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please explain novichok since i don't get it, what makes the difference if the guy is gay or bisexual?
If he were bisexual then he's not really deceiving his wife about his sexuality. If he were gay, then there's obviously a fundamental problem with the relationship from the very beginning.
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please explain novichok since i don't get it, what makes the difference if the guy is gay or bisexual?
shap_half believes that it is preferable for non-heterosexual men to come out of the closet. I thought that he assumed that the husbands in question are gay. If they're gay, then I do believe that it's preferable for them to come out (since the marriages would be based on a lie). But if they're bisexual (and sexually attracted to their wives), I believe that it might be preferable for them to stay in the closet. Coming out as bisexual might end up hurting their marriages.
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That has never been the point being argued, at least from my confused soul side.
Agreed. We all know there'll be some skank to meet his needs but why be that skank? Let somebody else get involved in that mess - find a decent guy for the night. There are plenty out there.

As for the wife never finding out - you're still participating in something that betrays or dishonours her. The act is still wrong no matter which way you cut it. The fact that she may not find out or that if it's not you, it'll just be someone else, doesn't make it okay. It's just a cop out that allows you to get yours. Why be part of the problem when you could have more meaningful sex without the hassle, worry or guilt? What's wrong with doing the right thing / doing right by people, even complete strangers who you may never meet?

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If he were bisexual then he's not really deceiving his wife about his sexuality. If he were gay, then he obviously lied to her when he married her.
thx for clearing that up...



if he could have sex with her he probably is a bisexual guy anyway( to some extent), but i don't know i might be wrong, this is just based from my POV, i just can't imagine myself having sex with a girl even if i wanted to

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If a husband and wife agree to be monogamous i.e., there's a contract between them. Why are other people bound by that contract especially if those people have no say whatsoever in coming up with the terms of that contract?
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Interesting topic. I've got a question. I've never cheated on my girlfriend. She however has been cheated on. She mentioned she always felt more hatred towards the arbitrary third party than the guy whom cheated on her. This always struck me as being nonsensical and yet she could never give me a satisfactory answer as to why. Anyone?

I know it is directly related to the topic at hand, but there it is.
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^ Maybe she still loved the person who cheated so it was easier to blame the third party. It might also be avoidance on her part if she saw the third party as a seducer or something like that.

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^Isn't the fact that the man is closeted, the original, and also the greater act of deception?

Personally, I have no greater respect for a repressed closeted man than I do for a closeted man "eating out".
I'd hate to know that a man was cheating on me. But for him to hide his true sexual identity... oh my. Those on the downlow should be ashamed!

I wouldn't want to be married to someone (closeted) bisexual either, no offense: I feel there is even more temptation for cheating?

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Here with your man, hand on my hip.
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Interesting topic. I've got a question. I've never cheated on my girlfriend. She however has been cheated on. She mentioned she always felt more hatred towards the arbitrary third party than the guy whom cheated on her. This always struck me as being nonsensical and yet she could never give me a satisfactory answer as to why. Anyone?

I know it is directly related to the topic at hand, but there it is.
I think it's just easier to think, "that bitch stole what's mine." Than, "my boyfriend didn't want me anymore." You're placing the blame outside you're relationship by directing everything towards the third party, including the relationship's demise.
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^ Maybe she still loved the person who cheated so it was easier to blame the third party. It might also be avoidance on her part if she saw the third party as a seducer or something like that.
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I think it's just easier to think, "that bitch stole what's mine." Than, "my boyfriend didn't want me anymore." You're placing the blame outside you're relationship by directing everything towards the third party, including the relationship's demise.
Makes sense. I have always felt that regardless of seducing or being seduced the culpability always fell on the person whom vowed to be faithful. I guess it is easier to look outward rather than inward(in the relationship) to place the proper blame for infidelity. Thanks.
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I wouldn't, but I wouldn't judge someone who did either.


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I wouldn't, but I wouldn't judge someone who did either.
Same here. (gurl we are so going to hell )

It really isn't my thing, I don't know why but I attract dudes who are already in a relationship and I am like "Um no" .

But this is not all black and white. In the best of the worlds, no one would cheat on their partner, marriages would be all successful. This is not the case.

What I find detestable is to lie to the other about your marital status. That's totally dishonest. You tell the other you are married, it's up to the other to have sex with you or not anyway. But if you hide that, and the other wants more with you... and one day, finds out you are married. and your other half finds out too Loss-loss.

I am not one to say adultery is 100% evil because it is too hard to judge on both sides. We all did mistakes anyway. What if the dude is really unhappy in his marriage (his wife is an awful bitch to her, cheats on him as well, etc etc)but doesn't want to leave because : kids, what the hell would happen after ? etc etc many questions.
Also there is not only adultery as in the sex outside from the bounds of marriage, but also feelings. And that, it is worse because you can't even control them.


That being said, I hope it will never happen to me.

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Same here. (gurl we are so going to hell )

It really isn't my thing, I don't know why but I attract dudes who are already in a relationship and I am like "Um no" .

But this is not all black and white. In the best of the worlds, no one would cheat on their partner, marriages would be all successful. This is not the case.

What I find detestable is to lie to the other about your marital status. That's totally dishonest. You tell the other you are married, it's up to the other to have sex with you or not anyway. But if you hide that, and the other wants more with you... and one day, finds out you are married. and your other half finds out too Loss-loss.

I am not one to say adultery is 100% evil because it is too hard to judge on both sides. We all did mistakes anyway. What if the dude is really unhappy in his marriage (his wife is an awful bitch to her, cheats on him as well, etc etc)but doesn't want to leave because : kids, what the hell would happen after ? etc etc many questions.
Also there is not only adultery as in the sex outside from the bounds of marriage, but also feelings. And that, it is worse because you can't even control them.


That being said, I hope it will never happen to me.
Me too and most of them identify themselves as straitht or bi curious (whatever that is) so I guess that's why I feel with this property to talk about the morality of accepting a proposition of a married man.

Like you have stated not everything is white or black but imho helping someone to cheat is reprehensible and it is something that should be judged.

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Me too and most of them identify themselves as straitht or bi curious (whatever that is) so I guess that's why I feel with this property to talk about the morality of accepting a proposition of a married man.

Like you have stated not everything is white or black but imho helping someone to cheat is reprehensible and it is something that should be judged.
I think, from the moment the other has been really trying to get you and doesn't seem to think about it, it's too late

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