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CoryAnnAvants#1
May 20th, 2006, 06:57 AM
So here's what happened.

Last week I was at a party, got kinda smashed, and was talking to my straight friend's girlfriend. We ended up making out for about ten seconds in that way drunk people do. Well, my friend got REALLY pissed, stormed out of the room yelling about how I could do that, blah blah...

Things got worked out eventually, but I found it interesting how my friends were completely split on the issue. Half of them thought I shouldn't have done it and it was disrespectful, while the other half basically said "You're gay, what the fuck could have possibly happened there? He's overreacting."

So...even though it's done with, I'm still curious as to how people would handle that situation personally...

AjdeNate!
May 20th, 2006, 07:03 AM
You shouldn't have done it, and do owe your friend an apology. Hopefully he'll see it was just a drunken moment and be at peace with it. Still, I can sort of see his being upset. He does, however, need to know that it was intended as an innocent thing and not in anyway to take his woman.

Jakeev
May 20th, 2006, 07:15 AM
:spit: So that's what it takes for a gay to kiss a girl?


:lol: :lol: :lol:

rebel_ffighter
May 20th, 2006, 07:21 AM
You shouldnt have done it,u are gay but that is not an excuse for kissing ur friends' girlfriends for fun!

Do u think I would find it nice if some of my female straight friends was kissing my girlfriend??.............................
No,I would find it amazing and ask her to join us in the bedroom!!!LOL

smiler
May 20th, 2006, 02:31 PM
Disgraceful behaviour, you absolutely should not have done it. You're lucky that things got worked out, it would take me a long while to forgive something like that.

Scotso
May 20th, 2006, 02:48 PM
You got lucky. If I was your friend, I would probably have broken your face. If you had fucked her while you were drunk, would you still have used the "I'm gay" defense? It's no excuse, what you did was a complete betrayal.

neptuneslims
May 20th, 2006, 02:52 PM
Why exactly were you making out with her?

^bibi^
May 20th, 2006, 03:03 PM
Being gay and drunk is no excuse, you don't go kissing a friend's girlfriend (nor a friend's boyfriend btw)...

Rocketta
May 20th, 2006, 03:49 PM
I think you should stop drinking if it allows you to kiss your friends girlfriend because that's almost as disrespectful as sleeping with her. Being gay doesn't give you a pass to violate a friends trust in you or a pass to disrespect people. Same goes for his girlfriend....bad form.

LostGlory
May 20th, 2006, 03:51 PM
My friend's girl friends, Boy Friends, are off limit even when they break up.....Friendship is sacred to me.....Now if you were drunk that means you were not in the position to make good judgment, and 10 Secs is hardly enough time to cause any serious harm, so I guess you could apologize to your friend and admit it was a mistake kissing his girl friend and hope he will forget about it......

Ems__
May 20th, 2006, 04:01 PM
While we're in here, I need help from the gay guys in here...I have a guy friend and he's really awesome but I'm trying to figure out if he's gay or not (but I dont want to be blunt and ask him, just in case he isn't)...Okay so here's the deal; he has an awesome dress sense for a guy, he hangs out mostly with guys, he always notices my clothing when I get something new etc...like last week he said he liked some chick's shoes. And another clue, he said something about how Italian girls werent that pretty but Italian guys were hot. But then tonight he invited me to his friends party cause he said he'd bored cause they needed more girls. I dunno..maybe he's Bi...but what are your guys opinions anyway?

drake3781
May 20th, 2006, 04:10 PM
I can hardly believe it......... a thread where EVERYBODY shows good sense in how they answered the question!!! I really do think this is a "first" !! And EVERYONE in the thread agrees with the same thing?!?!? Amazing. :eek:

drake3781
May 20th, 2006, 04:14 PM
While we're in here, I need help from the gay guys in here...I have a guy friend and he's really awesome but I'm trying to figure out if he's gay or not (but I dont want to be blunt and ask him, just in case he isn't)...Okay so here's the deal; he has an awesome dress sense for a guy, he hangs out mostly with guys, he always notices my clothing when I get something new etc...like last week he said he liked some chick's shoes. And another clue, he said something about how Italian girls werent that pretty but Italian guys were hot. But then tonight he invited me to his friends party cause he said he'd bored cause they needed more girls. I dunno..maybe he's Bi...but what are your guys opinions anyway?

My opinion based on experience is that you should ask him, so you can hear it from him. Otherwise you could go on for years with that strange question in your relationship....... I have guys I've not been sure about for over 10 years!! And I always wish I had just asked up-front right when we started getting friendly. Once you get past a certain point in knowing someone, it's rmuch more awkward to ask.

Scotso
May 20th, 2006, 08:51 PM
While we're in here, I need help from the gay guys in here...I have a guy friend and he's really awesome but I'm trying to figure out if he's gay or not (but I dont want to be blunt and ask him, just in case he isn't)...Okay so here's the deal; he has an awesome dress sense for a guy, he hangs out mostly with guys, he always notices my clothing when I get something new etc...like last week he said he liked some chick's shoes. And another clue, he said something about how Italian girls werent that pretty but Italian guys were hot. But then tonight he invited me to his friends party cause he said he'd bored cause they needed more girls. I dunno..maybe he's Bi...but what are your guys opinions anyway?

Just because he has good taste, it doesn't mean he's gay. If you really want to know, just ask him.

Dana Marcy
May 20th, 2006, 09:52 PM
So here's what happened.

Last week I was at a party, got kinda smashed, and was talking to my straight friend's girlfriend. We ended up making out for about ten seconds in that way drunk people do. Well, my friend got REALLY pissed, stormed out of the room yelling about how I could do that, blah blah...

Things got worked out eventually, but I found it interesting how my friends were completely split on the issue. Half of them thought I shouldn't have done it and it was disrespectful, while the other half basically said "You're gay, what the fuck could have possibly happened there? He's overreacting."

So...even though it's done with, I'm still curious as to how people would handle that situation personally...

What I wanna know is...

Does this mean that you're bisexual (you said you're gay)? If you say you're gay why would being drunk make you make out with a girl? :scratch: Also are you sorry you did it? Is the straight dude a good friend? I can't form an opinion until I know at least those things.

alfonsojose
May 20th, 2006, 10:39 PM
you did it wrong and i wouldn't consider u a friend anymore. Being gay is irrelevant

CoryAnnAvants#1
May 20th, 2006, 10:47 PM
What I wanna know is...

Does this mean that you're bisexual (you said you're gay)? If you say you're gay why would being drunk make you make out with a girl? :scratch: Also are you sorry you did it? Is the straight dude a good friend? I can't form an opinion until I know at least those things.

I'm not bi. The making out thing was totally innocent...not as though either of us were aroused by it. It's like when straight girls get drunk and make out to get the guys all riled up.

The guy is a good friend of mine though. I already apologized (even though to be honest, I still don't see the huge issue, although I obviously didn't say that) and he accepted. So we're totally fine on that end. I'm just curious as to what people thought because my friends were literally split down the middle on the issue. The straight friend is also referred to by a few of us as Eeyore though (like the Winnie the Pooh character) because although he's a great guy, he tends to be very melancholy and emo about most situations. He was definitely going to make a production out of it. A lot of my friends (of both genders) said they would have laughed had their significant other done the same thing, although we all tend to be on the bohemian/extremely liberal side of things.

I've been on the reverse side of the situation as well. My ex-boyfriend briefly made out with a girl when we were dating and called me up to let me know what happened the next morning. I legitimately didn't care though. I just didn't see the huge issue unless he were bisexual...there's no way he could have possibly gotten pleasure from it.

smiler
May 20th, 2006, 11:19 PM
The guy is a good friend of mine though. I already apologized (even though to be honest, I still don't see the huge issue, although I obviously didn't say that) and he accepted.


:shrug: How can you not see this is a betrayal? I'm glad you're not my friend.


It's like when straight girls get drunk and make out to get the guys all riled up.

I can't stand this kind of girl. :(

Scotso
May 20th, 2006, 11:48 PM
:shrug: How can you not see this is a betrayal? I'm glad you're not my friend.

I agree.

Summer Snow
May 21st, 2006, 12:00 AM
:hug:

Dana Marcy
May 21st, 2006, 10:07 PM
I'm not bi. The making out thing was totally innocent...not as though either of us were aroused by it. It's like when straight girls get drunk and make out to get the guys all riled up.

I get the totally innocent thing but that doesn't take away from the fact that you french kissed some dude's girl AND she went along with it. Also it does NOT make it acceptable just because your gay.

The guy is a good friend of mine though. I already apologized (even though to be honest, I still don't see the huge issue, although I obviously didn't say that) and he accepted.

Based on what you've told us I would NOT consider him a good friend of yours (or you a good friend of his) if you're going to disrespect his relationship like that. I don't care if the reality is that he and the girl you kissed are dating casually. You still crossed a line that comes with the territory of being GOOD friends with someone.

So we're totally fine on that end. I'm just curious as to what people thought because my friends were literally split down the middle on the issue. The straight friend is also referred to by a few of us as Eeyore though (like the Winnie the Pooh character) because although he's a great guy, he tends to be very melancholy and emo about most situations.

It (him being over emotional and what not) sounds like that's your excuse for doing what you did. IF he was a friend you REALLY care about would you have still done it?

He was definitely going to make a production out of it.

Can you blame him? You and his girlfriend in a some state of drunkeness TOLD HIM EXACTLY WHAT YOU THOUGHT OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP (which is very little obviously). I don't blame him if he was crushed. I'd feel that way also.

A lot of my friends (of both genders) said they would have laughed had their significant other done the same thing, although we all tend to be on the bohemian/extremely liberal side of things.

I get the whole boho/liberal vibe because my hubby is just like that. HOWEVER, I do NOT associate tossing aside someone's feelings just so you and a friend can pull a little joke to laugh about with your crew later with being boho/liberal. It's just immature and selfish.

I've been on the reverse side of the situation as well. My ex-boyfriend briefly made out with a girl when we were dating and called me up to let me know what happened the next morning. I legitimately didn't care though. I just didn't see the huge issue unless he were bisexual...there's no way he could have possibly gotten pleasure from it.

Doesn't matter that you don't see the issue because YOU ARE NOT HIM OR ANYBODY ELSE. The way you react to something and the things you find trivial are just YOUR feelings and opinions.

Helen Lawson
May 21st, 2006, 10:19 PM
Hon, don't be so hard on yourself. You're not the first, nor last, person to get drunk and make out with a friend's love interest. It's a mistake and don't do it again, but most of us know it's a mistake because we've done it before ourselves.

victormaņo
May 21st, 2006, 11:54 PM
please drink only coke because you become crazy when you drink alcoholic drinks :devil:

¤CharlDa¤
May 21st, 2006, 11:58 PM
I also kissed my best friend's girlfriend on friday! It was a game though ;)

Rtael
May 22nd, 2006, 03:35 AM
You kissed a girl. I think we need to throw you out of the club.

¤CharlDa¤
May 22nd, 2006, 03:36 AM
Well he never said he enjoyed it :lol:

cellophane
May 22nd, 2006, 03:56 AM
Apparently nobody in this thread ever did stupid things in their lives. :rolleyes:

CJ07
May 22nd, 2006, 04:23 AM
Thats not ok. You just don't do that.

And in all honestly while it makes her look like a dumb slut, I'd be more mad at you because as the friend...you just don't do that :shrug:

I mean, it happens though. C'est la vie.

vogus
May 22nd, 2006, 04:26 AM
So here's what happened.

Last week I was at a party, got kinda smashed, and was talking to my straight friend's girlfriend. We ended up making out for about ten seconds in that way drunk people do. Well, my friend got REALLY pissed, stormed out of the room yelling about how I could do that, blah blah...

Things got worked out eventually, but I found it interesting how my friends were completely split on the issue. Half of them thought I shouldn't have done it and it was disrespectful, while the other half basically said "You're gay, what the fuck could have possibly happened there? He's overreacting."

So...even though it's done with, I'm still curious as to how people would handle that situation personally...


you're gay male too? Good lord it must be like 95% of this board...

drake3781
May 22nd, 2006, 04:31 AM
you're gay male too? Good lord it must be like 95% of this board...

You're just figuring that out? :lol: Nah, I'd guess it's about 60% gay/ 40% straight, and of the 60%, they are 75% male. (BTW, between you and me, I'm right about a certain someone, too.)

vogus
May 22nd, 2006, 04:32 AM
You're just figuring that out? :lol: Nah, I'd guess it's about 60% gay/ 40% straight, and of the 60%, they are 75% male. (BTW, between you and me, I'm right about a certain someone, too.)


how are you so sure you're right?

drake3781
May 22nd, 2006, 04:33 AM
how are you so sure you're right?

I'll PM you some links when I get time...... later this week.

CanadianBoy21
May 22nd, 2006, 07:15 AM
While we're in here, I need help from the gay guys in here...I have a guy friend and he's really awesome but I'm trying to figure out if he's gay or not (but I dont want to be blunt and ask him, just in case he isn't)...Okay so here's the deal; he has an awesome dress sense for a guy, he hangs out mostly with guys, he always notices my clothing when I get something new etc...like last week he said he liked some chick's shoes. And another clue, he said something about how Italian girls werent that pretty but Italian guys were hot. But then tonight he invited me to his friends party cause he said he'd bored cause they needed more girls. I dunno..maybe he's Bi...but what are your guys opinions anyway?

Tough question. If you are friends with him and have his trust, and feel it would be alright to ask, then do it. But I know few months ago when I was struggling with my sexuality I didn't want to be asked THAT question. I finally did it and glad that it was on my own terms.
Make it comfortable for him to be around you and maybe he'll come out to you.
Or you could see if he stares at hot guys when you are together. I know I do :lol: , and eventhough I'm out to my family and best friends, I wonder if the
people I am with it notice it.

The_Pov
May 22nd, 2006, 09:24 AM
What you did was a huge betrayal on your friend.

But you may be gay but your friends girlfriend isn't, if he sees any sense he'll dump her!

CanadianBoy21
May 22nd, 2006, 10:08 AM
What you did was a huge betrayal on your friend.

But you may be gay but your friends girlfriend isn't, if he sees any sense he'll dump her!


Exactly!


I think the gay guy did the right thing in helping out his straight friend, by showing what his girlfriend really is (fill in word).
If she is kissing a gay guy, imagine what she does to a straight one!

Kart
May 22nd, 2006, 10:39 AM
The last time I checked it took two people to kiss one another.

He ought to be more angry with her but you shouldn't have indulged her.

mandy7
May 22nd, 2006, 10:56 AM
so, when you get a chance to screw over your friend, all of a sudden you're not gay anymore? :p

seriously, shame on you

Spunky83
May 22nd, 2006, 11:23 AM
Gay or not...making out with someone´s girl- or boyfriend is already ´not nice´...making out with your best friend´s partner is a no-no-no. However, your friend´s gf didn´t behave correctly either.

Grachka
May 22nd, 2006, 11:57 AM
Everyone does stupid things they regret afterwards, myself included.

However, I would have more sympathy for you if you actually showed any form of repentence, but you seem to think what you did was OK.

LefandePatty
May 22nd, 2006, 12:10 PM
Nobody's perfect.

hmmm, wait, yes I am.

Wendy Williams
May 22nd, 2006, 12:15 PM
Gay Dave from downstairs would says "that's so disgustin". :lol:

cellophane
May 22nd, 2006, 02:40 PM
The last time I checked it took two people to kiss one another.

Drunk people at that...

Rocketta
May 22nd, 2006, 05:26 PM
The last time I checked it took two people to kiss one another.

He ought to be more angry with her but you shouldn't have indulged her.

sure but if the girlfriend wasn't a serious girlfriend then he would be more angry with the friend because girlfriends come and go but a good friend *should* be for a lifetime. :hehehe:

Btw, we won't discuss what would happen if I catch you doing more than flirting on this here site. I don't know.....I actually get mad with the flirting too. I feels jealous cause I want all your attention. :o

Wendy Williams
May 22nd, 2006, 05:43 PM
sure but if the girlfriend wasn't a serious girlfriend then he would be more angry with the friend because girlfriends come and go but a good friend *should* be for a lifetime. :hehehe:

Btw, we won't discuss what would happen if I catch you doing more than flirting on this here site. I don't know.....I actually get mad with the flirting too. I feels jealous cause I want all your attention. :o

http://www.hk-ungdom.dk/images/eavesdropping_bg_tema.jpg

:tape:

Helen Lawson
May 22nd, 2006, 06:11 PM
You guys have to admit, though, that getting tipsy and making out with someone off limits is totally fun and exciting.

Rocketta
May 22nd, 2006, 06:20 PM
http://www.hk-ungdom.dk/images/eavesdropping_bg_tema.jpg

:tape:

no it'll be closer to this if I catch him...

http://www.clubprotege.com/forum/images/smilies/whipping.gif

Kart u know I love you! :inlove: :couple: :smooch:

CanadianBoy21
May 22nd, 2006, 09:49 PM
http://www.clubprotege.com/forum/images/smilies/whipping.gif




OMG what a smiley :haha: :lol: :rolls:

Dana Marcy
May 22nd, 2006, 11:22 PM
You guys have to admit, though, that getting tipsy and making out with someone off limits is totally fun and exciting.

You're right. :o I was gonna delete my first post but that would've been messed up. :o Cory Ann I know that you didn't deliberately try to hurt your friend. There's still some things I don't agree with but I realize that I took some of it too seriously. :o

bis2806
May 23rd, 2006, 12:01 AM
Your friend will likely forgive you but don't be surprised if he doesn't. I know a few of my gay friends who make out with girls "for fun" when drunk. But I don't think they had any boyfriends then.

Kart
May 23rd, 2006, 10:29 AM
no it'll be closer to this if I catch him...

http://www.clubprotege.com/forum/images/smilies/whipping.gif



Now there's an offer :lick: ;).

TeaMMashA
May 23rd, 2006, 11:04 AM
I only ever kissed one persons girlfriend but i was oblivious to knowing she was taken i did feel pretty bad but nothing happen apparently he heard somebody got with his girlfriend and wanted to do something about it then found out it was me so he didnt do anything :lol: but i felt pretty bad i guess but all was forgiven and i then went out with the girl a couple of weeks after :)

Rocketta
May 23rd, 2006, 04:21 PM
Now there's an offer :lick: ;).

does Daddy & Mommy know how freaky their son is? :lol:

TimBo
May 23rd, 2006, 04:25 PM
I kiss all my girlfriends when we leave or see each other and they all have boyfriends. True it isnt a make out session, but the str8 boys understand that its a show of affection toward my girls and I obviously dont mean anything by it.

new-york
May 23rd, 2006, 04:27 PM
I think you should stop drinking if it allows you to kiss your friends girlfriend because that's almost as disrespectful as sleeping with her. Being gay doesn't give you a pass to violate a friends trust in you or a pass to disrespect people. Same goes for his girlfriend....bad form.

ditts.

CoryAnnAvants#1
May 23rd, 2006, 04:29 PM
You're right. :o I was gonna delete my first post but that would've been messed up. :o Cory Ann I know that you didn't deliberately try to hurt your friend. There's still some things I don't agree with but I realize that I took some of it too seriously. :o

It's okay, Dana. No worries :)

Philbo
May 23rd, 2006, 04:48 PM
Cory - Im on your side and I think to myself 'whats all the bother about'.

If your friend and the girl were in a secure rship, him seeing you snog his girlfriend should be something to have a laugh over.. I think that things arent 100% fine between the two of them, hence his over the top reaction when he saw you two kissing..

Ive kissed some girlfriends of mine when Ive been in rships, and none of the guys ever batted an eyelid. They know there is no romantic feeling involved. Its just fun.

I say theres nothin wrong with what you did and your mate needs to chill out..

Rocketta
May 23rd, 2006, 05:19 PM
Cory - Im on your side and I think to myself 'whats all the bother about'.

If your friend and the girl were in a secure rship, him seeing you snog his girlfriend should be something to have a laugh over.. I think that things arent 100% fine between the two of them, hence his over the top reaction when he saw you two kissing..

Ive kissed some girlfriends of mine when Ive been in rships, and none of the guys ever batted an eyelid. They know there is no romantic feeling involved. Its just fun.

I say theres nothin wrong with what you did and your mate needs to chill out..



what's the point of letting someone put their spit in your mouth if there are no romantic feelings involved? I'm just trying to figure out where is the 'fun' in letting people stick their tongue in your mouth when you have no sexual or romantic feelings associated with it? :confused:

To me why don't you just ask someone to spit in your drink... at least you'd have to fun of watching it float around. :tape:

I don't get it. :shrug:

Alecia Moore
May 23rd, 2006, 05:33 PM
what's the point of letting someone put their spit in your mouth if there are no romantic feelings involved? I'm just trying to figure out where is the 'fun' in letting people stick their tongue in your mouth when you have no sexual or romantic feelings associated with it? :confused:

To me why don't you just ask someone to spit in your drink... at least you'd have to fun of watching it float around. :tape:

I don't get it. :shrug:

When you're gay it's just being rebellious to do that, like a real fuck you to the gay bashers. It's fun too because you confuse people especially if you're gay (and really queeny like me). :tape: I love kissing a girl and then sashaying away like a big old drag queen. :haha:

TimBo
May 23rd, 2006, 05:42 PM
Honestly, I think it has more to do with the femine side of a gay male. That's how I show my affection to my girlfriends.. I give them a big ole kiss.

I think Rocketta is talking about actually making out, which I dont agree with if u have a partner.

Alecia Moore
May 23rd, 2006, 05:44 PM
Honestly, I think it has more to do with the femine side of a gay male. That's how I show my affection to my girlfriends.. I give them a big ole kiss.

I think Rocketta is talking about actually making out, which I dont agree with if u have a partner.

But that's what Cory is talking about and that's what I'm talking about. It's not like we're gonna steal a girl from her boyfriend. :lol:

TimBo
May 23rd, 2006, 05:48 PM
I think its just a matter of what's comfortable. If u and your girls (and their men) are ok with it, then I dont see a problem at all. I think, for me, I would be a little upset. But like I said, it just depends on the person and what they are comfortable with.

Grachka
May 23rd, 2006, 05:49 PM
But that's what Cory is talking about and that's what I'm talking about. It's not like we're gonna steal a girl from her boyfriend. :lol:
No, but it does suggest that you don't give a shit about them or their relationship, if you are going to make out with the girl for your own jollies. :shrug:

Alecia Moore
May 23rd, 2006, 05:57 PM
No, but it does suggest that you don't give a shit about them or their relationship, if you are going to make out with the girl for your own jollies. :shrug:

OMG you are so taking this waaaaayyyyyyy too seriously. Whatever.

smiler
May 23rd, 2006, 06:08 PM
Honestly, I think it has more to do with the femine side of a gay male. That's how I show my affection to my girlfriends.. I give them a big ole kiss.

I think Rocketta is talking about actually making out, which I dont agree with if u have a partner.

I don't understand why some guys use the fact that they're effeminate as an excuse to behave inappropriately with girls. I was in a pub on Sunday and there was this straight couple there, and this gay bloke. They all got a bit drunk and the girl and the gay bloke were dancing, which is no problem, but then he just started blatantly groping her, i mean seriously his hands were all over her, he wasn't just touching her he was actually grabbing her arse with both hands and holding her close to grind against! The poor straight guy was sitting there getting more and more pissed off, and his girl kept coming back and saying "oh stop being so jealous, he's gay it's ok". It's not ok!!! I don't think she'd like it one bit if I (a lesbian) behaved the same way with her boyfriend.

If everyone's single then fair play, but being effeminate is not an excuse to grope/kiss somebody elses girlfriend!

TimBo
May 23rd, 2006, 06:17 PM
I don't understand why some guys use the fact that they're effeminate as an excuse to behave inappropriately with girls. I was in a pub on Sunday and there was this straight couple there, and this gay bloke. They all got a bit drunk and the girl and the gay bloke were dancing, which is no problem, but then he just started blatantly groping her, i mean seriously his hands were all over her, he wasn't just touching her he was actually grabbing her arse with both hands and holding her close to grind against! The poor straight guy was sitting there getting more and more pissed off, and his girl kept coming back and saying "oh stop being so jealous, he's gay it's ok". It's not ok!!! I don't think she'd like it one bit if I (a lesbian) behaved the same way with her boyfriend.

If everyone's single then fair play, but being effeminate is not an excuse to grope/kiss somebody elses girlfriend!

did u not read my second part of my post? I DONT agree with it. Jesus

"I think Rocketta is talking about actually making out, which I dont agree with if u have a partner" this was the second part of my post.

cellophane
May 23rd, 2006, 07:28 PM
OMG you are so taking this waaaaayyyyyyy too seriously. Whatever.

Totally! :worship: :p

Grachka
May 23rd, 2006, 08:41 PM
Totally! :worship: :p
Vanya! Enough agreeing with the enemy already! :rolleyes: