Re: The JJ Forum Random Muttering Thread - Totally Off Topic! episode 4.
Lol. I had a crush on my current bf when I was in high school, I think that we were flirting with each other for years, but that was it. For whatever reason, we were never together. I think that we knew that it wouldn't work + he was a jerk.
So, when I gave up on him, I started dating someone else and we were together for years (over 4 years). But still he (my current bf) never gave up on flirting with me, he texted me very often although he knew I had a bf. I was never completely indifferent, but I tried my best to ignore it. Once my relationship became the most boring thing in my life, I stopped ignoring his endless attempts to ruin my relationship and make a mess of my life. But I really needed that. After ending a relationship which basically became a routine, I needed someone new. I desperately needed something different. It wasn't fair to my ex bf, but I was honest to him.
Sounds similar to a friend of mine who was in a long term relationship with his partner, but as with you they got stuck in a rut & it became really mundane. At least you were honest with your ex & didn't cheat. I'm glad it worked out for the best
My friend broke up with her bf few months ago. He became cold and weird in the end of their relationship, but he never told her why he started behaving like that. Few days ago, she was lurking in facebook.
In the end she found some profile that wasn't private and found the pics from his engagement "party".
Your poor friend. That must have hit hard.