No, the point is that just because someone is a stranger to you doesn't mean that you shouldn't give a shit about her, especially if you're considering sleeping with her husband. If someone's a weirdo here, it's not me.
Wow, calm down ! I didn't even call you a weirdo, I just used a smiley §
So anyway. I will take the time to explain fully my position about this.
Adultery is, in most of cases, wrong. But not evil. No one belongs to no one.
So, let's call the third party X, it will be quicker for me to type.
I nearly slept with a guy who was involved in a relationship, I rejected him for a few reasons including his girlfriend, but we still made out and kissed. Whatever, the day after, he thanked me for stopping him from cheating on his girlfriend. I felt awful for days, I couldn't even look myself in a mirror, especially that the dude professed his love to his girlfriend on Facebook a few hours after we talked, I saw it of course.
Really, it's not like I defend the adultery. I just think it's not all black and white. It would be ridiculous to say otherwise.
And that's why I think that if your boyfriend cheats on you, you should worry more about him than the other party ?! Sure it's not very moral, sure it's not a good thing from X, but if X is single, and that anyway your relationship was hitting rock bottom....
If the partner cheated with the best friend than with a random girl, then it's different, you appreciate the situation really differently.
Hence my "why should she deeply
It was badly phrased, so I apologize for that, I used the word "deeply" which was a key one, but I think it would be disgusting from my best friend to sleep with my boyfriend (not that I have one currently, so I don't have to worry about that
) , and I don't know if I would forgive them. It's a pretty much terrible thing to do.
OTOH if it was a random girl, I feel it's more repairable. I don't know. I have never been confronted to that situation, but I would have not any special bound or whatever with X , then I would be mad at her of course, but I don't think I would blame her too much.
It's like that poor excuse of "but she seduced me !" NO ! You have to keep your pants on.
Such a ridiculous and disgusting argument. He could have said no, and it would have stayed at the "seducing, flirting" phase. I just think it's too easy to blame it all on X, when the real issue lies with your partner.
Also, what if X knows the cheater is in a relationship but the cheater tells X he is unhappy, the other is a bitch, blablah, and even worse, there are feelings involved, and they are both good friends. X cares much more about the cheater than the partner. Should X care more about the wronged party in that case ? In an ideal world, she should. But we are all humans with grey areas, not in a black and white world. So in that case, we are pretty much doomed with a conflicting state of mind.