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NadalSharapova
Apr 23rd, 2011, 08:54 AM
Ok, I need some help as I don't want to mess things up at work so need to be careful.

A girl who I have worked with for the past 6 months (who is very pretty) came to my room after work on a friday after work. She said she is thinking of joining a gym (she knows I like the gym so it might have been a excuse), then she said is it possible to meet people there (as in meeting a partner) as she is single. she says she has been single for a while and is worried she might be single forever (she's 26), i told her i'm single then she said you're a man and you'll be able to pull even when you are 40.....then she asked me if its possible to meet someone at work so i thought about it and while i thought about it she hesitated and said "maybe not" in a shy way.

btw, this happened about a month ago but only now have i had time to think it through

this is my text convo with her last night(currently in a 2 week holiday):

Me: i thought of u today for some reason, anyway hows ur holiday?
her: aw did u? holidays been fab mate, just had bbq, started raining, great eh? hows urs hun?
me: yeh i did. raining? weather great over here chilling out next to pool. i had bbq on wed, maybe we are more similar than i thought haha
her: haha maybe we r?!! i'm feeling so relaxed now...must be the way u feel all the time. am jealous. (she knows i'm laid back and she's a more anxious person)
me: wow, ur relaxed? oh no ur not back on the cigs r u?
her: haha yeh totally! giving up 2mz tho ;)
me: i can so read ur mind. i'll be able to tell other things about u. off to bed now got long day 2moz. nite sweet dreams x

anyone got any opinions? is she playing hard to get now or is that a way to show interest.

what do you guys think? is this a sign she is interested in me?

any opinion would be much appreciated, thanks.

McPie
Apr 23rd, 2011, 11:19 AM
hard to say :shrug: maybe you should try to give her a "hint" if she really do or not



but don't ask me much, coz I never have one :lol:

watchdogfish
Apr 23rd, 2011, 12:15 PM
It sounds like you're flirting more with her than she is with you.

Miss Atomic Bomb
Apr 23rd, 2011, 12:32 PM
You seem almost desperate for some sort of 'signals' and are therefore reading too much into it.

kittyking
Apr 23rd, 2011, 12:39 PM
Shes teasing you man, its what chicks do to each other - sorry :hug:

Sgt.Timmykinz
Apr 23rd, 2011, 03:03 PM
I agree that you seem more flirty than she does. Her responses just seem standard and there's nothing there that screams she's into you.

Mistress of Evil
Apr 23rd, 2011, 03:23 PM
Oh, you evil queens :sobbing: do not be so harsh on the poor pal :awww: Dude, just ask her out for drinks after work sth casual and see how it goes. :)

Keegan
Apr 23rd, 2011, 03:30 PM
I can't see anything that would suggest that she's into you, but mate there's nothing stopping you from trying. Just go for it and see what happens.

NadalSharapova
Apr 23rd, 2011, 03:30 PM
guys, i'm not talking mainly about the text messages but the stuff said to me which i wrote in the first paragraph

pierce85
Apr 23rd, 2011, 03:46 PM
She called you mate?? I thought this was sth guys used to tell to their friends, not girls

The Witch-king
Apr 23rd, 2011, 04:25 PM
You should ask her out. You're already friends so its a win-win whether she say yes or no.

Keegan
Apr 23rd, 2011, 05:31 PM
guys, i'm not talking mainly about the text messages but the stuff said to me which i wrote in the first paragraph

Even then. She's not going to sit there talking to you about joining a gym to go meet a guy if she was into you. At the end of the day though, what's stopping you? Yeah there's a chance of rejection, but there's a chance she might accept so there's really nothing to lose.

Mary Cherry.
Apr 23rd, 2011, 05:51 PM
Key word: "mate" :oh:

slamchamp
Apr 23rd, 2011, 06:12 PM
just ask her out dont complicate things

Seleção82
Apr 23rd, 2011, 06:40 PM
(...)

btw, this happened about a month ago but only now have i had time to think it through

(...)

Are you interested in her at all?

cowmoonski
Apr 23rd, 2011, 07:40 PM
I'm imaging you as Jim Halpert and her as Pam. :hearts:

The Witch-king
Apr 23rd, 2011, 07:43 PM
Even then. She's not going to sit there talking to you about joining a gym to go meet a guy if she was into you. At the end of the day though, what's stopping you? Yeah there's a chance of rejection, but there's a chance she might accept so there's really nothing to lose.

I thought the implication was that she was letting know about her availability indirectly.

Keegan
Apr 24th, 2011, 02:03 AM
I thought the implication was that she was letting know about her availability indirectly.

Girls I know don't talk to guys who they're interested in about going to find a guy elsewhere. That being said, I still think it's worth going for though.

JN
Apr 24th, 2011, 04:03 AM
She sounds like a double-agent. Do you work for MI5?

The Witch-king
Apr 24th, 2011, 08:38 AM
Girls I know don't talk to guys who they're interested in about going to find a guy elsewhere. That being said, I still think it's worth going for though.

Some women aren't very direct about their interest lest they be perceived as being too forward... but who knows. I hope the OP isn't too shy to ask.

NadalSharapova
Apr 24th, 2011, 10:33 AM
well i think this girl is very reserved, yet came up with that. thing is the timing of it as well, after inviting me to her desk to show me something (which wasn't all that important) at lunchtime (i think she wanted to tell me then) however there were people around so it wasn't convenient. Straight away after work on on that same day (friday) where most people want to go home ASAP, she came to my room, talked about a couple of things then mentioned the above things. at that time things just went over my head as i had issues in my life i had to sort out, however now reflecting on it it might have meant something.......anyway there is only one way to find out.

Kart
Apr 24th, 2011, 11:37 AM
slamchamp said it best.

She may have been interested a month ago but you've missed the boat mate.

If you are interested in her, it's time to up your game.

NadalSharapova
Apr 24th, 2011, 11:49 AM
slamchamp said it best.

She may have been interested a month ago but you've missed the boat mate.

If you are interested in her, it's time to up your game.

any advice on what to do?

debby
Apr 24th, 2011, 07:45 PM
any advice on what to do?

Well, ask her out for a drink or something.... you can chill out with her after work on a Friday night, and if she says yes, you will still have some chances.. If not, well, you are roasted.

BTW I agree with Tabu Sexy Shop (will reply your pm later sorry sorry about the delay :sobbing: ), some girls can say that as like "See I am single and I want a man !!!!!!" but are too shy to say that she wants him.
But one thing is sure : she is single, she wants a guy. So let's try. Nothing is lost.... yet.

So when you will be back at work, go see her and ask her if she would like to have a drink about you on Thursday night (just remembered you won't work on Friday in UK because of the royal wedding) !

Kart
Apr 25th, 2011, 12:36 PM
any advice on what to do?

Of course.

You need to furnish it with some more details though - like what you're looking for from her.