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harloo
May 19th, 2006, 04:19 PM
he uses a coupon on the first date? I was listening to the radio and a woman called in talking about how a guy used one on their first date. Personally I don't think it's bad at all if the guy paid for the date. It may be a bit gutbucket and ghetto otherwise I see little wrong with using a coupon.:lol:

CooCooCachoo
May 19th, 2006, 04:21 PM
Well, it seems kind of odd and cheap, I guess. But if the woman picked the place and he accidentally happened to have coupons..

But if he picked the place based on him having coupons for it, it's cheap!

Wigglytuff
May 19th, 2006, 04:24 PM
he uses a coupon on the first date? I was listening to the radio and a woman called in talking about how a guy used one on their first date. Personally I don't think it's bad at all if the guy paid for the date. It may be a bit gutbucket and ghetto otherwise I see little wrong with using a coupon.:lol:
yes he is cheap AND not too bright.

if money is an issue, he should say, hey i am a modern man, would you be willing to go dutch. if she says, no shes a golden digger, and he sort of ends up ahead because now he can sort of call it off, or use the coupon and make her feel like the bad person she is for trying to take his money.

harloo
May 19th, 2006, 04:26 PM
Well, it seems kind of odd and cheap, I guess. But if the woman picked the place and he accidentally happened to have coupons..

But if he picked the place based on him having coupons for it, it's cheap!



:tape: :lol:

harloo
May 19th, 2006, 04:33 PM
yes he is cheap AND not too bright.

if money is an issue, he should say, hey i am a modern man, would you be willing to go dutch. if she says, no shes a golden digger, and he sort of ends up ahead because now he can sort of call it off, or use the coupon and make her feel like the bad person she is for trying to take his money.

I see what you are saying but why is using a coupon an indication that a guy doesn't have the money to pay? I take that he was just trying to save a few bucks on the date. Wouldn't that be better than offering to go dutch?

I really don't get the dutch thing because I have never had a women pay for a date. Now that is tacky in my opinion unless you are in a serious relationship(married, together for years). :D

Scotso
May 19th, 2006, 04:40 PM
Sorry but I fail to see how asking the woman to pay for her meal is better than using a coupon? I don't think I'd do it (what date-worthy restaurants have coupons anyway?) but I don't think he's necessarily cheap because of it. It depends on where the guy took her.

There's nothing wrong with being sensible about money. At least with a guy that is willing to use coupons, she knows he isn't throwing money away. That could equal financial stability for her with him.

Helen Lawson
May 19th, 2006, 04:45 PM
If he's hot with a big dick, it's fine. If not, he's cheap and not worthy of a second date.

Wigglytuff
May 19th, 2006, 04:46 PM
I see what you are saying but why is using a coupon an indication that a guy doesn't have the money to pay? I take that he was just trying to save a few bucks on the date. Wouldn't that be better than offering to go dutch?

I really don't get the dutch thing because I have never had a women pay for a date. Now that is tacky in my opinion unless you are in a serious relationship(married, together for years). :D
ok, if he's not broke, he likes to save ... maybe too much?

now about going dutch i am SHOCKED!!!!!!!!! i have ALWAYS gone dutch on first dates. it feels 10X better for everyone. i feel its a matter of respect and a sign that someone is able to take care of their own needs. having someone pay for you is to me very bad early on. it means that you cant tend to yourself and that you need to be tended to like a child or pet. plus if someone can take care of their own needs but asks or expects someone to do it for them that seems parasitic to me whether it be intentional or not, its still seems parasitic . but if u go dutch you are expressing mutual respect as well as showing someone that you are self reliant. see? that to me is much better.

:bounce:

esquímaux
May 19th, 2006, 05:36 PM
lol :p

Dana Marcy
May 19th, 2006, 08:25 PM
he uses a coupon on the first date? I was listening to the radio and a woman called in talking about how a guy used one on their first date. Personally I don't think it's bad at all if the guy paid for the date. It may be a bit gutbucket and ghetto otherwise I see little wrong with using a coupon.:lol:

I think it's cheap BUT I also wouldn't expect him to pay for me on the first date. I never went for that because I don't like owing anybody anything and if the date doesn't go well, he can't hang that 'stuff" on me that he paid for me, etc over my head. :p :lol: :)

Rocketta
May 19th, 2006, 10:19 PM
Oh man, the first date you are trying to impress...that would mean his need to save money would outweigh his need to impress you which means .............SUPER cheap. :tape:

There's nothing worse than a cheap man, one that complains about too many lights on and how much you spent on that dress. :tape:

drake3781
May 19th, 2006, 10:28 PM
Oh man, the first date you are trying to impress...that would mean his need to save money would outweigh his need to impress you which means .............SUPER cheap. :tape:

There's nothing worse than a cheap man, one that complains about too many lights on and how much you spent on that dress. :tape:

You are right! And money issues can kill a relationship. And cheap people find it very hard to change, because it's not just about money, it's about (a) generousity of spirit, and (b) control.

BUT, that being said,

If a guy really is cheap, and doesn't intend to change, and wants a girl who will accept that, I guess he should just go ahead and pay with the coupon and be cheap from the get-go. That way the potential girlfriend/wife will know what she is getting into from the start and can use that in deciding if he is right for her.

CC
May 20th, 2006, 12:28 AM
There wouldn't be a second date. Thanks.

Dominic
May 20th, 2006, 03:43 AM
No its not cheap. I actually find it very stupid that the guy is even expected to pay for a girl. The girl should be attracted to the guy naturally and not because he pays for her or tries to impress her in whatever way.

Brett.
May 20th, 2006, 04:10 AM
I think straight guys wish any girls grab their dick than paying! :)

Jakeev
May 20th, 2006, 05:23 AM
If he's hot with a big dick, it's fine. If not, he's cheap and not worthy of a second date.

You horny old bitch:lol: :lol: :lol:

Denise4925
May 20th, 2006, 05:26 AM
he uses a coupon on the first date? I was listening to the radio and a woman called in talking about how a guy used one on their first date. Personally I don't think it's bad at all if the guy paid for the date. It may be a bit gutbucket and ghetto otherwise I see little wrong with using a coupon.:lol:
Hell yeah his ass is cheap. I'm worth full price for a meal and don't even think about taking me to a place where they even have coupons. :haha: Good God!!! :rolleyes:

Coupons can be used after having dated for at least a year and you're eating on the run.

Denise4925
May 20th, 2006, 05:28 AM
If he's hot with a big dick, it's fine. If not, he's cheap and not worthy of a second date.
I heard that. :haha:

Denise4925
May 20th, 2006, 05:30 AM
There is nothing wrong with a man paying for a date just like there is nothing wrong with going dutch. As a woman, if someone asks me out on a first date, i expect that they will pay. It doesn't mean you are parasitic or that you can't take care of yourself. Please. If i asked someone out on a date, I would pay. And if the guy insisted that he pay, I would let him. In this scenario, I think its kind 'cheap' to use a coupon at a restaurant for a date, unless you have been going out for a long time.
:worship: :worship: :worship:
There shouldn't be any difference but still...he could have at least done it on the low. LOL
:lol:

Denise4925
May 20th, 2006, 05:31 AM
I think it's cheap BUT I also wouldn't expect him to pay for me on the first date. I never went for that because I don't like owing anybody anything and if the date doesn't go well, he can't hang that 'stuff" on me that he paid for me, etc over my head. :p :lol: :)
Dana, if it goes bad, what does it matter? You'll never see him again. :lol:

G1Player2
May 20th, 2006, 05:36 AM
:lol: This thread is funny. Anyway, hell yeah I'm going to bust out the coupon if i have it. I am not embarrased whatsoever. It's not like i can't affored the dinner at food price but if I have a coupon and I am going to the restaurant anyway, then why let it go to waste?

G1Player2
May 20th, 2006, 05:37 AM
Hell yeah his ass is cheap. I'm worth full price for a meal and don't even think about taking me to a place where they even have coupons. :haha: Good God!!! :rolleyes:

Coupons can be used after having dated for at least a year and you're eating on the run.

:lol: WOMEN :cuckoo:

G1Player2
May 20th, 2006, 05:38 AM
I think it's cheap BUT I also wouldn't expect him to pay for me on the first date. I never went for that because I don't like owing anybody anything and if the date doesn't go well, he can't hang that 'stuff" on me that he paid for me, etc over my head. :p :lol: :)

:worship:

Blonde_Ambition7
May 20th, 2006, 05:38 AM
Oh man, the first date you are trying to impress...that would mean his need to save money would outweigh his need to impress you which means .............SUPER cheap. :tape:

There's nothing worse than a cheap man, one that complains about too many lights on and how much you spent on that dress. :tape:

exactly what i was going to say!

rebel_ffighter
May 20th, 2006, 05:44 AM
yes!

Kirt12255
May 20th, 2006, 05:47 AM
:lol: If a guy even took me to a place that accepted coupons for a first date, I would consider him a tight-ass.

The only exception would be if he was 4 months off his degree in medicine and was a little short ;)

Dana Marcy
May 20th, 2006, 09:05 PM
Dana, if it goes bad, what does it matter? You'll never see him again. :lol:

I hear you girl but that was one of the things that always made me nervous when I started dating. When I was a young teenager I'd hear my aunts telling these stories about how brothas expected things if they treated you to dinner on the first date. It always stuck with me and I was like, "that will NOT be me" and I can have bad luck at times so I didn't wanna take any chances so I made sure I paid my my share. :)

Rtael
May 23rd, 2006, 05:45 PM
Oh yeah I'd be totally offended...someone who's fiscally responsible? Oh hell no, not for me! :rolleyes:

Anyway, as opposed to many people in this thread, I wouldn't want to go to a restaurant that doesn't accept coupons...I prefer simple stuff! :angel:

Sally Struthers
May 23rd, 2006, 05:46 PM
No. What is cheap is taking a girl to a place that accepts a coupon!

spartanfan
May 23rd, 2006, 09:16 PM
I think a great part would depend on the age of the guy. If he's between say 15/16 and 24, and just out of college and not a lot of money or job, then cut the fella some slack. I don't think women really appreciate how expensive it gets for men to date, especially since most women expect men to pay for the evening.