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Wigglytuff
Oct 17th, 2004, 04:51 PM
teo days ago i found a pic of my and my best friend from college back in fall of 1998 when we first met. we had a sort of falling out (and like 90% of falling outs it was over something stupid. its been 15months since i got the last email from her and over 3 years since we had our falling out.

anyway, when i saw her face i was struck with a sense of overwheling love.

and i got to wondering can you love someone that you may not know anymore. someone you havent seen in over 2 years heard of in over a year? can you still love that person? is that love? or is it something else?

has anyone else felt this way?

skanky~skanketta
Oct 17th, 2004, 05:11 PM
of course u feel that way!i know cuz i've been through it. but i'm too unforgiving to forgive her for what she did to me. anyway, long story. i think u should give her a call.

Wigglytuff
Oct 17th, 2004, 05:15 PM
of course u feel that way!i know cuz i've been through it. but i'm too unforgiving to forgive her for what she did to me. anyway, long story. i think u should give her a call.

i honestly am not even sure shes alive, thats why i have been afraid to call her parents :sad: :sad:

she has been suffering from a mystery illness that has landed her in the hospital a number of times. :sad: :sad: :sad: she says when i last heard from her she said she was going through too much to work through forgive me :sad:

OUT!
Oct 17th, 2004, 05:45 PM
oh no jiggly that's so sad. but to answer the initial question, yes I think about a friend I fell out with long ago ALL OF THE TIME. she was great and taught me so much about her culture and I just felt so happy and had so much love for her when I was around her. we fell out b/c she would always arrive late whenever we met up and i just had enough and told her her tardiness demonstrated the fact that she wasnt a good friend. how petty and stupid was i? i so regret it now though :sad: she changed her phone number and address but i miss her terribly. the last time i met her was in 2000.

sarza
Oct 17th, 2004, 05:55 PM
Yes u can love someone enough you havent seen them for ages.

For instance me and my best pal mikey lost contact a few years back we didnt fall out or nothing it was just we moved to different areas and in a way got different lives, i never stopped loving him but as time grew you end up thinking of that person less and less, well recently i was back in london and got an overwhelming erge to get in contact with him again, i rang hes mum and she had told me he was up north working and gave me hes mobile number, so after 3 years or so i text him we begun texting then rang and had a 4hr conversation catching up on all we have missed. Then a week later we both took a few days off work and went back to London, where we visited our old haunts and had a great time together. We have both grown up alot and changed as people in general so it was a little bit strange but we still had the bond we always shared and i still love him as much as i did all those years ago. Im so happy that i finally made contact with him again :)

OUT!
Oct 17th, 2004, 05:57 PM
Awww sarza lovely story :)

sarza
Oct 17th, 2004, 06:00 PM
Thanks OUT!!! I hope that you maybe oneday manage to see your friend again :) friends are so special

Kart
Oct 17th, 2004, 07:55 PM
Yes u can love someone enough you havent seen them for ages.

For instance me and my best pal mikey lost contact a few years back we didnt fall out or nothing it was just we moved to different areas and in a way got different lives, i never stopped loving him but as time grew you end up thinking of that person less and less, well recently i was back in london and got an overwhelming erge to get in contact with him again, i rang hes mum and she had told me he was up north working and gave me hes mobile number, so after 3 years or so i text him we begun texting then rang and had a 4hr conversation catching up on all we have missed. Then a week later we both took a few days off work and went back to London, where we visited our old haunts and had a great time together. We have both grown up alot and changed as people in general so it was a little bit strange but we still had the bond we always shared and i still love him as much as i did all those years ago. Im so happy that i finally made contact with him again :)
That is a nice story :).

I'm pretty sure loads of people have lost contact with people we care about over silly arguments, I know I have :(.

The longer it goes on, the harder it is to pick up the phone / write the email but it is worth it - even if you just find out they don't want to speak to you, at least you tried.

GBFH
Oct 17th, 2004, 08:02 PM
i'm an expert bridge-burner.

everyone i've lost contact with, prefers it that way :lol:

give her parents a call. if she's sick, she'll probably be happy to hear from you.

Philbo
Oct 18th, 2004, 06:39 AM
Jigglypuff - The thing is this - when you looked at the pic and felt the sense of love - that was you being who you really are..

The 'falling out' happened when you/her got caught up in too much mind-shit and one of you probably did something that offended the other one, then stubborness might have come into it and before you know it there is this gap, this distance between you two..

But once some time passes and your mind lets go of the 'shit' - you are left with the highest, and most real emotion - love.

It isnt weird at all what you felt...It was just an example of your subconcious remembering your true/highest feelings - LOVE - not the resentment and small minded stuff that caused the falling out in the first place.

M2k
Oct 18th, 2004, 01:14 PM
What a weird coincidence, I was just thinking about someone (a co-worker) I haven't seen in a few months. I had a dream about him just this morning, and as I was laying on the bed thinking about the guy I thought I felt butterflies in my stomach. http://wtaworld.com/ubb/redface.gifIt's like I just realize that I like him (??) now that I no longer see this guyhttp://wtaworld.com/images/smilies/smashtard.gif ...and to think I kind of rejected him when everything was pointing that he would ask me out. http://wtaworld.com/images/smilies/tape.giflol


btw Gigglypuff I recommend that you pick up the phone and try to find out about her. I mean it might be worth acting on those feelings, follow your instincs.







i'm an expert bridge-burner. How sad :sobbing: I think I'm that way too.:lol:

Wigglytuff
Oct 18th, 2004, 04:33 PM
thank you guys so much for your wonderful words, i just got of the phone i left a message with her mother, who i know is a bit of a jetsetter so it may be some time before i hear back from her, if at all. her mother always liked me so if it is possible and if she feels it is a good idea i am hopeful that she will get back to me eventually.

thank you guys.

its both conforting and sad to hear i am not the brigde burner. i dont too much enjoy being a brigde burner but it seems to be the lay of the land for me sometimes.