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Thanks for the wonderful support and comments guys, it means a lot

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Came out to my friends yesterday actually. It was so nice to finally get it over and done with. They were so accepting and I've been in such a good mood afterward. I feel so elated rn!
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Ok, enough of the coming out stuff. You're out. Everyone posting here is out. Great! It will only get better and easier, and you will never regret it.

Now, on to more important things. I think everyone should post about their first gay sexual experiences, but only if you're over 18 and you keep it softcore so we don't get into trouble. I go last.

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Ok, enough of the coming out stuff. You're out. Everyone posting here is out. Great! It will only get better and easier, and you will never regret it.

Now, on to more important things. I think everyone should post about their first gay sexual experiences, but only if you're over 18 and you keep it softcore so we don't get into trouble. I go last.
Fine, I'll be happy to post about it when it happens
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I feel so glad to see you have done your first step and I am also very delighted to see many posters here are so nice and friendly... I have similar stories with you, I came out to my very close friends (6 girls) at the age of 15, I wasnt nervous at all, because I think they should be able to accept... They are actually all my classmates and best friends at school. They actually aren't too shocking to know, but for me, I feel thats a huge relife... One of my friend actually always wanted me to become straight and always persuade me, but I always decline, and until now, I feel very happy to be gay and doing well at school.

But something I will not do is telling my sexuality to boys and to school 'publicly'. What I mean is I will not let the whole school to know I am gay, it will be horrible in Hong Kong if that situations had happened because most of the Hong Kong students or youngsters does not like gay people, they will use a different glasses to see you, looking at you strangely and you obviously will feel not comfortable about it. Also, I will not let any boys know I am gay, because they just treat me like bros, we always play together.*One of them always hug all the noys in our class including me, I enjoy that , but so needed to pretend to hate that, I feel so worry that f my sexuality is exposed to boys, no ne will even talk to me...

Speaking about parents, I will not choose to come out to them also, never. It is because I feel that my mum hate gay people. Actually in Hong Kong, I think no parents would love their children to be gay.;.. I will try to make dating with BF secretly, and not letting them to know forever. I feel myself one day will get married and born some kids cause I am bi, so I wouldn't be too worry. (But to be honest, I think I love boys more than girls)

I know this isn't any advice, but I would love to share my thoughts to all of you and maybe continue our gay discussions, I love that. Hope you will have a good and wonderful life being gay

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TF is always here to listen. It's not an easy road, i'm not finished on that front myself, but its a step in the right direction.

And definitely feel you on the Asian parents thing. I was born in America, but my parents are Taiwanese. Not the most accepting culture.

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Came out to my friends yesterday actually. It was so nice to finally get it over and done with. They were so accepting and I've been in such a good mood afterward. I feel so elated rn!
glad that it worked out! They're definitely your true friends if they accept you for who you are and treat you the same.

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Ok, enough of the coming out stuff. You're out. Everyone posting here is out. Great! It will only get better and easier, and you will never regret it.

Now, on to more important things. I think everyone should post about their first gay sexual experiences, but only if you're over 18 and you keep it softcore so we don't get into trouble. I go last.

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At my birthday party last night, I got really drunk. Usually I'm a really happy drunk person and I'm always dancing or socializing and cracking jokes but I felt really bothered/strange for some reason and I'm sure it had to do with a lot of new changes in my life.

Anyway, some family members thought it would be funny to get me a Maria Sharapova cake because they know how much I like her. Already drunk at this point, I told my cousins around me that she was the only girl I'd ever eat. Two of my (girl) cousins began to hound me for the rest of the night about my sexual experiences. I told them that I wouldn't tell and that my life was a "secret within a secret". I also said that I couldn't tell them because they were Catholic and judgmental even though I know I can trust them with anything. (I was just being a wreck and coy)

They kept making guesses that were so wrong and all I said was that I wouldn't say my secret explicitly but that they had to think outside the box. Finally my aunt said, "You're gay?" I said "I'm not going to say yes or no...my life's not an open book..." But then afterwards, I began to rant about double standards and how there's nothing wrong with being gay and how my uncles are assholes for making homophobic remarks in the past. I told them I didn't care anymore about what people think because I'm an adult and it's my responsibility to have that self-respect. It was basically my drunk affirmation of their guess, because one of them finally said, "I had a feeling you were sexually deviant!"

I actually feel like crap today and I wish I didn't do it (in that way, at least). I much preferred it when my life was secretive and people didn't know who I was sleeping with. I love my cousins and they're probably my best friends too but....it bothers me that my life is out there now. I've always been careful not to reveal too much to others, not just about my sexuality, but about everything. It's been my mechanism to protect...well, I'm not going to go into all that right now.

If anything, I'm just shocked that despite being drunk, I revealed that much in one night.
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It's such a release, like a million burdens lifted. Good for u in having the courage to share ur true self. I think you'll be relieved when your parents know as well. I hope they react like ur friends did.

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Thought my parents would kill me for drinking at 14. Didn't happen

Thought my parents would definately kill me for starting smoking at 15. Didn't happen

Thought my parents really had to kill me for finding out I was doing the biz with boys at 16 . Didn't happen

It is worse in your head, but at the same time you never stop coming out. You'll always have to tell people you're gay throughout your life. Best of luck

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At my birthday party last night, I got really drunk. Usually I'm a really happy drunk person and I'm always dancing or socializing and cracking jokes but I felt really bothered/strange for some reason and I'm sure it had to do with a lot of new changes in my life.

Anyway, some family members thought it would be funny to get me a Maria Sharapova cake because they know how much I like her. Already drunk at this point, I told my cousins around me that she was the only girl I'd ever eat. Two of my (girl) cousins began to hound me for the rest of the night about my sexual experiences. I told them that I wouldn't tell and that my life was a "secret within a secret". I also said that I couldn't tell them because they were Catholic and judgmental even though I know I can trust them with anything. (I was just being a wreck and coy)

They kept making guesses that were so wrong and all I said was that I wouldn't say my secret explicitly but that they had to think outside the box. Finally my aunt said, "You're gay?" I said "I'm not going to say yes or no...my life's not an open book..." But then afterwards, I began to rant about double standards and how there's nothing wrong with being gay and how my uncles are assholes for making homophobic remarks in the past. I told them I didn't care anymore about what people think because I'm an adult and it's my responsibility to have that self-respect. It was basically my drunk affirmation of their guess, because one of them finally said, "I had a feeling you were sexually deviant!"

I actually feel like crap today and I wish I didn't do it (in that way, at least). I much preferred it when my life was secretive and people didn't know who I was sleeping with. I love my cousins and they're probably my best friends too but....it bothers me that my life is out there now. I've always been careful not to reveal too much to others, not just about my sexuality, but about everything. It's been my mechanism to protect...well, I'm not going to go into all that right now.

If anything, I'm just shocked that despite being drunk, I revealed that much in one night.
yes, well done and be proud of that moment of pure freedom
what its written below is so true, life is a constant coming out, but there will come a moment when u will just act the way u are without explaining too much because its a different behavior in a world of differences that means normality to me
the huge step is the talk with parents, they are among the few that usually deserve explanation and the ones able to surprise u most of times
it is normal to feel weird right now, u will methabolize soon and understand that what u made was a huge right step

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Thought my parents would kill me for drinking at 14. Didn't happen

Thought my parents would definately kill me for starting smoking at 15. Didn't happen

Thought my parents really had to kill me for finding out I was doing the biz with boys at 16 . Didn't happen

It is worse in your head, but at the same time you never stop coming out. You'll always have to tell people you're gay throughout your life. Best of luck
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