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Re: How do you deal with depression?

Mate, Read Sylvia Plath and Anne Sexton, once you've read some of their works, you will think, "Thank fuckity fuck, I'm not as queer as those fricken fruit loops!"

On a serious note, head too your GP, they will be able to point you in the right direction in regards to treatments, support groups etc.
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Medication.
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I think watching amazing TV shows and films helps. It helped me today. I actually wanted to talk to somebody when I was sober. That hasn't happened in awhile.

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So it's not a fake smile but thinking positively. Nothing to do with a fake smile at all.
no...thinking positive is necessary in every illness to heal, as for smiling it DOES make you a little happier, I couldn't find the text with the studies I went through, but here's something alike, then you are free to believe not: http://web.psych.ualberta.ca/~varn/bc/Kleinke.htm

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A number of research studies have shown that making a facial expression, such as a smile, can produce effects on the body that are similar to those that result from the actual emotion, such as happiness.

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As found in other studies, facial expressions did affect the participants' mood: Mood did not change in the control group who simply viewed the expressions. Participants who matched the positive expressions experienced a positive change in mood (they were in a more positive mood after making positive facial expressions) and participants who matched the negative expressions experienced a negative change in mood.

Participants who were more self-conscious showed greater changes in mood following making the positive or negative expressions. Kleinke et al. conclude that this finding indicates that self-conscious people are more in-tune with themselves and therefore more responsive to mood-inducting experiences.

Participants who watched their expressions in a mirror also showed a greater change in mood. It seems that the visual feedback adds to the proprioceptive self-awareness of mood-related facial expression.

Overall, this study adds to the facial feedback theory of emotion by demonstrating that a personality characteristic of self-consciousness and visual feedback both add to the effect of facial expression on emotion.

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Re: How do you deal with depression?

I just listen to my favourite songs, do something i enjoy doing or anything that makes me happy! Sleeping also really helps alot of the time i'd go to sleep early and the next morning i'd feel lots better!




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I think watching amazing TV shows and films helps. It helped me today. I actually wanted to talk to somebody when I was sober. That hasn't happened in awhile.
Sorry but when you look at the whole I guess this is the worst way to get out of the dilemma/catch 22 in which depressive people are finding theirselves.

Watching (too much) TV might be one of the main reasons that you are prone to get depressive.
You might have a temporary success but you unawarely feed anxiety and the associated feeling of no exit with stuff like that when you are depressive.

Undependently what you watch this kind of "activity" actually corrupts your abilities in imagination and building up a healthy spiritual attitude towards that what you face in your life.
When you do it in unduly fashion as a child it can reduce the physical developement of brain and do some irretrievable damage there.
Brainsciencists in Germany have researched and proved that nowadays.

As about all psychic disorder the currency, measures and the way of getting healed of it is an individual matter.
When you are not yet in a very deep stadium you can(still are able to) do a lot of things to get in control of your mental balance.
Every kind of own and not one-sided physical or spiritual activity is useful.
I`d say singing, also in a chorus is a very good thing to do.
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no...thinking positive is necessary in every illness to heal, as for smiling it DOES make you a little happier, I couldn't find the text with the studies I went through, but here's something alike, then you are free to believe not: http://web.psych.ualberta.ca/~varn/bc/Kleinke.htm
Sorry but it's bullshit.

My mother put on a fake smile for decades, thinking it would help her. She is depressed since she is like 12.

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Sorry but it's bullshit.

My mother put on a fake smile for decades, thinking it would help her. She is depressed since she is like 12.
I am sorry for your mum and as I said you are free to believe it not, but it ain't bullshit, since it's working for 99% of the people in the world.

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There are different types of depression, but putting a fake smile doesn't mean you feel better.

Try and get out to socialise with people or get a hobby will help you. Most importantly, talk to your friends instead of keeping it to yourself


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I am sorry for your mum and as I said you are free to believe it not, but it ain't bullshit, since it's working for 99% of the people in the world.
Well, in life, that's not how it happens. It's too easy.

When I was depressed, I felt even more shit when I put on a fake smile just to please these annoying people who don't even realize you need help because you are trying your best to hid it from them. That's how I felt. So basically I became distant. Life goes on (so I put on a smile because that's how you have to behave in the society), so I was like before but... a bit empty inside. And I had to do a lot of retrospective, to accept many things, to see a therapist, to find motivation for studying, to watch my favourite shows etc, to reduce my dose of medication, etc......

So the major reason of getting better is much more complex than a mere fake smile. Depression is hard to cope with. It lasts for months, and maybe even years.... not for days.

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There are different types of depression, but putting a fake smile doesn't mean you feel better.

Try and get out to socialise with people or get a hobby will help you. Most importantly, talk to your friends instead of keeping it to yourself
True, it helps to get better ! Sadly, in a depression, we don't want to meet new people and we don't feel motivated enough to find a new hobby. It's such a vicious spiral.

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True, it helps to get better ! Sadly, in a depression, we don't want to meet new people and we don't feel motivated enough to find a new hobby. It's such a vicious spiral.
Yeah, it is. It's the best alternative to doing nothing. I live with depression for 9 years, so I know where you come from. I'm a lot better now than I was 9 years ago. Hang in there, Debby


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Yeah, it is. It's the best alternative to doing nothing. I live with depression for 9 years, so I know where you come from. I'm a lot better now than I was 9 years ago. Hang in there, Debby
Don't worry, I am out from it, thankfully it only lasted a whole year, but now I am free from this shit

9 years wow... I am happy you feel a lot better !

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Well, in life, that's not how it happens. It's too easy.

When I was depressed, I felt even more shit when I put on a fake smile just to please these annoying people who don't even realize you need help because you are trying your best to hid it from them. That's how I felt. So basically I became distant. Life goes on (so I put on a smile because that's how you have to behave in the society), so I was like before but... a bit empty inside. And I had to do a lot of retrospective, to accept many things, to see a therapist, to find motivation for studying, to watch my favourite shows etc, to reduce my dose of medication, etc......

So the major reason of getting better is much more complex than a mere fake smile. Depression is hard to cope with. It lasts for months, and maybe even years.... not for days.
ok i try it a last time, maybe I asked too much to my english skills, what i meant it was that you need to force yourself to smile as smiling alterates those natural reactions to happiness and your brain feels those as if you are really enjoying the moment.
with a fake smile i meant to say that it's not a natural one as since you are depressed smiling is the last thing you want to do, that's why I called it fake.so trying to smile at things would be fake as you wouldn't feel like, but it then will help. that wouldn't change the fact that you need to TALK to friends about your issues and you need to do everything else it needs.

and i know that depression doesn't last a day or two...

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Re: How do you deal with depression?

Gaspa, do you realise depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain?


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