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post #1 of 33 (permalink) Old Aug 11th, 2003, 09:06 PM Thread Starter
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Have you ever managed to turn a friendship into love ?

I never imagined posting something like this here, but at the moment, Ive a huge problem in my life knowing that I became friends with one of the cutest guys in town due to a fate-like chat session earlier this year and from emotional talking dates alone to clubbing and soon going on vacation, this friendship developed like a thunderstorm having in mind that we come from different types of background and interests and that what we share is very rare.

Unfortunately, this developed into love (from my side) soon after and we already had a certain problem at a party where he kissed some other guy and I soon enough became "Alexis Carrington" and made a scene out of it resulting in the declaration of my feelings that he, as I found out (and was prepared for that), cannot return. Its a fact hes attracted to the body/face-people and though Im definetly nice-looking Im not the sharp looking man he wants to have as a boy-friend and I wonder why people cannot -if they point that out so concretely- accept that the feelings they share in a friendship and that they are so close to each other, that sometimes even THIS friendship can end in a relationship. Its pretty hard since then going clubbing and realizing him flirting and then you spend the whole night suffering from heartache. Its difficult to explain why this friendship is deeper than any other before and about how difficult topics we already talked same as how big surprises we made for each other and how many time we spend. How can people judge a relationship or not-question just because of looks if being so 1:1
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No no no, and it wont go from love to friendship if it ever ends.

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I just cant stand that hes been hurt by so many boys that looked attractive as he is and just used him as a toy and that he cannot realize that its more what WE share than being superficial.

And it kills me that Ill never have the chance of embracing him knowing he does not like that as friends, maybe because hes been hurt too badly.
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I'm in love with one of my friends, but I don't know that it will ever get anywhere. It's been stuck in a rut for a few years now. However the offer was made if I'm willing to move we can work things out. As selfish as it seems, I would risk it all just to see if I could ever become more. Because I can't imagine anything else on heaven and earth I would want more.

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the opposite is known to happen quite alot
" lets just be friends"

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Nope. But if I liked one of my friends I wouldn't turn it into love cuz IMO friendship's better than love.
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Too true, DD.
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it only works if u fancy someone. ive tried to have a relationship with 2 really good freinds and it has always ended in disaster and jeapordized/ended the friendship. for me, looks are really important. i have to be totally there physically and in lust to have a good relatonship. otherwise no sex, and whats the point of that??

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Sounds like he is pretty shallow!
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I did and I aint ever doin that ish again!!!!!!!!! The reason is cuz after we had sex it was neva the same again. We had cross the line and it was too late go back to the way it was and we knew it. It was all cuz we was drunk and horny.
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I tried to turn a friendship into love for 7 years. I lost interest in her love about 6 months ago and am now only interested in her for sex. So of course, that is suddenly on the verge of happening.

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I tried to turn a friendship into love for 7 years. I lost interest in her love about 6 months ago and am now only interested in her for sex. So of course, that is suddenly on the verge of happening.
Be careful chile! After y'all have sex y'all may not even be friends anymore. I know its your bizness but honey I have been there and I wish somebody had checked me before we took it that level cuz I lost one of my best freinds all cuz we was drunk and horny.
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what was it that Leena always said? "men and women can't be friends if they're sexually attracted to each other."

couldn't agree more.
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wow. well im going to be different and go against everyone else in this thread.

friends/lovers/whatever arent always forever. true the relationship may not last forever, but thats not always the point of a relationship. i look at friendships/relationships as learning experiences.

i say if you have feelings about a friend and they feel the same way, then go for it. better to sit back and wonder your whole life. if you lose them, you lose them. pain is inevitable in life, you can try to avoid it by not taking risks, but it will eventually catch up to you.

when you finally find true love, it is so much better when youve been hurt in the past instead of sheltering yourself. you are wiser and not so naive. love isnt ALL about happiness. "the sweet is never as sweet without the sour"

as for my personal experiences, ive turn to friendships into relationships. one i am still friends with [thou i dont see him cos he no longer lives near me] and the other i never speak to at all. do i miss him sometimes? yes, but ive missed most people ive lost along the road. i learned a lot from both of those relationships and i reall believe i would regret not taking the chance.

"the sweet is never as sweet without the sour"

p.s. love is hundred times better than friendship cos love included friendship and the physical perks as well.


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