsk..;)

Of course you should let the girl know how you feel. If you don't want to just put your heart right there on the line for her - that's fine..it's unnecessary at this point. Just tell her that you enjoy talking with her and would like to keep doing just that if she should move. Then give her your number and email, etc..Maybe ask if you could take her out for a drink before she leaves..It's cake..:kiss:

Car Key Boi
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:16 PM
key her car

it's a great way of breaking the ice

works for me

Car Key Boi :cool:

Cassius
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:28 PM
How do you know she doesn't fancy you???
I'm ugly.
It really IS that simple.

I'm going to tell her that I'll miss talking to her (she's actually the only one in my class who I ENJOY talking to) if/when she leaves (I know that she'll leave college before me, this is her last year, whereas I have another 2 years after this one), and I'm going to ask if she has e-mail address, but I was planning to give her a valentines card or something in February, so to be told today that she'll probably be gone by Friday is quite an unwelcome suprise.

Cassius
Dec 3rd, 2002, 08:30 PM
key her car
:confused:What????? I've never heard that expression before. Is it some kind of silly euphemism?

Double Fault
Dec 3rd, 2002, 09:05 PM
If there is one thing I've learnt in life it is to say what you feel. Don't leave it until it's too late Cassius. Take it from me - you'll regret it.

Just tell her how you feel. Rejection lasts only a short time. Regret OTOH can last far longer.

You're not asking her to marry you. I'm pretty sure she'll be flattered. If the feeling is not mutual, then you can say that you tried. Don't have regrets Cassius.

btw, I doubt that you're ugly. Nobody is completely ugly (maybe on the inside in some cases, and my former g/f's mother was on the outside too) but that's another thread.

Follow your heart. Good luck!!

Giuliano
Dec 3rd, 2002, 09:32 PM
Isn't telling someone that you like/love him/her the sweetest thing you can do? What do you risk? That she laughs at you? If she does then she wasn't worth it ;).
And if you don't do that, you're going to hate yourself.

Now take a deep breath and go! :D

Do you want to see my pic to make you feel better? :p

Cassius
Dec 3rd, 2002, 11:53 PM
Thank You everyone:wavey:
I hope she actually comes into college on Thursday, so I can talk to her again.
It's strange, I want her to do well in her job interview because I'm a nice guy and I like her alot, BUT there's also a part of me that doesn't want her to do well and to stay at college so I can see her more, because I like her alot.
It's a wierd mix of feelings.

Lord Chips
Dec 4th, 2002, 12:02 AM
Having been in your position a lot I would tell her how you feel. You never know what would happen and if she does hate you at least you wont see her agaib if she gets the job. Thats what I did

lemon
Dec 4th, 2002, 12:25 AM
Originally posted by David Slater
Having been in your position a lot I would tell her how you feel. You never know what would happen and if she does hate you at least you wont see her agaig if she gets the job. Thats what I did
:p that's quite good! what will it matter if she dis's you. You won't see her after Friday, and being rejected doesn't last long :D

Lord Chips
Dec 4th, 2002, 12:28 AM
I asked a girl out when I left McDonalds for 3 months in May. She turned me down but I havent spoken to her since so who cares? She has left now so I dont have any problems working (apart from my bitch of a store manager)

Cassius
Dec 4th, 2002, 01:21 PM
I didn't see her today.
Hopefully she'll be in class tomorrow, I've worked out exactly what I want to say. The only problem now is working up the courage to tell her.

vw43
Dec 4th, 2002, 01:33 PM
Oh, Cassius :kiss: How cute. I'm sure the girl will be flattered. It will be fine. And btw, I'm sure you're not ugly - that comes from the inside and seeps out. You seem sweet and kind and we women love that stuff..;)

Luna_Angel_84
Dec 4th, 2002, 10:47 PM
Hey good luck for! Just go for it, cos you know it is going to be nerve-wracking but it's best to never leave anything unsaid cos you never know what might happen.

Cassius
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:04 PM
I think my opening line will be something like "Hi gorgeous" (but said in a jokey American accent so I don't sound 'too' serious). Anyway I know her well enough to know it'll make her smile (I love her smile:hearts::hearts::hearts: ).
Plus, it will nicely bring up the subject of me liking her.
I'm going to go to bed now, I probably won't be able to sleep I'm sooooo nervous:o.

WISH ME LUCK!!!!!
:wavey: :wavey: :wavey:

lemon
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:09 PM
:p you'd better get a good nights sleep, or you'll have the dark circles under your eyes! And you dont want THAT to happen :p Osud! (good luck)

Lord Chips
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:10 PM
Good Luck

Cassius
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:11 PM
Nooooooooooooooo! Lemon!!!!
I'd hate it if that happened:eek:
I've got my hair cut and had a shave. I want to look my best:D:o.
Anyway, I'll read what anyone else posts here tomorrow morning, because now I'm going to bed.

lemon
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:14 PM
:D I hope it won't happen! tell us all about it in the morning!

Martian Martin
Dec 4th, 2002, 11:22 PM
Good luck with it all, hope it all goes well!

Cassius
Dec 5th, 2002, 10:39 AM
Lemon, I'm now sitting in tutor group and it's half ten in the morning and luckily I've not got bags under my eyes.
PHEW!!!
I'll post later and tell you all how it goes.

Car Key Boi
Dec 5th, 2002, 10:55 AM
Originally posted by Cassius

:confused:What????? I've never heard that expression before. Is it some kind of silly euphemism?

i'm surprised yuo've never heard of the term "to key one's car"

well, don't despair, i have created the ultimate internet resource regarding the keying of cars

www.carkeyboi.com

Car Key Boi :cool:

salima
Dec 5th, 2002, 11:36 AM
Oh, I am soo sorry not to see this thread before. i know I could encourage you.tell us how it goes. Be brave:) :bounce: :bounce:

Cassius
Dec 5th, 2002, 11:53 AM
I'm surprised yuo've never heard of the term "to key one's car"

well, don't despair, i have created the ultimate internet resource regarding the keying of cars
Thank You, but there's two problems.
1. She doesn't have a car.
2. Even if she did have a car, I wouldn't scratch my keys along the side because I actually want this girl to like me and scratching the paintwork off some-one's car normally isn't a good way to get them to like you:rolleyes::p

Car Key Boi
Dec 5th, 2002, 12:11 PM
Originally posted by Cassius

Thank You, but there's two problems.
1. She doesn't have a car.
2. Even if she did have a car, I wouldn't scratch my keys along the side because I actually want this girl to like me and scratching the paintwork off some-one's car normally isn't a good way to get them to like you:rolleyes::p

yes, the non-ownership of cars is a problem that I encounter every day, and there is no real solution

however, when a chick does own a car, it is actually a very sensual and erotic experience for them to have their car keyed

at least, it is if it's done by a true master like myself

when a chick returns to her car and witnesses my handiwork, sure at first she will launch into an enraged freakout, but after she's got over it, she will view my handiwork in a different light and see it for the work of art that it truly is, and she will stand back and be overcomed with awe

this is the moment to introduce yuorself and say "Hey I did that!"

trust me on this, it really does work

Car Key Boi :cool:

Cassius
Dec 5th, 2002, 07:22 PM
Well, she was in class, but I didn't get the chance to tell her:sad:
When I arrived in class, there were already a couple of people there, and them a few more arrived and THEN the girl (her name's Danielle, in case anyone was wondering) arrived.
And then the bus home was full of people, and I'm trying to get her by herself before I tell her.
We finish at the same time (3:00pm) tomorrow and she normally walks home the same way as me, so I'll try and find a way to get rid of her friend that she walks with.
Then I'll tell her.
Luckily, if she gets the job, she won't be leaving before Christmas anyway, so I'll tell her and then I've got plenty of time to make a good (or a better) impression:)

lemon
Dec 6th, 2002, 12:29 AM
:) nice try today Cassius!
I'll fly over quick and I'll keep her friend busy :p
I hpoe you get her :D

Cassius
Dec 6th, 2002, 09:44 AM
Didn't see her on the bus to college today, but she said she's normally too lazy to get up that early (like me).

There's still over 5 hours left though, and possibly Monday and Tuesday next week, but I've got all worked up to tell her now, so I don't want to leave 'til next week.

I'll post later to say how everything goes.

Cassius
Dec 6th, 2002, 01:18 PM
I've just talked to her. I didn't tell her that I like her (she was in a rush), but I still had time to re-assure her that she looked great in her jeans.
And, I'll be walking home with her (which takes over an hour), so I have plenty of time.