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dav abu
May 19th, 2006, 09:06 PM
I know this is a very sensitive subject and I don't mean to upset anyone but it is so hard to understand. A close friend of our family's took his life and it's just so hard to make sense of.

wipeout
May 20th, 2006, 01:20 AM
I'm very sorry to hear this and I'm sorry for you and all affected. Words may not help but I will say that there have been times when I've learned something about someone I thought I knew well which I simply cannot understand and which meant that they were a fundamentally different person to the one I thought I knew. We ask ourselves if there was some way we could have known but, for all we can ask, sometimes it's simply true that we couldn't have.

AjdeNate!
May 20th, 2006, 06:17 AM
It's very tough to understand why people do it. I've had 2 family members kill themselves, one just about 1.5 weeks ago. I don't think we're really ever able to understand why - just remember them and understand that they were not happy. A lot of people really feel that suicide is the only viable alternative to end the immense pain they're under. I have often contemplated suicide and honestly when I'm at my lowest I don't really think about the effect it will have on my family; I'm mostly wanting an out to end my pain. The need for me to not be here anymore outweighs any other persons involvment in my life. Suicide is very selfish, but those that do it are not able to think about anyone else, just the pain they are going through.

Kirt12255
May 20th, 2006, 06:37 AM
It's very tough to understand why people do it. I've had 2 family members kill themselves, one just about 1.5 weeks ago. I don't think we're really ever able to understand why - just remember them and understand that they were not happy. A lot of people really feel that suicide is the only viable alternative to end the immense pain they're under. I have often contemplated suicide and honestly when I'm at my lowest I don't really think about the effect it will have on my family; I'm mostly wanting an out to end my pain. The need for me to not be here anymore outweighs any other persons involvment in my life. Suicide is very selfish, but those that do it are not able to think about anyone else, just the pain they are going through.

:hug:

You are so right though Ath, it's a means to an end. I suffered terribly from PTSD after my stabbing 5 years ago, and yes my attempts were all in the name of ending the turmoil. Even though they were half arsed attempts. The important thing to remember though is that those that are successful in their attempt, are usually already dead on the inside. Depression is still one of the most underrated illnesses world wide.

AjdeNate!
May 20th, 2006, 06:41 AM
yes all my attempts have been half-assed, as well. i still struggle... everyday. i want it to stop, preferable by more appealling methods than killing myself; but at this rate i'm getting desperate for any fix.

Kirt12255
May 20th, 2006, 06:53 AM
Smoke dope 24/7 and then you couldn't be bothered thinking about it. Nahh Joking mate;)

It will all turn around, have to think the long term I guess. Set youreself long term goals and when you get depressed, do something that will help you get to what you want, no matter how minor it appears.;)

As with you Ath, just gonna kidnap you and bring you home for some comfort food and a trashy DVD to cheer ya up;)

G1Player2
May 20th, 2006, 06:54 AM
yes all my attempts have been half-assed, as well. i still struggle... everyday. i want it to stop, preferable by more appealling methods than killing myself; but at this rate i'm getting desperate for any fix.

Of all the posters on here, your struggles saddens me the most :sad:

AjdeNate!
May 20th, 2006, 06:59 AM
As with you Ath, just gonna kidnap you and bring you home for some comfort food and a trashy DVD to cheer ya up;)
That'd work. Of course, 'Showgirls' and chips would make me smile. ;)

AjdeNate!
May 20th, 2006, 07:01 AM
Of all the posters on here, your struggles saddens me the most :sad:
I dunno... it's just been a sucky last few years and progressively getting worse. It's just so frustrating, cuz this is so not me. I mean, I used to be happy and active and friendly and outgoing. Blah, I dunno. Life changes you I guess. I would give anything to feel 'better' or 'normal'. Or at least have an outlet to cope. :shrug:

rebel_ffighter
May 20th, 2006, 07:08 AM
I know this is a very sensitive subject and I don't mean to upset anyone but it is so hard to understand. A close friend of our family's took his life and it's just so hard to make sense of.


of course it is so hard to make sense...He/she obviously had her personal reasons to do it and no matter how close someone was to her/him they will not be able to understand why or what made her/him do it.There are some characters who are not so strong or are strong but life has made them weak.I dont think that one incident made her/him take that decision,it is of course an accumulation of several bad incidents in his/her life that made her/him feel fed up and want a closure.Dont try to think or find out why he/she did it,it wont work.Just remember that person as u did before the suicide.