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I met this guy and he seemed interested in me. He took my number. He texted me after and we talked a bit. He wanted to see me sometime soon. And then boom! He told me about his date the night before -.-

That was a few weeks ago. Anyway, today I decided to text him and ask how he goes. He told me that he had a "rotten day" and I asked what happened. He said he and his boyfriend are broke up. My first thought was, "Wow! Was he your boyfriend already? You only just met him!"


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I don't get why gay men do that sometimes. Jump into relationships fast, only to break-up after a few weeks/a couple months I thought we were wise enough not to fall for such decision-making Well, at least most of us are

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Well, I realized my ex husband is.
Ouch, hun. I know how that is. But you'll both be stronger in the end for what happened between the two of you.

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The ring don't mean a thing isn't a coincidental term

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Ouch, hun. I know how that is. But you'll both be stronger in the end for what happened between the two of you.
Honestly, it really hurt at first. I'm slowly getting stronger, but the hard part is the kids. How the hell do I explain this to 6 and four year olds?


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Well, I realized my ex husband is.
omg I can't believe he did that too you but it happens way more often than it should. I think too many gays r just in denial for far too long and end up ruining other people's lives.

although there's also the pressure of society and stuff so even tho he is accountable for his actions I don't think he really meant any harm. personally I know of a situation like this too and for their case it really just was society and pressure for the family and stuff

i hope you're holding up okay! I couldn't give u advice on what to tell ur kids but perhaps join some gay forums and find guidance there?
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Honestly, it really hurt at first.
I don't want to say "I know how you feel" since that's insensitive, but like, I know what it is like, at the very least. Because you feel not only did the relationship end, but the relationship was a sham from the start, and also, that being a woman, you were never good enough. So it's really, really tough. At the same time, I'm sure he was struggling too and is sad about what he did. These types of relationships happen all over the world, and they end up horribly 95% of the time.

It's a reflection of a society where people don't realize they are gay until later in life, or repress the fact they're gay until they're borderline suicidal. It sucks.

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I'm slowly getting stronger, but the hard part is the kids. How the hell do I explain this to 6 and four year olds?
Tell them when they're older. Unless your partner finds a boyfriend. You should keep him in your life to some extent because you did have kids with him. But don't approach the issue yet. Do it when they're around tween years.

Right now just say "mommy and daddy had an argument and daddy isn't here", you know. Bullshit it. "Daddy went away". And then every once in a while, if you ex wants to see the kids and he should be responsible and do so, then you let him see them so his presence is still in their lives.

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i disagree tbh. Lying to a child is the worst thing because when they grow up they'll be like WHY DIDN'T YOU JUST TELL ME THE TRUTH, HOW CAN I TRUST YOU etc and they'll be even more confused I'd think. Lying will ALWAYS create more problems, maybe not now, but in the future. I think you should always be honest, maybe tell them half the truth until they're ready? Like "he wasn't ready to commit" or something in kid language.
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Yeah, the pressure to have a family is huge, huge, huge. For both straight and gay people. This is one of the reasons why most marriages fail. They're actually based on goals, and not love. It's about appearances and appeasement. A lot of lesbian/gay persons want families and end up going the heterosexual route to get them but then realize that they can't deny their orientation. 2% of ex-gay relationships last longer than 5 years. Not saying this guy was ex-gay but it shows repressing your orientation simply doesn't work and hurts many people, and hurts yourself.

This is why you'll see a lot of straight folk jump from relationship to relationship or carry a relationship while cheating on the side. It's about appeasing society. It's sad. We have too many hangups on sex.

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i disagree tbh. Lying to a child is the worst thing because when they grow up they'll be like WHY DIDN'T YOU JUST TELL ME THE TRUTH, HOW CAN I TRUST YOU etc and they'll be even more confused I'd think. Lying will ALWAYS create more problems, maybe not now, but in the future. I think you should always be honest, maybe tell them half the truth until they're ready? Like "he wasn't ready to commit" or something in kid language.
Well yeah, that's what I meant You don't want to lie, you just need to bullshit the truth. You need to half truth it. Don't give the full answers but enough to satisfy them. I definitely don't think lying is the answer, in fact, it's the absolutely wrong thing to do as you said.

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Why are men so ignornat? Ain't nobody got time for that! I need a pick me up. Someone rant with me

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Re: Dating Thread - Ranting, Bitching, Story-telling, Advice, and of course Judgment!

Well, I don't know if what happened today was a date, but if it was, it was a bad one.
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My new rage is sluts. Grindr is depressing.

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