View Full Version : The No. 1 Gesture That Sparks Love

Apr 30th, 2005, 04:36 AM
There's almost nothing sexier for a man than when a women looks him straight in the eye and holds that gaze.

Imagine this scene: A room is filled with people talking and laughing. A woman walks in. Several men glance up and look at her. Do they think she's sexy and attractive? Are they attracted to her? Chances are the answers to those questions are "yes" not based on her clothing or hair, but rather on how she looks at them.

According to Dartmouth University researchers, women who look men in the eye are more likely to be seen as physically attractive and likeable. But if that woman glances at the man and then turns her eyes away--essentially rejecting him--she'll be perceived as much less sexy. It is these nonverbal cues that shape our impressions of others more than anything else.
Gaze is potent. Even intoxicating. "There's evidence that when someone looks at us, it's physiologically arousing, and there are these brain regions that get more engaged," study author Malia Mason told HealthDayNews. In other words, looking someone in the eye can make the mind race and the heart beat faster. Even when sexual interest isn't an issue, holding your gaze to someone else's eyes helps you to focus more on what the other person is saying or doing.

This isn't the first research to come to this conclusion. Beverly Palmer, a professor of psychology at California State University, Dominguez Hills, explained to HealthDayNews, "...the No. 1 thing you can do to establish a relationship is simply look at the other person, especially when listening."

How long you hold your gaze is just as important. It subtly tells the other person if you're interested in him or her or just being hostile. Hold it too long and you're seen as unfriendly and antagonistic. Hold it the right amount of time, and you make the other person feel there is nothing more important at the moment. And that is sheer charisma. Or the look of love.

The study findings were published in the journal Psychological Science.

How long is the right amount of time? :eek: :eek: :eek: