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Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:10 AM
Ok so this is a typical gay boy problem so I really hope someone here can give some directions on what to or not to do.

Well so about two weeks ago I met this cute dude at a party, he is a friend of a friend of mine, when we were at the apoggeum of this party I noticed he kept looking me in this weird way like if he wanted to ask me something but he wouldn't, anyway at first I dint' mind but he kept staring so I grew some and started conversation with him, he seemed really nice and sweet but he also stated very clear that he was straight (kept talking about some girls breats and other things I'm not interested about), at the end of the party I went out for some fresh air and I see him staring at me again I pass right by his side but couldn't say a word (I felt overexcited for some reason) but I did smile at him, he smiles back but didn't say a word either. I went home and I couldn't stop thinking about this guy who I wouldn't even notice if he wasn't staring in the first place, I also couldn't even figure out what was in his mind.

Days went by I met with him again at another party and this is where it gets tricky, he almost completely ingnores me the whole time bar the occasional and dicreet stare (he would turn his head around if I would respond at him with a stare, in our first meet I would turn my head because he would make me feel uncomfortable), to this day we cassually say hi to each other when we see each other at our colleges halls but nothing else.

My question is what should I do, should I confront him, should I forget about him, or what?

Deep in my heart I know I should forget about him (my friends feel the same), I know better and I've known alot of straights who will feel a little attracted to guys when the suficient amount of alcohol gets to their system and it doesn't mean it will turn them gay or bi or anything so what do you think?

shap_half
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:24 AM
Forget about him. What will you get out of it otherwise?

Helen Lawson
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:25 AM
If he's drop dead gorgeous or has a big dick, I'd get him drunk and see if he makes a move. Otherwise, forget it, total loser. Trust your instincts and those of your friends.

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:38 AM
Forget about him. What will you get out of it otherwise?

Nothing good I know, but deep down in my heart I want him to be gay. Honestly speaking I think I just felt flattered by how he was looking at me, my ego felt kissed, hugged and loved for a couple of hours lol

If he's drop dead gorgeous or has a big dick, I'd get him drunk and see if he makes a move. Otherwise, forget it, total loser. Trust your instincts and those of your friends.

He's really really cute but I wasn't thinking of him as sex partner material lmao :sobbing:

I will wait and see if he makes a move though, he did added me to facebook after all so I guess he at least wants us to stay in touch.

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:43 AM
If you're not interested in him for sex, then what's the point? You could be his friend and it doesn't matter if he's gay or straight if you don't want to sleep with him.

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:49 AM
If you're not interested in him for sex, then what's the point? You could be his friend and it doesn't matter if he's gay or straight if you don't want to sleep with him.

I couldn't be his friend if I feel atracted to him in a romantic way now, could I? The akwardness will ultimately grew us apart. And not everything is about sex. :o

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:07 AM
Romantic feelings and sex go hand in hand. Unless you're asexual. Maybe it was a language thing but you said you didn't see him as a sex partner i.e. someone you wanted to have sex with.

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:17 AM
Romantic feelings and sex go hand in hand. Unless you're asexual. Maybe it was a language thing but you said you didn't see him as a sex partner i.e. someone you wanted to have sex with.

At first hand no, I reckon when time goes by and you get really close to that person you get to different stages of feelings for that one, so in that case yes, but I don't go around thinking about sex people out even if I feel really attracted to them, mostly so if I don't really know them.

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:25 AM
I don't understand what that means except you were disingenuous with saying you didn't want to have sex with him. It seems you're coming from this at a different point of view where you're hoping he is gay and want a relationship. So my advice is to let it go, since a random sexual encounter is not an option for you. Stick to dating openly gay guys.

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:29 AM
I don't understand what that means except you were disingenuous with saying you didn't want to have sex with him. It seems you're coming from this at a different point of view where you're hoping he is gay and want a relationship. So my advice is to let it go, since a random sexual encounter is not an option for you. Stick to dating openly gay guys.

Yea. Ok, thanks.

Pump-it-UP
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:30 AM
Forget about him. But stay friendly.

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:33 AM
Yea. Ok, thanks.

LOL that seemed dismissive. Just trying to help. :awww:

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:37 AM
Forget about him. But stay friendly.

;)

LOL that seemed dismissive. Just trying to help. :awww:

Not at all. :lol: You are just too sensitive I guess.

Sally Struthers
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:41 AM
when we were at the apoggeum of this party

I've never seen that word and party used in the same sentence before :lol:

I would bet he probably wasn't staring at you anyway. You just thought that he was because you want it to be true.

Move along before you embarrass yourself and make every time with him awkward for the both of you.

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:41 AM
;)



Not at all. :lol: You are just too sensitive I guess.

You've been less than kind to me in the past so I guess I am sensitive in regards to you.

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:49 AM
I've never seen that word and party used in the same sentence before :lol:

I would be he probably wasn't staring at you anyway. You just thought that he was because you want it to be true.

Move along before you embarrass yourself and make every time with him awkward for the both of you.

Well english is my third language so I'm sorry :p I meant that the party was at its peak. ;)

As for the bolded part, he was really staring at me I'm not making stuff up, even if I was really close and no one was around he would look right into my eyes.

And for the last part I'll probably move along as you say, eventually.

You've been less than kind to me in the past so I guess I am sensitive in regards to you.

Well some of your comments are really unfortunate to say the least but I don't have anything against you.

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 03:20 AM
Well some of your comments are really unfortunate to say the least but I don't have anything against you.

Good cause you could use my advice. Run like the wind.

Moveyourfeet
Oct 18th, 2011, 03:36 AM
It seems he fancies you a bit. I would say be friends with him but be totally cool. Don't go in expecting a relationship as that is highly improbable.

Sp!ffy
Oct 18th, 2011, 06:54 AM
Good cause you could use my advice. Run like the wind.

You spoil like 80% of the threads you show up in. Stop making everything about you. :weirdo:

So Disrespectful
Oct 18th, 2011, 07:34 AM
I've been involved in a similar situation and my advice would be to just leave it. He's confused, you're in lust and you're not going to get anything out of this but heartache. Just forget about him because chances are you'll find someone who's actually of a sound mind and willing to be in a relationship with you sooner or later.

stevos
Oct 18th, 2011, 07:49 AM
DELETE YOUR FEELINGS IMMEDIATELY.
Never ever actually worry about if your straight boy crush will bring anything. Fantasize, sure, but seriously. That road is closed, unless you meet him again in a couple years and he's out as gay or bi or whatever.
Especially if you're not looking to just be his first discreet gay hoox in the closet at the party.

ranfurly
Oct 18th, 2011, 08:05 AM
I say let him come to you, don't go playing with matches pal, it could all blow up on your face.

No one here knows the situation better than you do, but Im guessing saying that your college, he's probably young, and with that, his constant staring at you, the chat to you about womens breasts, then ignoring you explicitly, Is potentially having a conflict of what his true feelings are,

Hey may be gay, he may be curious, who knows, chances are he's finding it difficult to be comfortable with who he is, what he feels, and in fear of retribution is ignoring you as to try and disassociate away from these feelings in hopes they may be just a phase.

Fact is, if he comes to you, let him come to you on his own vices, don't go chasing this guy, because it will be like getting blood out of a stone, and he will disassociate further away making it even more difficult for himself.

Like learning how to ride a bike, baby steps, you snatch away the training wheels at the start, and they fall of, chances are they wont touch the bike for a long time, let him come to terms with who he is, and once hes comfortable he'll either come to you, or he wont,

Just be a mate if thats possible and don't force the issue.

Mashabator
Oct 18th, 2011, 08:37 AM
You probably made his question his sexuality :lol: and it seemed like he was trying so hard to seem not interested in men by talking about a girls breasts :tape:
But yeah just forget about it :)

Talula
Oct 18th, 2011, 08:45 AM
Ok so this is a typical gay boy problem so I really hope someone here can give some directions on what to or not to do.

Well so about two weeks ago I met this cute dude at a party, he is a friend of a friend of mine, when we were at the apoggeum of this party I noticed he kept looking me in this weird way like if he wanted to ask me something but he wouldn't, anyway at first I dint' mind but he kept staring so I grew some and started conversation with him, he seemed really nice and sweet but he also stated very clear that he was straight (kept talking about some girls breats and other things I'm not interested about), at the end of the party I went out for some fresh air and I see him staring at me again I pass right by his side but couldn't say a word (I felt overexcited for some reason) but I did smile at him, he smiles back but didn't say a word either. I went home and I couldn't stop thinking about this guy who I wouldn't even notice if he wasn't staring in the first place, I also couldn't even figure out what was in his mind.

Days went by I met with him again at another party and this is where it gets tricky, he almost completely ingnores me the whole time bar the occasional and dicreet stare (he would turn his head around if I would respond at him with a stare, in our first meet I would turn my head because he would make me feel uncomfortable), to this day we cassually say hi to each other when we see each other at our colleges halls but nothing else.

My question is what should I do, should I confront him, should I forget about him, or what?

Deep in my heart I know I should forget about him (my friends feel the same), I know better and I've known alot of straights who will feel a little attracted to guys when the suficient amount of alcohol gets to their system and it doesn't mean it will turn them gay or bi or anything so what do you think?

I'm a straight girl but get little crushes and fantasies on boys I see all the time, every day in fact, on the tube, in the street etc.! I have one since yesterday on a cute young Polish builder working on my neighbour's house! He's scrummy! But unless you want to make a complete fool of yourself you have to forget him unless he makes a move on you. I am sure there are lots and lots of cute young men in Chile who could distract you! And I'm sure your crush will soon fade, mine always do when I see another man who catches my eye!

There's an old saying that men are like buses, you might have to wait a while but then suddenly several come along, and you know there will always be another one in a few minutes!!

V-MAC
Oct 18th, 2011, 09:57 AM
I'm a straight girl but get little crushes and fantasies on boys I see all the time, every day in fact, on the tube, in the street etc.! I have one since yesterday on a cute young Polish builder working on my neighbour's house! He's scrummy! But unless you want to make a complete fool of yourself you have to forget him unless he makes a move on you. I am sure there are lots and lots of cute young men in Chile who could distract you! And I'm sure your crush will soon fade, mine always do when I see another man who catches my eye!

There's an old saying that men are like buses, you might have to wait a while but then suddenly several come along, and you know there will always be another one in a few minutes!!

Still not guaranteed the ride though:p

As for OP, I would think it is best to try and forget about the situation. I'm sure he knows you are interested so the ball is in his court if he wants to take the next step or not. People who are ambiguous with their feelings are best to avoid though as you run the risk of getting caught up in mind games and that is a horrible experience.

Helen Lawson
Oct 18th, 2011, 10:16 AM
I'm a straight girl but get little crushes and fantasies on boys I see all the time, every day in fact, on the tube, in the street etc.! I have one since yesterday on a cute young Polish builder working on my neighbour's house! He's scrummy! But unless you want to make a complete fool of yourself you have to forget him unless he makes a move on you. I am sure there are lots and lots of cute young men in Chile who could distract you! And I'm sure your crush will soon fade, mine always do when I see another man who catches my eye!

There's an old saying that men are like buses, you might have to wait a while but then suddenly several come along, and you know there will always be another one in a few minutes!!

Tell me more about this hunky Polish construction worker.

LUVMIRZA
Oct 18th, 2011, 10:44 AM
From my personal experience, I'll say dont go near him. Say bye to ur feelings and get on with life mate. As TalulaTrauma said lots of men out dere waiting for ya:p

Apoleb
Oct 18th, 2011, 01:53 PM
It seems to me that most of it is in your head cause all you got is a couple of stares and then getting ignored. So if you ask me it's probably not worth it, unless you REALLY think he's someone very special (it doesn't seem that way since you don't know him that much) and you're not just lusting out on someone hot. In the latter case, the void can be easily replaced by someone less troublesome.

If you're "in love" with him or something, it doesn't kill to try and convey your admiration (talk with him about doing something like going to the movies..etc), and see his reaction. If you don't get something back, then just move on.

Adal
Oct 18th, 2011, 02:17 PM
I've had similar experience with this one curious straight guy actually saying to me that I was hot and that he'd be up for something if I was a girl haha. So if it's sex that you are looking for, you can definitely try and play the 'get drunk and see what happens' card. Worked for me, maybe it will for you as well since you think he might be attracted to you in some way. Don't expect anything more from him though.

V-MAC
Oct 18th, 2011, 04:57 PM
I've had similar experience with this one curious straight guy actually saying to me that I was hot and that he'd be up for something if I was a girl haha. So if it's sex that you are looking for, you can definitely try and play the 'get drunk and see what happens' card. Worked for me, maybe it will for you as well since you think he might be attracted to you in some way. Don't expect anything more from him though.

So the guy thought you had transformed into a girl after a few drinks?! He must have been completely pissed:o

delicatecutter
Oct 18th, 2011, 05:28 PM
:spit:

Talula
Oct 18th, 2011, 05:38 PM
Tell me more about this hunky Polish construction worker.

He may not be to everyone's taste, but he's chubby/stocky, about 5'9''. I would say he's about 35years ish. He has big thick calfs and thighs, wears shorts and trainers, a large bottom and a bit of a stomach (which I always like). Big thick arms with a small tattoo (which I normally don't like). And he has thick fingers with very short nails that seem to be quite stubby. I think he is blonde but he shaves his hair to almost bald. But what I really like is his twinkly eyes - he winks at me when I come up the steps to the main door, and smiles and he has a cracked tooth which I find quite stirring!. And when he was painting the bottom of the railings he was crouched down and I could see his undies over the top of his shorts. They were plain black with no label so I just KNOW he isn't gay! And I've caught him having a ciggie break! My neighbour says he doesn't speak a word of English - she points at things needing doing and he knows what to do! His boss (who is also Polish) is a bit of a tyrant and is often shouting at him in Polish. But he just gets on with his jobs.

Body perfect types are NOT for me. And I don't want a lawyer, doctor type. I am in swoon mood whenever I see him! I stopped this afernoon and said I knew Polish films and liked Kieslowski. He hadn't a clue what I was on about! He just winked and I ran indoors.

Which is what I meant when I said to the OP about NOT making a fool of yourself!

Nicolás89
Oct 18th, 2011, 06:19 PM
It seems he fancies you a bit. I would say be friends with him but be totally cool. Don't go in expecting a relationship as that is highly improbable.

After thinking a lot, a relationship with him doesn't seem like a good idea after all, even if he is attracted to me and he wants to be with me it will never work, knowing his circle of friends and how close they are about sexuality it would be almost unbearable for him to be in a relationship with another man, I mean they barely accept me in and that's because I met them being an outed gay, so they knew beforehand what to expect (if there's anything to expect).

I've been involved in a similar situation and my advice would be to just leave it. He's confused, you're in lust and you're not going to get anything out of this but heartache. Just forget about him because chances are you'll find someone who's actually of a sound mind and willing to be in a relationship with you sooner or later.

I reckon he might be a little confused and if he is I'm not ready to deal with a person who is just about to start finding himself friends or not I won't take part of a experiment, for how selfish that might sound I'm just won't.

DELETE YOUR FEELINGS IMMEDIATELY.
Never ever actually worry about if your straight boy crush will bring anything. Fantasize, sure, but seriously. That road is closed, unless you meet him again in a couple years and he's out as gay or bi or whatever.
Especially if you're not looking to just be his first discreet gay hoox in the closet at the party.

That's actually a good advice and the best thing is that I only need time to do that.

I say let him come to you, don't go playing with matches pal, it could all blow up on your face.

No one here knows the situation better than you do, but Im guessing saying that your college, he's probably young, and with that, his constant staring at you, the chat to you about womens breasts, then ignoring you explicitly, Is potentially having a conflict of what his true feelings are,

Hey may be gay, he may be curious, who knows, chances are he's finding it difficult to be comfortable with who he is, what he feels, and in fear of retribution is ignoring you as to try and disassociate away from these feelings in hopes they may be just a phase.

Fact is, if he comes to you, let him come to you on his own vices, don't go chasing this guy, because it will be like getting blood out of a stone, and he will disassociate further away making it even more difficult for himself.

Like learning how to ride a bike, baby steps, you snatch away the training wheels at the start, and they fall of, chances are they wont touch the bike for a long time, let him come to terms with who he is, and once hes comfortable he'll either come to you, or he wont,

Just be a mate if thats possible and don't force the issue.

I absolutely agree with almost everything you said. I think that what you describe may very well be this kids case and if it is I don't think I should be the one who leads the way for him though, at least not at this time maybe when time goes by and he decides what he wants but I don't see myself like an instrument you can play and then when you master that instrument you move on to the next one, it could blow in my face.

You probably made his question his sexuality :lol: and it seemed like he was trying so hard to seem not interested in men by talking about a girls breasts :tape:
But yeah just forget about it :)

I doubt I questioned his sexuality, if he does questions it, it has been happening a long time before me.

I'm a straight girl but get little crushes and fantasies on boys I see all the time, every day in fact, on the tube, in the street etc.! I have one since yesterday on a cute young Polish builder working on my neighbour's house! He's scrummy! But unless you want to make a complete fool of yourself you have to forget him unless he makes a move on you. I am sure there are lots and lots of cute young men in Chile who could distract you! And I'm sure your crush will soon fade, mine always do when I see another man who catches my eye!

There's an old saying that men are like buses, you might have to wait a while but then suddenly several come along, and you know there will always be another one in a few minutes!!

That's absolutely right. I think I just got stuck at the idea of this cute straight guy "falling" for the gay boy. I just need to wait for someone who's ready to show his true feelings.

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Still not guaranteed the ride though:p

As for OP, I would think it is best to try and forget about the situation. I'm sure he knows you are interested so the ball is in his court if he wants to take the next step or not. People who are ambiguous with their feelings are best to avoid though as you run the risk of getting caught up in mind games and that is a horrible experience.

Yea, that's what I think and I think it will be best for me to just avoid him.


From my personal experience, I'll say dont go near him. Say bye to ur feelings and get on with life mate. As TalulaTrauma said lots of men out dere waiting for ya:p

Yea, I just need some time.

It seems to me that most of it is in your head cause all you got is a couple of stares and then getting ignored. So if you ask me it's probably not worth it, unless you REALLY think he's someone very special (it doesn't seem that way since you don't know him that much) and you're not just lusting out on someone hot. In the latter case, the void can be easily replaced by someone less troublesome.

If you're "in love" with him or something, it doesn't kill to try and convey your admiration (talk with him about doing something like going to the movies..etc), and see his reaction. If you don't get something back, then just move on.

I hope that you´re correct and all of this is in my mind, in that way it will be easier to just let go.

I've had similar experience with this one curious straight guy actually saying to me that I was hot and that he'd be up for something if I was a girl haha. So if it's sex that you are looking for, you can definitely try and play the 'get drunk and see what happens' card. Worked for me, maybe it will for you as well since you think he might be attracted to you in some way. Don't expect anything more from him though.

Lol I think that there's a part missing in your story, like when did he stop caring about you not being a girl?

Fighterpova
Oct 18th, 2011, 07:54 PM
My advice is just to walk away. He is probably a bit confused about his sexuality or he's just drunk :shrug:
You'll just end up being hurt so try to find someone who will truly be interested in you :angel:

Sorry, but you're problems are tiny :lol: It's just a small crush :shrug:
Try living in Serbia for a week where 1 out of a million people are gays and gays are hated more than serial killers and pedophiles :spit:

Helen Lawson
Oct 19th, 2011, 12:04 AM
He may not be to everyone's taste, but he's chubby/stocky, about 5'9''. I would say he's about 35years ish. He has big thick calfs and thighs, wears shorts and trainers, a large bottom and a bit of a stomach (which I always like). Big thick arms with a small tattoo (which I normally don't like). And he has thick fingers with very short nails that seem to be quite stubby. I think he is blonde but he shaves his hair to almost bald. But what I really like is his twinkly eyes - he winks at me when I come up the steps to the main door, and smiles and he has a cracked tooth which I find quite stirring!. And when he was painting the bottom of the railings he was crouched down and I could see his undies over the top of his shorts. They were plain black with no label so I just KNOW he isn't gay! And I've caught him having a ciggie break! My neighbour says he doesn't speak a word of English - she points at things needing doing and he knows what to do! His boss (who is also Polish) is a bit of a tyrant and is often shouting at him in Polish. But he just gets on with his jobs.

Body perfect types are NOT for me. And I don't want a lawyer, doctor type. I am in swoon mood whenever I see him! I stopped this afernoon and said I knew Polish films and liked Kieslowski. He hadn't a clue what I was on about! He just winked and I ran indoors.

Which is what I meant when I said to the OP about NOT making a fool of yourself!

Sounds hot to me. Not into stubby fingernails, but who has the whole package anyway? The part about seeing his underwear was particularly yummy!

Sean.
Oct 19th, 2011, 12:56 AM
I'm a straight girl but get little crushes and fantasies on boys I see all the time, every day in fact, on the tube, in the street etc. !

Talula you horny minx. :lol:p

Cajka
Oct 19th, 2011, 01:08 AM
My advice is just to walk away. He is probably a bit confused about his sexuality or he's just drunk :shrug:
You'll just end up being hurt so try to find someone who will truly be interested in you :angel:

Sorry, but you're problems are tiny :lol: It's just a small crush :shrug:
Try living in Serbia for a week where 1 out of a million people are gays and gays are hated more than serial killers and pedophiles :spit:

It's not that he can't ask the question just because the homophobes in Serbia are more vocal than the normal people.

Matias, I don't think you should avoid him or something. Just act normal, be nice, be friendly (as the others suggested), but don't try anything. Honestly, you are over analyzing this situation. Just relax, you'll see how he behaves. Maybe he's really questioning his sexuality (if it's true, it's better not to push the things, 'cause you can scare him), maybe he's a gay, but he's playing some games (unfortunately, in that case he's probably an idiot) and maybe it was really nothing, maybe you're exaggerating 'cause you like him too much and just want to see the things that don't exist.

So, just act cool, don't act weird in his presence (it's not a good thing no matter if his gay or not) and don't think too much about it. It's always a nice feeling when you like someone, don't be frustrated, enjoy it. If he's straight or if he doesn't like you, it's not the end of the world, you'll find someone, but it's good to have someone to occupy your mind a bit until you find the right person.

Just to say, I'm a straight girl.

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 01:13 AM
UPDATE: I haven't had much contact with him in the last couple of weeks just some "hi"s and "how are you?"s I guess we never conected which is fine with me anyway I think I got over him after the second week I met him I just knew it was a lost cause, I also found out last week that he closed his facebook wall to me so I can't see his activities I took this as an indirect so I closed my wall to him too, two days after that he sends me a facebook message asking me - what happened? don't you want to be friends with me? - I basically tell him "well since you closed your wall to me first and we are NOT friends....." and then he acts all hurt and a little dialogue starts to take place and I'm like WTF? Long story short the boy is a total narcissistic douche bag and I'm glad I didn't make any moves with him :lol:

delicatecutter
Nov 23rd, 2011, 02:24 AM
:cheer: I'm sure you could have just trusted your instincts

ranfurly
Nov 23rd, 2011, 02:39 AM
UPDATE: I haven't had much contact with him in the last couple of weeks just some "hi"s and "how are you?"s I guess we never conected which is fine with me anyway I think I got over him after the second week I met him I just knew it was a lost cause, I also found out last week that he closed his facebook wall to me so I can't see his activities I took this as an indirect so I closed my wall to him too, two days after that he sends me a facebook message asking me - what happened? don't you want to be friends with me? - I basically tell him "well since you closed your wall to me first and we are NOT friends....." and then he acts all hurt and a little dialogue starts to take place and I'm like WTF? Long story short the boy is a total narcissistic douche bag and I'm glad I didn't make any moves with him :lol:

Fag Dramas are the best.

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 02:41 AM
UPDATE: I haven't had much contact with him in the last couple of weeks just some "hi"s and "how are you?"s I guess we never conected which is fine with me anyway I think I got over him after the second week I met him I just knew it was a lost cause, I also found out last week that he closed his facebook wall to me so I can't see his activities I took this as an indirect so I closed my wall to him too, two days after that he sends me a facebook message asking me - what happened? don't you want to be friends with me? - I basically tell him "well since you closed your wall to me first and we are NOT friends....." and then he acts all hurt and a little dialogue starts to take place and I'm like WTF? Long story short the boy is a total narcissistic douche bag and I'm glad I didn't make any moves with him :lol:
You know this means that he has a crush on you right?

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 02:48 AM
Fag Dramas are the best.

Delete yourself please.

You know this means that he has a crush on you right?

Nah I don't think so, why you say that?

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 03:07 AM
You know this means that he has a crush on you right?

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_QCcMTHCBJ4c/TRbe92C_dzI/AAAAAAAAEOA/gmpgaXmTMsk/s1600/At%2BFirst%2BI%2BLol%2527d%252C%2BBut%2BThen%2BI%2 BSerious%2527d.jpg

I would have to agree.

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 03:11 AM
Lol What am I not seeing?

V-MAC
Nov 23rd, 2011, 04:56 AM
They're just playing with you;)
I think you described this guy best in your own words as a "narcissistic douche bag" which sounds about right from what you have posted about him.
As delicatecutter said, trust your instincts!

Moveyourfeet
Nov 23rd, 2011, 05:02 AM
UPDATE: I haven't had much contact with him in the last couple of weeks just some "hi"s and "how are you?"s I guess we never conected which is fine with me anyway I think I got over him after the second week I met him I just knew it was a lost cause, I also found out last week that he closed his facebook wall to me so I can't see his activities I took this as an indirect so I closed my wall to him too, two days after that he sends me a facebook message asking me - what happened? don't you want to be friends with me? - I basically tell him "well since you closed your wall to me first and we are NOT friends....." and then he acts all hurt and a little dialogue starts to take place and I'm like WTF? Long story short the boy is a total narcissistic douche bag and I'm glad I didn't make any moves with him :lol:

You could hit it and quit it... wait how old are you?

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 05:26 AM
They're just playing with you;)
I think you described this guy best in your own words as a "narcissistic douche bag" which sounds about right from what you have posted about him.
As delicatecutter said, trust your instincts!

I can't say for sure whether I think he wants to do him up the butt, but in my experience, straight men DO NOT behave this way.

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 05:35 AM
I can't say for sure whether I think he wants to do him up the butt, but in my experience, straight men DO NOT behave this way.Basically. Something beyond platonic is going on there.

Also someone who's truly ignoring someone else would not check the other person's wall EVER (much less within 2 days) and so would never know if the other person closed his wall. And if he did find out, he'd definitely not give a f*ck.

And another thing: we need to see the receipts. I cannot prescribe an appropriate course of action unless I know the precise attractiveness of the parties involved, and this information can of course only be conveyed through pictures, preferably but not necessarily nude ones.

Apoleb
Nov 23rd, 2011, 05:55 AM
straight men DO NOT behave this way.

The confident ones don't. But those dying for attention might very well do. I think he has more interest in your liking than in yourself. Which is why he didn't react before he blocked you, but only after you followed it with your own block. Regardless, he's clearly lost in his own mind games.

My advice: stay away.

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 05:57 AM
Basically. Something beyond platonic is going on there.

Also someone who's truly ignoring someone else would not check the other person's wall EVER (much less within 2 days) and so would never know if the other person closed his wall. And if he did find out, he'd definitely not give a f*ck.

And another thing: we need to see the receipts. I cannot prescribe an appropriate course of action unless I know the precise attractiveness of the parties involved, and this information can of course only be conveyed through pictures, preferably but not necessarily nude ones.

One would think that the other guy initially closed off his wall just to get a reaction from the OP. Otherwise, why start a conversation about closed walls at all?

But in all seriousness, this is what I hate about contemporary, digitally affected dating. There are too many mines in this motherfucking field, and I is tired. OP: How can you put up with this? I'm exhausted on your behalf. I have to work to pay my bills. I ain't got no time to be checking if some dude revoked my access to his FB wall. The only tree I'm barking after is a nice, lush fir with a job, a head full of hair and enough rings in that stump that says, I'm down with the get down. A man who can say what he wants in plain speak and then gives it to me good so all I can do is hold onto my ankles and think of a happy place before I pass out for the evening. WASH. RINSE. REPEAT.

PS: Seconded: RECEIPTS!!

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 02:49 PM
The confident ones don't. But those dying for attention might very well do. I think he has more interest in your liking than in yourself. Which is why he didn't react before he blocked you, but only after you followed it with your own block. Regardless, he's clearly lost in his own mind games.

My advice: stay away.

Yea I think that's pretty much spot on.

About showing receipts well....:oh:

Me (taken momments ago, my eyes do open most of the times btw)
http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/3584/fotoplazatai.jpg

Me (second guy from the left) Him (second guy from the right)
http://img521.imageshack.us/img521/6996/fotosgrupal.jpg

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 08:04 PM
Move on.

ampers&
Nov 23rd, 2011, 08:32 PM
Move on.
I LOL'd. :sobbing:

Bartosh
Nov 23rd, 2011, 08:45 PM
Move on.

oh lord :sobbing:

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:07 PM
Move on.

LOL. Is that your informed and final answer?

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:23 PM
Move on.

Lol ok but only because you say it.

Bartosh
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:26 PM
Lol ok only because you say it.

he's right. There are better looking guys in this country. Just one example:

http://sports-odds.com/images/stories/fernando-gonzalez-tennis.jpg

:drool:

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:29 PM
he's right. There are better looking guys in this country. Just one example:

http://sports-odds.com/images/stories/fernando-gonzalez-tennis.jpg

:drool:

He's great looking but that huge forehead is a big turn off.

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:30 PM
LOL. Is that your informed and final answer?Yes. :p This is not to say that I find him unattractive.

He has some attitude problem and is within OP's league, so there is really no incentive. OP can find someone else within his league minus attitude problem.

Adal
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:32 PM
Yes. :p

He has some attitude problem and is within OP's league, so there is really no incentive. OP can find someone else within his league minus attitude problem.
I actually agree with this.

He is not bad-looking, but definitely not hot enough to cope with his bullshit.

Apoleb
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:36 PM
Yes. :p This is not to say that I find him unattractive.

He has some attitude problem and is within OP's league, so there is really no incentive. OP can find someone else within his league minus attitude problem.

:sobbing: *death*

How about having your own thread where you give gay advice? You can make extra money out of this.

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:40 PM
Yes. :p This is not to say that I find him unattractive.

He has some attitude problem and is within OP's league, so there is really no incentive. OP can find someone else within his league minus attitude problem.

The main problem is the attitude, I don't mind physical appearance that much. I do melt for slim, pale skinned, brown haired guys for unknown reason. :lol:

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:41 PM
How tall are these guys, anyhow? They look short. I'm like a koala. I always need something to climb.

Nicolás89
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:47 PM
How tall are these guys, anyhow? They look short. I'm like a koala. I always need something to climb.

Lol We are. :sobbing: I'm roughly 5'10'' and he must be 5'7'' ish.

PS: He definitely looks better in person btw.

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 09:48 PM
:sobbing: *death*

How about having your own thread where you give gay advice? You can make extra money out of this.You can be my manager and set that thread up. I'm always looking for extra money and/or sexual favours.

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 10:03 PM
You can be my manager and set that thread up. I'm always looking for extra money and/or sexual favours.

Who is making out in your avatar??

moby
Nov 23rd, 2011, 10:23 PM
Who is making out in your avatar??Russell (Tom Cullen) and Glen (Chris New), going right to left. It's a screenshot from Weekend, directed by Andrew Haigh.
http://www.tennisforum.com/showthread.php?t=448735

For those who like their gayboi fantasies to have a tinge of the possible, no luck here: the former is straight, the latter is taken.

shap_half
Nov 23rd, 2011, 10:46 PM
Russell (Tom Cullen) and Glen (Chris New), going right to left. It's a screenshot from Weekend, directed by Andrew Haigh.
http://www.tennisforum.com/showthread.php?t=448735

For those who like their gayboi fantasies to have a tinge of the possible, no luck here: the former is straight, the latter is taken.

I've been wanting to watch it, actually. But I've not had the time to go to the cinema. I can't however find it on the internet.

Nicolás89
Jun 12th, 2012, 04:02 AM
OMG this relationship really has been an emotional rollercoaster, we've been through a lot. :sobbing: We got pass the akwardness now, we still party together (we have mutual friends), we are not friends & I prefer it that way cause I (and him I guess) moved on.

Although now I've fallen for another cute straight twink & this is worse because we are really close friends, I can't. :sobbing: :hysteric:

Stamp Paid
Jun 12th, 2012, 07:09 AM
Well that situation calls for some advice. More details please.
Where is miss moby? :lol:

Svetlana)))
Jun 12th, 2012, 08:56 AM
LOL love reading drama. Can someone help me too :P Recently I've been craving for love and a partner out of nowhere, spending so much time reading forums and watching youtube. I've been single for about a year now and my last partner cheated on me.

Pump-it-UP
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:07 PM
OMG this relationship really has been an emotional rollercoaster, we've been through a lot. :sobbing: We got pass the akwardness now, we still party together (we have mutual friends), we are not friends & I prefer it that way cause I (and him I guess) moved on.

Although now I've fallen for another cute straight twink & this is worse because we are really close friends, I can't. :sobbing: :hysteric:

:spit: Been there, done that. :lol::hug:

Mikey.
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:24 PM
Having a similar crisis of my own right now with the gayest "Christian" guy ever. :crying2:

Mynarco
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:25 PM
Russell (Tom Cullen) and Glen (Chris New), going right to left. It's a screenshot from Weekend, directed by Andrew Haigh.
http://www.tennisforum.com/showthread.php?t=448735

For those who like their gayboi fantasies to have a tinge of the possible, no luck here: the former is straight, the latter is taken.

I always thought Chris New was straight :hysteric:

silverwhite
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:33 PM
Peak TF :worship:

silverwhite
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:36 PM
LOL love reading drama. Can someone help me too :P Recently I've been craving for love and a partner out of nowhere, spending so much time reading forums and watching youtube. I've been single for about a year now and my last partner cheated on me.

Completely normal :lol:

I guess the obvious answer is to look for another one? Since you've already had one (at least), I guess you have your ways :scratch:

Nicolás89
Jun 12th, 2012, 06:17 PM
I guess now I should explain my situation. :lol:

This new kid is one of my best friends, I've known him for 4 years now, I guess I've always felt attracted to him in a way because this kid is really sweet (which is the most important to me) but now that feeling is bigger. He hasn't shown any clear indication that he likes me (unlike the previous boy), although he does sometimes tell me that I look nice or he would ask me how he looks, he also invited me dinner a few weeks ago the 2 alone & he has shown real interest in move in with me like roommates.

I guess my feellings are more platonic than anything but there's also a physical attraction, he is a really cute boy.

moby
Jun 13th, 2012, 12:30 AM
Don't shit where you eat. No point jeopardising a friendship. Sex is so cheap you can get it at KFC.
He probably is straight and knows you are gay, hence asking you how he looks.

Nicolás89
Jun 13th, 2012, 01:13 AM
Don't shit where you eat. No point jeopardising a friendship. Sex is so cheap you can get it at KFC.
He probably is straight and knows you are gay, hence asking you how he looks.

:hysteric:

He does know I'm gay. I really like his friendship I obviously do not want to jeopardize anything, I guess I'm just stunned by his sweetness, he is a really good friend but sometimes he acts so different with me (in a good way I guess) he buys me nice things or invites me lunch & stuff like that, he does not do that with his other friends. :lol:

But anyway I'm not in love with him or anything.

I guess the issue here is not him it's just me always falling for the cute, insecure often sexually confused straight guy. o_O

Andy_
Jun 13th, 2012, 10:52 AM
:hysteric:

He does know I'm gay. I really like his friendship I obviously do not want to jeopardize anything, I guess I'm just stunned by his sweetness, he is a really good friend but sometimes he acts so different with me (in a good way I guess) he buys me nice things or invites me lunch & stuff like that, he does not do that with his other friends. :lol:

But anyway I'm not in love with him or anything.

I guess the issue here is not him it's just me always falling for the cute, insecure often sexually confused straight guy. o_O

From what you describe, I have the impression he is merely being a good friend to you... there's nothing weird about a friend buying you something nice or inviting you out, especially if you guys have known each other for four years and are even contemplating moving in together as roommates. I mean, that requires a certain degree of mutual trust and the certainty that you can get along well.

He probably simply cherishes your friendship as much as you do, and likes to show it. Do treasure his friendship, he sounds like a good guy... and do have a look outside your usual circle of friends next time you hope to meet a special someone ;)

However, if ever he is "hiding something", if you do end up living together... I guess you'd find out pretty soon - living under the same roof would probably bring you two even closer than you already are.