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CanadianBoy21
Jun 15th, 2005, 11:38 PM
I am 20 now, and couple days ago I told my mom I'm gay.
It was very emotional.
My parents, especially my dad has been setting up a marriage basically for me. :tape: He would kill me if I told him, so I told my mom.
It was the scariest thing I have ever done. I don't know where I got the courage to do it. My mom was very good about it, and emotional of course. She said she'll always love me, but that she doesn't understand. She told me I am still developing and will change maybe. I told her I'm 20 and will not. So she doesn't understand, but I didn't expect it.
So much going on now, but I am glad I got it off my chest.
I had to write about it to order my thoughts.

I can't express in words how hard it was for me.

Anyone else have stories about their coming out, or someone that came out to you?

SelesFan70
Jun 15th, 2005, 11:49 PM
:worship: That took a lot of guts. I'm 35 and still haven't come out to my folks. :unsure: I hope your dad will come around just like I"m sure your mom will. Good luck! :hug:

skanky~skanketta
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:02 AM
well, CONGRATS!i dont know what its like to come out (i'm a straight female) but i know it would be tough. something like telling my parents i was pregnant (which i'm not!)

but good on you. very brave.

cellophane
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:09 AM
Congrats! All I got from my mom was "Who is the woman when men have sex?" :rolleyes:

skanky~skanketta
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:11 AM
Congrats! All I got from my mom was "Who is the woman when men have sex?" :rolleyes:

what was your answer?:tape:

Wannabeknowitall
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:15 AM
Good for you. I haven't came out to my family. My mother passed away last year and I regret not telling her I was gay. It's just that I feel that she never got to see the whole me. It's just something you really don't want to have to deal with. So even if she's mad or in denial or whatever she got to see all of you. You have absolutely nothing to be ashame or scared of.

Elisse
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:16 AM
:hug:@CanadianBoy19 - awwwww....congratulations!! :worship:

I came out to my Mum last year, it wasn't planned at all - it just happened!!
Though I was in quite an emotional state when I told her, she was fine and very relaxed about it! She gave me a big hug, told me that she loves me and said that she had guessed years ago! ;) She said that she was very proud of me and happy that I had finally told her!! :D She has been wonderful, very supportive and really it was the best thing I have ever done! :worship:

¤CharlDa¤
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:20 AM
Good for u!

cellophane
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:25 AM
what was your answer?:tape:

Um, I said, "Mom, there is no woman! Just men having sex..." :tape:

AjdeNate!
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:32 AM
:hug: Good for you!

My mom was not very thrilled at first. At all. She just didn't wanna talk about it. Ever. But now, she's super cool about it. She's like 'you need a boyfriend!`. She's only met one of my boyfriends (an ex now, of course). And I shoulda listened, cuz she HATED him. And oh was she right. :p

So, congrats and take pride in the fact that you did it!

Scotso
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:51 AM
Your mom took it basically the same way your's did. She was nice about it, but didn't really understand it. It's been a few years since then and she's slowly gotten more comfortable with it. Your mom will, too. :)

daffodil
Jun 16th, 2005, 12:55 AM
Your mother should be very proud that she didn't raise a child to hide things from her. Your father should be proud too!

Venus Forever
Jun 16th, 2005, 01:01 AM
I am 20 now, and couple days ago I told my mom I'm gay.
It was very emotional.
My parents, especially my dad has been setting up a marriage basically for me. :tape: He would kill me if I told him, so I told my mom.
It was the scariest thing I have ever done. I don't know where I got the courage to do it. My mom was very good about it, and emotional of course. She said she'll always love me, but that she doesn't understand. She told me I am still developing and will change maybe. I told her I'm 20 and will not. So she doesn't understand, but I didn't expect it.
So much going on now, but I am glad I got it off my chest.
I had to write about it to order my thoughts.

I can't express in words how hard it was for me.

Anyone else have stories about their coming out, or someone that came out to you?

Do we live identical lives or something?? I did the samething, literally about two-three weeks ago, and I'm 20 myself.

Last month, end of April and beginning of May, I was on the verge of just a total break down. I was totally depressed and just stressed out with many things going on in my life. From coming out to my family, to just friendship problems up at school, and finals coming up that I hadn't been preparing for, not to mention spending my last few days with a friend who would be transferring to a new school come the next semester.

I just couldn't take not telling my family anymore, and felt like I had to tell someone or I would explode. I planned to tell my mom, the one I thought would be the most understanding, on the ride home, when she picked me up from college, but I couldn't do it. When the radio didn't work in the car, I literally was on the verge of tears a few times, but just couldn't do it. I just couldn't say it.

So, what do I do?? I wrote her a letter in a Thank You card, basically telling her I was gay, but also how much I loved her, and thanked her for always being there for me, and being a great mother. I laid it on her bed one night, and left the house. I came home, and she didn't say a word to me, and just went on normal. I t continued for a few days, and it was killing me. The silence of not knowing what she thought was killing me myself. Again, I started to cry... LoL... until one day, she came home from work, went into her room, and like 10 minutes later, came into my room, and just put her arms open for a hug, and the waterworks from her came. She just told me she was always proud of me and will always love me, and just asked if I was sure and how long I knew. And we haven't talked about it since, so I guess she's totally accepting of it...

...and let me tell you... I feel like so much pressure was lifted off my shoulder, and I am basically happy now. Now, as for the rest of the family, I don't know when that will happen.

alexusjonesfan
Jun 16th, 2005, 01:07 AM
wow that's awesome. I'm still waiting until I can financially support myself once I get kicked out.

$pencer
Jun 16th, 2005, 01:13 AM
Well done Canadian Boy.It may seem emotional now but you'll start to feel better soon and as if a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
When you say you were almost already married off it was something similar my mum said that made me realise I had to say something. I smoke and my mum hates it and has been trying to get me to quit for a long time [I am 19 now and was 18 then, so that made it worse for her that I smoked] and one day she made some light hearted remark like "I hope you'll stop smoking when you're own children are running around". Even though it was just light hearted it totally sent a chill through me because I had been getting quite unhappy about having to tell people I was gay. I was like "Whoa! She's expecting marriage and kids. She has no idea I'm gay". I had kind of hoped people would somehow work it out for themselves but I am not 'obviously gay' [compared to the clichéd image of a gay man] so no one had a clue and everyone was a bit surprised.

I eventually told my mum one night. My mum's pretty cool and modern in her views so she knew right away this wasn't something I was going to be growing out of. She's great about it and I can even talk really openly about realtionships with her.
My dad though was not very happy but he has not lived with us for years and my brother and sister and I hardly speak to him anyway but me being gay definitely made the gap bigger but as I say, I don't speak to him or see him too often so it's not a big issue. I really hope everything goes OK with your dad

bionic71
Jun 16th, 2005, 01:29 AM
Biggest of hugs for you doll...
That is one great weight lifted from your shoulders.

If writing about it helps.....then why not write a letter to your Dad????....it certainly opens up the lines of communication and it is then up to him to respond to you.

If they simply don't understand what being gay is about then its up to you to teach them a little....and the only way to do is is to share how you are feeling....be honest and tell him that you are frightened about their response.

Things will improve from here on I can assure you and your relationship with your parents will be get better if you are honest with them and let them know how you are feeling.

Dads can be tough...it is often difficult for them to talk about their emotions etc...thankfully my Dad was not so emotionally stunted and being gay has never been an issue for either of my parents....sure there were a few tears initially (from me out of relief and from Mum because I was crying...it was a pathetic scene!!!) but for the most part I had an easy transition.

Life is always a work in progess.

Another gigantic hug for you....

xx

bionic71
Jun 16th, 2005, 01:38 AM
On a side note....most parents KNOW that their children are gay or at least suspect it for years.
It really irritates me that parents almost always wait for their children to approach them with the news...this often painful, dragging out of the situation only exasperates the fear, confusion and anger that the youth is going through. What ends up happening is that the "coming out" experience ends up being a far more painful experience than it need be. A huge majority of parents need a massive bitch slap for doing this.

A parent approaching their child and simply saying..."I love regardless of your sexual orientation" could make life a lot easier for many young people struggling with the disclosure of their sexuality....I know that many parents think they don't "understand" what being gay is....however, I am not straight but I can empathise with a straight person....it doesn't take a huge leap of logic.

Wannabeknowitall
Jun 16th, 2005, 02:28 AM
Do we live identical lives or something?? I did the samething, literally about two-three weeks ago, and I'm 20 myself.

Last month, end of April and beginning of May, I was on the verge of just a total break down. I was totally depressed and just stressed out with many things going on in my life. From coming out to my family, to just friendship problems up at school, and finals coming up that I hadn't been preparing for, not to mention spending my last few days with a friend who would be transferring to a new school come the next semester.

I just couldn't take not telling my family anymore, and felt like I had to tell someone or I would explode. I planned to tell my mom, the one I thought would be the most understanding, on the ride home, when she picked me up from college, but I couldn't do it. When the radio didn't work in the car, I literally was on the verge of tears a few times, but just couldn't do it. I just couldn't say it.

So, what do I do?? I wrote her a letter in a Thank You card, basically telling her I was gay, but also how much I loved her, and thanked her for always being there for me, and being a great mother. I laid it on her bed one night, and left the house. I came home, and she didn't say a word to me, and just went on normal. I t continued for a few days, and it was killing me. The silence of not knowing what she thought was killing me myself. Again, I started to cry... LoL... until one day, she came home from work, went into her room, and like 10 minutes later, came into my room, and just put her arms open for a hug, and the waterworks from her came. She just told me she was always proud of me and will always love me, and just asked if I was sure and how long I knew. And we haven't talked about it since, so I guess she's totally accepting of it...

...and let me tell you... I feel like so much pressure was lifted off my shoulder, and I am basically happy now. Now, as for the rest of the family, I don't know when that will happen.


You're right. Hallmark should start selling Mommy and Daddy I'm gay cards. It would make a profit.

kabuki
Jun 16th, 2005, 02:52 AM
Congrats.

Telling your family is so important, because you can be honest and share your entire life with them.

It is easier to truly be close with them when they know the truth.

Good luck!

Mateo Mathieu
Jun 16th, 2005, 02:53 AM
Congratulations for took a lot of guts! :worship: Hope your father also accepting you! Good luck! :D

Venus Forever
Jun 16th, 2005, 03:53 AM
You're right. Hallmark should start selling Mommy and Daddy I'm gay cards. It would make a profit.
Haha, rite... they totally should...

It took me awhile just to find a card, and I ended up pickin a bland card...

James
Jun 16th, 2005, 06:36 AM
Good that you got that off your chest. Congratulations on achieving this. :yeah: I know how difficult it can be.

deja_entendu
Jun 16th, 2005, 07:01 AM
On a side note....most parents KNOW that their children are gay or at least suspect it for years.
It really irritates me that parents almost always wait for their children to approach them with the news...this often painful, dragging out of the situation only exasperates the fear, confusion and anger that the youth is going through. What ends up happening is that the "coming out" experience ends up being a far more painful experience than it need me. A huge majority of parents need a massive bitch slap for doing this.

A parent approaching their child and simply saying..."I love regardless of your sexual orientation" could make life a lot easier for many young people struggling with the disclosure of their sexuality....I know that many parents think they don't "understand" what being gay is....however, I am not straight but I can empathise with a straight person....it doesn't take a huge leap of logic.

:bowdown:

*Jool*
Jun 16th, 2005, 07:38 AM
Well, good thing ;) :yeah:
My mother's reaction was cool: it was a few years ago, I was driving and I told her when a song "Mujer contra mujer" de Mecano) was passing by the radio. She replied they would always love me, and be happy with my choices.Of course she told me I still cd change , but now she's understood what it really means to come out, I mean you don't come out for nothing, you won't come back in later lol :lol:
You'll see, your mom needs a lil time to make with the idea and totally accept it , your father will too ;) :hug:

NicoMary
Jun 16th, 2005, 07:50 AM
Congratulations Guys....:worship::bounce:I told it to my mom when I was 18...i was living a reallu sad period of my life...and I decided to tell her...my two sisters knows it, almost all my family, cousin, aunt, oncle..etc...it was also really hard for me..and sometimes i feel really ashame when somebody close to me ask me about my sexual life...

Today i'm 20 i'm living an happy life..with for sure Ups and Downs....but telling that you are gay is one of the best things to do for you and your family

For those who can talk with their family...tell it to your closest friend...or just began by telling it to someone you don't really know , it will help you to say it to your real friends...
Its a really stressfull moment..but you have to be proud of what you are....
Being gay is cool...:)

galadriel
Jun 16th, 2005, 07:51 AM
Congrats Canadianboy19 :worship: :worship: :worship:

Szymanowski
Jun 16th, 2005, 08:11 AM
Wow........well done :hug:

bis2806
Jun 16th, 2005, 09:30 AM
I am 20 now, and couple days ago I told my mom I'm gay.
It was very emotional.
My parents, especially my dad has been setting up a marriage basically for me. :tape: He would kill me if I told him, so I told my mom.
It was the scariest thing I have ever done. I don't know where I got the courage to do it. My mom was very good about it, and emotional of course. She said she'll always love me, but that she doesn't understand. She told me I am still developing and will change maybe. I told her I'm 20 and will not. So she doesn't understand, but I didn't expect it.
So much going on now, but I am glad I got it off my chest.
I had to write about it to order my thoughts.

I can't express in words how hard it was for me.

Anyone else have stories about their coming out, or someone that came out to you?


Wow that's really amazing that you've come out and I'm definitely proud of you. For financial and educational reasons, I have not come out to my family. I think my brother might have suspected that I am though, but I don't know how far that suspicion goes because he has not mentioned a word to me about it.

Another thing that's really annoying about parents when their son comes out is that they hope their sons could "still change" or "are still growing", which is almost like an act of forcing their gay sons to be straight. I mean that is quite selfish and therefore they need to see the reality of what being gay means.

I've also come across some moments where my aunt goes like "oh it will be just a matter of time till I find a girl for you" and i just instantly puke at the thought of that. Dude, she doesn't know I am gay - haha. It's pretty cool actually because it's like a little secret you keep from them and you can laugh about it because they think otherwise of your sexual orientation. I just find the whole thing funny.

It will be hard to come out to dads especially, simply because they are seen as the head of the family. Hence, if something goes 'wrong' in the family, the father feels vulnerable and therefore thinks that he has not fully ingrained 'right' values - which are deemed socially acceptable - in the family. My dad has a lot of health problems such as heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure which cause him to be really really moooody at times. But generally he doesn't talk a lot, and in fact it is almost every day that I don't speak to him about anything, literally. So coming out to him will be difficult because I don't want things to be harder for him. Mum is not really a problem, but she's traditional and sensitive. Also, note that when mums find out their sons are gay, they might feel they have not raised their children properly and thus feel they have failed as a mother, due to cultural backgrounds and reasons.

So well done to those who came out and I'm sure it must have been an experience. :)

Dancehall_Queen_
Jun 16th, 2005, 10:03 AM
Yeah man bionic 71 is completely right.

I mean how can mothers not 'understand' their son being gay I mean they attracted to men too right!

If i had a son and he was gay i'd like to think we'd have a cool relationship and take the piss out of each other and bitch about men!

NicoMary
Jun 16th, 2005, 10:08 AM
Yeah man bionic 71 is completely right.

I mean how can mothers not 'understand' their son being gay I mean they attracted to men too right!

If i had a son and he was gay i'd like to think we'd have a cool relationship and take the piss out of each other and bitch about men!


You Know it's not that simple...our generation has been raised in the respect and the tolerancy...(for most of us i mean)...but some of our parents..have never heard about homosexuality..and i do understand when some of them are scared..and do not know what to expect...
if no one has never explain to you..you can't have a clear idea of homosexuality....that's why We have to explain to those people who are scared....

"Sluggy"
Jun 16th, 2005, 10:53 AM
I agree 100% with Bionic. Most parents have to know and it shouldnt be such a surprise. Im sure only a handful of people can be "encouraged" to live heterosexual lives if that is not their natural leaning. When my friend came out to his family i was total disbelief at their reaction. It should not have come as a surprise at all.

Good luck on getting through the difficult part, it should get easier and you will be happy in the end.

~ The Leopard ~
Jun 16th, 2005, 10:57 AM
Hmmm, my parents are old now and certainly could not have handled it if I'd been gay. But I've always taken the attitude that my sexuality, sex life etc are simply none of their business.

If my parents were quite a lot younger I don't think I'd have any problem about it. Remember that folks who were born in the 1950s and 1960s are actually less conservative about sexual matters than those who are younger than them. In fact, the people who were involved in the 1967 summer of love were born way back in the late 1940s. Some of them are now grandparents.

A lot of you forget...or are not old enough to have experienced the fact...that things became much more conservative through the 1980s, when AIDS arrived on the scene. Some of you would be surprised at how much dope your parents smoked, and how much they experimented with group sex and stuff, before they had you 15 or 20 years ago. I certainly don't tell my friends' kids about what their mothers got up to back in the day. :tape:

Dancehall_Queen_
Jun 16th, 2005, 11:04 AM
You Know it's not that simple...our generation has been raised in the respect and the tolerancy...(for most of us i mean)...but some of our parents..have never heard about homosexuality..and i do understand when some of them are scared..and do not know what to expect...
if no one has never explain to you..you can't have a clear idea of homosexuality....that's why We have to explain to those people who are scared....

Oh yeah i know that i mean i have freinds who are muslim and their parents just cant except things like that at all, because of the cultrue and their traditional beliefs.
I myself was just saying that i wish parents that are able to understand can accept that your attracted to who your attracted too because same rules of love apply.

skanky~skanketta
Jun 17th, 2005, 03:25 AM
i kinda wish i was gay just so i can have a diffferent relationship with my parents. a more rebellious one too. and scandalous!:lol:

Martian Willow
Jun 17th, 2005, 03:56 AM
I feel guilty reading this. My mum reads Andrea Dworkin. I had an easy ride.

SilK
Jun 17th, 2005, 09:58 AM
My mom said like, the exact same thing to me. She thought I'd might change...

She once even said, that in her opinion, I couldn't know what I liked untill I tried both! :cuckoo:

Now, a couple year later, she's ok with it! :)

creepy stalker
Jun 18th, 2005, 06:12 AM
congrats :)


i wonder sometimes, what would my life be if i hadn't come out to my parents. i would have gone to the prom and enjoyed my last year of high school without have to worry much about where i would stay the next day or going home after working for the whole day.

apparently, my coming out wasn't as great as some people or even most people had. the only reason i told my parents was because i loved them (not anymore). it was a painful experience that i wish i could forget but deep down i know, it would bite me every now and then.

i didn't regret to come out. in fact, since then i have matured quite alot in every way.

bis2806
Jun 18th, 2005, 06:33 AM
I think there should not be any regrets to coming out because it's YOUR life, and your parents are totally misunderstanding people if they just don't accept you for what you are. It's your life, not theirs.

CooCooCachoo
Jun 18th, 2005, 07:02 AM
Congrats :hug: I am happy for you ;)

I am 19 now and a few years ago, when I was 16, I told my mom and she just did not want to believe it :shrug: She said I'd come around :haha: Sorry, mommy dearest :p 90% gay :p

Dahveed
Jun 18th, 2005, 01:54 PM
Congrats on the coming outs. As i mentioned to Bionic71 in a rep (great posts btw) coming out to my parents, esp. to my mother, would probably lead to a pathetic scene of crying outburst. Well i'm not ready to live that, i am too proud to cry in front of her and so is she.

I guess someday it will come just naturally, i don't want to have a big meaningful conversation about it, i don't want to justify myself, i just hope they can accept it and have no regrets of any sort for having a gay son. :)

CC
Jun 18th, 2005, 03:22 PM
I don't have any children to be able to understand why it is so traumatic for parents, but it really amazes me that they can disown their kids or kick them out because they're gay. There are far worse things than a gay child, and maybe if parents didn't try to live vicariously through their children it would be easier to accept. I just feel that after you've lived your life and made your own choices, it is unfair to try to tell someone else what's right for them, even if it's your child. It's like trying to live one life twice.

AjdeNate!
Jun 18th, 2005, 09:17 PM
congrats :)


i wonder sometimes, what would my life be if i hadn't come out to my parents. i would have gone to the prom and enjoyed my last year of high school without have to worry much about where i would stay the next day or going home after working for the whole day.

apparently, my coming out wasn't as great as some people or even most people had. the only reason i told my parents was because i loved them (not anymore). it was a painful experience that i wish i could forget but deep down i know, it would bite me every now and then.

i didn't regret to come out. in fact, since then i have matured quite alot in every way.
:hug: but you are a better person for it. and hey, you got me as a friend right? :p

CanadianBoy21
Jun 30th, 2005, 12:13 AM
Thanks all for the responses
well, this is my first post since I started this thread, because when I came out, it sort of got worse.
My mom kept telling me that I liked girls because I had girls' pictures on my walls. I had trouble explaining to her that I was faking it all. My family is muslim, but we are white European muslims who are not even strict about religion, but still strongly prefer I marry a muslim girl, and my mom told me she'd rather see me marry anybody, doesn't matter what religion or what color, as long as it is not what I told her. My dad is really getting on my nerves, he is tempermental and judgemental, etc... tells me to look at girls more, etc... Just a though time for me.
In less than 2 months I go to Germany for an exchange program that lasts 10 months. And I can't wait. It's a temporary escape at least. Oh I am so sad. :sad:
It is really pathetic that parents have to hurt their children. It hurts.
Thank you all for sharing your stories and support.

manu
Jun 30th, 2005, 12:43 AM
Thanks all for the responses
well, this is my first post since I started this thread, because when I came out, it sort of got worse.
My mom kept telling me that I liked girls because I had girls' pictures on my walls. I had trouble explaining to her that I was faking it all. My family is muslim, but we are white European muslims who are not even strict about religion, but still strongly prefer I marry a muslim girl, and my mom told me she'd rather see me marry anybody, doesn't matter what religion or what color, as long as it is not what I told her. My dad is really getting on my nerves, he is tempermental and judgemental, etc... tells me to look at girls more, etc... Just a though time for me.
In less than 2 months I go to Germany for an exchange program that lasts 10 months. And I can't wait. It's a temporary escape at least. Oh I am so sad. :sad:
It is really pathetic that parents have to hurt their children. It hurts.
Thank you all for sharing your stories and support.

Hey CanadianBoy,

I know it's very important to get your parents recognition for the problems you're having. I'm straight, but I've had other problems that are totally incomparable actually, but still, parents' support is so vital as their child when you're having problems... If your parents have difficulties dealing with it, try to talk with a friend about it, or a brother or a sister, just someone close to you who understands. You'll feel better and will be able to wait for your parents' acceptance in a better way for yourself. The exchange programme also seems great!! It gives you time away from your parents, and it gives them time to think and to accept. Lol :) I'm not even gay so I can't really empathize, but I can at least try and imagine what it's like! Wish you the best, don't doubt yourself. You'll get there, I'm sure ;)

Greets

Venus Forever
Jun 30th, 2005, 01:20 AM
Thanks all for the responses
well, this is my first post since I started this thread, because when I came out, it sort of got worse.
My mom kept telling me that I liked girls because I had girls' pictures on my walls. I had trouble explaining to her that I was faking it all. My family is muslim, but we are white European muslims who are not even strict about religion, but still strongly prefer I marry a muslim girl, and my mom told me she'd rather see me marry anybody, doesn't matter what religion or what color, as long as it is not what I told her. My dad is really getting on my nerves, he is tempermental and judgemental, etc... tells me to look at girls more, etc... Just a though time for me.
In less than 2 months I go to Germany for an exchange program that lasts 10 months. And I can't wait. It's a temporary escape at least. Oh I am so sad. :sad:
It is really pathetic that parents have to hurt their children. It hurts.
Thank you all for sharing your stories and support.
Awwww :sad:

Just hang in there... I definitely know how you feel, although my situation is not like that at all. Just keep hope and faith that they will come around one day. In the mean time, like manu suggested, talk to friends to get your frustrations out. I know it definitely helped with me, and my friends help me get through the tough times, and still do. Talk to me if you'd like, as well. :)

bionic71
Jun 30th, 2005, 01:25 AM
Thanks all for the responses
well, this is my first post since I started this thread, because when I came out, it sort of got worse.
My mom kept telling me that I liked girls because I had girls' pictures on my walls. I had trouble explaining to her that I was faking it all. My family is muslim, but we are white European muslims who are not even strict about religion, but still strongly prefer I marry a muslim girl, and my mom told me she'd rather see me marry anybody, doesn't matter what religion or what color, as long as it is not what I told her. My dad is really getting on my nerves, he is tempermental and judgemental, etc... tells me to look at girls more, etc... Just a though time for me.
In less than 2 months I go to Germany for an exchange program that lasts 10 months. And I can't wait. It's a temporary escape at least. Oh I am so sad. :sad:
It is really pathetic that parents have to hurt their children. It hurts.
Thank you all for sharing your stories and support.


Oh buddy..I wish i had the answers for you, but I don't

Big slap for Mum (marry anyone...yep that'll help!) and Dad (look at girls more, another useful contribution)....

BIGGEST of hugs for you though :hug:

Try not to get too angry, I know its an exasperating situation, but fighting with them will not help you or them.
The time away will be beneficial for you...it will make you stronger.

As for the girlie pics on the wall...mine was covered in them as a teenager....notably Samantha Fox! In fact I still have a large Samanatha Fox poster adorning the wall of my study....I adore the woman but I don't want to touch her titties!