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Szymanowski
Apr 17th, 2005, 05:57 PM
Can everyone please post their opinions on here?

Thankyou :)

:wavey:

controlfreak
Apr 17th, 2005, 06:01 PM
Superfluous to happiness.

Avid Merrion
Apr 17th, 2005, 06:49 PM
Deee-Lite What Is Love?

What is love?
I think I know what love is.
I think I know what love is.
I think I know? I think
What is love? What is love?

Mmm how do you say?
Delicious, delovely
Delectable, devine
How do you say?
Degorgeous? Dewith it?
Degroovy? Define?

Ooh lala lalalalala
Faux francaise
How do you say delicious?
How do you say delovely?
How do you say delectable?
How do you say devine?
How do you say degroovy?
Dewith it?
How do you say Deee-Lite?
We've been trying to find out
Is there really such a thing? :)

Wigglytuff
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:22 PM
romantic love is a bitch. it blinds you and keeps you from seeing what is really going on. seriously there are as many if not more stories about love and its negative side than love and its possitive side.

if you can aviod it. that being said i just met someone about a month ago that i have talked to nearly everyday and who i really enjoy talking to. :)

Barrie_Dude
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:31 PM
1 Corinthians
Chapter 131 1 (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians13.htm#foot1) If I speak in human and angelic tongues 2 (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians13.htm#foot2) but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. 2 And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing. 4 3 (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians13.htm#foot3) Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, 5 it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, 6 it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 4 (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians13.htm#foot4) Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing. 9 For we know partially and we prophesy partially, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things. 12 At present we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face. At present I know partially; then I shall know fully, as I am fully known. 13 5 (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians13.htm#foot5) So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love. Table of Contents (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/index.htm) http://www.nccbuscc.org/images/diamnd-r.gif Previous Chapter (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians12.htm) http://www.nccbuscc.org/images/diamnd-r.gif Next Chapter (http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corinthians14.htm)Footnotes

1 [1-13] This chapter involves a shift of perspective and a new point. All or part of the material may once have been an independent piece in the style of Hellenistic eulogies of virtues, but it is now integrated, by editing, into the

White Stripes
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:33 PM
What it is

It is nonsense
says reason
It is what it is
says love

It is misfortune
says calculation
It is nothing but pain
says fear
It is hopeless
says insight
It is what it is
says love

It is ridiculous
says pride
It is careless
says caution
It is impossible
says experience
It is what it is
says love

Cariaoke
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:36 PM
baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.

ooh-waa-aaaaaaaaaa-a-aaaaaaaa-aaahhhhhh-ohhhh-ohhh-oh-waahhhaaa
-aaa-aaa-ohh-unhhhhhhhh-ooh!

[/roxbury head shake]

Now, that that's out of the way, love is a complex emotion. Love is a situation of willful vulnerability that is meant to add to your life. But it has the ability to be painful when someone you love can't show you that same love because they've been hurt before or they don't feel the same way you do.

When you do find someone who is willing to love you and be loved by you, it becomes work because you have to take into consideration that person's feelings when making decisions. This step is particularly difficult for independents and loners.

When it's kicking on all cylinders, love is beautiful. But it's something that two people have to constantly work on and improve because life is about change and adjusting to that change.

The thing is, it might take awhile to realize that something has to change, which can be painful.

Knizzle
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:47 PM
baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.

ooh-waa-aaaaaaaaaa-a-aaaaaaaa-aaahhhhhh-ohhhh-ohhh-oh-waahhhaaa
-aaa-aaa-ohh-unhhhhhhhh-ooh!

[/roxbury head shake]



DAMN you beat me to it, that's the first thing that came to mind when I read that title.

AjdeNate!
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:49 PM
An abstract and useless emotion that is never truly achieved, except in the minds of weaker and needing people. It's not real and can't be attained.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:52 PM
An abstract and useless emotion that is never truly achieved, except in the minds of weaker and needing people. It's not real and can't be attained.I am so sorry that you feel that way. But are you saying that I am weak and needy because I love?

SJW
Apr 17th, 2005, 09:56 PM
Barrie stole my idea. whenever i think "what is love?" the answer starts of from the "love is patient, love is kind..." part

Barrie_Dude
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:01 PM
Barrie stole my idea. whenever i think "what is love?" the answer starts of from the "love is patient, love is kind..." partBest definition of love I ever saw though!;)

Wigglytuff
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:05 PM
An abstract and useless emotion that is never truly achieved, except in the minds of weaker and needing people. It's not real and can't be attained.
harsh but true

daniela86
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:08 PM
the most beautiful feeling that can exist :) :D and my reason to live :p

esquímaux
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:21 PM
Love is wonderful! It's an emotion that can be casual enough to make you go out of your way for something, or so deep that it can cloud your judgement and push you beyond the point of no return; that sounded rather cliche-ish :D:p It's so sweet! Love can be a secret desire of one or even shared between two. I agree with Nate that love is "abstract" in the sense that is cannot be tangibly felt, but disagree with everything else in his post. Even the strongest of the strong need love. And because of that, some would consider that a downfall; take Samson and Delilah for instance. But then again, that wasn't true love was it? :)

beauty_is_pink
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:22 PM
wish I could tell you :shrug:

AjdeNate!
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:27 PM
Even the strongest of the strong need love.
I need air and water, not love, to live.

esquímaux
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:36 PM
Nate, am I smellin' sour grapes? :tape::lol:

tennisIlove09
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:40 PM
love is something you feel for someone/something that you would do anything for. and it doesnt have to be an spouse or a significant other. it can be family, pets, friends. everyone has someone in their life that they love more than anything else.

Cariaoke
Apr 17th, 2005, 10:41 PM
I lived on air, water and food before I was in love but my quality of life has improved since I fell in love with someone. True, you don't need it to live but IMO, life is empty without some form of love, whether it be friends, family or a lover.

Hot 92 Jamz
Apr 18th, 2005, 12:19 PM
Deee-Lite What Is Love?

What is love?
I think I know what love is.
I think I know what love is.
I think I know? I think
What is love? What is love?

Mmm how do you say?
Delicious, delovely
Delectable, devine
How do you say?
Degorgeous? Dewith it?
Degroovy? Define?

Ooh lala lalalalala
Faux francaise
How do you say delicious?
How do you say delovely?
How do you say delectable?
How do you say devine?
How do you say degroovy?
Dewith it?
How do you say Deee-Lite?
We've been trying to find out
Is there really such a thing? :)

:D (snippet) (http://sg1.allmusic.com/cg/smp.dll?link=noqarr9z2w6eyktpl07epwk&r=20.asx)

Sevenseas
Apr 18th, 2005, 01:03 PM
Love is…when you are convinced that you found the right person, it is something worth fighting for. But it may take a lot of bravery and dedication to carry love till the end.

Andy_
Apr 18th, 2005, 01:44 PM
Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.

Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.

Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.

Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved.

John Lennon

SM
Apr 18th, 2005, 01:49 PM
the hardes thing to describe is an emotion its so abstract and different to each person

what is love? i think it has a different meaning to each person and is shaped by our own unique mentality. i haventfelt love in a romantic sense yet :(

bionic71
Apr 18th, 2005, 01:50 PM
An abstract and useless emotion that is never truly achieved, except in the minds of weaker and needing people. It's not real and can't be attained.

:rolleyes: I beg to differ. x

bionic71
Apr 18th, 2005, 02:06 PM
Now that I am feeling all sentimental.......LOVE takes many forms in my life.....

Learning to share, laughing at the little 'secrets' a couple shares, watching my partner whilst he is asleep, hugs, kisses, cuddling on the lounge watching a daggy movie, still having "goose bumps" everytime I pick my partner up from work or meet him for lunch.....just as it was the first time we met. Saying sorry.

Remembering loved ones who have died and smiling with fond memories.

Hugging my Mum and Dad, hugging my brother, hugging my nephew...and telling them all that I love them.

Yes, it is often abstract....and as with many other things, language fails to describe it with any accuracy.....however, it is very real and very valid.

Vincent
Apr 18th, 2005, 05:10 PM
Dave, I guess our thread is pretty successful. :):hug:;)

and Love is all.

Kart
Apr 18th, 2005, 06:01 PM
A wonderful thing but overhyped by many and definitely not essential for happiness.

DemWilliamsGulls
Apr 18th, 2005, 06:05 PM
I dont know, but I hope to find out with this sexy fella I hooked up with yesterday.... :hearts:

Shonami Slam
Apr 18th, 2005, 07:12 PM
a feeling of fullfillment and joy caused by many possible things - a work of art, a bieng, an act of compation.
don't buy the "someone that makes you feel perfect" stuff.
if i'd saved my love for humans and romantic relationships - i'd be 1/10000000000000000 the man i am.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 18th, 2005, 08:34 PM
I just look at Ashley and I know what love is!

esquímaux
Apr 18th, 2005, 09:04 PM
I dont know, but I hope to find out with this sexy fella I hooked up with yesterday.... :hearts::haha::haha::p

Pamela Shriver
Apr 18th, 2005, 10:58 PM
What is Love?

Not scoring any points in tennis? Something I was very good at.

Or the feeling someone senses when they look at moi?

LiliaLee-Frazier
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:00 PM
WHAT IS LOVE...BABY DON'T HURT ME, DON'T HURT ME...NO MORE! WHAT IS LOVE! *DISCO BEATS* HADDAWAY! :bounce:

Szymanowski
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:32 PM
Not scoring any points in tennis? Something I was very good at.

Or the feeling someone senses when they look at moi?
I wondered how long it would take you all to come up with the answer:D

well done Pam :wavey:

BritneySpearsIsHot
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:36 PM
You'll know it, when you feel it...........trust me

apoet29
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:40 PM
What happens when you are not looking for it.

Szymanowski
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:50 PM
What happens when you are not looking for it.
that's the best time to find it;)

Andy Mac
Apr 18th, 2005, 11:53 PM
love is decieving and disasterous...but at the same time addictable and blinding!:sad:

SM
Apr 19th, 2005, 01:02 AM
A wonderful thing but overhyped by many and definitely not essential for happiness.
please xplain:confused:

Barrie_Dude
Apr 19th, 2005, 02:02 AM
please xplain:confused:Obviously he is someone that has never been in love so ignore him!

Barrie_Dude
Apr 19th, 2005, 02:13 AM
What happens when you are not looking for it.It will find u!

Szymanowski
Apr 19th, 2005, 11:04 AM
It will find u!
if you are looking for it, I believe it comes as a relief when you find it, but if you are not looking for it, the happyness you feel will be a more positive emotion than simply relief. The best way to go looking for love is probably not to go looking at all, but try and get the rest of your life sorted out, not get hung up over things like "can I find someone?"

Szymanowski
Apr 19th, 2005, 11:05 AM
Dave, I guess our thread is pretty successful. :):hug:;)

and Love is all.
yeah, it's good :D

controlfreak
Apr 19th, 2005, 12:52 PM
a worrying cartoon strip about two naked five-year-olds.

Kart
Apr 19th, 2005, 11:09 PM
Obviously he is someone that has never been in love so ignore him!

Sorry do I know you ? Because you clearly don't know me :rolleyes:.

SM - I think it's great when people are in love but it irritates me when people who are in love seem to think that others' lives are empty without it.

If you're in love then I am happy for you, if you're not and you're still content with your life I'm just as happy for you :).

There are more things to life was my point.

Szymanowski
Apr 19th, 2005, 11:17 PM
it's a good point; there is more to life than a relationship, but I would emphasise that love can be found in all aspects of life, not just a relationship.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 20th, 2005, 12:57 AM
Love is good!

ceiling_fan
Apr 20th, 2005, 02:35 AM
Love is a many splendid thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love..
- from Moulin Rouge

hewittrok
Apr 20th, 2005, 05:56 AM
Love is the best thing one can experience emotionally, feels that one actually is walking on air. But love can hurt and depress a person. In my opinion i think its better to like then love.:sad:

Szymanowski
Apr 21st, 2005, 12:14 AM
Love is good!
more than true:)

Barrie_Dude
Apr 22nd, 2005, 01:10 AM
more than true:)I agree!;)

SM
Apr 22nd, 2005, 05:54 AM
well, love has many 'levels' IMO kart and i think all people do need some intimacy with other people beyond seeing them as a piece of meat, im talking about the type of intimacy and closeness that cant develop from mere friendships but requires 'sex' :)

SM
Apr 22nd, 2005, 05:56 AM
if that made sense and had coherency lol.

Philbo
Apr 22nd, 2005, 06:21 AM
True love is probably the most misunderstood emotion in all of humanity..

Every emotion, fear, anger, happiness, sadness, jealusy, resentment, compassion etc etc comes from one of 2 places - Love or Fear. Every single action we do in out lives is motivated, at the root level, by either fear or love.

When it comes to human romantic relationships, most people behave in relationships as if they have a contract with the other person. They find a person who can fulfill a set of needs that one person has ( for example, to cure loneliness or boredom, provide security, provide companionship etc) and thier partner fulfills their needs, and so people exchange needs fulfilment and then they call that love. They say they are now 'in love'.

So what happens is both partners develop a sense of what their partner expects of them, and they do everything they can to please their partner and expect the same in return - even if it goes against who they truley are....

But thats not true love. Thats just a needs exchange and its almost like a contract.

Most rships fail because when a rship is at the 'needs exchange' level, each partner might be censoring their own needs and wants, especially if it goes against what their parnter wants or needs..The person may be able to ignore their own needs for a long time, even years, but sooner or later, WHO THAT PERSON REALLY is, will reassert itself... they may start behaving in different ways and being more concerned with fulfilling their own needs than their partners needs... around this stage is when one partner will say to the other 'whats wrong with you, you've changed'....

Then conflict may follow, they fall 'out of love' - and they bust up.. But that was never true love to begin with.

True love doesnt set limits. True love is unconditional. Thats the key word. UNCONDITIONAL. If you truley LOVE somoene, in the true sense of the word, you want them to be happy - whether or not that involves you. Most people love someone, as long as they get love in return and their needs fulfilled. But thats just a contract with obligations.

AjdeNate!
Apr 22nd, 2005, 06:27 AM
love is like religion. people want to believe in it, despite no real proof it exists. it's based on need and want and hopes. it's not rooted in anything of value or worth. it's meritless.

Harju.
Apr 22nd, 2005, 06:27 AM
love is overrated. needed. shared. sex is an extension of love. a kiss is an affection that comes from love. and a relationship is created from love. your life needs love. but with the search for a life partner comes dramatic heartbreak, rejection, and endless dates. we all go through these stages of love. we all can exchange stories and experiences with a group of friends both online or in a social environment with friends offline.

AjdeNate!
Apr 22nd, 2005, 06:30 AM
love is overrated.
Totally. But I don't find it to be needed at all. Maybe I'm just a freak, but I've never had 'love' for anyone. I get along with people. I accept people. I even sorta 'like' a few people. But I don't have love and I don't think I ever will. Yet, I'm alive. So I don't think it's a need at all. Most people want love... but most people want a lot of things. Wanting isn't needing and needing doesn't equate to achieving.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 22nd, 2005, 05:33 PM
love is like religion. people want to believe in it, despite no real proof it exists. it's based on need and want and hopes. it's not rooted in anything of value or worth. it's meritless.Hello? Do you have a heart at all? And you are the only person I know that would suggest that there is no proof that love exists! Open your eyes, boy!

AjdeNate!
Apr 22nd, 2005, 05:35 PM
Hello? Do you have a heart at all? And you are the only person I know that would suggest that there is no proof that love exists! Open your eyes, boy!
That's my take on it, maybe I'm wrong... it's what I think.
Maybe I'm a cold-hearted person incapable of love? I dunno.

Kart
Apr 22nd, 2005, 07:25 PM
Maybe I'm a cold-hearted person incapable of love? I dunno.

You're not sweetheart :hug:.

SM you are coherent but I don't agree you need to be physically intimate with someone to be in love.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 22nd, 2005, 09:23 PM
That's my take on it, maybe I'm wrong... it's what I think.
Maybe I'm a cold-hearted person incapable of love? I dunno.Perhaps someday you will experience it for yourself and you will learn to follow your heart. One of the great joys in my life is spending time with those I love. Also, please see my sig. I love Ashley. I do not apologize for that, nor regret it. In fact, I feel like a stronger man because I can recognize someone special and even love them! I am thrilled to have Ash in my life!

Majo
Apr 22nd, 2005, 10:15 PM
something that can make you immensely happy, but makes you hurt like hell once it's fled

AjdeNate!
Apr 22nd, 2005, 10:19 PM
Perhaps someday you will experience it for yourself and you will learn to follow your heart.
I have every confidence that I'll never have to worry about this. It's just not me. Things like that don't happen to 'someone like me'.
One of the great joys in my life is spending time with those I love. Also, please see my sig. I love Ashley. I do not apologize for that, nor regret it. In fact, I feel like a stronger man because I can recognize someone special and even love them! I am thrilled to have Ash in my life!
I'm incredibly happy for you and Ashley. May you have happy lives and fun times. And you shouldn't apologize nor regret it. And it's very good for you to feel stronger because of your connection with her. All the better for you.

SM
Apr 23rd, 2005, 11:31 PM
the physical part makes much better tho. and it definately does create a stronger bond IMO.

i guess u do not have to f*ck, but even just a slow passionate kiss can create a much stronger bond talking from personal experience. :kiss:

SM
Apr 23rd, 2005, 11:40 PM
i agree with that love is like a contract analogy in some respects. i hate it when you feel like you have to see someone 'x' amount of times per week for 'x' amount of hours! and then when you dont, they make you feel guilty but in realist i have other obligations and a big workload at times, at other times im tired or want time to myself etc.........it does become like an implied contract

its not that ive ever been trruely in love in that i havent really reciprocated it, bu ti have been told by other ppl that they love me and then the r'ship suddenly changes and you feel you have to do certain things rather than just going with the flow and enjoying it.

Barrie_Dude
Apr 24th, 2005, 01:39 AM
I have every confidence that I'll never have to worry about this. It's just not me. Things like that don't happen to 'someone like me'.

I'm incredibly happy for you and Ashley. May you have happy lives and fun times. And you shouldn't apologize nor regret it. And it's very good for you to feel stronger because of your connection with her. All the better for you.U will fall hard and fast some day

and thanx for the good wishes

Lemonskin.
Apr 24th, 2005, 06:08 AM
What is love?
Baby don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me... no more.
Baby don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me... no more.

Edward.
Apr 24th, 2005, 04:11 PM
"Love is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope."

Szymanowski
Apr 24th, 2005, 11:25 PM
what!?

Andy T
Apr 24th, 2005, 11:51 PM
Aimer c'est se rendre.

kabuki
Apr 25th, 2005, 12:05 AM
Not trying to be dramatic, but IMO, in it's deepest forms, love is the willingness to put the other person first. Literally, you would lay down your life for them.

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:03 AM
When the hurt of love outmeasures the good of love, was it really ever love? I mean if you end up worse off because of it, was it a good thing? Is it really a true emotion, or something in our own heads.

And I can say that I really honestly don't love anyone. I'd be sad if some people I liked were gone or whatever. But I value my dog or my MP3 player nearly as much and probably more than anyone that I'm 'supposed' to love.

darren cahill
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:09 AM
nate, i'll give you love

i'll hit you like a truck
i'll give you love
i'll teach you how to ...................

ah ah ah

erotica!:devil:

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:09 AM
nate, i'll give you love

i'll hit you like a truck
i'll give you love
i'll teach you how to ...................

ah ah ah

erotica!:devil:

Silly, that's sexing not loving. :p

darren cahill
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:11 AM
Silly, that's sexing not loving. :p

oh!:eek: :o i keep forgetting that. i'm one of those that right before i cum, the 'i love you' comment comes out...oh well, must explain why little dick guy never came back! LOL

oh well, i'll still give you love cause i loves ya billy

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:13 AM
So if a friend or a family member dies, you'll feel the same way as if you lost your mp3 player?
I can't say I wouldn't miss them... but I think of it in terms of reciprocation. Honestly if I died, like 2 people would notice and maybe 1 would care. I'm not terribly close to any of my family. I haven't seen my dad in 20 years, my mom is a bitch who hates me and I see my brother like 2 days a year. I'd be sad that I lost a family member, but I'm not really "close" to them. Just because we share the same DNA doesn't mean I have to love them. I understand what you're saying and I didn't mean to be callous with my response. It's just when you're out there own your own you tend not to get close to people. And when the people in your life that you are supposed to be close with, you're not, then what's the big deal about love? I suppose I love my family... but I don't really 'know' them and they surely don't know me. For me, it'd more of a thing that I love my brother, as he is my brother - not for him specificially, just him as a blood relative. The idea of losing that is sad, but I don't really have a strong bond. :shrug: Maybe I'm just a hateful cynic, I dunno. I just don't get close to people and people don't get close to me.

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:15 AM
oh!:eek: :o i keep forgetting that. i'm one of those that right before i cum, the 'i love you' comment comes out...oh well, must explain why little dick guy never came back! LOL

oh well, i'll still give you love cause i loves ya billy
The L word is something I try not to say. I let it slip in a moment of insanity back in January and look where it got me. ;)

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:17 AM
Nothing Really Matters / Love Is All We Need.

That's coming from the Queen of pop. She can only be right.
She was also like a virgin.... maybe when she was like 9 or something I guess. :p
Don't hate, I like Madge.

darren cahill
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:19 AM
The L word is something I try not to say. I let it slip in a moment of insanity back in January and look where it got me. ;)

i try not to say it, but it just comes when i cum so to speak. its like right after i say it, i'm like "gosh, i hope they didnt hear that!" LOL...and nate, you're not the only one whos ever been hurt. you really shouldnt act like these things only happen to you. Its hard to see that while you are going through it, but you'll see one day that its true. i've done the whole bitter thing and the 'i'll never love again' stuff and its just words

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:24 AM
i try not to say it, but it just comes when i cum so to speak. its like right after i say it, i'm like "gosh, i hope they didnt hear that!" LOL...and nate, you're not the only one whos ever been hurt. you really shouldnt act like these things only happen to you. Its hard to see that while you are going through it, but you'll see one day that its true. i've done the whole bitter thing and the 'i'll never love again' stuff and its just words
I'm not at all saying it only happens to me. Everyone has pain and loss and regret and blah blah. I'm just stating why I don't think it's real. I guess I could be considered bitter, but that's just me. I live my life independent of others, and others live their lives independent of me. It works out that way. I can't say that I enjoy it, but at least with just me, I fully know what to expect and my own limitations. I've NEVER been the person that's needed someone to hold my hand or help me with anything. I do as I do and if that's a solo flight, then it is. I'm not too convinced that 'someday i'll see', I don't think that just everyone is deserving or needing or able to have that sort of a connection. I think there are people who are supposed to do their own thing and just fade away. That's always been me.

darren cahill
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:27 AM
I'm not at all saying it only happens to me. Everyone has pain and loss and regret and blah blah. I'm just stating why I don't think it's real. I guess I could be considered bitter, but that's just me. I live my life independent of others, and others live their lives independent of me. It works out that way. I can't say that I enjoy it, but at least with just me, I fully know what to expect and my own limitations. I've NEVER been the person that's needed someone to hold my hand or help me with anything. I do as I do and if that's a solo flight, then it is. I'm not too convinced that 'someday i'll see', I don't think that just everyone is deserving or needing or able to have that sort of a connection. I think there are people who are supposed to do their own thing and just fade away. That's always been me.

ok, i guess ya told me.:o i have tried to be there for you, that itself cant be denied.

gotta go, talk to you later

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:33 AM
ok, i guess ya told me.:o i have tried to be there for you, that itself cant be denied.

gotta go, talk to you later
Oh don't be like that. ;) I didn't say I never care.

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 02:40 AM
I guess to me, to love is to be loved. I might love my Yonex RQ-380 tennis racket that I made the SF in my state meet with, but it can't love me back. So that's not really love. To me, love is reciprocating. I can love Mr. Y, but if he doesn't love me... doesn't that just make me a stupid cow? And I'm sure there are plenty of happy single persons. I try, and I used to be. :lol: I guess I just am not defined in terms of another - family, significant other, so I don't see what it's all about. Maybe I'm the one missing the boat. I'm sure I am. ;)

darren cahill
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:09 AM
Oh don't be like that. ;) I didn't say I never care.

you totally misunderstood my post but its ok, it was worth the million rep points! LOL

later gator

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:13 AM
you totally misunderstood my post but its ok, it was worth the million rep points! LOL

later gator
I got it. And all I can say is sada sa. :p
My paper is done, PM a-coming.

:wavey:

Bacardi
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:39 AM
Love is hell, and then you die.

AjdeNate!
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:40 AM
Love is hell, and then you die.
:yeah:

Bacardi
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:45 AM
I see my personal philosophy doesn't just apply to me ;)

No love means, either you want the person and they don't want you. Or they want you and you cannot stand them. If if you do happen to be on the same level of wanting each other, then everyone else in the world is hellbent to destroy it. So basically, if you're looking for love. You're just as likely to find it crawling under a rock with one of thoe rolly polly bugs.

Or you can live in my existance and wake up to fights every morning over trival bullshit. :explode:

PaulieM
Apr 25th, 2005, 03:47 AM
a four letter word

mandy7
Apr 25th, 2005, 11:44 AM
love is pain....

saki
Apr 25th, 2005, 04:22 PM
I think it's patronising to assume that everyone has love in their lives. Some people don't. Personally, I find intimacy difficult and stressful so I probably love many fewer people than most people do - in fact, I probably only love my boyfriend and my dad - and that's ok. It's not a problem that needs to be fixed, different people have different priorities.