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Re: How do you deal with depression?

When you are in a depression, sports are not enough at all.

You need to see someone, to seek help. Talk to those you truly trust, try to get all your thoughts out from your head.

If you don't feel like exercising or stuff, fine. But at least, get up, go have a shower, try to go running errands... that will take at least months.

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I take it out on strangers over the Internet.
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Re: How do you deal with depression?

hard to say, it's something too personal to have a "right way out" which is working for anybody I've been through a really tough time few years ago as i thought everything was dark out there and i tried all the way outs, even the one which would hurt me, in a desperate attempt not to suffer...i then realized that suffering is part of human beings and one has to accept that bad days happen and the sole thing we are left to do is to wake up the next day and wear a smile, even a fake one at first, and you start to feel a little better in any case
but most of all, remember that you have friends out there or somewhere in the world and they surely don't want you to be sad

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hard to say, it's something too personal to have a "right way out" which is working for anybody I've been through a really tough time few years ago as i thought everything was dark out there and i tried all the way outs, even the one which would hurt me, in a desperate attempt not to suffer...i then realized that suffering is part of human beings and one has to accept that bad days happen and the sole thing we are left to do is to wake up the next day and wear a smile, even a fake one at first, and you start to feel a little better in any case
but most of all, remember that you have friends out there or somewhere in the world and they surely don't want you to be sad
The sole thing? No.

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The sole thing? No.
my bad, i meant to say that's the sole thing that will work for everybody, then of course everyone has to find his/her own way (as i said in the lines above)
but yes, it works for everybody because it's something prooved right by decades of studies about human behaviours, i've just gave an exam about that

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my bad, i meant to say that's the sole thing that will work for everybody, then of course everyone has to find his/her own way (as i said in the lines above)
but yes, it works for everybody because it's something prooved right by decades of studies about human behaviours, i've just gave an exam about that
I don't believe that sorry.

It works for everyone just because they have done other stuff. And it doesn't apply to depression only.

If you don't smile to your friends, some of them might turn their back on you because they are selfish and don't want to try to help a friend. So it might sink you even deeper into depression.

So you have to put on a fake smile, even when you are not depressed. It's a very common thing.

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I don't believe that sorry.

It works for everyone just because they have done other stuff. And it doesn't apply to depression only.

If you don't smile to your friends, some of them might turn their back on you because they are selfish and don't want to try to help a friend. So it might sink you even deeper into depression.

So you have to put on a fake smile, even when you are not depressed. It's a very common thing.
if they do that, they are not true friends then so it's much better for you to lose them in any case, obviously it's a terrible moment for that to happen, but it's surely better than starving for fake friendships with those so called friends stabbing you deeper into your soul actually that, for a person endowed with a heart and a brain, would be more hurtful, realizing the complete dependence of your happiness to people who don't care of yours...

studies say that forcing yourself to smile, even if it's fake makes you a little happier or the least less negative towards things and while you are depressed that's already much more than one can hope for

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if they do that, they are not true friends then so it's much better for you to lose them in any case, obviously it's a terrible moment for that to happen, but it's surely better than starving for fake friendships with those so called friends stabbing you deeper into your soul actually that, for a person endowed with a heart and a brain, would be more hurtful, realizing the complete dependence of your happiness to people who don't care of yours...

studies say that forcing yourself to smile, even if it's fake makes you a little happier or the least less negative towards things and while you are depressed that's already much more than one can hope for
That's way easier to say than to be done. It can happen to dear friends who used to care about you... and during the depression, it's always hard to deal with. After awhile, when you finally had some insight about it, you are better off them, of course, but not during the depression.

Well IMO studies are bullshit. It doesn't cover everything. Depression is much more complicated than a "fake" smile. Also, many people put on a fake smile to mask their depression and end up being more and more depressed.

Sources : hospital, my doctor, family issues, my own issues.

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Debby, i've been through and i think you know me quite enough to consider me more than a superficial person, so I think you see what's my point, don't you? what i'm trying to say it's not that wearing a fake smile will make you happy, that would be easier, but it surely helps on your way out IF you can also work on you own other ways.
the fact is that if you keep on thinking, i'm sad, none likes me, i need my friends to live even if they make me feel like shit, i'm a loser, i'm lone and such, you can't really find a way out...as in everything if you don't want something for yourself you just can't achieve it.

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Debby, i've been through and i think you know me quite enough to consider me more than a superficial person, so I think you see what's my point, don't you? what i'm trying to say it's not that wearing a fake smile will make you happy, that would be easier, but it surely helps on your way out IF you can also work on you own other ways.
the fact is that if you keep on thinking, i'm sad, none likes me, i need my friends to live even if they make me feel like shit, i'm a loser, i'm lone and such, you can't really find a way out...as in everything if you don't want something for yourself you just can't achieve it.
So it's not a fake smile but thinking positively. Nothing to do with a fake smile at all.

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Re: How do you deal with depression?

Medication.
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Medication.
Medication only is not enough : you have to get support and loads of understanding but sadly loads of people think it's not a big deal what you have and they don't understand how much you suffer... Depression and anxiety troubles are a hell but less than cancer and other deadly illnesses, I know.

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