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Age barrier at work!? (and life)

Is that a problem for you?

I find myself frustrated most of the time because people (clients, co workers, strangers, banks & institutions, society in general) do not take you seriously.

Speacially for the kind of job I do (sales) people need to trust you but when they see me they most of the time ask what is my age & some sales have ended in failure mostly because a prejudice I can't break.

Last week I wanted to apply for an international credit card & although I did meet all the economic requirements they rejected me because I'm not 25 yet.

Life's tough

I'm 22 btw.

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Maybe ,just maybe, its not an age barrier but a face barrier ?
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That was harsh.

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Im 24 and the next youngest person in my entire company is over 35. I am in pharma sales and I totally get what you are saying. My clients are fine with me, its a lot of my co workers that handle it weird. And its more on their end than mine. Its like they get nervous around me. I dont know how else to describe it. I am definitely envious of my friends who work with other people their age or at least have a few in their age bracket. I have no one to talk to about how drunk I was the weekend before but in all seriousness I can only have so much in common or to say when it comes to hearing about my co worker's kids soccer game the weekend before.

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It's understandable. The only thing you can do is just be the best you can be.
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Im 24 and the next youngest person in my entire company is over 35. I am in pharma sales and I totally get what you are saying. My clients are fine with me, its a lot of my co workers that handle it weird. And its more on their end than mine. Its like they get nervous around me. I dont know how else to describe it. I am definitely envious of my friends who work with other people their age or at least have a few in their age bracket. I have no one to talk to about how drunk I was the weekend before but in all seriousness I can only have so much in common or to say when it comes to hearing about my co worker's kids soccer game the weekend before.
Pharma sales? Like in a drug store or for a lab?

Luckyly there's youth where I work but I do get along with the rest of my colleagues we often go for some drinks after work & gather together for a bbq, birthdays or something. Most of them are parents too. Maybe the enviroment at your work is too formal, how long have you been working there?

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I know this is not the same thing, but on work trips, it happens to me sometimes. I'm in my early late twenties, but when traveling for work, I'm usually with people who are much older than me from other parts of the country and other offices. And it's very rare for me to be traveling with anyone in my age range. (There have been trips where someone may be younger, but that's happened twice, and I travel for work a fair bit.) But I just make do and dazzle with my personality and by engaging people on a level that showcases that there are commonalities in everyone's lives, no matter the differences. Food and relationships always bring people together, for example.
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It's understandable. The only thing you can do is just be the best you can be.


I've tried not to shave during work days to look a bit older, it does add a couple of years to my appearence.

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I know this is not the same thing, but on work trips, it happens to me sometimes. I'm in my early late twenties, but when traveling for work, I'm usually with people who are much older than me from other parts of the country and other offices. And it's very rare for me to be traveling with anyone in my age range. (There have been trips where someone may be younger, but that's happened twice, and I travel for work a fair bit.) But I just make do and dazzle with my personality and by engaging people on a level that showcases that there are commonalities in everyone's lives, no matter the differences. Food and relationships always bring people together, for example.
I want a full time job that would demand me to travel, sometimes I'm stuck in an office & I hate that. At least I get to talk a lot in my job.

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I know this is not the same thing, but on work trips, it happens to me sometimes. I'm in my early late twenties, but when traveling for work, I'm usually with people who are much older than me from other parts of the country and other offices. And it's very rare for me to be traveling with anyone in my age range. (There have been trips where someone may be younger, but that's happened twice, and I travel for work a fair bit.) But I just make do and dazzle with my personality and by engaging people on a level that showcases that there are commonalities in everyone's lives, no matter the differences. Food and relationships always bring people together, for example.


That sounds like something I'd say but I'd say it tongue-in-cheek!

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Is that a problem for you?

I find myself frustrated most of the time because people (clients, co workers, strangers, banks & institutions, society in general) do not take you seriously.

Speacially for the kind of job I do (sales) people need to trust you but when they see me they most of the time ask what is my age & some sales have ended in failure mostly because a prejudice I can't break.

Last week I wanted to apply for an international credit card & although I did meet all the economic requirements they rejected me because I'm not 25 yet.

Life's tough

I'm 22 btw.
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Maybe ,just maybe, its not an age barrier but a face barrier ?
Oh you are back.

Anyway it's true, some people have age-related préjugés. My brother (he is 30) is so damn insufferable. "I really can't understand how you can be friends with someone who is 10 years older than you, really at work, I notice these people who are your age, Deborah, and they are so immature, we really don't belong to the same world. They care about getting drunk, I have much more serious worries, I have two kids now."
He is also the most stubborn dude I've ever known so whatever...

So I guess... as long as you do your work, are always OK to make your job, and all nice to others, like a smiley then chit chat then a cup of coffee during your short break with your workmates... Should be good enough...
But yes, if you want to get a bold position or something, it will likely be hampered by age.
Maybe try to not show too much your young age by talking about getting drunk, etc etc ? But to be honest, my brother overuses the age excuse when I am trying to debate/have a serious discussion with him or even when he is tired so doesn't want to talk to me. It's quite common, I already felt that when I worked in a factory.

Main thing : focus on your job, show you are enthusiastic and ready to learn more from them...

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Well my problem is with the customers not with my co workers. I also try to learn from all people I've met but on work I don't want to sound arrogant but I'm better & more experienced than most of them who are older than me.

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Well my problem is with the customers not with my co workers.
Well that can work with the customers as older people can have préjugés related to age. Also many might think "oh he is so young, I bet he just started his job, and doesn't know shit.. must be incompetent."

You need to prove yourself to each customer, it's tiring I know. but if you do, that will impress your boss too ! But then it's not that easy... just look cool and serious, and talk about what you know..

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This girl at my job who is 21 got a promotion over a lot of more experienced people and a few eyebrows were raised.

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Well that can work with the customers as older people can have préjugés related to age. Also many might think "oh he is so young, I bet he just started his job, and doesn't know shit.. must be incompetent."

You need to prove yourself to each customer, it's tiring I know. but if you do, that will impress your boss too ! But then it's not that easy... just look cool and serious, and talk about what you know..
Yea I think that's it.

Well in sales the only thing that will impress your boss is by reaching the sales goals.

I love sales every customer is a new challenge, a new story, etc.

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