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Dominic
Oct 1st, 2011, 01:37 AM
Hi everyone, I lost my mom this morning to cancer and am having a bit of a hard time obviously. It's like everything I do seems useless and with no interest. I know it's very recent and it's probably normal but I know I'll need help and I thought maybe hearing about ppl who have gone through tough times similar to these would help me...... If anyone wants to share stories about ppl they have lost and advice about how to heal the wounds, I would very much appreciate it.

ElusiveChanteuse
Oct 1st, 2011, 01:47 AM
:eek: My condolences to you and your family.:hug: :awww:

Dominic
Oct 1st, 2011, 02:05 AM
:eek: My condolences to you and your family.:hug: :awww:

Thank you... I didn't think I would but I really appreciate every single one of those...

Martian Jeza
Oct 1st, 2011, 02:17 AM
i lost my mum the 17th of July 2010 because of the Parkinson disease and since then I'm an orphan : I miss her everyday but nothing you can do but coping ! I know the feeling ! Orphan because the 24th of March 1996 my father killed himself with a gun ! So I'm made of deceased parents but proud of having had such great mother and a father even he had loads of flaws had golden fingers !

kwilliams
Oct 1st, 2011, 03:15 AM
My sympathies to you and your family. Losing someone is so painful. I can only imagine what it'd be like to lose your own mother.

Mrs. Dimitrova
Oct 1st, 2011, 03:32 AM
I'm so sorry.

Inger67
Oct 1st, 2011, 03:40 AM
I'm so sorry. I know anything any one of us says isn't going to make up for what you've lost, but I wish you all the best. I lost my dad nearly 5 years ago to liver and kidney failure. It's crazy how the time flies, and I miss him continuously. My biggest piece of advice is to talk about it with people. That was my biggest problem when that happened, I just shut down and didn't care to hear what people said. All of the "I'm sorry's" annoyed me at the time, I was only 16. In a way I blamed myself for what happened and I didn't let any emotion out it seemed like. But it catches up to you, I've spent a lot of the time feeling like a victim and was very defensive about a lot of stuff. So like I said, any time you feel it's necessary talk to someone - they will listen. Whether it's about the good times you've had, the pain you're going through now, or where to go from here - just talk to someone. Hope this helps you.

Helen Lawson
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:09 AM
I'm very sorry. I lost my bff 5 and a half years ago, he overdosed on Oxycoton a few days after admitting to me he had a problem. I don't really have any advice on how to cope, he was a funny cool guy with a great sense of humor and I still laugh from time to time when I see something I know he'd think was funny or would have made a good comment about. I thought about him every day for about a year or so, then it diminished over time, I'm not sure that happens with a parent. I do remember and cherish the fun times we enjoyed together.
Cancer sucks and so does Oxycoton.

Infiniti2001
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:39 AM
My heart felt sympathies to your family... You may not want to believe it, but you will come to terms with your loss with time... I lost my mom 3 years ago and still feel guilty for encouraging her to have breast cancer surgery which she did not want to have and never woke up from :sobbing: I also lost a very good friend to suicide 3 weeks ago :sad: Be strong-- losing a loved one definitely puts everything into perspective at the end of the day...

Kairi
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:48 AM
:eek: omg im so sorry, my condolences :sad:

skanky~skanketta
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:51 AM
It sucks so bad. You get into moments where the finality hits you and threatens to overwhelm. But take it from someone who knows, time won't ever stop the pain, but it'll help you get used to it.

My deepest condolences.

Shadowcat
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:55 AM
I'm sorry, it sucks to lose someone you love :hug: I lost my closest aunt in 2008 and this year I lost another aunt. It sucks because I did not have the chance to say goodbye to both of them and I treat my first aunt really badly before she passed. I regret it so much :hysteric: If I could go back in time and tell her how much I appreciate her, I would. When you lose a person, you've learn not to take things for granted. But I keep dreaming about them when I'm asleep. I dreamt that they are with me and I went out with them. Of course I woke up and I've realised it's just a dream. But at least they are both with me at night and I can look at them in my dreams, even though it's my dream, it's still good enough :) So just stay strong and there's lots of other people who loved you. So spend you time wisely with them.

McPie
Oct 1st, 2011, 05:04 AM
sorry to hear that :awww:

Ashi
Oct 1st, 2011, 07:39 AM
My condolences, I can only imagine the pain. :hug:

doktor
Oct 1st, 2011, 08:44 AM
I'm so sorry. I hope you're okay.

nevetssllim
Oct 1st, 2011, 08:45 AM
:hug: Sorry to hear about your loss. I've lived with my grandparents since I was four and my grandma suddenly died when I was 12 (she was only 59) so I know how you feel. I had such a good family around me and they really helped to make everything seem normal afterwards and I hope you have the same network of friends and family who can help you through this. :)

Reptilia
Oct 1st, 2011, 09:41 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that :awww::hug:

My advice to you would be to talk about it with your family and not to let yourself grieve on your own. I was young when I lost my father, and I never spoke about it with my family much. It made it all so much harder to come to terms with and move on from and took years longer than it should have done.
Everyone is different, but I found keeping busy was the best as I was at my saddest when I was at home doing nothing.

tennislover
Oct 1st, 2011, 11:57 AM
so sorry :sad: :hug:

delicatecutter
Oct 1st, 2011, 12:10 PM
I'm so sorry Dom. :hug:

Dominic
Oct 1st, 2011, 01:41 PM
My heart felt sympathies to your family... You may not want to believe it, but you will come to terms with your loss with time... I lost my mom 3 years ago and still feel guilty for encouraging her to have breast cancer surgery which she did not want to have and never woke up from :sobbing: I also lost a very good friend to suicide 3 weeks ago :sad: Be strong-- losing a loved one definitely puts everything into perspective at the end of the day...

OMG :sobbing: that must have been so hard for you, even though obviously you only wanted her good. Thank you for sharing.

Ciarán
Oct 1st, 2011, 03:33 PM
Sorry for your loss Dominic, I can't imagine such a loss. Best wishes to you and your family :hug:

JJ Expres
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:37 PM
I'm so sorry :hug: :hug: :hug:

Martian Jeza
Oct 1st, 2011, 04:52 PM
Since the loss of my mother, she often appears in my dreams : I don't know the meaning of this : either she sends me messages she misses me very hard or I miss her very much ( which is the case and always will be ) : The only thing we have to do in such sad times is coping : there's no other way !

Just Do It
Oct 1st, 2011, 05:00 PM
Domi, you are strong and you will fight through it, I know you will. Time heals everything. Be strong, I am with you :yeah:

Mynarco
Oct 1st, 2011, 05:05 PM
despite having a broken keyboard i must write this post

First of all my thoughts are with dom and his families and fellow TFers who unfortunately lost their loved ones recently. My father passed away 3 years ago after fighting against cancer for 20 years. I am proud of him being a fighter like that. I was the only one there when he had his last breath (Mum left hospital and got something to eat) and it took me a couple of days to realize he was gone.

Our family was really used to him being hospitalized. Looking at him leave us peacefully was somehow a relief - he had tube-feeding for 9 years and phlegm always clogged in his throat. He had to cough out every now and then. At that time I was a rebellious person. I was embarrassed being with him because due to the cut on his stomach he smelled a little bit but that was enough to be cast glances. And due to his illness he was VERY grumpy. He always complained about this and that and me and mum had to suck it up. That being said he backed me up EVERY TIME when i was depressed about things around me and told me how to be a person with integrity

We had never expected his last during Olympics was his final journey to the end. He looked alright at the beginning even though he was moved to different wards twice and he told us he wanted to go back home being with his dogs. Then everything went downhill for the last week and a half. Mum decided to let doctors inject some morphine and let him RIP - which took a couple of hours.

I still remembered everything of him - his coughing every couple of hours, the way he played with his dogs etc. I thought we would break down at the funeral parlour but didn't because when we saw his tranquil face for the very last time we were glad he was immuned from pain forever.

I wish I had learnt how to toy with cameras taking stunning photographs cause he was good at it. Without him I won't have what i'm having now.

Londoner
Oct 1st, 2011, 05:06 PM
My sincere condolences. It must be awful and no one will have words or solutions to the pain. Only time can alleviate the loss, and even then it's always there. Someone said to me that we are all covered in invisible bruises and have invisible wounds that can often still hurt. It didn't alleviate my grief but I understood and it helped a little knowing everyone goes through such situations. The loss of a mother though is particularly traumatic and meaningful so my thoughts are with you.:hug: take care.

Otlichno
Oct 1st, 2011, 05:31 PM
I'm so sorry. :sad: I can't imagine how painful it is, the only true loss I've had when I was old enough to understand what was going on around me was my cousin. It was in Egypt and me and her were riding our bikes, on the way back she fell and hit her head, she got up and was a bit dizzy but after a few minutes she seemed alright. We came home and nobody was at home, so I made some food, and she didn't want to eat, she told me she was tired and she wanted to sleep. When she woke up she said she had a really bad headache so I gave her some aspirin. 15 minutes later I noticed her slipping in and out of consciousness, she began vomiting blood, and her ears and nose began to bleed. I called the Ambulance and when we reached the hospital the bleeding hadn't stopped and she died soon afterwards. She had apparently gotten internal bleeding in her skull. I had just become 13 at the time so it was such a surreal experience for me, I didn't grieve for her as much as I would have expected myself to, we weren't that close, but she was still a cousin. It was hard to come to terms with the fact that the bleeding wouldn't have been so severe if I hadn't given her those aspirins, but I'm now coming to terms with it. I'm just 17 and I don't know what it feels like to lose a parent, but you are a strong person, and with time I'm sure you'll learn to cope with the pain. :hug: Best wishes to you and your family. :hug:

Helen Lawson
Oct 1st, 2011, 06:49 PM
Since the loss of my mother, she often appears in my dreams : I don't know the meaning of this : either she sends me messages she misses me very hard or I miss her very much ( which is the case and always will be ) : The only thing we have to do in such sad times is coping : there's no other way !

My friend did appear to me in dreams maybe once a month for about a year or year and a half. They were vivid, I would start to cry in my dreams when I saw him and he'd tell me if I was going to cry, he would leave, and I could not stop, and he did leave. About the fourth dream, I was able to not cry and we had very frank discussions about a lot of things, it was like he was giving me real world advice, very strange. Was it really him, or my mind dealing with the grief? He hasn't appeared in a dream in a long, long time.

Dominic
Oct 1st, 2011, 07:23 PM
My friend did appear to me in dreams maybe once a month for about a year or year and a half. They were vivid, I would start to cry in my dreams when I saw him and he'd tell me if I was going to cry, he would leave, and I could not stop, and he did leave. About the fourth dream, I was able to not cry and we had very frank discussions about a lot of things, it was like he was giving me real world advice, very strange. Was it really him, or my mind dealing with the grief? He hasn't appeared in a dream in a long, long time.

Wow that is so touching.

Mr.Sharapova
Oct 1st, 2011, 07:43 PM
So sorry to hear that :hug:.

I've never experienced losing someone close yet, but a month ago one of my best friends, he is like my brother lost his dad, difficult times for me and him to deal with :sobbing:.

But all you have to think about is that life goes on, you'll miss her every single day and that's normal but time heals everything and I'm pretty sure that in no time you'll meet new people and have new friends and they will make you forget this for a while and enjoy your life in a way :yeah:.

mykarma
Oct 1st, 2011, 08:56 PM
Hi everyone, I lost my mom this morning to cancer and am having a bit of a hard time obviously. It's like everything I do seems useless and with no interest. I know it's very recent and it's probably normal but I know I'll need help and I thought maybe hearing about ppl who have gone through tough times similar to these would help me...... If anyone wants to share stories about ppl they have lost and advice about how to heal the wounds, I would very much appreciate it.
So sorry to hear of your lost. My mom passed in March of this year and I still can't say I understand your pain as all of us deal with death quite differently. My mom was a free spirit, a natural comedian. She would not have wanted us to mourn her death so we had a celebration of her life which was great. As long as she was the center of attention she was fine. We danced, had great food and of course a few drinks. Initially I was concerned how some of our very religious family members would accept this but all of them said it was how my mom would have wanted it and many wanted the same type of celebration at their passing. Now when I think of her ceremony I think about what a great time we had and some of the stories that people told about her. :lol:

Of course I have my sad days but feel so blessed to have been part of her life and she of mine. Another thing that I think makes it easier to bear for me is that in Buddhism we believe that we're reborn and will be in each others lives again.

Try and remember the good times and your mom will always be a part of your life.

Dominic
Oct 2nd, 2011, 02:08 PM
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who posted.

Gerri
Oct 2nd, 2011, 03:55 PM
So sorry to hear about your loss. It's terrible to lose a parent but it gets easier over time. My parents died a few weeks apart 4 years ago and for a while I thought I'd never be able to enjoy anything again, everything seemed completely pointless. Of course I did though and a couple of weeks on I was watching Wimbledon, screaming at the tv and wondering how I could actually care about who was winning:lol: My mum loved tennis too and I still always imagine she's watching with me.

Grief is something that not many people escape and the loss of a loved one really puts life in perspective. It made me think that the best way to live life is to be kind and try to enjoy yourself.

Remember it really does get less painful over time. Take care :hug:

Break My Rapture
Oct 2nd, 2011, 04:11 PM
Condolensces to everyone of you and your families. :hug:

gulzhan
Oct 2nd, 2011, 04:23 PM
My deepest condolences to you.

I think I understand how you feel. I wish I could tell you that the pain will be gone soon. I lost my father almost 17 years ago and for all these years there were no single day when I wouldn't think about him for at least a moment. First, I felt such a painful sorrow for my dad, because it was unbearable to realize and accept that his life was over, that we stayed and he was gone, that he didn't get reward for all the hard-working years, for everything he has done for his family. Then, I started feeling empty and scared, as someone here said, I realized I was an orphan. Thanks God, my mom is alive and we are blessed to have her healthy and see her every day, but still-- a great wall of protection that my dad was has suddenly fallen and I was left there to face the reality of death, I could feel it that I was the next one in the line. It's a very hard time. And finally, I started missing my dad terribly-- wanted to see him, to talk about him, wanted to hear his voice and laugh... I cried a lot, tried to shut down the memories of his last days.

What did I do to cope with the pain? I have two sisters who shared my feelings, so it was easier for us. We visited dad's grave very often, talked to him. Keeping it neat and flowery eased pain, it was like you do something for dad, something you haven't had enough time to do when he was alive. I talked a lot about my dad with friends and later with my daughter--what a wonderful person he was, what a great dad, how much he would have loved her. My sisters and I shared memories of our childhood and told stories about dad over and over again.

With the time, the pain got easier. I still miss my dad terribly, I still feel pain for him not living long enough, but I also know my dad is with me, he helps me, he supports me, he is always there when I need him. I believe in that. Every time I had a difficult moment in my life, I saw my dad in night dream and I knew that everything would be fine. And it was.

Please, tell us more about your mom. I am very sorry that she was in pain, that she had to leave you. But you will feel her presence very soon, sometimes our parents leave us because they want to help us more. I know that.

I am very sorry for your loss.

Martian Jeza
Oct 2nd, 2011, 11:34 PM
Well, even I think you are sometimes very annoying ( I admit it ) : I hope my experiences with the loss of a loved one helped you a bit and that you aren't alone at all in this position ! All I have to say : Stay strong and keep that in mind : your mother wherever she is now : even I understand you are devastated by her death : she wants you to be happy even she isn't anymore of this world !

Dominic
Oct 3rd, 2011, 05:02 AM
Please, tell us more about your mom.

She was an amazing woman with a great spirit, nothing could bring her down. No matter how bad the doctors' news were, she was always ready to fight yet always very affectionate and joyful around us. She would always put her family and friend's confort before hers, to the point where she often didn't really listen to her own body (probably didn't help her in her treatment of stomach cancer ultimately). And she was 57 when she died but I really felt like she was my friend. I had as much fun playing scrabble with her (which we did very often) as I have hanging out with ppl my age.

What scares me the most at the moment is to lose memories and forget things about her. The day she died, me, my dad and my sister were talking about old stories she told us a million times and we couldn't remember the last name of one of her friends and I know it's insignificant but I'm worried in a couple weeks or months I might forget her voice, then her smile then her personality... I would like to keep every part of her in my head and in my heart forever.

Shadowcat
Oct 3rd, 2011, 05:07 AM
The one thing that I find that works best is not to think about it. Because thinking about it will just keep you depressed. Make yourself busy, do some sports or activities with you family. Treasure your time with them :) :hug: Like my sig / Thomas Jefferson says, "When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on." Good Luck :hatoff:

John.
Oct 3rd, 2011, 03:32 PM
My sincere condolences to you and your family. :hug:

My Dad passed away 5 1/2 years ago. It's such a cliche, but time does heal the wounds to a certain degree. I still miss him and it still hurts, but I can talk about him and think about him without breaking down, which I couldn't do for along time. I recently managed to watch a video that was taken of him at his 60th birthday party which I never thought I would be able to do.

Londoner
Oct 3rd, 2011, 06:44 PM
She was an amazing woman with a great spirit, nothing could bring her down. No matter how bad the doctors' news were, she was always ready to fight yet always very affectionate and joyful around us. She would always put her family and friend's confort before hers, to the point where she often didn't really listen to her own body (probably didn't help her in her treatment of stomach cancer ultimately). And she was 57 when she died but I really felt like she was my friend. I had as much fun playing scrabble with her (which we did very often) as I have hanging out with ppl my age.

What scares me the most at the moment is to lose memories and forget things about her. The day she died, me, my dad and my sister were talking about old stories she told us a million times and we couldn't remember the last name of one of her friends and I know it's insignificant but I'm worried in a couple weeks or months I might forget her voice, then her smile then her personality... I would like to keep every part of her in my head and in my heart forever.

Trust me, you won't forget. I see my Grandmother in my dreams, when out for a walk, lying on the beach etc. I remember everything about her: exactly how she looked, her dresses and even her slippers, her mannerisms and voice. I was hypnotised to try and stop smoking and I saw her in a garden exactly as she had been. I can remember everything about her as I type this. Don't worry, you wont forget.

WhatTheDeuce
Oct 3rd, 2011, 09:22 PM
I'm really sorry, Dom. :sad: Do your best to stay strong through the grieving. Keeping you in my thoughts. :hug:

WhatTheDeuce
Oct 3rd, 2011, 09:48 PM
She was an amazing woman with a great spirit, nothing could bring her down. No matter how bad the doctors' news were, she was always ready to fight yet always very affectionate and joyful around us. She would always put her family and friend's confort before hers, to the point where she often didn't really listen to her own body (probably didn't help her in her treatment of stomach cancer ultimately). And she was 57 when she died but I really felt like she was my friend. I had as much fun playing scrabble with her (which we did very often) as I have hanging out with ppl my age.

What scares me the most at the moment is to lose memories and forget things about her. The day she died, me, my dad and my sister were talking about old stories she told us a million times and we couldn't remember the last name of one of her friends and I know it's insignificant but I'm worried in a couple weeks or months I might forget her voice, then her smile then her personality... I would like to keep every part of her in my head and in my heart forever.
Gah, this thread is making me cry.

Sounds like she was unforgettable, Dom. I wouldn't worry about your memory of her staying intact. :hug:

Chip.
Oct 3rd, 2011, 10:01 PM
I'm so sorry :hug:

Mashabator
Oct 4th, 2011, 02:19 AM
oh my god :hug: so sorry to hear this :hug:

Fighterpova
Oct 4th, 2011, 08:49 AM
She was an amazing woman with a great spirit, nothing could bring her down. No matter how bad the doctors' news were, she was always ready to fight yet always very affectionate and joyful around us. She would always put her family and friend's confort before hers, to the point where she often didn't really listen to her own body (probably didn't help her in her treatment of stomach cancer ultimately). And she was 57 when she died but I really felt like she was my friend. I had as much fun playing scrabble with her (which we did very often) as I have hanging out with ppl my age.

What scares me the most at the moment is to lose memories and forget things about her. The day she died, me, my dad and my sister were talking about old stories she told us a million times and we couldn't remember the last name of one of her friends and I know it's insignificant but I'm worried in a couple weeks or months I might forget her voice, then her smile then her personality... I would like to keep every part of her in my head and in my heart forever.

:sobbing:
I actually cried while reading this :sad:
I'm sure your mom was a terrific mom and a person, I'm so sorry for your loss :awww::hug:

I can't imagine how you must be feeling...

Times like this you realize that life is too short and that you should enjoy every moment of it :)

I really hope that everything turns out okay and that time will heal your heart...


And just 1 more thing. You shouldn't be afraid that you're gonna forget her, cause you're not. She did go down, but she went down as a brave and selfless mom who would do everything for the ones she loved, and that is what makes someone special. She will never be forgotten and will always live through your memory and love :)

I wish you all the best...

Stamp Paid
Oct 4th, 2011, 10:35 AM
Sorry to hear about your loss, losing your mother is a grief which I can only imagine. My brother was killed in a car accident and it was/is devastating. I lose more and more memories of him as time passes.

Please feel better soon.

Super Dave
Oct 4th, 2011, 01:43 PM
I lost my mother after a 2 1/2-year illness back when I was 23. Losing a parent is an enormous thing to go through. You have my condolences and empathy.

Dominic
Oct 4th, 2011, 03:23 PM
I lost my mother after a 2 1/2-year illness back when I was 23. Losing a parent is an enormous thing to go through. You have my condolences and empathy.

Thank you, may I ask what was the illness?

Super Dave
Oct 4th, 2011, 03:40 PM
Thank you, may I ask what was the illness?

She had a massive heart attack which left her comatose for several weeks, then left her with brain damage and memory loss. She was too weak to recover or endure any type of heart transplant, especially with the irreversible brain damage. How she survived 2 1/2 years after that, I'll never know. Seeing her suffer for that long was torture to witness as her son. It has been 18 years now since she passed, but she still enters my thoughts every day and I appreciate the selfless things she did as a parent and I strive to be as good to my kids.

I try not to think of the last years of her life and concentrate on the positive. Your emotions will go up and down greatly at the beginning, but will probably tend to even out as time passes.

Martian Jeza
Oct 5th, 2011, 12:50 AM
Mothers in general are the greatest persons you have in your life ! Mothers give you loads of love, they care about you, they never are ashamed about you : they love you for what you are and they always are there in good and bad times ! Mothers for me are the best parents ! I don't want to undermine fathers ! But at my side my mother gave me much more than my father did ! I'll always blame myself how sometimes I've been so mean with her : she didn't deserve it at all ! My Mother was the greatest woman for me and she gave me loads of joy ! Keep in mind the best times you had with her and forget the bad times like this one : her death ! Now she'll be somewhere your lucky star !

Losing your mother is the worst thing that can happen ! ANd I know it :sad:

ampers&
Oct 5th, 2011, 02:03 PM
Condolences. I lost my father to lung cancer years ago. Went through a gauntlet of emotions. Wishing you all the best!

Dominic
Oct 7th, 2011, 03:50 PM
I'm worried about tonight. It's the funerals and I have to give a speach about her in front of like 100 ppl. I'm scared I'm either not gonna be able to read it at all for crying too much, or not crying at all and looking like a robot (knowing myself, that's probably what's gonna happen, I have this stupid defense mechanism and I never cry in front of ppl).... Just wanted to share this.

Otlichno
Oct 7th, 2011, 04:35 PM
Don't worry! :hug: At the end of the day everyone will understand if you don't show any emotion or show allot of it, you're going through allot.

Nobody can blame you and you most certainly can't blame yourself whatever happens. :hug:

Yoncé
Oct 7th, 2011, 10:24 PM
I'm worried about tonight. It's the funerals and I have to give a speach about her in front of like 100 ppl. I'm scared I'm either not gonna be able to read it at all for crying too much, or not crying at all and looking like a robot (knowing myself, that's probably what's gonna happen, I have this stupid defense mechanism and I never cry in front of ppl).... Just wanted to share this.

:hug: Don't worry about it! Every expresses grief differently! I, like you, can't cry in front of people either. No one is going to care how much or how little you cry!

Everyone should be very understanding either way, its a lot to take in emotionally. :hug:

VeeJJ
Oct 8th, 2011, 12:56 AM
My first dog of 11 years died last week :sad:

I didn't read this thread, but condolences to everyone who talked about a love one they lost :hug:

Dominic
Oct 8th, 2011, 04:37 AM
It went so well, exactly like I wanted it :)

Lin Lin
Oct 8th, 2011, 04:41 AM
So sad to hear that:awww:

Tweety Snape
Oct 8th, 2011, 05:04 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. :sobbing:
I lost my father to lung cancer 4 years ago, when I was almost ten (I guess you can figure out how old I am now) and my grandmother is currently in a coma as we speak. I realize now how little I actually knew about my father, like all the hardships he had to go through when he first came to the US from China, barely knowing a word of English, with my mother and older sister. I didn't know all the jobs he worked to support our family in any way he could, but I did know he was at some point a cook at a restaurant and at the latest, managing a plant in China. I miss him terribly, and I always regret not getting to spend more time with him.
Thread poster, I wish you well, and I assure you that you will heal, over time. :hugs:

Dominic
Jun 12th, 2012, 05:39 AM
And now my dad passed today. I don't know if I'm gonna make it through seriously :sobbing:

Yoncé
Jun 12th, 2012, 06:11 AM
:awww: My condolences to you and the rest of your family :hug: it must be so hard losing both your parents in a span less than a year

King Halep
Jun 12th, 2012, 06:16 AM
:hug: My deepest sympathies Dominic. Thats really tough, hope your family gets through it. :sad:

WhatTheDeuce
Jun 12th, 2012, 06:19 AM
And now my dad passed today. I don't know if I'm gonna make it through seriously :sobbing:
:tears: My heart breaks for you and your family, Dom. Seriously, I'm so so sorry, I cannot even begin to fathom what you must be feeling right now. All I can say is I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and if you ever need an outlet or just someone to dump your emotions on, I'm more than willing to be there for you.

I know you don't want to hear this now, but stay strong; the human spirit can withstand endless amounts of pain and you WILL get through this. Both your parents are watching over you now - together. They'll give you the strength you need to overcome this in time.

:hug:

Just Do It
Jun 12th, 2012, 07:00 AM
Oh no, I feel so bad right now. Just stay strong and I am sure you will make it through :kiss:

King Halep
Jun 12th, 2012, 09:39 AM
Snape, its really sad :tears: :hug:

silverwhite
Jun 12th, 2012, 10:18 AM
Condolences, Dom :hug:

Mynarco
Jun 12th, 2012, 12:14 PM
:hug:

Tweety Snape
Jun 12th, 2012, 12:53 PM
So sorry for your loss, Dominic. :hug: My deepest condolences. Stay strong; I know you'll get through this.

Sammo
Jun 12th, 2012, 01:40 PM
Oh God I'm so sorry...


We believe in you and you believe in yourself, be strong you'll get through it :hug:

mykarma
Jun 12th, 2012, 02:54 PM
And now my dad passed today. I don't know if I'm gonna make it through seriously :sobbing:
WOW!!! That has to be really really tough. I can only imagine how tough this must be and how much your heart must be breaking.

mykarma
Jun 12th, 2012, 02:58 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss, losing your mother is a grief which I can only imagine. My brother was killed in a car accident and it was/is devastating. I lose more and more memories of him as time passes.

Please feel better soon.
That's interesting because I lost my mother last year and my memories of her are stronger than ever expect the memories are all positive. Very seldom are the memories of her sad but are of her funny sense of humor. Perhaps it's different when it's a parent or could be that it's different for each individual.

JN
Jun 12th, 2012, 03:54 PM
Damn! I lost my mom a month before you lost yours. Sorry to hear about your dad, try to hang in there. You have my condolences.

Inger67
Jun 12th, 2012, 05:45 PM
Dom :tears: So sorry.. I can't imagine losing both parents, and especially in such a short period of time. I don't know what else to say other than try and stay strong. I'm sure your family and friends need you right now just as badly as you need them.

Super Dave
Jun 12th, 2012, 07:00 PM
My deepest sympathies, Dominic. :sad: Was it sudden?

Chip.
Jun 12th, 2012, 07:35 PM
Wow, I can't really fathom the pain you must be going through right now. :hug: My condolences to you and your family. WhatTheDeuce is so right when they described the strength of the human spirit.

I'll keep you in my prayers tonight :)

Dominic
Jun 12th, 2012, 07:40 PM
My deepest sympathies, Dominic. :sad: Was it sudden?

Well he never had good health but yes it was. Cardiac arrest... Less than 24 hours later, he was gone... And I have no parents now.

pierce85
Jun 12th, 2012, 08:08 PM
Stay strong Dominic, be grateful that you spent many years of happiness with your parents. You should always know that there's always light in the darkness and life will make it up for you, when you hit rock bottom you can always go up.

Rerun
Jun 12th, 2012, 09:07 PM
:hug: condolances :hug:

Sean.
Jun 12th, 2012, 10:47 PM
Dom. :hug: I am so sorry for your loss, and I can't imagine what you're going though. My thoughts and sympathies are with you.

New_balls_please
Jun 13th, 2012, 12:26 AM
Dom :hug:

tennislover
Jun 13th, 2012, 02:34 AM
And now my dad passed today. I don't know if I'm gonna make it through seriously :sobbing:


:eek: omg!
:sad: :hug: so sorry!

tennislover
Jun 13th, 2012, 02:37 AM
I have no parents too, but I have two wonderful sisters who are my angels....
I'm sure you have got relatives or friends that are beside you....:hug:

RenaSlam.
Jun 13th, 2012, 02:38 AM
<3

tennislover
Jun 13th, 2012, 02:39 AM
Stay strong Dominic, be grateful that you spent many years of happiness with your parents. You should always know that there's always light in the darkness and life will make it up for you, when you hit rock bottom you can always go up.

so true

ElusiveChanteuse
Jun 13th, 2012, 12:18 PM
Dom :hug:

Dominic
Jun 13th, 2012, 08:29 PM
Thanks guys I really do appreciate your messages...

Andy.
Jun 14th, 2012, 12:06 PM
Dom :hug:I know that words cant replace what has been taken away but Im so so sorry to hear about your parents. It so isnt fair. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. I hope you are getting a lot of support from family and friends.

Dav.
Jun 18th, 2012, 06:12 AM
:hug: Stay strong, we've all got your back.

Dominic
Oct 13th, 2012, 05:56 AM
When my dad died, I felt it is the end of the world. But then I realized that my dad won't be happy if he is around if this is the way I will feel. Also, I have other members of the family like my mom and brother who will need my love and presence. I just missed my dad and it is still very painful even 12 years had pass, seems like it is still the time when we were at funeral plan management (http://www.fulhamfunerals.com.au/) office, preparing for his wake. Very painful experience.

:sad: :hug:

ce
Oct 13th, 2012, 09:14 AM
Im so sorry for your loss.

plantman
Oct 14th, 2012, 04:39 AM
So very sorry to hear about your double loss Dominic. My thoughts & prayers are with you. I too lost my mother to cancer over 10 yrs ago and my father passed away in September. I found comfort in knowing that they were together again. Hopefully you might find some comfort in thinking of it that way too.

Be strong!!:hug:

Stamp Paid
Oct 14th, 2012, 04:53 AM
:speakles:

young_gunner913
Oct 14th, 2012, 04:56 AM
Sorry for your loss Dom. I lost my dad as well about 3 months ago. It was probably the most painful experience I've ever gone through in my life. Hang in there, it's tough as hell and I'm unsure how I even manage to do it but I'm sure if I can manage, you can as well. Keep your head up.