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ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 01:19 AM
I messaged a girl 2 days ago, asking whether she wants to go out for dinner. She said cannot because she has exams on Monday. When I called her brother, he also told me that she gave the same answer to him.

Then yesterday, I arrived at her house and went out with her brother. After a few hours later, we arrived back... but her car was not there. I got info that she might have gone somewhere for dinner at that place... or she had dinner, then decided to go to a place. At that time, it was already 11pm and the place is far from her home.

This is the problem I have... and I can only think of the following answers:-

She has exams, and she went out for dinner late, therefore she returned late.
She has exams, and she went out for dinenr early, but decided that there's still one more day for exams, therefore she decided to go to the place before coming back.
There wasn't an exam after all - she messaged me that she cannot go because she doesn't want to go out with me with an excuse (for unknown reason). Therefore, she went out, have dinner and then go to the place before coming back late.
(For your information, she arrive back home about 12am).

So, what do you think is the real answer here? Please, I need some of your expertise in relationships and friendships in dealing with this question. Thank you.

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:16 AM
No one?? :(

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:20 AM
Stop overanalyzing. Ask her another time. If she says she is busy, then don't ask. If she is interested, she'll ask you herself.

Pheobo
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:22 AM
Take a hint.

Erika_Angel
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:23 AM
umm call her up and ask her .... :shrug: seems like the easiest thing to do.

Also you should NEVER (and I MEAN never for all the guys out there) 'message' a girl to ask her out on a date ... how L.A.M.E .... give the girl a call up and ask her ... it isn't hard and it is alot more personal :)

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:23 AM
Take a hint.

I hate people who can't take a hint. ;)

drake3781
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:24 AM
All good advice above.

Plus she probably doesn't want to date a friend of her brother's.

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:25 AM
Also you should NEVER (and I MEAN never for all the guys out there) 'message' a girl to ask her out on a date ... how L.A.M.E .... give the girl a call up and ask her ... it isn't hard and it is alot more personal :)

I'm not sure what's lame about leaving a message. :confused:

Erika_Angel
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:26 AM
I'm not sure what's lame about leaving a message. :confused:

Answering machine msg is ok .... txt message is lame ... trust me I've got lots of girlfriends and we have all agreed that guys txting their gf's or girls to ask them out is pretty low.

You call you make the lady feel special :) Common curtosy :)

drake3781
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:33 AM
Answering machine msg is ok .... txt message is lame ... trust me I've got lots of girlfriends and we have all agreed that guys txting their gf's or girls to ask them out is pretty low.

You call you make the lady feel special :) Common curtosy :)

And you don't want to put her in the position of having to locate you and go out of her way to answer., that is a hot potato and can make a person annoyed instead of happy you asked. Do it in person or by phone only. Answering machine... leave a message you called and will call back, don't ask for a date on the message.

Erika_Angel
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:41 AM
And you don't want to put her in the position of having to locate you and go out of her way to answer., that is a hot potato and can make a person annoyed instead of happy you asked. Do it in person or by phone only. Answering machine... leave a message you called and will call back, don't ask for a date on the message.

Thankfully I haven't been put in that position but I know I'd just ignore it ;)

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:50 AM
Er guys... I just need to know whether she is telling the truth... or a lie...

Brooklyn90
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:54 AM
Er guys... I just need to know whether she is telling the truth... or a lie...
how are we supposed to know? The only one that knows is her

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:58 AM
Yeah I know that... :(

Just want a view or 2...

Kenny
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:10 AM
lol, Remember clinginess is bad.

Pheobo
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:22 AM
Er guys... I just need to know whether she is telling the truth... or a lie...


Ok, I think you should take a hint and Kenny thinks your clinginess is bad (which I agree with...you sound obsessed)

There's two views.

On the bright side, it sounds like her brother might agree on taking you out on a date! :)

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:25 AM
I HATE clinginess with a passion. And dude, get over it.

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:27 AM
On the bright side, it sounds like her brother might agree on taking you out on a date! :)

:haha:

Wigglytuff
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:43 AM
lol, Remember clinginess is bad.
i have to agree. even if i have been guilty in the past of it myself. :o you just have to learn to not stress it. :)

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 04:50 AM
Uh well... that is just me...

James
Jul 16th, 2006, 06:28 AM
Talk to her about it. She is the only one who can clarify it.

Sally Struthers
Jul 16th, 2006, 06:34 AM
She's not really interested in you. If she were then she would have gone out with you to dinner. I mean really, who can't take an hour or so break from studying? Everyone' gotta eat. The "I have to study" excuse is among the lamest and oversued ones in the book. :lol:

skanky~skanketta
Jul 16th, 2006, 06:49 AM
mmhmmm....said before but take a hint.

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 16th, 2006, 07:31 AM
She's not really interested in you. If she were then she would have gone out with you to dinner. I mean really, who can't take an hour or so break from studying? Everyone' gotta eat. The "I have to study" excuse is among the lamest and oversued ones in the book. :lol:

Not "I have to study"... "I have exams"

rebel_ffighter
Jul 16th, 2006, 07:33 AM
She's not really interested in you. If she were then she would have gone out with you to dinner. I mean really, who can't take an hour or so break from studying? Everyone' gotta eat. The "I have to study" excuse is among the lamest and oversued ones in the book. :lol:


I completely agree,when u like someone you always find time no matter what

Sally Struthers
Jul 16th, 2006, 07:34 AM
well whatever.. similar excuse. I still don't think she likes you in that way and you seem a little stalkerish :lol:

Kart
Jul 16th, 2006, 01:02 PM
Personally I find being stalked and questioned by someone I don't have to justify myself to a major turn off.

Does that help ?

drake3781
Jul 16th, 2006, 08:28 PM
Also, I was thinking... if you had called her, or talked to her, not messaged her, you probably would know a lot more.... like she would've had a chance to say maybe another night, or you could've chatted more and found out things, and you would have heard the tone of her voice when she said she was busy. The messaging really screwed this up.

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 08:37 PM
Personally I find being stalked and questioned by someone I don't have to justify myself to a major turn off.

Does that help ?

Subtlety isn't your strong suit. ;)

Kart
Jul 16th, 2006, 08:50 PM
^ Why thank you :hatoff:.

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 08:54 PM
^ Why thank you :hatoff:.

Well, you know that subtlety isn't needed when you want to tell someone to fuck off. :o

Yasmine
Jul 16th, 2006, 09:09 PM
umm call her up and ask her .... :shrug: seems like the easiest thing to do.)
that would be my advice too;)

Wigglytuff
Jul 16th, 2006, 09:11 PM
Personally I find being stalked and questioned by someone I don't have to justify myself to a major turn off.

Does that help ?
LOL!!!

you know what i thought about when i read this post?

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000EG73XW.01._SS500_SCLZZZZZZZ_V1140489442_.jpg
:lol: :tape: :haha:

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jul 17th, 2006, 10:54 AM
Also, I was thinking... if you had called her, or talked to her, not messaged her, you probably would know a lot more.... like she would've had a chance to say maybe another night, or you could've chatted more and found out things, and you would have heard the tone of her voice when she said she was busy. The messaging really screwed this up.

Yeah... you are correct...

By the way, I got the answer from a reliable source.... she does have exams after all... :)