Originally Posted by Sally Struthers
A few posters have said stuff like everyone is equal or you have to take into account other things .. blah blah blah... excuses and trying to be PC and not hurt other people's feelings!
Tiger parents don't give a crap about feelings. Results are what count and from good results come praise, approval, and self esteem.
I believe this works since I have seen it with several of my Indian and Asian friends, who are all very successful now. Do we resent our parents? No! It does create an environment of stress and competition, but it prepares you for the real world.
I am only addressing the equality/superiority angle when you argue it is PC to tell your kid everyone is equal.
Well, that is all good and dandy.
But let me ask you, I assume you and your successful friends are Asian-Americans and Indian-Americans.
How you you react, even with your success, if white people say they are superior to you.
I am 100% various minority students association including Indian students or Asian or Black students would complain to the highest level of the schools administration.
Why, because as group, you know an assertive superiority complex of another group might affect you, especially if the group with superiority complex is in the majority and can exert that power to cause harm.
There is nothing wrong with raising you child with self-confidence and stress in their minds that education is important and that they have to be prepared by working hard so that they can compete with others.
It is adding the element of superiority like Tiger Mom author is doing that is dangerous.
Many Germans and other European Jews were highly educated and some artistically gifted, but the Nazis the Aryan were the superior people. all those educated Jews were looked upon with suspicion.
After all, if the Aryans are superior, the master race, how can an educated Jew hold any power over an Aryan German in the private work place ( including but not limited to academia, business, law, manufacturing).
One to explain it was their education was bogus, a fraud.
The notion of superiority of one people over another is very dangerous, and it is plaguing part of Indian society today.
It made apartheid possible in South Africa.
BTW, there are Indian South Africans, and they did suffer discrimination as well (although not at the same level as blacks) under the apartheid regime, despite their tiger moms.
There also Chinese South Africans, where not considered white, but Taiwanese, Korean and Japanese were considered honorary whites.
I am list all this to say once you on the road of group stratification, you set in motion things you cannot control.
Let say a hiring manager has that list when making application screening decision, it is only natural that s/he retain people for consideration stating from the top of the list.