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post #1 of 34 (permalink) Old Dec 3rd, 2002, 07:01 PM Thread Starter
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URGENT HELP NEEDED!!!!!!

The girl I most fancy in the whole world is probably leaving college.
She's in my maths class, but she's going for a job interview at 11:00am on the 4th of December.
I wished her good luck (and I genuinely meant it), but if she gets the job she'll leave college and I'll never see her again.
She lives a couple of miles away from me, but we don't socialise together.
I talk to her quite a bit, but about normal stuff like music and films and homework etc, but she'll probably be leaving college before Christmas, and the next time (and possibly the LAST time) I'll see her is on Thursday and I desperately want to tell her how I feel, but I'm lame at telling beautiful girls stuff like that. I always freeze up and stutter and mumble.
She doesn't fancy me, that I know, but she doesn't know that I fancy her and I want her to, and after that she can like me or ignore me or whatever, but either way I'll know that I told her.
I would ask my cousin for advice, but she doesn't have a phone at the moment, so, PLEASE could you all give a shy 18 year old some advice about how to tell a beautiful girl how I feel.

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I was recently 'released from my contract' at work and i too am shy. I liked this girl, but didn't know how to say anything.

I didn't know i was losing my job, i didn't get chance to tell her as i was escorted out of work, i regret that i didn't say anything.

She may like you, she may not, but don't end up with a regret like me, any girl worth anything will appreciate the flattery you put on her, if she's nasty about it, she's worth nothing
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can't help you....I suck at this I always wait...and then regret it when my chances are all done
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..im quite shy when it comes to expressing my feelings outright i find it extremely tough to do so as well..

..so i would advise you to write her a note - a letter detailing your thoughts and feelings towards her could do the trick and well its a hell of a lot easier writing down everything you would like to say then confronting her with it .. or you could very well just swallow your pride and hope for the best..

..anyhow good luck with it - but one thing is certain and it seems you already know she has to be told - dont let your chance pass over because if you dont tell her now then you probably never will..

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How do you know she doesn't fancy you ???
she said so ???

asking someone extremely hot is pretty tough to do, the longer you leave it the harder it becomes.

I've made some past errors and didn't do anything, and I've not seen that girl again and no idea where she is now.

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I know what it's like to be shy and be your age Cassius, well I'm 19, lol, but no difference practically.

I think the good thing here is you've spoken to this girl before, it's not like you've never spoken to her and she doesn't know who you are. You don't have to tell her how you feel just now, all you could say is, you'll miss talking to her when she leaves, so could she maybe give you her number, so you could just have it and you two could meet up again sometime?
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Oh dear - you men really are hopeless aren't you..tsk, tsk, tsk..

Of course you should let the girl know how you feel. If you don't want to just put your heart right there on the line for her - that's fine..it's unnecessary at this point. Just tell her that you enjoy talking with her and would like to keep doing just that if she should move. Then give her your number and email, etc..Maybe ask if you could take her out for a drink before she leaves..It's cake..

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post #9 of 34 (permalink) Old Dec 3rd, 2002, 07:28 PM Thread Starter
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How do you know she doesn't fancy you???
I'm ugly.
It really IS that simple.

I'm going to tell her that I'll miss talking to her (she's actually the only one in my class who I ENJOY talking to) if/when she leaves (I know that she'll leave college before me, this is her last year, whereas I have another 2 years after this one), and I'm going to ask if she has e-mail address, but I was planning to give her a valentines card or something in February, so to be told today that she'll probably be gone by Friday is quite an unwelcome suprise.
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What????? I've never heard that expression before. Is it some kind of silly euphemism?
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If there is one thing I've learnt in life it is to say what you feel. Don't leave it until it's too late Cassius. Take it from me - you'll regret it.

Just tell her how you feel. Rejection lasts only a short time. Regret OTOH can last far longer.

You're not asking her to marry you. I'm pretty sure she'll be flattered. If the feeling is not mutual, then you can say that you tried. Don't have regrets Cassius.

btw, I doubt that you're ugly. Nobody is completely ugly (maybe on the inside in some cases, and my former g/f's mother was on the outside too) but that's another thread.

Follow your heart. Good luck!!
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Isn't telling someone that you like/love him/her the sweetest thing you can do? What do you risk? That she laughs at you? If she does then she wasn't worth it .
And if you don't do that, you're going to hate yourself.

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Thank You everyone
I hope she actually comes into college on Thursday, so I can talk to her again.
It's strange, I want her to do well in her job interview because I'm a nice guy and I like her alot, BUT there's also a part of me that doesn't want her to do well and to stay at college so I can see her more, because I like her alot.
It's a wierd mix of feelings.

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Having been in your position a lot I would tell her how you feel. You never know what would happen and if she does hate you at least you wont see her agaib if she gets the job. Thats what I did
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Having been in your position a lot I would tell her how you feel. You never know what would happen and if she does hate you at least you wont see her agaig if she gets the job. Thats what I did
that's quite good! what will it matter if she dis's you. You won't see her after Friday, and being rejected doesn't last long

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