People are selfish. Even when you neglect your job to spend time with your bf, you're selfish, but in some other way. There are not people who live and breathe for others, except your parents. You're expecting Ana's boyfriends basically to focus on their careers, so that she could shine. You're a selfish fan, Izzy.
Nobody can do it instead of her. They have their careers. He obviously didn't want to neglect his job and spend the time with Ana, so Ana decided to skip the tournaments to watch him. Maybe she even liked it.
Well.. clearly we disagree on life!
A relationship is a partnership.. it shouldn't be just one doing all and the other never doing anything.. that's when it becomes abusive.. and a bad influence. And its not only about Ana neglecting tennis.. but him going all the way on influencing her team. He didn't have to.. and it's bad influence.. no other way to look at it.
I'm not even going to discuss the notion of selfish fan..
If I was thinking only of myself and my own well being I wouldn't be a fan of anyone but me..
Joking.. I just wouldn't be a fan per se at all as following someone like Ana hardly EVER brings me any joy
Someone can help you shine... Right, someone like Mirka, whose occupation is being Federer's wife.
We really disagree about how life works.. imagine 2 people.. one needs to go to an important class, the other needs to go a business cocktail. 2nd person really wants 1st person to be company to the coacktail, so 2nd person asks 1st person that, even though 2nd person knows how important that class is. 1st person says how important class is and that needs to go to class. But 2nd person insists. 1st person then says ok, lets go to cocktail. 2nd person was very selfish, and had the clear option not to be. Could just tell 1st person it was ok, and that they would see each other once the class and the cocktail were done. That would be helping the other while still doing what you have to do.
Not everything is black and white, as you said yourself. And love is all about putting the other best interest ahead.. If 2nd person really liked 1st person, 2nd person would motivate 1st person to go to class and give support.
There is a quote from a Drew Barrimore-Jimmy Fallon movie (I know, I know..) that I think fits here: "You love me enough to give up on the most important thing and I love you enough to never allow you to do so."
No, I never said that, I just think that you're looking for some explanation for this downfall, that's why you wrote this:
No.. not at all. Absolutely not. OMG.. Please..
The downfall and Ana per se were never in discussion.. And I thought we ALL agreed Ana is the one to blame for the death of her career.
I was just talking about liking a guy who was such clear awful influence. You said yourself you don't like him..
No, she wasn't that much different. She became even worse when she was dating him, but she wasn't so different, the slump already began. And some people like being in abusive relationships. Her career was fine only when she was 100% focused on tennis. Once she started dating, it was never the same. She's obviously not able to set the limits and priorities.
Ok.. I'm NOT discussing Ana's stupid attitudes!!!! !!!!! !!!!
I could start talking about Ana here.. but I don't want to, otherwise you guys would kick me out of the forum once again. I'm not discussing her throwing her career down the drain.
Now.. I do think she was a world of difference with him and without him.. I remember writting back in late 2010 how I was finally recognizing the Ana I like again.. she was that different to me, even while talking about things not related to tennis in interviews.
And look.. Ana started dating Fernando around september 2008. From that period until december, she added 3 tournaments to her schedule, made a QF, a SF and won a title. Didn't go WAGing in any of his tournaments, even though she could've gone to Davis Cup, since she was on holidays and was biggest match of his career (until that point). In the matter of 3 months he went to 2 of her tournaments. She met Adam in december.. from then till they first parted ways in 2010, she had a record of withdrawing from tournaments, played the least ammount ever in a year (2009, 14), WAGed endlessly (11 golf tournaments she attended), and became an irritating idiot. In a matter of 1 year and a half, Adam went to 2 of her tournaments.
So its not only about dating or not.. sometimes you associate yourself with people who bring your worst into surface.
Like Radwanska-Wozniacki matches are always a bore.. while Wozniacki-Paszek was a great match, and Serena-Radwanska was also a nice one.. match ups matter.. and all I'm saying is that this guy was an awful influence for Ana's career and I could never like him exactly because of that.