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delicatecutter
Sep 19th, 2009, 09:49 AM
So I'm in town visiting my friend as I usually do at least once a month. Recently she has acquired a boyfriend. Now she lives in basically a ghetto studio apartment. She has a bedroom, but there is no door separating it from the living room (where I am currently typing this from). All there is to separate it is a set of some cheap ass curtains that do NOTHING when it comes to concealing noises.

My question is: Do you think it's appropriate for them to have vocal sex while I'm sitting less than 30 feet away from their bed and can hear everything? If I were in her position, I could wait a couple of days. Or wait until I was off running an errand or something (even if she told me to leave for a few minutes). I think this is pretty gross, but maybe it's just me. I mean it's like they're so close I feel like I'M getting fucked (and her bf is NOT cute so that makes it even worse). :tape: What do y'all think?

northern lad
Sep 19th, 2009, 09:53 AM
no no and no. gross. although, when i was in college, i had a roommate who thought nothing of banging his girlfriend while i was trying to sleep. 2 feet away. with no curtain separating us.:tape:

Kart
Sep 19th, 2009, 09:55 AM
I'm not sure appropriate comes into it - you're a guest in her house.

It's not ideal but, well, they're in the honeymoon period aren't they ?

Go back and visit in a year, there'll be stone cold silence behind the curtain.

Alternatively, stay somewhere else.

delicatecutter
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:03 AM
I mean, exactly. It is her place. If I had the funds to stay elsewhere, TRUST ME, I would. I just wouldn't be comfortable exhibiting such behavior if the ball were in my court, so to say. :help: I don't need to hear my friend saying, "John stay in me. John come in me. Oh, you like it like that?" And the moaning/grunting ad nauseum. I mean, it's possible to have relatively silent sex if you just GOTTA have it, considering there is a boy with virgin ears in the next room.

mckyle.
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:04 AM
I hope they are using some form of birth control if he is cumming in her.

delicatecutter
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:09 AM
I don't think it matters. She has some kind of medical condition that has not allowed her to stay pregnant even when she does get knocked up. And OMG, I think they're at it again. :help:

Rerun
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:45 AM
put on headphones and listen to some music :)

Kart
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:55 AM
I mean, exactly. It is her place. If I had the funds to stay elsewhere, TRUST ME, I would. I just wouldn't be comfortable exhibiting such behavior if the ball were in my court, so to say. :help: I don't need to hear my friend saying, "John stay in me. John come in me. Oh, you like it like that?" And the moaning/grunting ad nauseum. I mean, it's possible to have relatively silent sex if you just GOTTA have it, considering there is a boy with virgin ears in the next room.
That's all true. There's no doubt they could make more effort to hide it.

You have to question why they don't though.

None of the reasons I can think of are particularly nice.

mckyle.
Sep 19th, 2009, 10:59 AM
That's all true. There's no doubt they could make more effort to hide it.

You have to question why they don't though.

None of the reasons I can think of are particularly nice.

Are you suggesting they are telling him to take a hike by having loud sex? :sobbing:

matthias
Sep 19th, 2009, 12:00 PM
as is was younger, i slept i a youth-hostel with a school-mate
he hooked up a gilr, and had sex with her just 1 meter away from me
i act like sleeping , but it was kind of disgusting

so don´t go crazy wehn they are 10 meters away - LOL

Haimar
Sep 19th, 2009, 01:00 PM
Straight people having sex is so disgusting, I would just make some kind of noise so they would know you could hear everything.

Marshmallow
Sep 19th, 2009, 01:19 PM
So I'm in town visiting my friend as I usually do at least once a month. Recently she has acquired a boyfriend. Now she lives in basically a ghetto studio apartment. She has a bedroom, but there is no door separating it from the living room (where I am currently typing this from). All there is to separate it is a set of some cheap ass curtains that do NOTHING when it comes to concealing noises.

My question is: Do you think it's appropriate for them to have vocal sex while I'm sitting less than 30 feet away from their bed and can hear everything? If I were in her position, I could wait a couple of days. Or wait until I was off running an errand or something (even if she told me to leave for a few minutes). I think this is pretty gross, but maybe it's just me. I mean it's like they're so close I feel like I'M getting fucked (and her bf is NOT cute so that makes it even worse). :tape: What do y'all think?

:tape: :tape:

I mean, exactly. It is her place. If I had the funds to stay elsewhere, TRUST ME, I would. I just wouldn't be comfortable exhibiting such behavior if the ball were in my court, so to say. :help: I don't need to hear my friend saying, "John stay in me. John come in me. Oh, you like it like that?" And the moaning/grunting ad nauseum. I mean, it's possible to have relatively silent sex if you just GOTTA have it, considering there is a boy with virgin ears in the next room.

:spit: :haha: So well written.

I've been in a similar situation. It was really traumatising for me actually because it was my brother in the room above. The thought of my brother having sex anyway makes me want to self harm, but imagine it happening in the room above, and it feel like the ceiling is about to break through at any time. :sobbing: :BARF:

But I think this is good advice:

put on headphones and listen to some music :)

If you can't get out, then headphones are your friend.

Some people are just not as thoughtful, and I'd feel awkward asking them NOT to have sex because I was there. Feel like a party pooper :awww: So yeah, headphones. ^.^

Polikarpov
Sep 19th, 2009, 02:12 PM
Join them.

Langers
Sep 19th, 2009, 02:17 PM
Agreed, they should freaking wait till your out! Annoying.

Bezz
Sep 19th, 2009, 03:05 PM
It is abit gross...thankfully it has never happend to me. It was probably a little bit of thrill for them.....thats more than likely why they did it. :)

Miss Amor
Sep 19th, 2009, 03:11 PM
Something that you can shout at them the next time they embarass you likt this -

50. (the obvious) “Ooooooo”
49. “That would work better the other way around..”
48. Sniff. Sniff. “Is something burning?”
47. “Damn, that’s complicated.”
46. “Wait, wait, use my pillow.”
45. “Alright already, _I_came.”
44. “You guys need a value pak.”
43. Smoke a pipe. Every once in a while wave it around and say
“Good show, old bean.”
42. “Is that sperm or a mudpack?”
41. “You’ve got something stuck in your teeth.”
40. “4 out of 5 dentists say that’s bad for your enamel.”
39. Go to the fridge, break open a cold one and pick up the remote.
Point and click. Complain when they don’t change positions.
38. “You know, they say that three’s a charm.”
37. Suggest your favorite position.
36. Shine a flashlight on them and say, “This is a citizen’s arrest,
assume the position.”
35. “Bring in the Gimp.”
34. “Hold that pose.”
33. Sit up in your bed, bounce vigorously, clapping and squealing with
joy.
32. Start signing Meatloaf’s “Paradise by the Dashboard Light.”
31. Sing “Shake your bootie.”
30. “A little to the left.”
29. “Is that a penis in your girlfriend or are you just happy to see
me?”
28. “Is there room for two in there?”
27. “Two words: penis extension.”
26. Invite others in as a cheering section.
25. Charge admission at the door.
24. Make and hold up score cards.
23. All of them should read 6.9.
22. Whip out a pen a paper and take notes.
21. “Maybe it would help if you..”
20. “That’s what you call erect?”
19. “That reminds me of a joke I heard..”
18. “Let the chicken go, he had nothing to do with it!”
17. Hold up two bags and say, “Paper or plasic?”
16. Roll over, grunt and say, “I’d rather be fishing.”
15. “Use the Heimlich; she’s got something stuck in her throat.”
14. “May I cut in?”
13. “That’s illegal in Arkansas.”
12. “Holy whips and chains, Batman.”
11. Scream at the top of your lungs. If they ask what’s wrong,
explain that you thought you were having a nightmare.
10. Take pictures. Explain that it was a Kodak moment.
9. Recite quotes from Condom Month like “Pack your weaner
before you bean her” and “Wrap your packer before you wack her.”
8. “MMM- that looks good, I think I’ll try some, too.”
7. “Let’s make a sandwich.”
6. “Is that hard enough for you?”
5. “I’m going to the water fountain. Can I get you anything?”
4. “I think you dropped something.”
3. “Do you like to eat at the Y?”
2. Pick up your camcorder and say “How much do you like they
would pay to see this on Pay-Per-View?”
1. “How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop??”

Randy H
Sep 19th, 2009, 03:14 PM
I think it is inappropriate...It is their house and if they want to have sex the they have every right to do so, but if they are obviously not shy about being vocal about it while you're clearly within distance to very noticeably hear it, then I don't see why your friend couldn't just come to you and ask you if you don't mind going out for a little while, or doing something to occupy you from hearing them...Surely you wouldn't have minded doing that if it meant the alternative of hearing them going at it lol

Sally Struthers
Sep 19th, 2009, 03:58 PM
Yes it is gross and highly inappropriate but perhaps they are hoping you will join them :speakles:

barboza
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:04 PM
Lol Sally..

Kart
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:47 PM
Are you suggesting they are telling him to take a hike by having loud sex? :sobbing:
Actions speak louder than words.

Wannabeknowitall
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:51 PM
Tape the noises and put it on youtube. :wavey:

Wawrinka's ass.

Barrie_Dude
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:56 PM
Join them.
Wonderful solution! Pure Genius! :lol:

rockstar
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:57 PM
it's gross that they're staying, but what the hell were u doing remaining in the apartment? just get the hell out :speakles:

timafi
Sep 19th, 2009, 04:59 PM
you had me :spit: my drink at "acquired" :lol: but seriously they shouldn't be doing that stuff while you're around like that:o

Nemo_Kool
Sep 19th, 2009, 05:03 PM
just having an amazing wank in the next room...

delicatecutter
Sep 19th, 2009, 05:12 PM
Trust me, joining is the last thing that will EVER happen. These people make me want to become asexual. :tape:

I'm hoping that this relationship will end soon so it won't be an issue, because I am really getting annoyed. It has happened at least six times so far. :help:

Barrie_Dude
Sep 19th, 2009, 05:13 PM
Something that you can shout at them the next time they embarass you likt this -

50. (the obvious) “Ooooooo”
49. “That would work better the other way around..”
48. Sniff. Sniff. “Is something burning?”
47. “Damn, that’s complicated.”
46. “Wait, wait, use my pillow.”
45. “Alright already, _I_came.”
44. “You guys need a value pak.”
43. Smoke a pipe. Every once in a while wave it around and say
“Good show, old bean.”
42. “Is that sperm or a mudpack?”
41. “You’ve got something stuck in your teeth.”
40. “4 out of 5 dentists say that’s bad for your enamel.”
39. Go to the fridge, break open a cold one and pick up the remote.
Point and click. Complain when they don’t change positions.
38. “You know, they say that three’s a charm.”
37. Suggest your favorite position.
36. Shine a flashlight on them and say, “This is a citizen’s arrest,
assume the position.”
35. “Bring in the Gimp.”
34. “Hold that pose.”
33. Sit up in your bed, bounce vigorously, clapping and squealing with
joy.
32. Start signing Meatloaf’s “Paradise by the Dashboard Light.”
31. Sing “Shake your bootie.”
30. “A little to the left.”
29. “Is that a penis in your girlfriend or are you just happy to see
me?”
28. “Is there room for two in there?”
27. “Two words: penis extension.”
26. Invite others in as a cheering section.
25. Charge admission at the door.
24. Make and hold up score cards.
23. All of them should read 6.9.
22. Whip out a pen a paper and take notes.
21. “Maybe it would help if you..”
20. “That’s what you call erect?”
19. “That reminds me of a joke I heard..”
18. “Let the chicken go, he had nothing to do with it!”
17. Hold up two bags and say, “Paper or plasic?”
16. Roll over, grunt and say, “I’d rather be fishing.”
15. “Use the Heimlich; she’s got something stuck in her throat.”
14. “May I cut in?”
13. “That’s illegal in Arkansas.”
12. “Holy whips and chains, Batman.”
11. Scream at the top of your lungs. If they ask what’s wrong,
explain that you thought you were having a nightmare.
10. Take pictures. Explain that it was a Kodak moment.
9. Recite quotes from Condom Month like “Pack your weaner
before you bean her” and “Wrap your packer before you wack her.”
8. “MMM- that looks good, I think I’ll try some, too.”
7. “Let’s make a sandwich.”
6. “Is that hard enough for you?”
5. “I’m going to the water fountain. Can I get you anything?”
4. “I think you dropped something.”
3. “Do you like to eat at the Y?”
2. Pick up your camcorder and say “How much do you like they
would pay to see this on Pay-Per-View?”
1. “How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop??”
:haha: :haha:

LudwigDvorak
Sep 19th, 2009, 05:16 PM
Stop going there if it bothers you so much.

stevos
Sep 19th, 2009, 06:15 PM
Oh man, that's terrible. I feel so bad.
Whenever I had sex this summer, I had it upstairs in my own room, on a different floor from my housemate. My best friend was the only person around at the time, and even then I'd let her know so she could leave the house. This was for afternoon sex. I don't know, I just think I wouldn't want people to hear me? Doesn't this girl want her sex talking to be kept a little more personal?
It would be more understandable if it was late in the night. Either way, good luck with that.

young_gunner913
Sep 20th, 2009, 09:15 AM
:lol: i remember you telling me this the other day.

when my brother's gf used to live here, i could hear them donig it whenever my parents left the house. :o so i would call my parents cell phones from the house. hang up. my dad would call back and i'd tell him that it wasnt me and that it must've been my brother then he'd want to speak to my brother. :rolls::devil:

delicatecutter
Sep 20th, 2009, 09:20 AM
:lol: :haha:

Well Thank God I'm away from that filth for this month at least. My BFF who I could normally stay with was sick with H1N1 so that wasn't an option. She's been with her bf for over a year and they have a kid together. She would never make me feel so uncomfortable. It just makes me miss my sisters and my real friends, I guess.