the key difference between marriage and civil union is children and possible adoption.
That may be the key difference in your country, but in the United States, there are large difference in tax law, immigration law, inheritance law, etc. that give married people profound rights that people getting civil unions do not have. The most profound effect for me personally would be immigration law. I tend to date foreign guys.
Only heterosexual couples like Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger can have and look after the mental and physical well-being of their children.
I loved your whole post. Fierce.
Originally Posted by Miching~Mallecho
Marriage is a generally ridiculous Christian institution (in modern times). Why should gays have to suffer too? There are other ways to obtain equal rights anyway.
I understand your sentiment, and I have a lot of issues with marriage personally. But if other gay couples do want it, I advocate for their personal freedom to be allowed to do what makes them happy, even though, yes, to me, it sounds like suffering.
Marriage is traditionally a religious ceremony and religion has traditionally vilified and condemned homosexuality for thousands of years. Therefore, I do not see why a gay person would want to embrace something that says they are wrong.
Non-religious people get married all the time. Their marriage doesn't need to be defined by a religion they don't believe in. Religion also said divorce, remarriage, and interracial marriage was sinful for centuries. That doesn't mean that modern couples need to think about that when marrying.
Imagine you were in a long-term gay relationship. You've been together 20 years. You get cancer and have 5 months to live. Imagine your financially struggling partner needing to pay lots of inheritance or estate taxes. Or the possibility that your hateful relatives contest the will. Or your partner being unable to inherit your benefits or pension. Some people don't view marriage as a religious ceremony about pledging their love to God. Some people view it as a government contract relating to finance, property, taxation, inheritance, immigration status, immunity from testifying against each other in court, etc.
Just because some religious people hijacked "marriage", it doesn't mean you have to define it that way for yourself. Non-Christians the world over also had relationships before white men conquered them, and, for example, there were same-sex marriages in the New World before the Europeans showed up. I don't understand why we have to define marriage by Christianity, which has been around for 2000 years, when people got "married" many thousands of years before that.