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ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:31 AM
Okay so I've been going "out" with this girl for about 2 months now but we haven't made out and obviously that's just awkward. Anyway we were talking about and have decided to restart on Monday.
Anywho, I know she's expecting a kiss. But I know nothing about anything to doing that. Could someone PLEASE help me?

oakkao
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:32 AM
:eek: Are your sure you REALLY like her? :eek:

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:33 AM
:eek: Are your sure you REALLY like her? :eek:
Yeah...but like I just get so nervous and I don't know what to do!

Sally Struthers
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:34 AM
download some porn movies and study :tape:

oakkao
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:35 AM
Yeah...but like I just get so nervous and I don't know what to do!
:awww: How cute! I don't know how to help you get rid of your nerves though :eek: I could say to go for it, but it's a lot easier said than done :sad:

Talula
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:36 AM
Okay so I've been going "out" with this girl for about 2 months now but we haven't made out and obviously that's just awkward. Anyway we were talking about and have decided to restart on Monday.
Anywho, I know she's expecting a kiss. But I know nothing about anything to doing that. Could someone PLEASE help me?
Take Sally Struther's advice.

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:40 AM
download some porn movies and study :tape:
:rolleyes: That's not very helpful.

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:41 AM
:awww: How cute! I don't know how to help you get rid of your nerves though :eek: I could say to go for it, but it's a lot easier said than done :sad:

But like I don't know how to go for it. I'm so lost when I get there.

Black Mamba.
Jul 15th, 2006, 03:50 AM
Are you confused about what the right moment is or how to kiss?

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 04:20 AM
Are you confused about what the right moment is or how to kiss?

Both.

>>krew<<
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:14 AM
nah mate...if you's really have that special connection then you'll make something out of the moment...even if you're not that good or dont do it right it shouldnt make things awkward, more like a challenge towards building your relationship. if you have to, make a joke out of it so you're not showing your nervous side and just practise with her a little more.
if you's are heaps comfortable around each other, you could even tell her you're a little nervous and she'll understand.

Erika_Angel
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:17 AM
Just go with the flow and whatever feels good. If the girl likes you she won't really care and she is prob just as nervous as you.

Us girls, we are happy as long as you just make an effort :angel: ;)

416_Man
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:20 AM
I know what you're going through, it happened to me a few years ago. When both of you are looking into each other's eyes, it'll just happen. I GUARANTEE you that one, buddy. Once you're both in the zone just keep going, it'll feel natural. If it's not natural then just practise with it. Then stop when you need to, but I've always found that both people want to stop at just the same time. lol Next Lesson... undoing the bra strap, now that needs some written guidelines.

416_Man
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:21 AM
Just go with the flow and whatever feels good. If the girl likes you she won't really care and she is prob just as nervous as you.

Us girls, we are happy as long as you just make an effort :angel: ;)

Don't listen to Erika, she's still waiting for her first kiss too :)

Erika_Angel
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:23 AM
Don't listen to Erika, she's still waiting for her first kiss too :)

That's true ... I'm a virgin :angel: .... :tape:

416_Man
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:24 AM
But to be fair, she's really good at practising on her hand. I think she gaveher hand a hickie once :tape: ;)

Erika_Angel
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:27 AM
But to be fair, she's really good at practising on her hand. I think she gaveher hand a hickie once :tape: ;)

just once?!? ..... umm yeh .... that's right ... just once .... :angel: ...

Pheobo
Jul 15th, 2006, 05:29 AM
download some porn movies and study :tape:


If he's never done anything with a chick he's probably seen his fair share of porn videos anyways.

>>krew<<
Jul 15th, 2006, 07:31 AM
But to be fair, she's really good at practising on her hand. I think she gaveher hand a hickie once :tape: ;)
bahaha

rebel_ffighter
Jul 15th, 2006, 09:23 AM
Just grab her and kiss her it wont be any difficult if u really like her

thalle
Jul 15th, 2006, 09:40 AM
I miss kissing... i miss kissing a boyfriend:crying2::sad:

>>krew<<
Jul 15th, 2006, 09:42 AM
I miss kissing... i miss kissing a boyfriend:crying2::sad:
does it have to be a bf? how about a one night stand? ;) :)

thalle
Jul 15th, 2006, 09:46 AM
does it have to be a bf? how about a one night stand? ;) :)
i prefer... i miss kissing with my boyfriend, who is no longer my boyfriend:p
i did consider a one night stand or a fuckfriend (hence I miss sex also), but each time I get the chance, I always back out:confused:

rebel_ffighter
Jul 15th, 2006, 09:55 AM
does it have to be a bf? how about a one night stand? ;) :)

exactly,it doesnt have to be a bf,for the last 5 months I have been kissing 5-6 different people,none of them were my bf/gf and it is quite amusing,I gave up relationships at least for now but mostly because I was unable to make thme work

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 07:41 PM
Going off on these random conversation tangents doesn't help me.

égalité
Jul 15th, 2006, 07:49 PM
If he's never done anything with a chick he's probably seen his fair share of porn videos anyways.

AAAHAHAHAHA :rolls:



Going off on these random conversation tangents doesn't help me.

Well, you're more familiar with the situation than any of us are, so you can't expect us to be a fountain of advice. If you want to kiss her, try getting close to her, and if she responds positively (i.e. leans in closer to you or something), then go for it! Also, don't shove your tongue down her throat. That's no good.

Kart
Jul 15th, 2006, 07:56 PM
Going off on these random conversation tangents doesn't help me.

What exactly are you worried about ?

You're not sure how to get into the position of kissing her or you don't know what to do when you're in that position ?

Pheobo
Jul 15th, 2006, 08:04 PM
The more you think about it the more akward it's going to be.

ShotSpot
Jul 15th, 2006, 11:42 PM
What exactly are you worried about ?

You're not sure how to get into the position of kissing her or you don't know what to do when you're in that position ?

:lol: Both!

fnuf7
Jul 15th, 2006, 11:51 PM
I would be tempted to say just have a few drinks, that usually rids me of any nerves and memory ;) But on a serious note, don't build it up in your mind before hand, go with the flow of what is happening as it happens ie: don't think she deffo wants a kiss and so expect it to happen when it just as easily may not happen that night. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then well it doesn't. :)

See what happens and don't go insane if it doesn't, nothing worse than destroying your own built up expections. Hope it all goes nicely for you though :kiss:

Pheobo
Jul 15th, 2006, 11:58 PM
I would be tempted to say just have a few drinks, that usually rids me of any nerves and memory ;) But on a serious note, don't build it up in your mind before hand, go with the flow of what is happening as it happens ie: don't think she deffo wants a kiss and so expect it to happen when it just as easily may not happen that night. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't then well it doesn't. :)

See what happens and don't go insane if it doesn't, nothing worse than destroying your own built up expections. Hope it all goes nicely for you though :kiss:


That's a wonderful idea!

You should do that, shotspot.

watchdogfish
Jul 16th, 2006, 12:02 AM
Okay so I've been going "out" with this girl for about 2 months now but we haven't made out and obviously that's just awkward. Anyway we were talking about and have decided to restart on Monday.
Anywho, I know she's expecting a kiss. But I know nothing about anything to doing that. Could someone PLEASE help me?


Hi!

Why not just simply talk to her about it? If she cares enough about you she won't mind if you feel awkward about kissing. Chances are she's thinking exactly the same thing as you!

Talk to her about it and see what happens from there!

Good luck :)

ceiling_fan
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:07 AM
best advice: JUST DO IT. don't think

cometz9
Jul 16th, 2006, 02:12 AM
Have u seen the movie "Hitch"?

mirzalover
Jul 16th, 2006, 03:18 AM
Just Go For It. If She Like's You She Wont Get Up Set If It's Bad , She Might Just Make It Her Mission In The To Teach You The Way She Likes To Be Kissed. Or Hell You Might Be The Best Kisser On Gods Green Earth For All You Know, So Get Up On It And Give It A Good Go On The Lips

cellophane
Jul 16th, 2006, 03:22 AM
Kissing isn't that hard.

Sally Struthers
Jul 16th, 2006, 07:17 AM
when in doubt turn to the internet :lol:

http://www.bossanova.com/weevil/kiss/

http://www.virtualkiss.com/kissingschool/

Rocketta
Jul 16th, 2006, 07:26 AM
What exactly are you worried about ?

You're not sure how to get into the position of kissing her or you don't know what to do when you're in that position ?

So how are you going to get in the right position when you kiss me? Tell me all your suave moves or do you want to surprise me with them first hand? :D

ShotSpot
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:41 PM
So I listened to all of you and I FINALLY DID IT! :woohoo:
Such a relief.
It was short and sweet BUT it finally has been done.
Now what do I do for the second kiss. I mean we've kissed but how do you initiate a longer one/make-out sesh?

watchdogfish
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:42 PM
Ahhh I was going to ask how you got on!

How did it go?

meyerpl
Jul 18th, 2006, 10:49 PM
O.K. your next move is to get her plastered, unless you really care about this girl, in which case just enjoy every moment you spend with her. The kissing will come along naturally.

mirzalover
Jul 18th, 2006, 11:07 PM
i was wondering how old are you

meyerpl
Jul 18th, 2006, 11:15 PM
i was wondering how old are you
Didn't he say he was 37 ?

rebel_ffighter
Jul 19th, 2006, 05:23 AM
Didn't he say he was 37 ?

:eek:

drake3781
Jul 19th, 2006, 05:38 AM
Just Go For It. If She Like's You She Wont Get Up Set If It's Bad , She Might Just Make It Her Mission In The To Teach You The Way She Likes To Be Kissed. Or Hell You Might Be The Best Kisser On Gods Green Earth For All You Know, So Get Up On It And Give It A Good Go On The Lips


Love the caps! :hearts: :p

ShotSpot
Jul 19th, 2006, 05:52 AM
:eek:

:haha: I'm not 37! I'm 16. :o

SzavayFi
Jul 19th, 2006, 05:55 AM
So I listened to all of you and I FINALLY DID IT! :woohoo:
Such a relief.
It was short and sweet BUT it finally has been done.
Now what do I do for the second kiss. I mean we've kissed but how do you initiate a longer one/make-out sesh?
Now you take her somewhere cozy where you have a good deal of room and such and you take that woman to pleasure town :bounce:

rebel_ffighter
Jul 19th, 2006, 05:58 AM
:haha: I'm not 37! I'm 16. :o

oh ok then

SzavayFi
Jul 19th, 2006, 06:01 AM
:haha: I'm not 37! I'm 16. :o
I'm 15. But I've already got plenty of experience;) :help:. Ok you drive right? Take her in your car and park somewhere somewhat romantic......Just talk to her a bit then when you think its the right moment go in for the kiss. Keep it doin for a min and if shes into it slip her some tongue :p Whatever you want :o Then guide her into your lap and then its pretty much a free for all :shrug:

UDACHi
Jul 19th, 2006, 06:17 AM
Frantic head bobbing will only frighten and confuse your partner, which can lead to an unsuccessful kissing experience.

Death.

Ernie! He's new to this! He wants a little kiss, not head! :o

SzavayFi
Jul 19th, 2006, 06:20 AM
Death.

Ernie! He's new to this! He wants a little kiss, not head! :o
I dont think he would complain if the girl was THAT forward :lol:

Virtual kiss :bowdown:

Kart
Jul 19th, 2006, 06:42 PM
So how are you going to get in the right position when you kiss me? Tell me all your suave moves or do you want to surprise me with them first hand? :D

Wait and see :p.

Sweep
Jul 19th, 2006, 06:56 PM
Well done mate.

I was in the same position as you a couple of years back (when I was 15), and I just went for it. The first kiss is always the most difficult.

O.K. your next move is to get her plastered, unless you really care about this girl, in which case just enjoy every moment you spend with her. The kissing will come along naturally.

When you're both plastered, it doesn't matter how good or bad you think you are, because neither of you will actually care. :D

Rocketta
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:19 PM
Wait and see :p.

:ras: @ making me wait to know. :p

Kart
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:22 PM
^ The only hint I'll offer is: no tongue = no fun :hehehe:.

Kart
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:23 PM
I'd best back out of this though because I'm always the one that ends up :o.

Rocketta
Jul 19th, 2006, 07:45 PM
I'd best back out of this though because I'm always the one that ends up :o.

awww, it was just getting good. :o

How long is that tongue btw? :lick: :drool:

msharafan
Jul 19th, 2006, 08:58 PM
well just go with the flow! well done on youre first kiss although it was only small you shouldnt be soo nervous, girls dont care really they just want to feel loved and cared for most of the time so dont think about just get lost in the moment.... youll have a great time!