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Gaspa, do you realise depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain?
I know, but there are millions of ways to cheat on our brain...see I don't care if you would believe me or not, i shared my knowledge to someone who asked for it, then it's up to whoever it reads to trust my words (and all the sources and studies where I took them from).
I guess we all agree on the fact that when we are depressed we are not objective towards things so i'm much keener on believing on studies made by universities and such than on personal experience, even mine.

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Re: How do you deal with depression?

I don't have clinical/severe depression or anything like that but when life gets me down I tend to just shut down. I still don't know how to cope with it and I just end up beating myself up for hours and it's really unhealthy.

I have temporary ways of coping though, but it's jsut temporary and the euphoria just ends up fading away. I also talk to my friends about it or about anything in general just because it takes my mind off it and it feels good cause you just know someone's there for you. Just going out and socialising helps heaps too.

that said I feel really guilty when I go out to socialise with friends when I'm depressed/feeling down though because I feel amazing for a few hours but then after a while all the negative thoughts just come flooding back and just get into the shittiest mood and it brings down the mood in general and then I feel like a horrible person

Obviously though people can't be there for you 24/7 so when I'm alone I just sleep it off but honestly it doesn't really help because I just wake up and it's like oh my problems are still very real and I can't get back to sleep. Or I listen to depressing/self empowering music and just cry cause it feels amazing afterwards.

I used to indulge myself in books as well and to be honest I find it's the most effective way to deal with negative thoughts cause like for me I just feel like I'm in a different world for a good 4-5 hours and all the problems just disappears. I haven't been reading lately though mostly cause of laziness but it really helps and really keeps you occupied! It's better than watching tv shows and it's better than listening to music.

anyways I find bottling in emotions the worst thing ever. I did it too much in high school and I'm just tired of not being able to express myself and talking and crying about it really does help.

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I know, but there are millions of ways to cheat on our brain...see I don't care if you would believe me or not, i shared my knowledge to someone who asked for it, then it's up to whoever it reads to trust my words (and all the sources and studies where I took them from).
I guess we all agree on the fact that when we are depressed we are not objective towards things so i'm much keener on believing on studies made by universities and such than on personal experience, even mine.
Some studies might not be reliable.

Many studies show that the best thing for a depression is medication + therapy + retrospective on yourself.
I prefer to believe personal experience than a weird study because I have coped with it ALL my life.

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I know, but there are millions of ways to cheat on our brain...see I don't care if you would believe me or not, i shared my knowledge to someone who asked for it, then it's up to whoever it reads to trust my words (and all the sources and studies where I took them from).
I guess we all agree on the fact that when we are depressed we are not objective towards things so i'm much keener on believing on studies made by universities and such than on personal experience, even mine.
In the other words, you have never experienced with clinical/severe depression and you have no idea what I'm talking about.


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I don't have clinical/severe depression or anything like that but when life gets me down I tend to just shut down. I still don't know how to cope with it and I just end up beating myself up for hours and it's really unhealthy.

I have temporary ways of coping though, but it's jsut temporary and the euphoria just ends up fading away. I also talk to my friends about it or about anything in general just because it takes my mind off it and it feels good cause you just know someone's there for you. Just going out and socialising helps heaps too.

that said I feel really guilty when I go out to socialise with friends when I'm depressed/feeling down though because I feel amazing for a few hours but then after a while all the negative thoughts just come flooding back and just get into the shittiest mood and it brings down the mood in general and then I feel like a horrible person

Obviously though people can't be there for you 24/7 so when I'm alone I just sleep it off but honestly it doesn't really help because I just wake up and it's like oh my problems are still very real and I can't get back to sleep. Or I listen to depressing/self empowering music and just cry cause it feels amazing afterwards.

I used to indulge myself in books as well and to be honest I find it's the most effective way to deal with negative thoughts cause like for me I just feel like I'm in a different world for a good 4-5 hours and all the problems just disappears. I haven't been reading lately though mostly cause of laziness but it really helps and really keeps you occupied! It's better than watching tv shows and it's better than listening to music.

anyways I find bottling in emotions the worst thing ever. I did it too much in high school and I'm just tired of not being able to express myself and talking and crying about it really does help.
Do you see a therapist?
It's awful.... you should not feel guilty ! you clearly have deep issues you might not totally be aware of it, so maybe you should take the time to talk to a therapist/psychiatric... I am glad you can talk to some friends

Maybe you have a clinical or severe depression, I don't know, like I said, you might not be fully aware of all your issues tbh. I mean you were beating yourself up.... that's dangerous !

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Do you see a therapist?
It's awful.... you should not feel guilty ! you clearly have deep issues you might not totally be aware of it, so maybe you should take the time to talk to a therapist/psychiatric... I am glad you can talk to some friends

Maybe you have a clinical or severe depression, I don't know, like I said, you might not be fully aware of all your issues tbh. I mean you were beating yourself up.... that's dangerous !
hahaha not literally beating myself up!! I just mean I find it really hard to let go of negative feelings sometimes and I just think about it a little too much and let it eat at me even though most of the times there's nothing I did wrong, and there's nothing I can do about it. I think I'm just a little too hard on myself and I think it's more just I find it really hard to cope with stress.

It's unhealthy but I'm sure it's nothing serious.

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I don't have clinical/severe depression or anything like that but when life gets me down I tend to just shut down. I still don't know how to cope with it and I just end up beating myself up for hours and it's really unhealthy.

I have temporary ways of coping though, but it's jsut temporary and the euphoria just ends up fading away. I also talk to my friends about it or about anything in general just because it takes my mind off it and it feels good cause you just know someone's there for you. Just going out and socialising helps heaps too.

that said I feel really guilty when I go out to socialise with friends when I'm depressed/feeling down though because I feel amazing for a few hours but then after a while all the negative thoughts just come flooding back and just get into the shittiest mood and it brings down the mood in general and then I feel like a horrible person

Obviously though people can't be there for you 24/7 so when I'm alone I just sleep it off but honestly it doesn't really help because I just wake up and it's like oh my problems are still very real and I can't get back to sleep. Or I listen to depressing/self empowering music and just cry cause it feels amazing afterwards.

I used to indulge myself in books as well and to be honest I find it's the most effective way to deal with negative thoughts cause like for me I just feel like I'm in a different world for a good 4-5 hours and all the problems just disappears. I haven't been reading lately though mostly cause of laziness but it really helps and really keeps you occupied! It's better than watching tv shows and it's better than listening to music.

anyways I find bottling in emotions the worst thing ever. I did it too much in high school and I'm just tired of not being able to express myself and talking and crying about it really does help.
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Re: How do you deal with depression?

thanks everyone for sharing your opinion and for your help

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Re: How do you deal with depression?

Sleeping always helps for me.

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Sleeping always helps for me.
That's the worst advice you could give to a person suffering of depression.
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Sleeping always helps for me.
i used to sleep a lot, it helps indeed but it's not the right way of getting rid of depression

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That's the worst advice you could give to a person suffering of depression.
I think you missed the 'for me' part.
I was just replying to the thread.

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I think you missed the 'for me' part.
I was just replying to the thread.
All psychiatrists will tell you : sleeping is not a solution at all, it's actually escaping your own problems.
Sleeping too much is even a sign of depression.
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My two problems my whole life were temper and depression. I basically lived with it without help for 37 years. I finally got help (psychiatrist) but I refused to take antidepressants for a year. Finally, I decided to start on Celexa. They helped almost immediately, although it just "takes the edge off" (with the low dose I'm on), but it's been enough of a help with those 2 issues that life feels livable now. I do recommend them if you haven't tried them.

I did cut the dosage in half awhile ago since there was a study that said anything above 40mg could cause heart rhythm irregularity. So I now take 20mg.

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