Re: Dating Thread - Ranting, Bitching, Story-telling, Advice, and of course Judgment!
My last couple of weeks have been incredibly stressful, and I knew that trolling through TF's NT pages will bring some the necessary respite. Lo and behold, this thread exists.
My feedback back for the OP: Dating is hard. I find that if someone isn't behaving according to the expectations I have of them, and I'm getting flustered or upset that I just need to calm my shit down, because those negative feelings aren't about them, they're about me and my emotional instability. You say it's not your first time at the rodeo, but at the end of the day, we all stick with the same behavioral patterns whether we're dating for the first time or for the hundredth. Meaning, I would wager you were doing the very same things with the first guy you liked that you are now. Anyway, point is, if someone likes you, he will make it known. Even when I try to play it cool and keep it coy, I can't. If I like someone and want to spend more time with them, I just make the effort to do so. I don't know how old you are, but if your main concern when it comes to dating is to find a lasting relationship, you're gonna need to behave like it. If two people are attracted to and want to spend more time with one another, both should actually work on making everything work.
But really as someone who thought he seriously liked five different men since June 4th, I may not be counted on to give suitable dating advice.
Last edited by shap_half; Jul 12th, 2012 at 03:56 AM.