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Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:13 PM
Theres this one girl i really care about, i hang around with her quite a lot and we always hint that we think each other are good looking. During the time it seems both of us have been afraid to make a move and so amount of time hanging around with her makes me feel like im just friends with her and i would hate to ruin the friendship. I mean i really care about her and think about her all the time, she means the world to me, but im scared how she feels about me and what could happen if i go all out and drop it. When she goes out i am always worried she will be with someone else, and any other women i see i always compare her with this girl. I go out of my way to do anything for her i break arrangements everything. I have never felt like this before about another girl and im always thinking about her. You know you feel like it coudl be the end of the world if you never get with her and youd feel like everything is over, but when i try to think no that wont be a problem it would be fine, i just completly dont agree with myself and go back to square one. Am i really in Love? What should i do?

Help Me Please!

*abby*
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:17 PM
sounds like it :)
you dont wanna not do anything and then regret it. after all, if you dont make a move she might think ur not interested in her in that way and she might find someone else.
it is hard weighing up all the what ifs but at the end of the day if you really wanna be with her then you hafta go for it bcos noone else is gonna do it for you :)
good luck mate

furrykitten
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:19 PM
Just got for it mate, ask her out, you will regret it if you don't further down the track.

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:22 PM
Thanks Alot. Yeah i really need to get the courage to do it, ive always been fine in the past but this is different you know, the one i really like the one i really care about.

furrykitten
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:25 PM
Thanks Alot. Yeah i really need to get the courage to do it, ive always been fine in the past but this is different you know, the one i really like the one i really care about.

Yeah its tough I know but you have to grab your chance if you really love her or she'll always be the one that slipped away. Don't pre plan what you want to say or you will screw up, just go in naturally.

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:28 PM
Yeah its tough I know but you have to grab your chance if you really love her or she'll always be the one that slipped away. Don't pre plan what you want to say or you will screw up, just go in naturally.

Thanks, id be really nervous this time i think too much in the past ive been wild but shes really brought out my sensitive side. Damm people say love is the greatest feeling ive been through so many ups and downs its hard to decide what it is there is one way of describing it....Love is like a rollercoaster of a ride you can go up and down, feel amazing, feel sick, feel terrified, feel nervous and feel on top of the world and at the end of the ride you can either feel awful or feel youve just had the greatest ride in your life.

furrykitten
Jul 18th, 2006, 05:34 PM
Thanks, id be really nervous this time i think too much in the past ive been wild but shes really brought out my sensitive side. Damm people say love is the greatest feeling ive been through so many ups and downs its hard to decide what it is there is one way of describing it....A rollercoaster of a ride you can go up and down, feel amazing, feel sick, feel terrified, feel nervous and feel on top of the world and at the end of the ride you can either feel great or feel awful.

Yeah being in love is awful, I hate it totally, I hope I never fall in love again in my life, once its got you in its claws it stays clenched until every drop of happiness is squeezed from you like a dried out raisin that is blow torched until it disintergrates! :tape: :sad: :p

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 06:44 PM
Yeah being in love is awful, I hate it totally, I hope I never fall in love again in my life, once its got you in its claws it stays clenched until every drop of happiness is squeezed from you like a dried out raisin that is blow torched until it disintergrates! :tape: :sad: :p

Sounds like youve had a hard time with it, hopefully this could turn out better.

Sweep
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:08 PM
I know how you feel. It happened to me and I left without telling her...don't make the same mistake as I did. Things haven't been as good since, I've not met anyone better than her...

Go and do it. You won't regret it!

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:09 PM
I know how you feel. It happened to me and I left without telling her...don't make the same mistake as I did.

Go and do it. You won't regret it!

Im sorry to hear that :hug:

I think the 2 experiences in here similar, have made me get my arse in gear and think about the situation that little bit more, just have to wait till she gets back from holiday now!

Kart
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:19 PM
Fortune favours the brave.

Restraining orders favour the stalked.

Hope that's of some use to you :wavey:.

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:22 PM
Fortune favours the brave.

Restraining orders favour the stalked.

Hope that's of some use to you :wavey:.

Thanks :wavey:
The first part but second part confuses me a little, in case you didnt know im actually friends with the girl i dont not know her and like her from a distance :lol:

Kart
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:29 PM
^ Stick with the first part, hopefully the second part won't be relevant.

Good luck :).

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 08:31 PM
^ Stick with the first part, hopefully the second part won't be relevant.

Good luck :).

Thanks alot :hug:

DuLeafs
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:40 PM
There is a saying which is so true: Love hurts :sad:

But, I can't live without it unfortunately :tape: ;)

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:45 PM
There is a saying which is so true: Love hurts :sad:

But, I can't live without it unfortunately :tape: ;)

Yup, unfortunatly it hurts alot but i cant imagine myself without it now!

DuLeafs
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:46 PM
Yup, unfortunatly it hurts alot but i cant imagine myself without it now!

Love makes blind though :lol:

Nah, being in love is a wonderful thing! The best feelin I'd say!

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:48 PM
Love makes blind though :lol:

Nah, being in love is a wonderful thing! The best feelin I'd say!

I do agree with that now i used to think, what a load of crap. Now i cant see myself without it and when ya sitting there thinking about that person you just smile quite amazing actually how it all turns around so fast because of one person!

DuLeafs
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:55 PM
I do agree with that now i used to think, what a load of crap. Now i cant see myself without it and when ya sitting there thinking about that person you just smile quite amazing actually how it all turns around so fast because of one person!

Yeah, its like magic huh? :cool:

But important is: Don't rush! ;) Take ya time n relax n enjoy :) :cool:

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 09:56 PM
Yeah, its like magic huh? :cool:

But important is: Don't rush! ;) Take ya time n relax n enjoy :) :cool:

Bloody Good Magic!

Nice Advice Thanks :yeah:

Crazy Canuck
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:04 PM
I do agree with that now i used to think, what a load of crap. Now i cant see myself without it and when ya sitting there thinking about that person you just smile quite amazing actually how it all turns around so fast because of one person!
Unless said person has serious issues - then sometimes you cry for them, which isn't such a great feeling ;)

No Name Face
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:04 PM
sounds like you really care about her.

normally girls give signs if they're interested. i'd look for them, they'll be there if the feeling is mutual.

don't force things, that's never good. i wouldn't just up and tell her either. look for the signs first.

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:05 PM
Unless said person has serious issues - then sometimes you cry for them, which isn't such a great feeling ;)

Oh of course, or the thought of her being with someone else, anything like that would be really depressing or upsetting. :sad:

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:07 PM
sounds like you really care about her.

normally girls give signs if they're interested. i'd look for them, they'll be there if the feeling is mutual.

don't force things, that's never good. i wouldn't just up and tell her either. look for the signs first.

Would you say inviting me over, sending me pics of her and always looking into my eyes smiling and the occasional hit on the arm are signs?

DuLeafs
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:09 PM
sounds like you really care about her.

normally girls give signs if they're interested. i'd look for them, they'll be there if the feeling is mutual.

don't force things, that's never good. i wouldn't just up and tell her either. look for the signs first.

Girls give signs? :eek: :eek:

I agree with you, they do, but they always try to hide them if u know what i mean ;)

They r not as straight to the point as men :rolleyes: :angel:

DuLeafs
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:11 PM
Would you say inviting me over, sending me pics of her and always looking into my eyes smiling and the occasional hit on the arm are signs?

Dude, thats a jackpot :devil: :devil: She's yours :cool:

No Name Face
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:12 PM
Would you say inviting me over, sending me pics of her and always looking into my eyes smiling and the occasional hit on the arm are signs?

YES.

oh my god. go for it. the hit on the arm and the eye contact is KEY.
you are SO in.

Caro23
Jul 18th, 2006, 11:02 PM
Dude, thats a jackpot :devil: :devil: She's yours :cool:


YES.

oh my god. go for it. the hit on the arm and the eye contact is KEY.
you are SO in.

Thats all key then is it?!?! Damm im excited now. How about if she calls you names like babe and honey? thats good yeah?!

:D

rebel_ffighter
Jul 19th, 2006, 04:13 AM
Do what I usually do,get her drunk and u will see her real feelings

thalle
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:17 AM
Good luck getting her. If you become a couple you have a good chance of staying so for a long time since you know each others negative sides:) I'm all jealous:p (maybe because the guy I want is involved with another chick:mad: )
I hope you get her:D

hingis-seles
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:41 AM
I hope things work out for you. Cherish what you have. Not all of us are so lucky.

pla
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:14 AM
Thats all key then is it?!?! Damm im excited now. How about if she calls you names like babe and honey? thats good yeah?!

:D

I'll be again the bad one.. :lol: But I'll tell you something about me and my best friend. We were all the time together, we were caring for each other and stuff like that. I was looking at him the same way, we were all the time just at the point we could sleep together as a plus to our fridnship. So you get the picture I suppose.. But even that I loved him like a friend and I was very attracted to him, I would never, ever date him or have a real relationship. So those signs are very important but don't get them as 100% marks that she wants you to be her boyfirend.

Let the things follow their natural way, get her a bit drunk (rebel_ffighter is right) one or twice and you'll see. But don't let anyone other around her, especially when she's drunk ;) :p Just find the middle between showing her that you really care and you're attrackted to her without rushing everything too much.

And finally, just follow your heart if it tells you that you should go now before her place and scream like crazy that you love her, do it ;)

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:11 PM
Thanks Alot Guys :D :wavey:

msharafan
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:44 PM
i think you should just say to her look i have romantic feelings for you, and if you dont thats fine i dont want to ruin our friendship, thats the best way see what she says and eitherway youll get the love youre looking for or youll still have a friendship with her which is better than nothing if you like her as much as you say you do! either way just go for it you only live once!

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:54 PM
i think you should just say to her look i have romantic feelings for you, and if you dont thats fine i dont want to ruin our friendship, thats the best way see what she says and eitherway youll get the love youre looking for or youll still have a friendship with her which is better than nothing if you like her as much as you say you do! either way just go for it you only live once!

;) Sounds all good, but imagien how bad youd feel around her after even if you were just friends, youd be liek damm i could have had that!

Barrie_Dude
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:58 PM
Theres this one girl i really care about, i hang around with her quite a lot and we always hint that we think each other are good looking. During the time it seems both of us have been afraid to make a move and so amount of time hanging around with her makes me feel like im just friends with her and i would hate to ruin the friendship. I mean i really care about her and think about her all the time, she means the world to me, but im scared how she feels about me and what could happen if i go all out and drop it. When she goes out i am always worried she will be with someone else, and any other women i see i always compare her with this girl. I go out of my way to do anything for her i break arrangements everything. I have never felt like this before about another girl and im always thinking about her. You know you feel like it coudl be the end of the world if you never get with her and youd feel like everything is over, but when i try to think no that wont be a problem it would be fine, i just completly dont agree with myself and go back to square one. Am i really in Love? What should i do?

Help Me Please!Yes, you are in love, you poor, sick, bastard!:sad:

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:01 PM
Yes, you are in love, you poor, sick, bastard!:sad:

:D or :sad: i dont know its a strange thing?!?!

Love sucks!

furrykitten
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:03 PM
:D or :sad: i dont know its a strange thing?!?!

Love sucks!


I've had second thoughts Caro, just run and run fast in her oposite direction before you get your head as well as your heart ripped to shreds!

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:11 PM
I've had second thoughts Caro, just run and run fast in her oposite direction before you get your head as well as your heart ripped to shreds!

But....but.....I love her! :sad:

furrykitten
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:14 PM
But....but.....I love her! :sad:

Yep, don't listen to me anyway, if you do you will screw up for sure :rolleyes:

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:23 PM
Yep, don't listen to me anyway, if you do you will screw up for sure :rolleyes:

Im just gonna go for it i really dont care now, whatever will be will be but if she doesnt, then id say id rather have you as a friend then to not have you at all! :D

pla
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:24 PM
Im just gonna go for it i really dont care now, whatever will be will be but if she doesnt, then id say id rather have you as a friend then to not have you at all! :D

Good luck :yeah:

furrykitten
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:24 PM
Im just gonna go for it i really dont care now, whatever will be will be but if she doesnt, then id say id rather have you as a friend then to not have you at all! :D

Good Luck mate ;)

Caro23
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:32 PM
Thanks, just got to wait a while now :lol: