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jbone_0307
Apr 28th, 2005, 12:03 AM
Ok, yesterday I got back from my regional tennis tournament last year and I am depressed. I played doubles and had to play 6 matches, out of those 6, we won 4, but still didn't advance to state. The first two matches we won easily 6-2 6-1 and 6-1 6-0, but we lost the third match 6-1 6-1. In order to qualify for state you have to win three consecutive matches. That was day one, then we were put in the losers bracket and had to win three consecutive matches again. The first match was really easy 6-2 6-4 and in the second match we had to come back from one set down and we ended up winning the match 3-6 6-3 6-2. We were estatic, but we had one more match to play and they weren't as good as the previous team. I think it was because we were exhausted and only had an hour in between, but we ended up losing 6-3 6-2. I am sooo fucking pissed. My damn body aches all over, we had to play 6 matches in 2 days, and have nothing to show for it. This is the lowest i've felt, ever. Usually, I am able to shake off a loss easily (like when I lost to the same girl 8-0), but this wont go away. Its only been a day, but I remember the time the match started 3:08, the time we lost 4:43, and the first song I heard (Amerie-1 thing). I'm about to cry and usually, I show no emotions whatsoever, but I hate losing. What should I do??? What do you do when this kind of situation arises???? At this point I seriously feel like giving up tennis.

The
Apr 28th, 2005, 12:25 AM
You just need to look at the positives. Through failure you actually learned something and next time you're in that situation you will be stronger for it.

If you had won then who knows, next year you may have failed under the same circumstances just because you learned your less on too late.

Plus you got to spend time outside in the good weather playing a sport you love with a healthy body. You can't lose.

La Reine
Apr 28th, 2005, 12:29 AM
You actually accomplished a lot! Don't let the loss decieve you and I think it pays to think of tennis as more than just a game so that devastating losses like this can be more bearable.

You're a stronger person because of this experience. Keep your head up!

jbone_0307
Apr 28th, 2005, 01:51 AM
Thanks

controlfreak
Apr 28th, 2005, 01:55 AM
get a life. take up a proper sport, like knitting.

TF Chipmunk
Apr 28th, 2005, 02:07 AM
Hey, at least you made it to regionals! Someone who makes it to regionals and ALMOST qualifies for STATE is way too good to think about dropping tennis! Just keep up the good work and stay focused! You'll get there eventually.

the jamierbelyea
Apr 28th, 2005, 03:03 AM
Qualifying for State is that big a deal? Perhaps I should pick up the sport again then, I did it 3 times when I was in high school ;) (well a year ago ;))

The bottom line is, you know you're better than how you played in the match that mattered. That should drive you to make sure you leave it on the court next time your out there.

I think what kills you more is not that you lost, but the fact that you lost knowing you're capeable of playing better and winning.

jbone_0307
Apr 28th, 2005, 04:19 AM
Yes, exactly and that I have to wait another freakin year.

TF Chipmunk
Apr 28th, 2005, 06:44 AM
Qualifying for State is that big a deal? Perhaps I should pick up the sport again then, I did it 3 times when I was in high school ;) (well a year ago ;))

Well it is in High School...You have to get berths and all to get into the brackets!

But hey, jbone, I feel your pain. This year was supposed to be my year...I improved so much, and I had much more confidence in my play. However, when the season came, I just fell into this humongous slump, and what made it worse was the fact that I knew and everyone else knew that I played a million times better and had much more capabilities.

It does hurt when you set yourself up for disappointment, like I did to myself this year. What I've been trying to do to forget about it is just to focus on improving myself even more for next year so that the same thing won't happen again. You should try that too, just put this behind you, pretend like it never happened if you need to do that. Just don't dwell on it.

Junex
Apr 28th, 2005, 07:59 AM
Ok, yesterday I got back from my regional tennis tournament last year and I am depressed. I played doubles and had to play 6 matches, out of those 6, we won 4, but still didn't advance to state. The first two matches we won easily 6-2 6-1 and 6-1 6-0, but we lost the third match 6-1 6-1. In order to qualify for state you have to win three consecutive matches. That was day one, then we were put in the losers bracket and had to win three consecutive matches again. The first match was really easy 6-2 6-4 and in the second match we had to come back from one set down and we ended up winning the match 3-6 6-3 6-2. We were estatic, but we had one more match to play and they weren't as good as the previous team. I think it was because we were exhausted and only had an hour in between, but we ended up losing 6-3 6-2. I am sooo fucking pissed. My damn body aches all over, we had to play 6 matches in 2 days, and have nothing to show for it. This is the lowest i've felt, ever. Usually, I am able to shake off a loss easily (like when I lost to the same girl 8-0), but this wont go away. Its only been a day, but I remember the time the match started 3:08, the time we lost 4:43, and the first song I heard (Amerie-1 thing). I'm about to cry and usually, I show no emotions whatsoever, but I hate losing. What should I do??? What do you do when this kind of situation arises???? At this point I seriously feel like giving up tennis.


Well, your problem isn't half of that of my friend.

He is real close to me, he has been my hitting partner for a year now but he is 7 years younger.

He just turned eighteen last January, after the qualifying for regionals has finished. He end up second best. BTW, its just his 2nd year joining the competition.

Last April 11 - 15 was held the regionals were the age bracket would be 18 under, obviously he still qualifies. He played for like 8 matches in 4 days and end up crushing all his opponents, eventually becoming the regional champion qualifying for the nationals this coming May.

Sadly, this boy is almost an Orphan. He goes to school trough his earning from hitting with other players and lived in a shelter for the homeless. His mother abandoned him at age ten and his father is very old like 60 and lived in a far province from our city. (wonder why his father is very old, well, he is a son of third marriage, which make it more painful for him since all her step-siblings dnt like her mother and him).

Last monday, the team is about to leave for the venue of the nationals, when he arrived at the terminal, (i drove him there), he was told that he was being disqualified for technical reasons that the birth certificate he presented was marked "late registration".

There is this rule that qualifiers for the regionals must present a birth certificate as proof of age qualification, then it states that late registered BC's must not be done five years or later from the date of competition.

Although his BC falls within this restiction, i can't help but pity him because I have been a witness to how this child work hard and trained in order to attain success in tennis. It could have been a very big window of oppurtunity had he be able to play for the nationals.

He is devastated, he cried all night and almost felt like giving up hope on tennis and his dreams. Up to now i can't still convince him to play tennis again. I really dnt know what to do to make him live the hope again.

The
Apr 28th, 2005, 07:24 PM
Well, your problem isn't half of that of my friend.

He is real close to me, he has been my hitting partner for a year now but he is 7 years younger.

He just turned eighteen last January, after the qualifying for regionals has finished. He end up second best. BTW, its just his 2nd year joining the competition.

Last April 11 - 15 was held the regionals were the age bracket would be 18 under, obviously he still qualifies. He played for like 8 matches in 4 days and end up crushing all his opponents, eventually becoming the regional champion qualifying for the nationals this coming May.

Sadly, this boy is almost an Orphan. He goes to school trough his earning from hitting with other players and lived in a shelter for the homeless. His mother abandoned him at age ten and his father is very old like 60 and lived in a far province from our city. (wonder why his father is very old, well, he is a son of third marriage, which make it more painful for him since all her step-siblings dnt like her mother and him).

Last monday, the team is about to leave for the venue of the nationals, when he arrived at the terminal, (i drove him there), he was told that he was being disqualified for technical reasons that the birth certificate he presented was marked "late registration".

There is this rule that qualifiers for the regionals must present a birth certificate as proof of age qualification, then it states that late registered BC's must not be done five years or later from the date of competition.

Although his BC falls within this restiction, i can't help but pity him because I have been a witness to how this child work hard and trained in order to attain success in tennis. It could have been a very big window of oppurtunity had he be able to play for the nationals.

He is devastated, he cried all night and almost felt like giving up hope on tennis and his dreams. Up to now i can't still convince him to play tennis again. I really dnt know what to do to make him live the hope again.

That is fucking bullshit, if I were there I would have started throwing things and hurting people.

Even if I didn't know your friend.

jbone_0307
Apr 28th, 2005, 09:52 PM
Are you serious??? I would have gone psycho on somebody or something.

Junex
Apr 29th, 2005, 01:28 AM
That is fucking bullshit, if I were there I would have started throwing things and hurting people.

Even if I didn't know your friend.



It is really something thats supposed to be violent about.

I would understand him having these outburst and all, I guess the only way to revert the decision is on legal means, meaning bring the case on court or appeal in a higher board.

what is worst now is that my friend run away from the shelter and i have no news about him yet. this really affects him emotionally big time and i can't hlp but blame the committee that handled the decision for his disqualification.

but then again, it happens all the time here, the so called "favoritism" for the rich & powerful.

I just wish he can rebound and that nothing bad has happened to him.

jbone_0307
Apr 29th, 2005, 03:00 AM
Where are you from?? Indonesia, Malaysia?? I just can't get it out of my damn mind. I am going to train hard, register with the USTA, and get my ranking up. This year so far, has been one of the worst. From my cousin/friend moving, ACT score, this, and just everything feels like its fallin apart.

TF Chipmunk
Apr 29th, 2005, 03:10 AM
That's a terrible story, Junex :( If he can somehow get to the United States, I'm sure there would be TONS of sponsors that were willing to help him out if he is really that good. He just needs to get into the spotlight, maybe sign him up for those team things from Head rackets or Wilson rackets or stuff like that.

selking
Apr 29th, 2005, 04:37 AM
Qualifying for State is that big a deal? Perhaps I should pick up the sport again then, I did it 3 times when I was in high school ;) (well a year ago ;))

The bottom line is, you know you're better than how you played in the match that mattered. That should drive you to make sure you leave it on the court next time your out there.

I think what kills you more is not that you lost, but the fact that you lost knowing you're capeable of playing better and winning.

What state?

esquímaux
Apr 29th, 2005, 05:00 AM
That is fucking bullshit, if I were there I would have started throwing things and hurting people:haha::D:haha:

The
Apr 30th, 2005, 01:20 AM
It is really something thats supposed to be violent about.

I would understand him having these outburst and all, I guess the only way to revert the decision is on legal means, meaning bring the case on court or appeal in a higher board.

what is worst now is that my friend run away from the shelter and i have no news about him yet. this really affects him emotionally big time and i can't hlp but blame the committee that handled the decision for his disqualification.

but then again, it happens all the time here, the so called "favoritism" for the rich & powerful.

I just wish he can rebound and that nothing bad has happened to him.

That just upsets me, I wish him and you all the best.

P.S: Who are these people who turned him away. I will make them take a permanent swim with some concrete boots.

daffodil
Apr 30th, 2005, 02:56 AM
Trust me, you'll have MANY more opportunities in tennis that will make you feel HIGHER than this LOW.

K-Dog
Apr 30th, 2005, 03:07 AM
Ok, yesterday I got back from my regional tennis tournament last year and I am depressed. I played doubles and had to play 6 matches, out of those 6, we won 4, but still didn't advance to state. The first two matches we won easily 6-2 6-1 and 6-1 6-0, but we lost the third match 6-1 6-1. In order to qualify for state you have to win three consecutive matches. That was day one, then we were put in the losers bracket and had to win three consecutive matches again. The first match was really easy 6-2 6-4 and in the second match we had to come back from one set down and we ended up winning the match 3-6 6-3 6-2. We were estatic, but we had one more match to play and they weren't as good as the previous team. I think it was because we were exhausted and only had an hour in between, but we ended up losing 6-3 6-2. I am sooo fucking pissed. My damn body aches all over, we had to play 6 matches in 2 days, and have nothing to show for it. This is the lowest i've felt, ever. Usually, I am able to shake off a loss easily (like when I lost to the same girl 8-0), but this wont go away. Its only been a day, but I remember the time the match started 3:08, the time we lost 4:43, and the first song I heard (Amerie-1 thing). I'm about to cry and usually, I show no emotions whatsoever, but I hate losing. What should I do??? What do you do when this kind of situation arises???? At this point I seriously feel like giving up tennis.


No you don't feel like giving up. State is hard as hell to qualify for, only the top teams or players go to it. You played well, and have nothing to worry about. I started my seaon 2-4, and now I am on a 4 match winning streak, only losing 8 games in 4 matches. Don't give up, things happen and you need to move on and keep practicing hard!

Junex
Apr 30th, 2005, 05:20 AM
Where are you from?? Indonesia, Malaysia?? I just can't get it out of my damn mind. I am going to train hard, register with the USTA, and get my ranking up. This year so far, has been one of the worst. From my cousin/friend moving, ACT score, this, and just everything feels like its fallin apart.


from Phillipines. not strange thing here really......sad....


Tnx everyone for your support.

have not heard from my friend still, i am thinking of reporting to the police or something, but i doubt it would make things any better. I heard from someone he went home to his father but i am not sure.

I tell you man, this kid is really good and with proper training like having a sponsor for a permanent coach, he can be somebody.

Actually, before the regionals, he was touring with some player playing in events sponsored by Head in different regions in our country.

jbone_0307
May 7th, 2005, 04:38 AM
I dont know why I'm soo upset about this lost. I never get this down on losses and I am just fed up. This may be the breaking point. :mad: :sad:

zuluagafan
May 7th, 2005, 04:45 AM
ok your just a really bad looser common deal with it. u feel like giving up tennis? wat the hell is that u can do better u are not gonna win all the time. geez i just hate people like that sorry but common deal with it

Lee-Waters' Boy
May 7th, 2005, 05:18 AM
i find it hard to believe weirfan qualified for states 3 times in high school :tape: even in your small state

The
May 7th, 2005, 08:18 AM
from Phillipines. not strange thing here really......sad....


Tnx everyone for your support.

have not heard from my friend still, i am thinking of reporting to the police or something, but i doubt it would make things any better. I heard from someone he went home to his father but i am not sure.

I tell you man, this kid is really good and with proper training like having a sponsor for a permanent coach, he can be somebody.

Actually, before the regionals, he was touring with some player playing in events sponsored by Head in different regions in our country.

Were you able to eventually track him down?

spottygoose
May 7th, 2005, 10:11 AM
What do you do when this kind of situation arises???? At this point I seriously feel like giving up tennis.

Change your attitude! With an attitude like that you might as well give up.