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selesfan1
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:25 PM
OK, well first of all this is much different than writing for an assignment. I was upset and felt I needed to get my emotions out. Here is the explanation for easier understanding(hopefully)

I have a roommate who had sex with a girl who wasn't his girlfriend last week in our room at 4:00 AM in the morning.

Yesterday a group of friends, including my roommate who isn't my friend decided to go out to a club to celebrate the end of finals week.

After we left the club, some of the group(myself included)returned to the dorm because we were tired. My roommate returned to the room at 4:00 AM in the morning and called a friend of his and said guess what happened? the following is what happened according to the phone call he had.

My Roommate made a pass at one of the girls in our group in the parking lot of the club and she said to him "no, I am not going to bed with you becasue you're a nasty guy" my roommate said "what do you mean?" and she said I know you take girls to your room, "I don't like that and besides I have a boyfriend." He then asked her " how do you know that?"and she said "well who lives with you?" ( that would be me)

So he was telling his friend I was a little bitch for telling her what he did and that I wasn't a real man because real men don't tell on other men.

Now, I did not tell the girl he made a pass at that he fucks all these girls in our room. I simply mentioned I had been kept up that particular night because of their conversations. I also mentioned when I woke up there was a strong femenine odor in the room not to mention the chick was still in his bed. This became an issue because I was of course, awake all night and later that morning this girl and I had breakfast and of course, my eyes were blood shot and i just looked like crap.

He continued saying I had no right to tell anyone about what he did in our room. I argue that if he just does something out of his will and disrespects me I can. It is not like I was saying it in a gossipy way.He said guys don't tell what other guys do especially to girls. I believe if someone is my friend they are my friend because I can talk to them about anything no matter if they are a girl or guy.

I am also upset that he was talking so badly about me because other people have told me stuff about him and things he's done to girls and illegalish things he does which I believe he doesn't know other people are speaking so freely about throughout the campus.

Now, my roomate is in a fraternity and what upset me the most was that he told his friend. yeah, you know we're better men, we're gentlemen we would never do that to a friend he, (me) is just a little bitch.

Now, all I am thinking is like a gentlemen doesn't treat women the way you do, a gentlemen doesn't have a girlfriend, and a girl on the side and brings them to the room on alternationg nights aside from bringing ex-girlfriends. If I really wanted to be a little bitch couldn't I just tell his real girlfriend waht he's doing? I mean if this girl wanted to tell him off for trying to take her home I applaud her however, now I am just in an awkward,hostile stiuation.

!<blocparty>!
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:30 PM
I have no idea what you just said.

James
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:33 PM
I have no idea what you just said.

I got lost after a while too, is there a summary to this?

Helen Lawson
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:33 PM
Call Judy Buenoano and she can give him some "vitamins."

Black Mamba.
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:39 PM
You gotta break this out or give us a summary. For general advice I say that you gotta tell him this crap bothers you.

King Aaron
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:43 PM
I think his roommate fucked a girl, and he didn't get any sleep. Then he was talking to another girl who asked why he looked horrid and he said it was because his roommate was fucking said girl. Then the other girl was talking to the roommate on the phone and told him about her knowing he fucked the girl. And his roommate thinks it's him who told on him, which he actually kind of did but not purposely. So now he's thinking if he should confront the roommate. I think.

James
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:47 PM
I think his roommate fucked a girl, and he didn't get any sleep. Then he was talking to another girl who asked why he looked horrid and he said it was because his roommate was fucking said girl. Then the other girl was talking to the roommate on the phone and told him about her knowing he fucked the girl. And his roommate thinks it's him who told on him, which he actually kind of did but not purposely. So now he's thinking if he should confront the roommate. I think.

I got mostly the same, when trying to read it, but still find it very confusing.

King of Prussia
Dec 15th, 2006, 04:55 PM
Tell your (FRIEND) that (THIS SPECIFIC GIRLS NAME) is a (INSERT VULGAR INSULT) and a (INSERT ANOTHER INSULT) and that your (FRIEND) should talk to your (ROOMATES NAME).

(INSERT SMILEY)

Gooner
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:05 PM
I understand the whole point of it. I guess it was the way it was written or something I am missing. I just know a girl got fucked and his roomie is pissed at him.

CooCooCachoo
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:15 PM
Well, I got lost very quickly, but then regrouped :armed:

But, honestly, it all sounds so shallow and unimportant :shrug: If that's the biggest of your problems, I am happy for you :D

Wannabeknowitall
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:16 PM
Ask him how he would feel if he knew that 20 or thirty years ago, his mother was used for a nut like he is using these girls.

Helen Lawson
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:17 PM
The roommate is right, though, guys don't tattle on other guys getting laid, even if you're not friends. Live and learn, hon, what's done is done.

~Cherry*Blossom~
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:43 PM
yeah I got lost, but then I got it at the end.

You might as well talk to him. I mean if you're gonna be living in the same room for the rest of the year.

I would say that you should have a go at the girl about telling the guy about what you said. But she'll most likey tell ur roomate.

Wigglytuff
Dec 15th, 2006, 05:59 PM
see you are nice, i would have turned on the lights and called all my friends over been like "you want to see something really nasty"

or i would have told him flat out, find somewhere else or i will tape it and put it on youtube, its up to you. just tell him if that happens again what you will do.

Kart
Dec 15th, 2006, 06:33 PM
You can't really be angry with him for bitching about you seeing that you did tell other people who he was sleeping with.

If he's not your friend, why do you care what he says about you ?

fufuqifuqishahah
Dec 15th, 2006, 06:37 PM
Well, I got lost very quickly, but then regrouped :armed:

But, honestly, it all sounds so shallow and unimportant :shrug: If that's the biggest of your problems, I am happy for you :D

:lol: :)

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just tell him to be more respectful??? and not scream on the phone at 4 AM??? lol who cares if he doesn't know much about u even if he pretends he does. yes, it's annoying, but don't make a big deal about it, cuz if you do, that will not make a good situation.

fifiricci
Dec 15th, 2006, 07:08 PM
Well, I got lost very quickly, but then regrouped :armed:

But, honestly, it all sounds so shallow and unimportant :shrug: If that's the biggest of your problems, I am happy for you :D

:lol: :worship:

-Ph51-
Dec 15th, 2006, 07:16 PM
:lol: :worship:

It is unimportant, isn't it Fifi?:devil:

LoveFifteen
Dec 15th, 2006, 07:22 PM
3) He disrespected me by doing that because I had like a huge presentation to do for principles of public relations

Principles of Public Relations? :speakles:

Honey, I think you need to check out English 101 or Remedial College Writing first! :o

First, you need to learn to avoid run-on sentences. Second, you need to learn that it's not cool to tell anyone about your roommate's sex life. Finally, you need to learn to tell your roommate to stop having sex while you're in the room. You have the right to tell him and his classless ho that you don't want them fucking each other while you're present.

Unless you like to watch! :hearts: :drool: :hearts: :drool:

drake3781
Dec 15th, 2006, 08:25 PM
Principles of Public Relations? :speakles:

Honey, I think you need to check out English 101 or Remedial College Writing first! :o

First, you need to learn to avoid run-on sentences. Second, you need to learn that it's not cool to tell anyone about your roommate's sex life. Finally, you need to learn to tell your roommate to stop having sex while you're in the room. You have the right to tell him and his classless ho that you don't want them fucking each other while you're present.

Unless you like to watch! :hearts: :drool: :hearts: :drool:

I agree with everything!

Main point: if someone is going to do somehting you don't like or want, and you have a right to ask that person to not do it, ask him RIGHT AWAY. Don't wait until you get mad for a while, and then talk to other people about it, and start some drama, and get resentful and built up anger, etc. Just figure out what you think is fair then communicate about it RIGHT AWAY!!

drake3781
Dec 15th, 2006, 08:27 PM
Tell your (FRIEND) that (THIS SPECIFIC GIRLS NAME) is a (INSERT VULGAR INSULT) and a (INSERT ANOTHER INSULT) and that your (FRIEND) should talk to your (ROOMATES NAME).

(INSERT SMILEY)


I know you are a banned poster, come back.

But which one?

I think either Perfection, or the one that changed names a lot (Summer Snow, AndBsk231, etc.)

Anybody know? :shrug:

Joana
Dec 15th, 2006, 08:42 PM
Well, I see two problems here:

1) Your roommate being inconsiderate and having sex while you're in the room, while knowing you have to get some rest. You should just talk to him about it.

and

2) You telling random people about your roommate's sex life, which is not cool.

But like CooCoo said, it doesn't sound all that important. :shrug:

hablo
Dec 15th, 2006, 09:06 PM
I can't believe your roommate had sex with a girl while you were in the room ! You should have had a talk about that with him right away. I'm sure he can find other places to do his business, or at least do it while you're not there! :help:

As for you telling someone some other girl about what he did, maybe subconsciously it was your way of getting back at your roommate, instead of confronting him about his inconsiderate behaviour ... :tape:

LoveFifteen
Dec 15th, 2006, 09:37 PM
What I'd like to know is this: who is the trashy skank slut that would have sex with this guy while his roommate is in the same room?!

Damn! Some people are such trash.

(We love it! :hearts: ;))

Helen Lawson
Dec 15th, 2006, 09:44 PM
What I'd like to know is this: who is the trashy skank slut that would have sex with this guy while his roommate is in the same room?!

Damn! Some people are such trash.

(We love it! :hearts: ;))

That happened all the time when I was in college (when we didn't have skanky Durham strippers over who tricked in the bathroom afterwards). The people are usually totally drunk and don't notice (or care) that someone else is in the room. You're talking about 18-19 year old kids, too. My freshman roommate was doing some chick in bed once, you could tell they were trying to be quiet, but you can't be quiet enough.

mirzalover
Dec 15th, 2006, 09:53 PM
i understand what you wrote and i think you should talk to him about what he said and who this girls is who turned him down and figure out who she is, and then see if she knows what she is talking about cause from what you said she doesnt

Epigone
Dec 16th, 2006, 12:10 AM
Call 1-800-96-JERRY, then fly to Chicago and "discuss" the problem with him on The Jerry Springer Show :devil:

fufuqifuqishahah
Dec 16th, 2006, 12:34 AM
mmm still a little confusing, but a lot better

bottom line.... if your roomie cant be liable for his own actions, that's on him not u.