Um, you kind of did.
This is what you said:
But never mind.
No, no I didn't. Why do you put once and always in bold? It does not mean the same thing you know.
What I meant there is that Ana would always simply bow down to Kim.. approach the match like she couldn't win anyway. With that attitude, she was always going to lose, even if she knew exactly how to play Kim and/or was playing great tennis. By bowing down even before the match, Ana would never have a chance to win, which lead to the 1 and 2 beat downs. Even at top level, if she bowed down, she would lose easily. With the right approach, on the other hand, Ana could have a chance to win. So it was always much more about going on court to win and having the right attitude in this match up, because Ana had never played to win against Kim. Obviously, if she played like crap, no attitude would save her. But playing great would only be posible by having the right attitude, playing to win. So yeah... there are other factors involved obviously, but the one that probably made the most difference was her actually playing to win, not just bowing down. I think if she had that attitude in other matches, she might have lost, but she would also have a chance to win... would definitely not be 1 and 2 beatdowns. So the improved play was not only the result of change of attitude, but the change of attitude will always give her a chance to perform well.
Nevermind, I'm not sure I'm explaining myself well..
It really doesn't. It could be as easy as reframing her inner speech, changing her perspective, if she has someone to "set her straight". If she had such a person right away, she could adjust her attitude in no time. However, the reason it looks so hard to change is because she isn't looking in the right place. The problem with her is that she is hoping she will run into someone like that and is basically using the hit and miss method, possibly searching for someone like that to be also a coach. While that is entirely possible, it might also take forever to find that combo in one person. It's like the guy who was looking for his lost watch next to a lightpole at night, and when asked if he lost his watch there he said: No, but I can only look here, because there is light.
Again, I must disagree. Quite the contrary. IF she pays attention to her losses all the time, like you suggest, those wounds will never heal. If she focuses on her past losses (and sees them as scars) and is at all times vigilant about possible future losses because they could create permanent scars, she will be more likely to repeat them. Essentially it's the so called white bear phenomenon - if we want to avoid something, the best way is NOT to focus on avoiding it, because this is how we focus our minds exactly on the thing to avoid as opposed to what we want to achieve. A case in point, for Ana to avoid a bad toss, it's not a good idea to pay attention to it all the time, quite the opposite. She should focus on getting her serve where it should go and not think about toss at all.
I agree she is not looking at the right place.. but I never sugested she pays atention to her losses all the time. What I said is that you haveto work on not letting things repeat itself, would never say that one acomplishes that by focusing in past losses. I probably used the wrong words before, what I meant is that the wounds are there, so you have to be even more focused and more concentrated in winning than normally, because the wounds are ready to flare up at first opportunity, at first loss of concentration. Concentration in the present match, not in past losses. I do agree with your white bear phenomenon point.
Here you are a little bit contradictory. If a little bit would only help her a bit, then why would she go mad?
The thing is, if I thought it was as hard to change mentality as you seem to be saying, I would never be frustrated with Ana. Because then, how can I consider her accountable for something that sounds next to impossible to change?
I mean a little bit wouldn't be enough to fix things.. it would only be a temporary measure. And it's really tough to fix, but with effort anything is within reach. It's only imposible if you never work on it and doesn't even accept it might be a problem.. like Ana.
But that is the question. She cannot work on it herself because if she knew how to fix her thinking, she wouldn't be having these issues. She needs someone to help her change her perspective, reframe her inner speech, and first and foremost teach her how to regulate her emotions on court. Someone who would help her realise how her decisions affect her succes etc. And if she expects this will all be fixed by a good coach, which I am not dismissing as impossible,only highly unlikely, she might be looking forever and in looking lose her peak years.
100% agreed with this. She needs someone to help her.. and there are actually a lot of mechanisms that can help you to control emotions on court. Mechanisms you can learn. But first step would be to accept that she needs that help.. she doesn't even thinks that is a problem.