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Vincent
Jun 21st, 2006, 12:49 PM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?

ClaudiaZ-S
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:05 PM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?

No :confused: Have U got pb in ur family?

iPatty
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:14 PM
Well you've obviously answered the thread question. :shrug:

I don't hate my parents.

"Sluggy"
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:24 PM
The answer is YES. Almost anything is possible.

Be careful though, best to say you hate your Father. Hating your Mother is very shameful thing to say, nobody will trust you. some people might understand it, and it might even be justified, but is shameful to say.

rebel_ffighter
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:26 PM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?


Thats a brave thing to say,most people react badly when u tell them that u dont love ur parents(usually one of them),I understand u must show gratitude towards them for giving u life but u dont owe them everything,u are still an individual and they must gain ur love not demand it.I believe u must have a reason for feeling so so I am not to judge u and ur feelings,I can only hope u work things out with ur father but even if u dont its not the end of the world,move on with ur life.:hug:

Pengwin
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:26 PM
I think it's very hard, these are the people who created you and raised you in their home. These are also the people who will always genuinely care about you no matter what.

Grohl
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:56 PM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?
i completely understand you.
ppl tell me quite often that it's not possible that I "hate" my dad, but I really really really do!

Grohl
Jun 21st, 2006, 01:57 PM
These are also the people who will always genuinely care about you no matter what.
they should care about you no matter what,
but sometimes they don't
sometimes they think about themselves too much for that
and they don't have the abbility to care for anybody else as much as they do for themself.

Scotso
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:15 PM
I almost hate my father, almost. I think it's possible.

Josh
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:19 PM
I don't think you can hate somebody if you don't care about that person. Which is understandable since it's still your father...

Beat
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:24 PM
of course it's possible, just as it is possible to hate your own children. it's extremely sad when that happens, but it does happen.

Grohl
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:29 PM
I don't think you can hate somebody if you don't care about that person. Which is understandable since it's still your father...
you can't talk of "hate" when you never "loved" the person,
but since it's about parents, it's possible that you once loved them, but now hate them

VeeDaQueen
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:29 PM
hate is a very strong word. i don't hate anyone. but i seriously cannot even stand to look at some people :)

Mateo Mathieu
Jun 21st, 2006, 02:58 PM
Almost everyone don't like their father more than their mother, anyway.

Cariaoke
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:00 PM
Well I've never loved my father so I can't hate him. I guess I'm indifferent... that's the worst you could be. ;)

pimpie
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:06 PM
Almost everyone don't like their father more than their mother, anyway.

not true :(
I love them both equally

rebel_ffighter
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:16 PM
Almost everyone don't like their father more than their mother, anyway.

not true at all

controlfreak
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:28 PM
My father is more annoying than my mother. I wonder why it is so much more common for the father to be more annoying? Do you think that men have higher expectations than women or are they just less tolerant?

tonythetiger
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:30 PM
Hate is a strong word. I guess the better question is why do you hate him? Is he a decent father? I would only dislike my parents if I felt they mistreated me or abused me mentally or sexually. If they deny you things or hold high expectations for you then that is not deserving of hate. Being a good parent mean loving with correct and healthy discipline.

"Sluggy"
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:33 PM
good luck with hating your parents - i hope it works out for you :kiss: :p

Craigy
Jun 21st, 2006, 03:47 PM
A while ago I was really upset with my dad, and didn't want him in my life. I threw things at him, hit him etc etc. But I dunno if it can be called hate.
However, we seem to be getting on better now.

saki
Jun 21st, 2006, 04:12 PM
I don't hate my mother but I don't love her either. She did her best but she had horrible post-natal depression (months in a psychiatric facility kind of bad), used to shout at me constantly for things that weren't really my fault (once shouted at me every time she saw me for a month because I spilt some milk), developed horrible manic depression such that my dad and I have both had to sign sectioning papers for her and look after her and.. even when she's not mentally ill, she's interfering, intrusive, manipulative and just plain unpleasant to be around.

I know she cares about me and she does her best, that's why I don't hate her but I can't find it in me to love her either.

*shrug* The way I see it, I got one of the best fathers in all the world and so I'm still a pretty damn lucky girl.

tonythetiger
Jun 21st, 2006, 04:31 PM
I don't hate my mother but I don't love her either. She did her best but she had horrible post-natal depression (months in a psychiatric facility kind of bad), used to shout at me constantly for things that weren't really my fault (once shouted at me every time she saw me for a month because I spilt some milk), developed horrible manic depression such that my dad and I have both had to sign sectioning papers for her and look after her and.. even when she's not mentally ill, she's interfering, intrusive, manipulative and just plain unpleasant to be around.

I know she cares about me and she does her best, that's why I don't hate her but I can't find it in me to love her either.

*shrug* The way I see it, I got one of the best fathers in all the world and so I'm still a pretty damn lucky girl.

:sad: :hug:

Vincent
Jun 21st, 2006, 05:10 PM
Things have past really, and I don't want to repeat the story again. One thing that I am sure: it's not possible for me to forgive him in the near future.

P.S. He is the only person that can make me cry for so many times...and probably the ONLY person I have so much hatre on.

Grohl
Jun 21st, 2006, 05:19 PM
Things have past really, and I don't want to repeat the story again. One thing that I am sure: it's not possible for me to forgive him in the near future.

P.S. He is the only person that can make me cry for so many times...and probably the ONLY person I have so much hatre on.
I soooo understand you!
:hug:

Stamp Paid
Jun 21st, 2006, 05:34 PM
Yes, its VERY possible.

KClijsters
Jun 21st, 2006, 05:43 PM
Yeah, I think it's possible.
But I don't hate my parents :)

ClaudiaZ-S
Jun 21st, 2006, 07:18 PM
No sexual abuse I hope! :hug:

Lord Nelson
Jun 21st, 2006, 07:45 PM
No sexual abuse I hope! :hug:
On the parents? No chance. :lol: :p ;)

Wigglytuff
Jun 21st, 2006, 07:46 PM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?

yes it is possible, if they are physically or sexually abusive its justified.

Jakeev
Jun 21st, 2006, 10:18 PM
I hated my mom until about 1995 and I never hated my father even though he was a rather selfish man.

When it got down to it, neither parent was one that I would have wished for. They were not monsters, but just not people that should have been parents.

Today though, I love my mother death as she is now (although the past does occasionally drift over in my memories) and although my dad is gone, I try to only keep the great memories I have of him.

tennisboi
Jun 21st, 2006, 10:21 PM
Hate is a very strong word but yeah i can understand when people hate their parents

Scotso
Jun 21st, 2006, 11:32 PM
Things have past really, and I don't want to repeat the story again. One thing that I am sure: it's not possible for me to forgive him in the near future.

P.S. He is the only person that can make me cry for so many times...and probably the ONLY person I have so much hatre on.

:hug:

Kenny
Jun 22nd, 2006, 03:08 AM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?'

You're not alone. I HATE my spermdonor. (He's not really one.. he's just not a father to me.) He has ruined our lives over and over again, and yes I will hate him forever. However, I don't hate him.. like let it consume me.. he's just nothing to me. Nothing at all. Just a sad soul in the world.

Shuji Shuriken
Jun 22nd, 2006, 03:14 AM
I hate my father. So yeah...it is

LoveFifteen
Jun 22nd, 2006, 04:08 AM
To hate your parents are never easy, there must be a very complicated story behind. I hate my father, and please don't get me wrong, I really HATE him.

Do you have similar experience as me?

Come on, Justine, stop wasting time on the internet. Get back out there on the practice courts. We don't want another first-round exit at this year's Wimbledon! :angel:

=================================

Okay, just kidding. I guess it is possible to hate your parents, but it's pretty rare. My dad's hurt me so badly, and it deeply disappoints me that he's been a horrible father. I strongly recommend getting counseling because talking things out with a therapist can help a lot. It's beautiful when you learn to stop hating a parent and learn to forgive that parent, even when s/he doesn't deserve it. There is a liberating beauty in forgiving someone.

LefandePatty
Jun 22nd, 2006, 04:33 AM
A while ago I was really upset with my dad, and didn't want him in my life. I threw things at him, hit him etc etc.

:scared:

Rocketta
Jun 22nd, 2006, 05:42 AM
Well it's definitely possible to hate a parent, i mean there are some evil people in the world. Sorry your relationship with your dad isn't any good. I definitely went through periods of severly disliking my parents but I've definitely worked on that and have come to terms with the fact that I can love my parents and not like their personalities at the same time. :shrug:

Vincent
Jun 22nd, 2006, 05:49 AM
Thanks everyone for giving me advice.

Special hug for Rocketta and chaotic :hug::hug:

Rocketta
Jun 22nd, 2006, 05:51 AM
You're welcome, sweetie. I hope all works out for you. :hug:

Vincent
Jun 22nd, 2006, 05:54 AM
You're welcome, sweetie. I hope all works out for you. :hug:
:sad: Thank you Rocketta, I think it's just incredible you have been supportive to me. I know it. Even little words from you would make me feel much better. :kiss: :hug:

Rocketta
Jun 22nd, 2006, 05:59 AM
:sad: Thank you Rocketta, I think it's just incredible you have been supportive to me. I know it. Even little words from you would make me feel much better. :kiss: :hug:

:awww:

That really is sweet and believe me you've made me smile with this post so the feeling is definitely mutual. :hug: :kiss:

MisterQ
Jun 22nd, 2006, 07:14 AM
I'm sorry you're having such trouble with your dad, Vincent. I hope things can improve somehow. In the meantime, keep your chin up. :hug:

switz
Jun 22nd, 2006, 07:18 AM
Almost everyone don't like their father more than their mother, anyway.

i must have missed the Harvard Study that came up with those results :lol:

Sally Struthers
Jun 22nd, 2006, 07:29 AM
Well I don't know the story between you and your father or what it could be but I will say this. All parents have a dream about how their kids will be and when it turns out that the kids don't live up to the expecations of what they had in mind or not as they had planned, some of them don't handle it all that well initially. Hopefull both you and your father will get past whatever it is you're feuding about and will be able to reconcile. Stop hating. It makes you bitter and lonely in the end.

Beat
Jun 22nd, 2006, 10:02 AM
I don't hate my mother but I don't love her either. She did her best but she had horrible post-natal depression (months in a psychiatric facility kind of bad), used to shout at me constantly for things that weren't really my fault (once shouted at me every time she saw me for a month because I spilt some milk), developed horrible manic depression such that my dad and I have both had to sign sectioning papers for her and look after her and.. even when she's not mentally ill, she's interfering, intrusive, manipulative and just plain unpleasant to be around.

I know she cares about me and she does her best, that's why I don't hate her but I can't find it in me to love her either.

*shrug* The way I see it, I got one of the best fathers in all the world and so I'm still a pretty damn lucky girl.

your post impressed me very much, saki.

>>krew<<
Jun 22nd, 2006, 12:23 PM
Yeah...its possible to hate your parents...i mean some of the things parents do makes you question whether they really love you...like abuse and stuff like that...then the kid has every right to hate their parents...it really does depend on the scenario...but over little things like when you're angry with them or whatever thats not hate...

timray
Jun 23rd, 2006, 12:28 AM
Maybe, it's more like a big disappointment.

dav abu
Jun 23rd, 2006, 12:56 AM
It is definitely possible to hate your parents.