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furrykitten
Jun 27th, 2006, 11:17 PM
Theres some sort of thread about every other subject so why not this, it may crash and burn but what the hell, its only me who will look like an idiot then!

If you have been in love you will know how I feel right now, you may be in love and its all going great, you have the women or man in your life and having a relationship. Others may secretly or not so secretly be madly in love with someone but you can't have that person for one reason or another. You can't eat properly, sleep properly, every waking minute consists of thinking of that person. You wake up in the morning and she's (for me) is the first thing on your mind.

Some like to bottle up their emotions and never discuss them to real people in their life, this might be your thread to share your feelings amongst others. Then again I'll probably look in the morning and theres no replies cuz the thread sucks, if people are interested I might share my own heartache with everyone.
Anyway thats it for now.

PointBlank
Jun 27th, 2006, 11:27 PM
Hah. I just talk about my situation in the chat thread I talk in, but Ill talk about it in here:wavey:.

MinnyGophers
Jun 28th, 2006, 03:34 AM
oh I share your pain. There is someone that I do think about a lot, and I have a feeling that this person might have been sharing those same feelings, but it was a forbidden kind of thing. I sometimes run into that person, and the feelings are still there, it's been almost a year... I'm not to the point of not sleeping nor eating, but I do think about that person a lot. I'm more of the kind of person who keeps my emotions and feelings to myself, as I don't fall very easily. All the more weirder since I didnt really know that person that well. But personality and intelligence goes a long way with me.

I think this a great thread, I hope people will come in and share their personal heartaches...

Crazy Canuck
Jun 28th, 2006, 04:04 AM
I don't just fall, I crash. This time I crashed into a probable drug addict. I am awesome.

Carolina Girl
Jun 28th, 2006, 07:02 AM
I wouldn't call it love with this person...but oceans suck. :p

Wigglytuff
Jun 28th, 2006, 07:10 AM
sigh.

i met a friend from college i have not seen in 4 years today. we had dinner and talked about everything. love and loveache too. for him, he said "i will never be over jonny, i will love him and be in love with him in my old age. but thats ok. i live and love harder than ever before, jonny may never know how i still feel, and thats cool. maybe its not his place to know. but you know, girl, i am still able to love another and myself, and fully too. so there is no more sadness for me."
such wisedom. i dont know, i understood what he said, and am glad to have him back in my life, i feel sorry that my friend broke up with jonny, but proud of my friends wisedom and bravery.

furrykitten
Jun 28th, 2006, 09:31 AM
Thanks for the replies guys and the good reps I expected this thread to be buried around Page 3 by now with no replies!.

marmite1
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:00 AM
oh I share your pain. There is someone that I do think about a lot, and I have a feeling that this person might have been sharing those same feelings, but it was a forbidden kind of thing. I sometimes run into that person, and the feelings are still there, it's been almost a year... I'm not to the point of not sleeping nor eating, but I do think about that person a lot. I'm more of the kind of person who keeps my emotions and feelings to myself, as I don't fall very easily. All the more weirder since I didnt really know that person that well. But personality and intelligence goes a long way with me.

I think this a great thread, I hope people will come in and share their personal heartaches...

Thats almost exactly what happened to me except that she stopped talking to me 3 months ago. Its been like that ever since. Although, last night she decided to tell me the truth about her feelings only im with someone now.

marmite1
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:03 AM
sigh.

i met a friend from college i have not seen in 4 years today. we had dinner and talked about everything. love and loveache too. for him, he said "i will never be over jonny, i will love him and be in love with him in my old age. but thats ok. i live and love harder than ever before, jonny may never know how i still feel, and thats cool. maybe its not his place to know. but you know, girl, i am still able to love another and myself, and fully too. so there is no more sadness for me."
such wisedom. i dont know, i understood what he said, and am glad to have him back in my life, i feel sorry that my friend broke up with jonny, but proud of my friends wisedom and bravery.

I dont think i could say the wise words of your friend. But, i was definitely in love with someone 4/3 years ago. Feel like I will never forget them. I will always care about them in a way. I dont think she actually knows I exist anymore :tape: :lol: but it's ok because it's the memories that count now :)

SpikeyAidanm
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:05 AM
I've been in love 3 times this year and had my heart broken 3 times :sad:, but yeh everything happens for a reason IMO

Wigglytuff
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:07 AM
I dont think i could say the wise words of your friend. But, i was definitely in love with someone 4/3 years ago. Feel like I will never forget them. I will always care about them in a way. I dont think she actually knows I exist anymore :tape: :lol: but it's ok because it's the memories that count now :)
sad but true! :sad: :) :)

Ekkekko
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:13 AM
Someone left me broken-hearted & depressed for a very long time (about 3 years now) and it still breaks my heart today to look back at what had happened, what led to the breakup.

furrykitten
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:16 AM
Someone left me broken-hearted & depressed for a very long time (about 3 years now) and it still breaks my heart today to look back at what had happened, what led to the breakup.

Aww, sorry to hear that, I know how you feel mate, love can break you thats for sure.

marmite1
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:19 AM
Someone left me broken-hearted & depressed for a very long time (about 3 years now) and it still breaks my heart today to look back at what had happened, what led to the breakup.

I'm sorry to hear that. I know i was really heartbroken and depressed for a good year and half afterwards. Obviously, its not as long as you've been. It'll feel better and you will find someone better :kiss:

Ekkekko
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:22 AM
I'm sorry to hear that. I know i was really heartbroken and depressed for a good year and half after I was broken hearted. Obviously, its not as long as you've been. It'll feel better and you will find someone better :kiss:
It seems as if finding another person, isn't really quite an uphill task, but it gets to a point where I started comparing second person and so forth with the first one..That's where the ugliness of future r'ships surfaces. But yeah, thanks furry and marmite.

marmite1
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:27 AM
It seems as if finding another person, isn't really quite an uphill task, but it gets to a point where I started comparing second person and so forth with the first one..That's where the ugliness of future r'ships surfaces. But yeah, thanks furry and marmite.

This is what happen to me. The two people i had a relationship with afterwards kept it in my mind. Maybe you need to be honest with the person you are with. Tell them you are still heartbroken. Maybe you shouldn't be in another relationship until you've given yourself time to heal properly.

*Jool*
Jun 28th, 2006, 10:50 AM
"I used to love him", would say Fiona Apple , and I could say that too for my (straigth :retard: ) best male friend

Almost asked him to kiss me once , when both of us were a bit :drink:

:o

Rigth now, i'm not "in love" but there's a guy I like at work, I gave him my number yesterday but it seems I made a mistake doing so since today we weren't as talkative / friendly as we used to be before (we get along pretty well and I may have been too quick , imagining he would be gay too , I was probably wrong , but anyway , i tried at least :shrug: (taht's not often when I do so )

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jun 28th, 2006, 12:29 PM
How do you know when you've met the one?

oakkao
Jun 28th, 2006, 12:36 PM
:tape:

Ilikebigboobies
Jun 28th, 2006, 01:45 PM
How do you know when you've met the one?
You will know.

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jun 28th, 2006, 03:30 PM
You will know.

Well... I think I found it.... because I CAN'T SEEM TO STOP THINKING ABOUT HER RIGHT NOW... AND IT'S HURTING ME PIECE BY PIECE... :sad:

MinnyGophers
Jun 28th, 2006, 04:00 PM
Can you possibly believe that you've met the one, but not even really know that person?
Sometimes I keep up hope for the slight chance that I might run into that person again. Sometimes I feel like I'm just kidding myself, but I still hope. And I hate that.

rebel_ffighter
Jun 28th, 2006, 04:49 PM
If there is only one person for everyone then we are f*cked!!How am I supposed to find the one and only person that is "the one" for me in a planet of 6 billion people?(and women than men so that makes it more difficult for me!!)...That is why I have given up searching for love,it fills ur mind with hopes that will never come true

MinnyGophers
Jun 28th, 2006, 04:53 PM
If there is only one person for everyone then we are f*cked!!How am I supposed to find the one and only person that is "the one" for me in a planet of 6 billion people?(and women than men so that makes it more difficult for me!!)...That is why I have given up searching for love,it fills ur mind with hopes that will never come true

It's fate. The one person for you is not someone you look for but someone you will eventually run into. The hard part is to actually know whether or not that person really is the one. I'm a hopeless romantic. :angel:

furrykitten
Jun 28th, 2006, 05:27 PM
I personally think there is more than one person for you, I've already found 2!.

QuicKyMonSter
Jun 28th, 2006, 09:04 PM
she talked to me today! :hearts:

and next year, her stupid close friend (dunno if they got any further) is leaving so it will be easier to attack! :banana:

QuicKyMonSter
Jun 28th, 2006, 09:04 PM
oh...it's not really a heartache :shrug:

oakkao
Jun 29th, 2006, 12:12 AM
Well, I thought that I was in love with on and off girlfriend of 2 years, but the chemistry and fire we had in our relationship has definitely died down since she stomped on my heart :( I'm actually going to tell her that I don't want to be with her anymore when she gets back from volunteering. I am going to tell her we can't even be friends :crying2: Hope she will be able to forgive me. :unsure:







*Everyday's a new day :bowdown:*

TF Chipmunk
Jun 29th, 2006, 12:23 AM
I wouldn't call it love with this person...but oceans suck. :p
My dear Juliet :eek:

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jun 29th, 2006, 12:32 AM
Hei guys... if you know that the girl is the one for you, but she has already a bf, should you just let it go... or continue chasing her until you finally succeed?

That is the situation I am facing... I asked one of my friends, and he said that I should carry on... he was in the same situation as me, whereby he didn't go on, and then he regret that decision.

Any opinions about this?

TF Chipmunk
Jun 29th, 2006, 12:38 AM
Hei guys... if you know that the girl is the one for you, but she has already a bf, should you just let it go... or continue chasing her until you finally succeed?

That is the situation I am facing... I asked one of my friends, and he said that I should carry on... he was in the same situation as me, whereby he didn't go on, and then he regret that decision.

Any opinions about this?In the past, I have just let it go and moved on. I felt that it wasn't worth it to chase when the girl just isn't interested to begin with. I think that's more of infatuation than love, and I'll be the first to admit that I have experienced that many times. So I say you should let it go. When "the one," as you put it, comes around, you'll know because she'll be equally as interested and equally as attracted to you, and to keep things in a cheesy mood, there will probably be love at first sight :o

oakkao
Jun 29th, 2006, 12:54 AM
Hei guys... if you know that the girl is the one for you, but she has already a bf, should you just let it go... or continue chasing her until you finally succeed?

That is the situation I am facing... I asked one of my friends, and he said that I should carry on... he was in the same situation as me, whereby he didn't go on, and then he regret that decision.

Any opinions about this?
I think it depends. If there is a mutual attraction, go for it. If the girl doesn't like you, I would let go :o

Couver
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:02 AM
I swore to myself ages ago that I'd never get bitten by the love bug and up until last year I didn't. But then there was this person in one of my classes that just I don't know what happend but anyway I was smitten. I kind of got a vibe that they might be into me but I wasn't sure so nothing came of it. I took a more aggressive apporach the next semester and tried to start some kind of interaction, which was partially successful. But when I saw the person after that and said hi, they totally ignored me :o Now mind you it was busy when I bumped into them and there's an 80% chance they didn't hear me, but I got jilted and called it quits right there. What sucks is until the Summer I kept bumping into them like literally all over campus and there were still these looks like made me think there was something there. Ugh I can't believe I typed all this on a tennis msg board :o

But it's done now I hope and now that I know how this feeling can creep up on you I have a lock on it and this won't happen again :)

Hayato
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:19 AM
I don't really know :shrug:....I don't really have heartache because I am in a good situation with my girlfriend. :)

marmite1
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:22 AM
I met this guy on a holiday, kissed him about three days after we first met and then he decided to let me know he had a girlfriend and he loved her. I was so totally into him, my words were 'It's ok, we can be friends maybe one day things can be different'. I moved away after a while. We kept in touch, i texted him about 3 times a day, he'd seldom reply. I'd fone him, he'd only answer my calls once a week, and probably call me only when he felt like which was once a month for 10 minutes. We met again after 8 months, for 3 hours when I went to visit him. He was still with his girlfriend. Over months, he stopped calling me and he'd only answer my calls once a month. The last time I spoke to him was before 3 months in april. That day, he told me he was going to switch networks and he'll let me know the new number. He never did. He's miles away. I can't stop caring. He's the first thing in my mind every morning and he stays there till I fall asleep at night. I think about him constantly. I don't know where I went wrong. I keep thinkin of things I'll say to him when he calls me. I always believed that if I loved him enough, he'd one day love me back.
I know he messes around with other girls. When we talk, he brags about all the girls he's been with since we last spoke. I know how wrong it is to let myself be treated this way. I do not deserve it. My brain understands, my heart doesnt. It's been amost 2 years since we first met. Not a single minute goes by without me thinkin of him. Sometimes I call his old number just for the sake of it, and i get the automatic 'number not in service' voice.

I know that if I was better lookin, he'd be with me. Because thats whats important to him. He has girls throwing themselves all over him all the time. I have seen that. I really don't know what to feel/think/do.

I keep hoping one day I'll bump into him, or he'll phone me, i know its never going to happen. But hope's all I have. And I just can't let go.

Now i know that has got to be a joke :tape:

MinnyGophers
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:37 AM
Now i know that has got to be a joke :tape:

or maybe just a bit...stalkerish...

Nadia2006
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:43 AM
Is there any way I can delete my previous post, please let me know. I shouldnt have written all that. I'm so stupid. Any way I can delete it?

oakkao
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:44 AM
You could edit it Nadia :o I edit my 1st one as well. So embarrassing :help:

Nadia2006
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:47 AM
You could edit it Nadia :o I edit my 1st one as well. So embarrassing :help:

Thanks Sash! But its still there in Marmite's post. I guess there's nothing much I can do about that or is there?

oakkao
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:50 AM
Thanks Sash! But its still there in Marmite's post. I guess there's nothing much I can do about that or is there?
You could ask her to unquote it, and I am sure the person will. He or she is one of the nicest members of the board :) :wavey:

Nadia2006
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:53 AM
Marmite,

Would you pls pls pls unquote my post, it was written in a moment of stupidity and i really really regret it. I will be so grateful. Thanks.

MinnyGophers
Jun 29th, 2006, 01:55 AM
It's just an anonymous board, it's not like people will know whoever you are.... hopefully :scared:

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jun 29th, 2006, 03:04 AM
In the past, I have just let it go and moved on. I felt that it wasn't worth it to chase when the girl just isn't interested to begin with. I think that's more of infatuation than love, and I'll be the first to admit that I have experienced that many times. So I say you should let it go. When "the one," as you put it, comes around, you'll know because she'll be equally as interested and equally as attracted to you, and to keep things in a cheesy mood, there will probably be love at first sight :o

Last time I believe in "love at first sight"... but after one event... I didn't believe it anymore...

Now, I believe that loves take a while to build up. In my case, I knew of this girl and I was friends with her at first. I was more smitten to her younger sister rather than her. But as time goes on, after chatting and knowing her much better, I began to like her more and more. In fact, there had been days whereby I miss her so much that my taught was only about her.

I don't know whether she also have slight or small interest in me too, but she has been talking and chatting with me quite a lot these few months. There is once whereby she was doing her assignment online and it was about to be midnight. I told her whether she would like me to accompany her throughout the night until she finishes her assignment. She said "No need. It's already midnight. It's time for you to sleep." (bearing in mind that I am working tomorrow). I said "OK" and bid her goodnight, before she said "Goodnight and sleep tight". That made me so happy...

But, that's another thing. I always knew she has a bf, but when I asked about it before (once and only once), she denied having one. I found out that she does have one just only last week when I see a photo of her wrapping his arm around a guy's neck. (Strangely though, she kept it so secretive from her parents and family, never revealing about it to anyone else... maybe only to her sis, but I don't know that). It immediately make me so... I don't know how to explain that feeling, but it seems like a thousand needles poking your body... then, I realise that I am actually really in love with her and that she is the one I have been looking for so long. There had been other attempts, but it does not hurt as bad as this. While I try to forget about it and go on with life, it's been almost a week now and I still can't do so. It was so bad that on Monday I nearly went back home from the place I work and wanted to lock myself up in the room the whole day (I was extremly depressed). It was after I saw her picture in the PC that I got the courage to go on through the day, and decided that I should go on chasing after her (either I win or I lose, that is all), or else I might regret it.

You see... if this can affect me that badly, what are the chances she isn't the one?

TF Chipmunk
Jun 29th, 2006, 03:20 AM
Well I think you need to ask her upfront about whether or not she has a boyfriend? But you should also tell her how you feel if it's making you feel all these [rash] emotions and impulses.

No Name Face
Jun 29th, 2006, 03:38 AM
i might be falling in love.
but i've never been in love, so it's hard to tell.

i sorta wish i could tell you how much you mean to me and how you've changed my life with just your wisdom. but i'm not strong enough to do that yet. she has a boyfriend, but she's one of my best friends.

:shrug:

ZeroSOFInfinity
Jun 29th, 2006, 03:40 AM
Well I think you need to ask her upfront about whether or not she has a boyfriend? But you should also tell her how you feel if it's making you feel all these [rash] emotions and impulses.

Er well.. a picture of her with arms around a guy's neck (and which is decorated with those "colourful" borders) seems to show that it is her bf...

...unless that guy is her relative, or someone whom she likes? (highly unlikely).

Rohin.
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:16 AM
love has thus far caused me more hurt than happiness.

Princess Sarah.
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:42 AM
i've never been in love :sad: and i don't think it will ever happen...i'm destined to become a crazy cat lady :sad:

Princess Sarah.
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:43 AM
love has thus far caused me more hurt than happiness.
aww :sad:

Rohin.
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:51 AM
i've never been in love :sad: and i don't think it will ever happen...i'm destined to become a crazy cat lady :sad:

no you're not :hug:

meggz_star
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:52 AM
i've never been in love :sad: and i don't think it will ever happen...i'm destined to become a crazy cat lady :sad:

I'm sure you'll find that special someone:hug:

meggz_star
Jun 29th, 2006, 05:53 AM
I'm nothing but a dreamer:sad:

Langers
Jun 29th, 2006, 06:05 AM
i've never been in love :sad: and i don't think it will ever happen...
Kinda sounds like me. :o :(

furrykitten
Jun 29th, 2006, 08:42 AM
love has thus far caused me more hurt than happiness.

Its great until it goes pear shaped, I love my wife 100 times more than I love myself but its not enough it seems. Time goes by, life goes on, and all I can think of is why she's gone.

Langers
Jun 29th, 2006, 08:56 AM
Its great until it goes pear shaped, I love my wife 100 times more than I love myself but its not enough it seems. Time goes by, life goes on, and all I can think of is why she's gone.
That's awful to hear mate. :sad:

Crazy Canuck
Jun 29th, 2006, 10:13 PM
I swore to myself ages ago that I'd never get bitten by the love bug and up until last year I didn't. But then there was this person in one of my classes that just I don't know what happend but anyway I was smitten. I kind of got a vibe that they might be into me but I wasn't sure so nothing came of it. I took a more aggressive apporach the next semester and tried to start some kind of interaction, which was partially successful. But when I saw the person after that and said hi, they totally ignored me :o Now mind you it was busy when I bumped into them and there's an 80% chance they didn't hear me, but I got jilted and called it quits right there. What sucks is until the Summer I kept bumping into them like literally all over campus and there were still these looks like made me think there was something there. Ugh I can't believe I typed all this on a tennis msg board :o

But it's done now I hope and now that I know how this feeling can creep up on you I have a lock on it and this won't happen again :)
I thought I was too cold to get icky feelings as such :p Yes, they do creep up on you.

Like, I'll be sitting and having lunch at my favourite restaurant and wish he was there :rolleyes: Or I'll be walking on a nice day and think it would be nice if he were at home so I could go get him and we could walk to get ice cream or drink some beer on the porch or something :rolleyes:

We make plans quite a bit... I think he means it too. But it's one thing to mean something and to actually follow through with it. He's too messed up for the latter. And I probably cry about that a little every day.

Kill me now :p

Couver
Jun 29th, 2006, 10:49 PM
I thought I was too cold to get icky feelings as such :p Yes, they do creep up on you.

Like, I'll be sitting and having lunch at my favourite restaurant and wish he was there :rolleyes: Or I'll be walking on a nice day and think it would be nice if he were at home so I could go get him and we could walk to get ice cream or drink some beer on the porch or something :rolleyes:

We make plans quite a bit... I think he means it too. But it's one thing to mean something and to actually follow through with it. He's too messed up for the latter. And I probably cry about that a little every day.

Kill me now :p

Oh I hear you, I hear you. Fantasies and daydreams are really dangerous. They get in the way of important stuff, like school so that you end up lowering your GPA cause you end up obsessing over the person constantly :o

Hey it sounds like you at least have his attention and actually talk to him, I'm jealous :lol:

But yeah I'm so done. That was my one stupid mistake for a lifetime. If you pile on all these other feelings over the icky love feelings I think over time you can eventually bury them forever, or at least I hope so.

marmite1
Jun 29th, 2006, 11:10 PM
Sorry Nadia, I actually just thought you were a troll. And, seeing as this a serious thread I figured it was a bit disrespectful. But, as you aren't I'm sorry if i embarrassed you. What you did is nothing to be embarrassed about. When someone wouldn't return my texts I tried calling them. Whenever someone called me i always hoped it was them. It wasn't. I will still delete your post if you want me to?

Edward.
Jun 30th, 2006, 02:17 AM
I really, really like one girl from school. The main problem is, school has finished now, and the last time I am guaranteed to see her is at my Leavers Dinner in about a weeks time.

I basically have only then to ask her out. If I don't, or she says no, that is likely the last time I will ever see her.

So no pressure, huh?

oakkao
Jun 30th, 2006, 05:05 AM
:hug:








































:o

meggz_star
Jun 30th, 2006, 05:35 AM
I really, really like one girl from school. The main problem is, school has finished now, and the last time I am guaranteed to see her is at my Leavers Dinner in about a weeks time.

I basically have only then to ask her out. If I don't, or she says no, that is likely the last time I will ever see her.

So no pressure, huh?


Go for it:yeah:

furrykitten
Oct 1st, 2006, 07:44 PM
So, anyone had their heart ripped from their bodies lately? :p

No Name Face
Oct 1st, 2006, 07:53 PM
i've never been in love, but i think i'm close right now.

i feel so weak sometimes...i dunno what i'm gonna do about it. you know, i feel like i have so much to offer and sometimes i feel like i can't offer anything at all.

i think this is why i've been whoring vertical horizon's "everything you want." the lyrics are me right now.

No Name Face
Oct 1st, 2006, 07:56 PM
So, anyone had their heart ripped from their bodies lately? :p

being totally honest, i don't get rejected often (mostly because i don't try for every girl and the girls i go for definitely like me) but the one girl i had really strong feelings for wound up transferring...that sorta ripped my heart out because she was definitely the best person i had ever met. she sort of saved me in a way, so there's a part of me that can't wait to see her again.

SzavayFi
Oct 1st, 2006, 07:57 PM
Im a sophomore in highschool. Its not about love.......its about lust and beer ;)

furrykitten
Oct 1st, 2006, 09:25 PM
i've never been in love, but i think i'm close right now.

i feel so weak sometimes...i dunno what i'm gonna do about it. you know, i feel like i have so much to offer and sometimes i feel like i can't offer anything at all.

i think this is why i've been whoring vertical horizon's "everything you want." the lyrics are me right now.

I don't know what to say, falling in love is great at the time, especially if the feeling is both ways but if its one way you are in for some serious heartache..
Good Luck to you, I hope things work out for you :)

furrykitten
Oct 1st, 2006, 09:25 PM
Im a sophomore in highschool. Its not about love.......its about lust and beer ;)

Sounds good to me! ;)

No Name Face
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:42 AM
I don't know what to say, falling in love is great at the time, especially if the feeling is both ways but if its one way you are in for some serious heartache..
Good Luck to you, I hope things work out for you :)

i hope so too.

i did this thing where i didnt want to have meaningless sex (meaning sex while not in a relationship) but i broke that rule...twice.

whatever. maybe i'll find the one.

*abby*
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:51 AM
i was heartbroken and depressed for about 3 years
now ive never been happier all cos of my amazing boyfriend of almost 2 years :D
its hard at the mo cos im away at uni but i know were gonna make it :D

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 09:57 AM
So, anyone had their heart ripped from their bodies lately? :p
nah...mine is safe right here :angel: :p

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:07 AM
i was heartbroken and depressed for about 3 years
now ive never been happier all cos of my amazing boyfriend of almost 2 years :D
its hard at the mo cos im away at uni but i know were gonna make it :D

Sounds like things are on the up for you :)
The distance sucks though but if he's so amazing everything will work out :awww:

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:07 AM
nah...mine is safe right here :angel: :p

You are one of the lucky ones then :D

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:10 AM
You are one of the lucky ones then :D
it's only till i give it away and have it broken again :lol: jk :p

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:10 AM
You are one of the lucky ones then :D

Yeah..Lucky you.

As for me, I'm still not over someone..I don't think I ever will be.
There are plenty of people willing to fill his shoes...too bad I don't want to give them a go. I've had a taste of perfection and I don't want to settle for less.

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:11 AM
it's only till i give it away and have it broken again :lol: jk :p

:lol: How many times have you been crazy enough to fall in love?

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:16 AM
Yeah..Lucky you.

As for me, I'm still not over someone..I don't think I ever will be.
There are plenty of people willing to fill his shoes...too bad I don't want to give them a go. I've had a taste of perfection and I don't want to settle for less.

I know how you feel but I'm a guy and am weak, I need women as I have a huge sexual appetite but no one is the same as my Jane and I make sure any new girl I see knows that theres no chance of a relationship. Harsh maybe but I am still totally in love with my (ex) wife, theres no other women for me.
It fills me with alot of confusion and guilt that I see other women but at the moment any reconcilliation with Jane seems impossible and has been for a year.
I have no idea what to do with my life without her. :sad:

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:18 AM
I know how you feel but I'm a guy and am weak, I need women as I have a huge sexual appetite but no one is the same as my Jane and I make sure any new girl I see knows that theres no chance of a relationship. Harsh maybe but I am still totally in love with my (ex) wife, theres no other women for me.
It fills me with alot of confusion and guilt that I see other women but at the moment any reconcilliation with Jane seems impossible and has been for a year.
I have no idea what to do with my life without her. :sad:

Awwww...Have you ever told her that you're still in love with her?
Has she moved on?

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:19 AM
Yeah..Lucky you.

As for me, I'm still not over someone..I don't think I ever will be.
There are plenty of people willing to fill his shoes...too bad I don't want to give them a go. I've had a taste of perfection and I don't want to settle for less.

getting over someone isn't a space that needs to be filled..some times you have to be alone and give yourself sometime to see how things go..it's good that you realize that :)

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:21 AM
:lol: How many times have you been crazy enough to fall in love?
hmmm...i think that number would be three.three times and i don't regret none of those :D

SloKid
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:23 AM
Hei guys... if you know that the girl is the one for you, but she has already a bf, should you just let it go... or continue chasing her until you finally succeed?

That is the situation I am facing... I asked one of my friends, and he said that I should carry on... he was in the same situation as me, whereby he didn't go on, and then he regret that decision.

Any opinions about this?
Well I had a similar situation, I fell for this great girl and I fell baddd. :lol:
And I kept thinking what if one day I realise she was the one or if I will always regret it, but yeah she had a bf and with time I moved on and it wasn't really that hard, now we are on friendly basis, we talk now and again or text each other, so it's all good. :)

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:23 AM
Well I had a similar situation, I fell for this great girl and I fell baddd. :lol:
And I kept thinking what if one day I realise she was the one or if I will always regret it, but yeah she had a bf and with time I moved on and it wasn't really that hard, now we are on friendly basis, we talk now and again or text each other, so it's all good. :)
Do you still have feelings for her?

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:24 AM
I know how you feel but I'm a guy and am weak, I need women as I have a huge sexual appetite but no one is the same as my Jane and I make sure any new girl I see knows that theres no chance of a relationship. Harsh maybe but I am still totally in love with my (ex) wife, theres no other women for me.
It fills me with alot of confusion and guilt that I see other women but at the moment any reconcilliation with Jane seems impossible and has been for a year.
I have no idea what to do with my life without her. :sad:
:awww: :hug:

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:25 AM
Awwww...Have you ever told her that you're still in love with her?
Has she moved on?

She knows but the subject is too painful for us both to talk about so we avoid it now, we do seem to be getting on better lately, I'm hoping time can repair our relationship as it did once before.
She is like me, she's seen other guys but nothing came of it, it almost ripped my heart to pieces when I found out she had been with another guy and I think its the same with her. Its almost painful to be around her sometimes but we work in the same Office block so we see eachother every day still.

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:28 AM
hmmm...i think that number would be three.three times and i don't regret none of those :D

:awww: 3, you are not in a hurry for no 4 anytime soon then? ;)

SloKid
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:29 AM
Do you still have feelings for her?
At the moment I would say no, I have moved on completely.

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:33 AM
:awww: 3, you are not in a hurry for no 4 anytime soon then? ;)
i'm never in a hurry..it just happens,before i even realize it :o :lol:

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:36 AM
She knows but the subject is too painful for us both to talk about so we avoid it now, we do seem to be getting on better lately, I'm hoping time can repair our relationship as it did once before.
She is like me, she's seen other guys but nothing came of it, it almost ripped my heart to pieces when I found out she had been with another guy and I think its the same with her. Its almost painful to be around her sometimes but we work in the same Office block so we see eachother every day still.

Geez, thats awful :sad:
I hope you get back together with her...life is too short. Either that or moving on, but it seems like moving on isn't an option for you, so why spend your life desiring her? Have her! (Easy to say, I know)

This thread is so dismal. Happy love stories anyone?

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:36 AM
i'm never in a hurry..it just happens,before i even realize it :o :lol:

yeah one minute you are chiilled out relaxing enjoying life next thing you turn into confused mess where you cannot even sleep without dreaming of the one you love, it sucks really, I hate it!.

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:37 AM
At the moment I would say no, I have moved on completely.

Who's the lucky gal? ;)

SloKid
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:38 AM
Who's the lucky gal? ;)
Huh? :lol:

rebel_ffighter
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:40 AM
awww :sad: All these stories brought to my mind my last heartache (quite a sad story actually).I fell for my best friend badly and things gradually grew between us,we kissed once and that gave me hopes(it was a kiss for fun but she told me she really liked it).She is straight but I could see she had feelings for me by the way she was looking and listening to me.We started calling each other cute names and acted like we were a couple(except for the sex and kisses) but I was deeply in love with her and she didnt know.This summer one of our friends (a lesbian too) saw this connection we had and told her (without me knowing) that it is obvious we have feelings for each other.She of course freaked out and acted like I was hitting on her,put the whole blame on me...In the meantime we shared some moments when we got drunk twice which are far from friendly...when one day one friend put on the table the issue "you MUST be together as a couple!you are made for each other cant u see?" and this was the most freakin' out momment she had,she said she doesnt see me this way(I was silent all the way) and she cant understand what the others see that she desnt see.So I took the decision and got out of this sick game and for over a month now we just meet and say hi and the typicals(even when we are in the same group),I started ignoring her and sometimes insulting her(because I am really mad at her)...she of course blames me,our friend tells me she says I dont talk to her much and that she is hurt and wants to talk to me to sort it out but I told him to tell her not to bother and that I dont feel anything for her anymore,not even as a friend...And I must say I feel very good since I ended it,I think that even if I was paid I wouldnt try to get close to her again,not going back again for sure. :cool:

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:41 AM
Huh? :lol:

Well you said you moved on completely I take it a new girl is on the scene?

SloKid
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:41 AM
Well you said you moved on completely I take it a new girl is on the scene?
I said I moved completely from her, not that I moved on to someone else, don't twist my words sis. :p

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:41 AM
yeah one minute you are chiilled out relaxing enjoying life next thing you turn into confused mess where you cannot even sleep without dreaming of the one you love, it sucks really, I hate it!.
that happens too,but the story for me is: one minute everything seems normal,next minute everyone knows i'm inlove(friends/he) and after all those people i do realize i am inlove :o it's quite a shock if you ask me :p

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:43 AM
Geez, thats awful :sad:
I hope you get back together with her...life is too short. Either that or moving on, but it seems like moving on isn't an option for you, so why spend your life desiring her? Have her! (Easy to say, I know)

This thread is so dismal. Happy love stories anyone?

I have no options, I just carry on living life as a shell of my former self until she has me back :lol:

Are there happy love stories or are they all fictional?

Ems__
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:47 AM
I said I moved completely from her, not that I moved on to someone else, don't twist my words sis. :p

Ahem..Like I said, whos the new girl?

Tennis players don't count (no matter how much you stalk them)

SloKid
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:48 AM
Ahem..Like I said, whos the new girl?

Tennis players don't count (no matter how much you stalk them)
They don't? :sad: :p

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:48 AM
awww :sad: All these stories brought to my mind my last heartache (quite a sad story actually).I fell for my best friend badly and things gradually grew between us,we kissed once and that gave me hopes(it was a kiss for fun but she told me she really liked it).She is straight but I could see she had feelings for me by the way she was looking and listening to me.We started calling each other cute names and acted like we were a couple(except for the sex and kisses) but I was deeply in love with her and she didnt know.This summer one of our friends (a lesbian too) saw this connection we had and told her (without me knowing) that it is obvious we have feelings for each other.She of course freaked out and acted like I was hitting on her,put the whole blame on me...In the meantime we shared some moments when we got drunk twice which are far from friendly...when one day one friend put on the table the issue "you MUST be together as a couple!you are made for each other cant u see?" and this was the most freakin' out momment she had,she said she doesnt see me this way(I was silent all the way) and she cant understand what the others see that she desnt see.So I took the decision and got out of this sick game and for over a month now we just meet and say hi and the typicals(even when we are in the same group),I started ignoring her and sometimes insulting her(because I am really mad at her)...she of course blames me,our friend tells me she says I dont talk to her much and that she is hurt and wants to talk to me to sort it out but I told him to tell her not to bother and that I dont feel anything for her anymore,not even as a friend...And I must say I feel very good since I ended it,I think that even if I was paid I wouldnt try to get close to her again,not going back again for sure. :cool:

Thats really tough for you, falling for a friend and for her not to be supportive sucks, in the end you are probably better off not haing her as a friend at all :)
Relationships and friendships can always be sorted out though, time and space can often help the situation and you begin to miss eachother, that could happen, who knows...

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:50 AM
that happens too,but the story for me is: one minute everything seems normal,next minute everyone knows i'm inlove(friends/he) and after all those people i do realize i am inlove :o it's quite a shock if you ask me :p

How do you feel when in love? Are you a jealous person if you see him looking at another girl?

rebel_ffighter
Oct 2nd, 2006, 11:00 AM
Thats really tough for you, falling for a friend and for her not to be supportive sucks, in the end you are probably better off not haing her as a friend at all :)
Relationships and friendships can always be sorted out though, time and space can often help the situation and you begin to miss eachother, that could happen, who knows...

Yeah it is double tough when the other is a friend,cause you see them every day and they might even have a bf or a gf.But I can say that in our situation she is the most hurt now and not me,I am over her and dont think I will ever miss her as she turned out to be not what I thought she was.I am truely feeling better now and whenever we meet she seems really down and sad(and my friend confirmed I am the one to blame for that),but it doesnt bother me seeing her and it surely doesnt bother me that she has regrets now.

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 11:38 AM
Yeah it is double tough when the other is a friend,cause you see them every day and they might even have a bf or a gf.But I can say that in our situation she is the most hurt now and not me,I am over her and dont think I will ever miss her as she turned out to be not what I thought she was.I am truely feeling better now and whenever we meet she seems really down and sad(and my friend confirmed I am the one to blame for that),but it doesnt bother me seeing her and it surely doesnt bother me that she has regrets now.

Ok, its best for you that you come out better but you don't feel at all sorry for her now? :awww: Everyone makes mistakes, maybe she was scared and didn't now how to react to another girl liking her. Or you could be right and she's a bitch :p

rebel_ffighter
Oct 2nd, 2006, 11:53 AM
Ok, its best for you that you come out better but you don't feel at all sorry for her now? :awww: Everyone makes mistakes, maybe she was scared and didn't now how to react to another girl liking her. Or you could be right and she's a bitch :p

Well actually it was never "another girl liking her",she also liked me and this is not sth I say,there were another two people who could see she had feelings for me.I dont feel sorry for her at all,she was playing with me for almost a year(I didnt mention she also used me in every way she could,even financially) and to tell you the truth now the only feelings I have for her is anger which is gonna leave sooner or later and I hope one day will come when we wont meet anymore.What she did was not a mistake...cause she doesnt regret saying cruel things to me,and turning me down as if I was hitting on her as a horny goat but most of all blaming me for all the comments the others did for our "weird" friendship.At least my friends know I am right cause they have lived everything and know the truth however they want us at least be friends(this is what she wants too) but I cannot do it,I feel betrayed and could never be a friend with her now that I know her true character.
Most of all I cannot be with a weak character cause that is what she is,she got scared to take the next step(always thinking of what the others would say),I want to have friends and lovers who dont care of what the others think,brave people.

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:07 PM
Well actually it was never "another girl liking her",she also liked me and this is not sth I say,there were another two people who could see she had feelings for me.I dont feel sorry for her at all,she was playing with me for almost a year(I didnt mention she also used me in every way she could,even financially) and to tell you the truth now the only feelings I have for her is anger which is gonna leave sooner or later and I hope one day will come when we wont meet anymore.What she did was not a mistake...cause she doesnt regret saying cruel things to me,and turning me down as if I was hitting on her as a horny goat but most of all blaming me for all the comments the others did for our "weird" friendship.At least my friends know I am right cause they have lived everything and know the truth however they want us at least be friends(this is what she wants too) but I cannot do it,I feel betrayed and could never be a friend with her now that I know her true character.
Most of all I cannot be with a weak character cause that is what she is,she got scared to take the next step(always thinking of what the others would say),I want to have friends and lovers who dont care of what the others think,brave people.

Damn what a bitch, you are right to have nothing more to with her :yeah:
Does everyone know about you being gay then? I mean your family and friends?

rebel_ffighter
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:16 PM
Damn what a bitch, you are right to have nothing more to with her :yeah:
Does everyone know about you being gay then? I mean your family and friends?

3-4 friends know but not any family member,and I dont intend them to know soon

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:18 PM
3-4 friends know but not any family member,and I dont intend them to know soon

I know its tough, I know someone who is 26 now and has known she is fully gay for about 5 years now and she's still to scared to tell her family, she's so worried how they will take the news :(

rebel_ffighter
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:23 PM
I know its tough, I know someone who is 26 now and has known she is fully gay for about 5 years now and she's still to scared to tell her family, she's so worried how they will take the news :(

yep,I know it is really hard for them and I am sure they wont take it nicely,I dont know if I will ever tell them

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:27 PM
yep,I know it is really hard for them and I am sure they wont take it nicely,I dont know if I will ever tell them

Ok good luck, as long as you be yourself everything will be fine ;)
Unless of course you fall in love or lust with a family friend then things could get complicated! :p

*Jool*
Oct 2nd, 2006, 12:39 PM
:wavey:

awww RF , hard to admit it sometimes for some people that the feelings are indeed growing .
I think you did what was bst for yourself and have nothing to regret as long as you're ok with it . It will make her think about it and maybe she won't do the same mistake twice if similar stoty happens to her again ...

anyway , if you're good with it now, that's the most important thing :)


MY boyfriend lives 500 kms away . We met only once , but it was a special attraction , not a one night stand that woul dvanish the next day . He phoned me several times since then , we get in touch by mail etc... but I miss him
I very rarely think I could go further with someone, it really happened to me whiole I was definitely not expecting, nor willing it to happen.
And I HAD to feel this for someone who lives this far away :lol: :cuckoo: something wrong in my head , huh ;) :lol:

I hope to see him this week-end and hope something is possible despite the distance .

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 2nd, 2006, 04:55 PM
I'm in love with a guy that is in love with my best friend, luckily she told me that she doesn't share his feelings and she finds him a bit annoying lately. What's really stupid is the thing that I was in love with another guy and he felt the same way I did and I suddenly felt in love with the guy I wrote at the beginning... Well, and now I'm all alone :tape:

elena_k
Oct 2nd, 2006, 05:33 PM
How do you feel when in love?Are you a jealous person if you see him looking at another girl?

i believe that when a person feels secure with his/hers relationship,there is no need to feel jealousy..jealousy exists when there is a reason.so i might be a bit insecure at the beginning of a relationship,but not jealous and not for long.

nah..i'm not jealous for things like that..i don't mind him looking..as long as he doesn't drool over girls on the street :lol: :p

*Jool*
Oct 2nd, 2006, 05:37 PM
I'm in love with a guy that is in love with my best friend, luckily she told me that she doesn't share his feelings and she finds him a bit annoying lately. What's really stupid is the thing that I was in love with another guy and he felt the same way I did and I suddenly felt in love with the guy I wrote at the beginning... Well, and now I'm all alone :tape:

I did worse :sad:
I once broke up with my boyfriend because I felt I was more in love with my best friend, who was straight :lol: I knew either way i could not be happy , but to behonest I decided to split up because things weren't going as good as they used to with my then boyfriend.

Rocketta
Oct 2nd, 2006, 05:55 PM
I'm in love with someone who works too much......he barely has time for me these days eventhough I send him a pm everyday. :sobbing:

It's requiring me to have patience..... :help:

BigB08822
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:22 PM
OMG thank you for starting this thread. I have been wanting to vent about a situation but havent had a place to do so and I was afraid if I did it on myspace then the guy in question would read it!

So about a week ago I got the best news ever. This guy I have known for quite a while and who I always thought was the CUTEST thing ever tells me he has a crush on me. I am on cloud nine and tell him I've felt the same way for a while. So we begin hanging out and its going well. I stay the night two nights in a row and we seem to click and I'm very excited. Then Friday night comes and we dont stay at each others place but we had hung out that evening. Well, now it is Monday and I have hardly heard from him. I can tell he is being very stand offish. During the week he would text me 10 times a day and post on my myspace and call me. Since Friday night, nothing except small replies to my texts. I don't understand what happened so suddenly to change his mind. I am very afraid that he only wanted to sleep with me because we did stuff on Thursday night which is the last night we stayed together. Maybe he just wanted some and now he is going on to the next guy?! Boys suck. I still hope he calls or something, maybe he's been busy, but I think it sucks that I had always had a crush on him and I felt I really had a chance to be with him and he completely led me on for a week. Ugh

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:31 PM
I'm in love with a guy that is in love with my best friend, luckily she told me that she doesn't share his feelings and she finds him a bit annoying lately. What's really stupid is the thing that I was in love with another guy and he felt the same way I did and I suddenly felt in love with the guy I wrote at the beginning... Well, and now I'm all alone :tape:

:awww: well you never know, the guy who likes your best friend may wake up to his senses and start to like you :)
All is not lost yet, just keep going and something good will come I hope for you...

*Jool*
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:32 PM
May be a busy week-end w/ friends, family ? :shrug: :hug:

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:34 PM
i believe that when a person feels secure with his/hers relationship,there is no need to feel jealousy..jealousy exists when there is a reason.so i might be a bit insecure at the beginning of a relationship,but not jealous and not for long.

nah..i'm not jealous for things like that..i don't mind him looking..as long as he doesn't drool over girls on the street :lol: :p

I bet he still drools over girls when you are not around but as long as he doesn't misbehave all is good ;)
Is it possible for a guy not to drool over a hot female even if he is in the greatest relationship in the world?

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:36 PM
I'm in love with someone who works too much......he barely has time for me these days eventhough I send him a pm everyday. :sobbing:

It's requiring me to have patience..... :help:

:awww: If he loves you I'm sure he will make time for you when he can :hug:

Rocketta
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:38 PM
:awww: If he loves you I'm sure he will make time for you when he can :hug:

He Better! :armed:

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:38 PM
:awww: well you never know, the guy who likes your best friend may wake up to his senses and start to like you :)
All is not lost yet, just keep going and something good will come I hope for you...
Oh he likes me but not as much as I would like him to ;) I'm trying and trying but nothing changes. But the prom is coming (in january) and we'll see what happens :D

Rocketta
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:41 PM
OMG thank you for starting this thread. I have been wanting to vent about a situation but havent had a place to do so and I was afraid if I did it on myspace then the guy in question would read it!

So about a week ago I got the best news ever. This guy I have known for quite a while and who I always thought was the CUTEST thing ever tells me he has a crush on me. I am on cloud nine and tell him I've felt the same way for a while. So we begin hanging out and its going well. I stay the night two nights in a row and we seem to click and I'm very excited. Then Friday night comes and we dont stay at each others place but we had hung out that evening. Well, now it is Monday and I have hardly heard from him. I can tell he is being very stand offish. During the week he would text me 10 times a day and post on my myspace and call me. Since Friday night, nothing except small replies to my texts. I don't understand what happened so suddenly to change his mind. I am very afraid that he only wanted to sleep with me because we did stuff on Thursday night which is the last night we stayed together. Maybe he just wanted some and now he is going on to the next guy?! Boys suck. I still hope he calls or something, maybe he's been busy, but I think it sucks that I had always had a crush on him and I felt I really had a chance to be with him and he completely led me on for a week. Ugh

That's totally shitty if it's the reason he's been uncommunicative but he may have felt things going to fast so he's slowing himself down or he may just really be busy.......I do think if he was really trying to brush you off completely he wouldn't answer your text messages at all....he would ignore you completely.

Good luck!

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:42 PM
OMG thank you for starting this thread. I have been wanting to vent about a situation but havent had a place to do so and I was afraid if I did it on myspace then the guy in question would read it!

So about a week ago I got the best news ever. This guy I have known for quite a while and who I always thought was the CUTEST thing ever tells me he has a crush on me. I am on cloud nine and tell him I've felt the same way for a while. So we begin hanging out and its going well. I stay the night two nights in a row and we seem to click and I'm very excited. Then Friday night comes and we dont stay at each others place but we had hung out that evening. Well, now it is Monday and I have hardly heard from him. I can tell he is being very stand offish. During the week he would text me 10 times a day and post on my myspace and call me. Since Friday night, nothing except small replies to my texts. I don't understand what happened so suddenly to change his mind. I am very afraid that he only wanted to sleep with me because we did stuff on Thursday night which is the last night we stayed together. Maybe he just wanted some and now he is going on to the next guy?! Boys suck. I still hope he calls or something, maybe he's been busy, but I think it sucks that I had always had a crush on him and I felt I really had a chance to be with him and he completely led me on for a week. Ugh

As Jool says there may be an explanation, but if not go to his home, and sew some rotting fish on the inside of his curtains, he will not know where the smell is coming from and the stench will grow to a vomit inducing level of nastiness :p
Hope it works out for you, if not forget this prick and look for someone else :)

Kart
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:43 PM
He Better! :armed:

He will ;).

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:44 PM
Oh he likes me but not as much as I would like him to ;) I'm trying and trying but nothing changes. But the prom is coming (in january) and we'll see what happens :D

Ok, good luck then, I hope you go together :couple:

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:48 PM
Ok, good luck then, I hope you go together :couple:
I hope so too :devil:

mrs.nadal
Oct 2nd, 2006, 07:59 PM
my boyfriend moved away to go to university last year. i finished with him because i didnt want him to start resenting me for him not being able to "live it large" while he was there. (i suppose i was just scared he was going to cheat on me :sad: ). He said he would never do that but i just didnt trust him :( I was sobbing my little heart out for a month solid and listening to Genesis - "in too deep" over and over again. oh, im gonna stop now otherwise i'll start crying again :sobbing:

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:04 PM
my boyfriend moved away to go to university last year. i finished with him because i didnt want him to start resenting me for him not being able to "live it large" while he was there. (i suppose i was just scared he was going to cheat on me :sad: ). He said he would never do that but i just didnt trust him :( I was sobbing my little heart out for a month solid and listening to Genesis - "in too deep" over and over again. oh, im gonna stop now otherwise i'll start crying again :sobbing:

:awww: Maybe there a chance you could get back together in the future?

mrs.nadal
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:11 PM
:awww: Maybe there a chance you could get back together in the future?

hm, maybe, but i dont think so :awww:
Still, plenty more fish in the sea, right?

Rocketta
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:21 PM
He will ;).

:smooch:

Kart
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:22 PM
:smooch:

:hug:

Assuming of course the 18 year old virgin isn't forced on me in the coming week :tape:.

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:31 PM
hm, maybe, but i dont think so :awww:
Still, plenty more fish in the sea, right?

Yep, there are loads of guys out there for you, some are idiots though but I'm sure you can find a good one ;)

furrykitten
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:35 PM
this thread is depressing.
seriously. :awww:

i hope everything works out for all of you. :hug:

Thankyou, hope it all goes well for you too :hug:

Rocketta
Oct 2nd, 2006, 08:39 PM
:hug:

Assuming of course the 18 year old virgin isn't forced on me in the coming week :tape:.

Hah, you better be strong!!!!! I don't care how cute or docile the prospects are.........nor the financial benefits........You know what you got to do. ;)

Besides don't make me have to go to London early. :(

No Name Face
Oct 2nd, 2006, 09:26 PM
now it's like we're total strangers.
i'm a strong believer in that you can't feel strongly for someone who you've never met/don't have proximity to, but maybe i'm wrong.

MinnyGophers
Oct 2nd, 2006, 09:46 PM
How about realizing too late that someone you like also likes you.
Or better yet, realizing that someone you like also likes you, but not doing anything about it, and now regretting it since you do not see that person anymore.

BigB08822
Oct 2nd, 2006, 10:01 PM
Thanks Rocketta and FurryKitten. I think perhaps he thought things were going too fast but I don't really know why, we never once had a talk about our status. I considered us to just be talking and never used the word boyfriend or dating or anything around him. Oh well, maybe he got what he wanted. Good for me, cause I wanted it too, lol! Next please :)

Shonami Slam
Oct 3rd, 2006, 01:50 AM
i've a stupid, silly crush on my commanding officer, and there is no chance for anything because he's not gay - but for me the worst part is that he trusts me, he's a good friend and someone i appriciate, and by having feelings for him i'm fucking it all up, not to mention our friendship is already unethical and looked at oddly by some.
i desperatly need to get off him - i'm definatly not bieng a trustworthy friend atm.

BigB08822
Oct 3rd, 2006, 03:48 AM
So how about the guy starts talking to me again tonight, out of nowhere. Maybe I overreacted and he just wanted some space for a day or two or was busy. Oh well, I'm not holding my breath for anything anymore, I learned that lesson. I'm just going to see where it goes now, one day at a time.

elena_k
Oct 3rd, 2006, 10:06 PM
I bet he still drools over girls when you are not around but as long as he doesn't misbehave all is good ;)
Is it possible for a guy not to drool over a hot female even if he is in the greatest relationship in the world?
hmmm...i don't think i can answer that..i have no idea..in fact you're the one that should enlighten me :baby: :p

esquímaux
Oct 4th, 2006, 12:11 AM
Hmmm...I don't shop in the love department for the time being. Right now, it's all about me making me happy :)

mirzalover
Oct 4th, 2006, 12:28 AM
i've been in love with this one girl since she moved from new york to north carolina back when will both where in 7th grade(2001) were seniors in high school now(2006) . she used to like me when she first moved here and her way of showing that was just driving me crazy all the damn time so of course i hated her until 9th grade (2003) when i came to realize that was her way of showing that she liked me but of course she no longer liked me so i moved on and then i heard that she was crushing on me again two years later but she had just broken up with my cousin so she was sort of off limits, so i just ignored all of her advances all year long cause i really didnt want to hurt my cousin but i was convinced at the start of our senior year to go after her but of course she had a boyfriend :sad: ( and he is hot i know this because i'm bi and believe me when i say he is hot i'm mean hot -- i'm hot to but i dont work out like this guy he has the six pack and everything :fiery: )

Couver
Oct 4th, 2006, 05:19 AM
OMG I never thought I'd post in this thread again, but here I am :o I've become such a stupid bitch. After finally getting over that crush from last semester I find a brand spanking new one to throw myself into. I don't know what happend to me, I used to be a total Ice Queen, but after that one crush it's like I can't stop them anymore. And it's the same shit as last time. I got vibes, but this time I tried to send vibes back sooner than last time, only now I'm getting mixed signals and I'm pretty sure there's a 90% chance I misread those signals anyway and clearly inept and useless at reading people.

I hate feeling like this. If it doesn't stop I'm transfering to the bible college next to my campus and becoming a nun, or a pornstar. Either way I won't need to worry about relationships.

furrykitten
Oct 5th, 2006, 06:10 PM
hmmm...i don't think i can answer that..i have no idea..in fact you're the one that should enlighten me :baby: :p

Yeah he will still look and drool but not when his girlfriend is around ;)

MinnyGophers
Oct 5th, 2006, 09:23 PM
OMG I never thought I'd post in this thread again, but here I am :o I've become such a stupid bitch. After finally getting over that crush from last semester I find a brand spanking new one to throw myself into. I don't know what happend to me, I used to be a total Ice Queen, but after that one crush it's like I can't stop them anymore. And it's the same shit as last time. I got vibes, but this time I tried to send vibes back sooner than last time, only now I'm getting mixed signals and I'm pretty sure there's a 90% chance I misread those signals anyway and clearly inept and useless at reading people.

I hate feeling like this. If it doesn't stop I'm transfering to the bible college next to my campus and becoming a nun, or a pornstar. Either way I won't need to worry about relationships.

I know gosh, the hardest is reading the signals... is it flirting? Is it just being friendly? What the heck? I can detect flirting from people I don't give a crap about, but it's the one you like that you're never sure about...

Couver
Oct 5th, 2006, 09:28 PM
I know gosh, the hardest is reading the signals... is it flirting? Is it just being friendly? What the heck? I can detect flirting from people I don't give a crap about, but it's the one you like that you're never sure about...

OMG exactly! And it's really frustrating. Like how do you respond, do you flirt back...but what if they aren't flirting? But then what if they are and you totally ignore them? :o

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 5th, 2006, 09:50 PM
I know gosh, the hardest is reading the signals... is it flirting? Is it just being friendly? What the heck? I can detect flirting from people I don't give a crap about, but it's the one you like that you're never sure about...
So true... I never know that and I guess that's why I had heartbroken few times :tape:
But today it was one of my happiest days this year if we're talking about love so I won't complain that much about those misleading signals :angel:

Couver
Oct 5th, 2006, 11:33 PM
So true... I never know that and I guess that's why I had heartbroken few times :tape:
But today it was one of my happiest days this year if we're talking about love so I won't complain that much about those misleading signals :angel:

I'm jealous :sad: Today was one of my worst days for mixed signals and I ended up looking like a total fool :o (gosh I'm using this smiely a lot, but it just fits)

skanky~skanketta
Oct 6th, 2006, 12:24 AM
well, i was just thinking about this ex-housemate i have... and it's depressing. we hooked up a few times...but nothing more though i was totaly smitten by him...it was never gonna work cuz 1: he just turned 20 and is just getting started on his degree while i'm almost done with my masters. 2: he was here on an exchange program.

and i'm so retarded!when he left i actually took his towel. and i haven't washed it. and i cant bring myself to do it.

*abby*
Oct 6th, 2006, 08:53 AM
well not sure i should be posting cos im not eart broken but i have a feeling that if i carry on the way i am doing then maybe i will be heart broken before long
im at uni and im in a relationship with the most incredible guy its been almost 2 years and i can seriously see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
im at uni and he is miles away at home. hes just got a job so he cant really come see me which means i might not see him till christmas bt that is something weve come to terms with.
this is where the problem is. hes 2 years younger than me so now he is starting to look at unis. thats obviously something i want to be involved in as its such a major decision i want to be there with him and support him in his choices but im not and my best friend is.(shes the same age and goin thru exactly the same thing) she is in a relationship with an awful guy and isnt hppy. she doesnt have many girl friends apart from me so she talks to adam loads. he is always round at her house either with her or cos her brother invited him over.her mum practically loves him and i can tell she wishes that her daughter was goin out with adam!
so now theyre spending loads of time together and going off to all these unis together.
also when i was with my first serious boyfriend he cheated on me with my best friend of the time so obviously very wary but what do i do i dont wanna drive him crazy or worse push him away

elena_k
Oct 6th, 2006, 09:03 AM
Yeah he will still look and drool but not when his girlfriend is around ;)

:bigcry: :lol: joking..

well i guess it's a natural thing...if it's just for fun,it's ok..but if he/she looks for other possible lovers,that's not ok..

elena_k
Oct 6th, 2006, 09:06 AM
well not sure i should be posting cos im not eart broken but i have a feeling that if i carry on the way i am doing then maybe i will be heart broken before long
im at uni and im in a relationship with the most incredible guy its been almost 2 years and i can seriously see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
im at uni and he is miles away at home. hes just got a job so he cant really come see me which means i might not see him till christmas bt that is something weve come to terms with.
this is where the problem is. hes 2 years younger than me so now he is starting to look at unis. thats obviously something i want to be involved in as its such a major decision i want to be there with him and support him in his choices but im not and my best friend is.(shes the same age and goin thru exactly the same thing) she is in a relationship with an awful guy and isnt hppy. she doesnt have many girl friends apart from me so she talks to adam loads. he is always round at her house either with her or cos her brother invited him over.her mum practically loves him and i can tell she wishes that her daughter was goin out with adam!
so now theyre spending loads of time together and going off to all these unis together.
also when i was with my first serious boyfriend he cheated on me with my best friend of the time so obviously very wary but what do i do i dont wanna drive him crazy or worse push him away
i'm so sorry to hear that :hug: the only thing you can do is to keep him close to you by the ways you can..if you become distant now,what you are afraid of is more possible to happen..good luck :)

*abby*
Oct 6th, 2006, 09:10 AM
the thing is we are really really close we text each other all day and then when we both go to bed i ring him every night so we talk all the time.
hes the sort of guy who wants to share every part of his life with me so hes always telling me what hes doing even when hes with her which makes me feel jealous cos she is really funny so they always have a good time and she is drop dead gorgeous!before me and adam got together every one thought he liked her including me! so anyway he said that if he didnt text me when he was with her hed feel like he was hiding something and he doesnt want to do that!so he tells me and i start to feel bad
i really dont want to lose him hes the best thing that has ever happened to me

Rocketta
Oct 6th, 2006, 02:02 PM
the thing is we are really really close we text each other all day and then when we both go to bed i ring him every night so we talk all the time.
hes the sort of guy who wants to share every part of his life with me so hes always telling me what hes doing even when hes with her which makes me feel jealous cos she is really funny so they always have a good time and she is drop dead gorgeous!before me and adam got together every one thought he liked her including me! so anyway he said that if he didnt text me when he was with her hed feel like he was hiding something and he doesnt want to do that!so he tells me and i start to feel bad
i really dont want to lose him hes the best thing that has ever happened to me

The only thing you can do is to trust your boyfriend if you feel he is trustworthy. There is absolultely nothing you can do to prevent him from cheating if that is in his heart. What you can do is push him away by not trusting him. So he may not cheat on you but he won't want someone who has so little faith in him.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to work on you so that you feel comfortable enough to know that you can handle and be ok, despite anything that he does or doesn't do. This way you'll be free to enjoy what you do have instead of worrying about losing it.

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 6th, 2006, 06:39 PM
I'm jealous :sad: Today was one of my worst days for mixed signals and I ended up looking like a total fool :o (gosh I'm using this smiely a lot, but it just fits)
Well, the previous day was perfect and today it was just nothing more than pathetic... The guy I'm in love with showed me today that I have just no chances, he's still in love with my best friend, although she has a boyfriend now :tape:

furrykitten
Oct 6th, 2006, 06:53 PM
When all said and done I think at the first sign of feeling like you are falling in love, run in the opposite direction as quickly as possible, that way you avoid the inevitable pain and emotional turmoil ;)

greenbanana
Oct 6th, 2006, 06:55 PM
this was the worst day ever - the one i love finally took out a restraining order :sad: i had planned to stand outside her bedroom window all night - got nothing to do now

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 6th, 2006, 07:41 PM
When all said and done I think at the first sign of feeling like you are falling in love, run in the opposite direction as quickly as possible, that way you avoid the inevitable pain and emotional turmoil ;)
Too late here ;) Unfortunetaly I can't throw this guy out of my heart :sad:
The next time I'll be more careful before falling in love...

furrykitten
Oct 6th, 2006, 07:51 PM
Too late here ;) Unfortunetaly I can't throw this guy out of my heart :sad:
The next time I'll be more careful before falling in love...

:awww: Poor girl, yes, remember to avoid the love bug at all times because it makes you feel very sick! :(
So how long you been in love?

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 6th, 2006, 08:24 PM
:awww: Poor girl, yes, remember to avoid the love bug at all times because it makes you feel very sick! :(
So how long you been in love?
Let me think... I've been in love with him for almost 2 years now with short breaks when I thought I stopped loving him...

furrykitten
Oct 6th, 2006, 08:36 PM
Let me think... I've been in love with him for almost 2 years now with short breaks when I thought I stopped loving him...

Aww sweet, do you ever look at other guys or is it only him you can think of?

Harju.
Oct 6th, 2006, 08:39 PM
A big :hug: for everyone here.

Kim's_fan_4ever
Oct 6th, 2006, 08:40 PM
Aww sweet, do you ever look at other guys or is it only him you can think of?
Of course I look at other guys, I'm searching for a guy that will replace him in my heart but I can't find even a one that comes close to him, sadly...

Couver
Oct 7th, 2006, 01:12 AM
Well, the previous day was perfect and today it was just nothing more than pathetic... The guy I'm in love with showed me today that I have just no chances, he's still in love with my best friend, although she has a boyfriend now :tape:

I'm sorry to hear that :sad: That's the worst feeling, when you think there's this small glimmer of hope and then the door just gets slammed in your face.

furrykitten
Oct 19th, 2006, 10:16 PM
Well I thought I'd bring this thread back again as I'm feeling like I'm all alone in the world at the moment, why doesn't this feeling ever go away? :sad: