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Noctis
Jun 18th, 2009, 07:50 PM
Options.

1.Smile ignore it like nothing has happen even he does it everytime and its not funny.While you feel dizzy

2.Your holding a drink and the ball.But your dad using your sister 2 years old (imagine you had one) to defend himself from the ball.But you dont want to hit your sister.Then splash the drink at him?

3.Call the police child abuse.

4.Leave the house run away.

I have been in the situation just then what would you do?

Vanity Bonfire
Jun 18th, 2009, 07:54 PM
Sorry - but what the fuck were you doing with your Dad to get him to assault you?

In answer to your question - I would run up to him, take away the two year old and headbutt him.

Craigy
Jun 18th, 2009, 07:54 PM
I knew it was you. :bigclap:

Adal
Jun 18th, 2009, 07:57 PM
5. Make a thread about it on TF

TheFifthAvocado
Jun 18th, 2009, 07:57 PM
Leave the house :fiery:

Noctis
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:21 PM
He Kiked a balls at my balls.Then throw a ball at my head.and he expect me to do nothing?

I done Option 2.
I mean oh please 'WHAT CHILD WOULD DO THIS TO A DAD' get over it.
He scream at my sisters ears.

Hes call us names at home.
in chinese
'Waste **** nobhead etc'

Call my mum
'Village Bitch (she came from a village) Cow, make fun of her infront of guest.

He does buy us clothes and things.

but Rob out every penny my mum had,She looks after my sister,use to have work to earn us money.He would ask for money back if he brought us some food or things.He would basicially tell me to pay him money back which i did.For my sister birthday little pink bag.He has a drinking problem use to have a gambling problem,smoking problem liver problems.

He would complain everytime he pays the bill.We dont talk much.
He doesnt know much either food (hes a head sheff) or chinese history.
All he would speak to me about is studies.You got a A Well done rans off.You got a G(I DONE the wrong test to get that'With out explaination he would Scream and more.insults

He has anger problems.He threaten to batter me to death with a stick :werido:
My mum would always consult to me.How he get up every morning insulting her or blaming her.

Hes stubborn he would never admits hes wrong.He says I talk too much answer back.
(What do he expect future lawyer here duh :rolleyes:

The day he doesnt insults me or my mum we would win the lottery that day and buy a proffesional killer.

Is he a good dad?

ElusiveChanteuse
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:25 PM
No.

Vanity Bonfire
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:29 PM
He Kiked a balls at my balls.Then throw a ball at my head.and he expect me to do nothing?

I done Option 2.
I mean oh please 'WHAT CHILD WOULD DO THIS TO A DAD' get over it.
He scream at my sisters ears.

Hes call us names at home.
in chinese
'Waste **** nobhead etc'

Call my mum
'Village Bitch (she came from a village) Cow, make fun of her infront of guest.

He does buy us clothes and things.

but Rob out every penny my mum had,She looks after my sister,use to have work to earn us money.He would ask for money back if he brought us some food or things.He would basicially tell me to pay him money back which i did.For my sister birthday little pink bag.He has a drinking problem use to have a gambling problem,smoking problem liver problems.

He would complain everytime he pays the bill.We dont talk much.
He doesnt know much either food (hes a head sheff) or chinese history.
All he would speak to me about is studies.You got a A Well done rans off.You got a G(I DONE the wrong test to get that'With out explaination he would Scream and more.insults

He has anger problems.He threaten to batter me to death with a stick :werido:
My mum would always consult to me.How he get up every morning insulting her or blaming her.

Hes stubborn he would never admits hes wrong.He says I talk too much answer back.
(What do he expect future lawyer here duh :rolleyes:

The day he doesnt insults me or my mum we would win the lottery that day and buy a proffesional killer.

Is he a good dad?

No. All joking aside, that sounds like a horrible situation you have at home.

I would leave and take your Mum with you ASAP.

Helen Lawson
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:34 PM
If he buys you clothes and things, you have to keep in mind that he who pays the piper calls the tune. True 2,000 years ago, still true today.

Sally Struthers
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:35 PM
shoot or stab him. Your choice depending on the available weapons and your regional handgun laws.

Marshmallow
Jun 18th, 2009, 08:50 PM
Wow, your Dad doesn’t sound stable at all – so I doubt sitting and talking would work well. Sorry for that must be a tough situation :hug:.

I recommend Trial and error, try lots of stuff and see what works best. Off the top of my head, try the following:

Tell us, What are some of the things your Dad does right, some of the things you like about your dad? Think about some of those and other ways you’d like your dad to be. When he does things you like, try giving him lots of attention and love and praise.

When he does stuff like you described in first post (I know it’s hard but you have to be the wise one in the situation) and other stuff you don’t like… walk away. Don’t give him a response, don’t even look at him. Give him no attention.

I think essentially your Dad loves you and wants your positive attention (as any person) so if you co-ordinate your responses, I’m HOPING he will consciously/sub-consciously get the idea and do more of the stuff you like. You will sort of be treating him like a child because he’s acting like one.

By responding to him when he does the things you don’t like, the attention you are giving him is like a reward. He likes the attention and so will have some reason to do the stuff you don’t like more. Because it ensures he gets your attention and energy.

Hope it works out. I feel especially sorry for your Mom. If anything, show her lots of positive attention and love and try to make her happy, just to balance all the abuse she’s taking from your Dad. :hug: HER.

Noctis
Jun 18th, 2009, 10:01 PM
Marshmallow your an expert.:sobbing:
my dad does like attention,he always try even if I ignore him.He would be like 'come down stairs now! Trying to get my attention.

Well Like,Commanding only thing i like about him.He would tell his workers to shut up or have a go at them if he doesnt like something like'When hes speaking they speak aswell'
even thi part i dont like him.
filthy slob.No education.Stupid He got lost with a navigator today,He went to Manchester but suppose to go to Chester :o Then he blames it my fault i didnt set the navigator right.
But When I did he shut up.One thing aswell.I went yesterday to liverpool exhibiton tournament,Rained,came home he went to me'You and your mum is stupid alike why go when raining' (I brought the tickets why not :weirdo: Then I went'Where did you go today? Manchester? Arent you suppose to go to chester.You got lost now thats stupid'
Then he shut up :angel: Hes too much sometimes.
He want me to say hi to him every time :haha:
'Why didnt you say hi dad,hi daddy,hello' Gosh' I am not your adopted son'
Best thing i would say Is 'Hello'.
One creepy thing is he always kicks me in the ass :haha: One time i went asleep he touched me in the ass :o Kiss my sister everyday Is that normal I am 17 hes 45 :o
I hate him smoking I got nose problems.He wont listen.-0-
When he trys to reason with me.Hes reason sometimes is a bit odd.'If you dont want to be a sheff like me work harder' Whats he thinking i am trying to do all this years :weirdo:.Hes the one who throw study chances away.and go in fights ride his motorbike.Work for the family so he had no choice.When he met my mum,my mum is hmm typicial uneducated aswell.She came to Uk 7 years and still doesnt know much english.I would read all the letters book all the appointments Make all the phone calls.Their expect me to do all the choirs,take care of my sister,get a job and also go to college at the same time.My dad decides to ask my mu for abortion of (me) before marrying her.But he then change his mine(he always change hes mine,and always show off to his brothers bragging abou this new house :(.Which i hate those kind of people.
He ask me always do you hate me?
I would go 'Yes I hate you' I cant find reasons to love him.i dont feel safe around him.
He always go 'Your not my son'
I would go'Of course not i am adopted'

Slutiana
Jun 18th, 2009, 10:03 PM
:hysteric:

:inlove:
Jun 18th, 2009, 10:07 PM
id tell him not to front :fiery::o:mad:

Kart
Jun 18th, 2009, 10:11 PM
What Helen said.

17 is a difficult age.

You're not the child you once were but you're not yet the man you want to be.

So basically you'll have to suck it up until you're able to leave and look after yourself.

Alternatively, you could try to build a better relationship with your father.

In the long run, that's probably the most rewarding option.

young_gunner913
Jun 18th, 2009, 10:41 PM
take a huge shit on his side of the bed.

skanky~skanketta
Jun 19th, 2009, 09:09 AM
If you're being abused, I think you should call up your relatives to intervene. What does your mom do when this happens?

mandy7
Jun 19th, 2009, 09:20 AM
piss on his pillow.

Noctis
Jun 19th, 2009, 05:33 PM
If you're being abused, I think you should call up your relatives to intervene. What does your mom do when this happens?

Argue.Then he would go 'It's all your fault he done it'

raffles
Jun 19th, 2009, 06:18 PM
My father isn't an abusive drunk with poor coordination so I don't have to worry about this. His dancing is rather dangerous at time though.

Bartosh
Jun 19th, 2009, 06:46 PM
pathology :speakles:

I feel bad for you :hug:

Bartosh
Jun 19th, 2009, 06:54 PM
He got lost with a navigator today,He went to Manchester but suppose to go to Chester :o Then he blames it my fault i didnt set the navigator right.

hilarious :lol:

Lin Lin
Jul 16th, 2009, 03:29 AM
:hug:I read this only today,feel sorry for you,but he is your dad,I don't know what to say:awww:

mandy7
Jul 16th, 2009, 05:36 AM
:hug:I read this only today,feel sorry for you,but he is your dad,I don't know what to say:awww:
You never know what to say
And even when you think you do, you talk nothing but crap.

TheFifthAvocado
Jul 17th, 2009, 01:27 PM
That was the most random bashing of another poster I've seen.

AdeyC
Jul 17th, 2009, 05:45 PM
Duck

LeonHart
Jul 18th, 2009, 08:28 PM
That was the most random bashing of another poster I've seen.

That is why we love Mandy :hearts:

mandy7
Jul 20th, 2009, 06:33 AM
That was the most random bashing of another poster I've seen.
yeah, that could very well be possible.
That is why we love Mandy :hearts:
thank you :D

Ciarán
Jul 20th, 2009, 02:28 PM
Reminds me of my dad slightly, irritating as hell :lol: Minus the touching part :unsure:

The Dawntreader
Jul 20th, 2009, 07:08 PM
Ask him why he only throws it at your head :haha:

I'm joking of course;)