What a trollish op-ed!
Originally Posted by skanky~skanketta
Some things should stay in the closet
By Sajahan Abdul Waheed
NST assistant news editor | 0 comments
ZIP THE LIPS: We may want to practice absolute freedom but, remember, chaos and confusion would follow.
[LEFT][COLOR=#000000]SOME things should just remain in the closet. Coming out and parading one’s sexual preference is just not cool.
This brings us to the case of 28-year-old former medical student Ariff Alfian Rosli, 28, who just has no qualms about exposing his sexual identity. He got “married” to a guy in Ireland and their “wedding” pictures were splashed all over the Internet.
One thing that he has either forgotten or is not bothered with is that whatever he does with his life would have an impact and bearing on others. He is not alone as he surely has a family.
He has also left his family in deep trouble as Petronas, which gave him an educational loan, has issued a summons to his parents, demanding the repayment of about RM890,000.
What the writer failed to mention is that Petronas revoked their loan because Ariff Rosli breached contract by failing to fulfil his academic obligations. It has no relevance to his homosexuality and hence there was no need for its mention in the paper.
Makes you wonder what the real motivation the writer has for putting this man on blast.
Then there was Seksualiti Merdeka recently, which wanted to promote freedom of sexuality and identity for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders.
The organisers had no problems coming out in public and announcing to the whole world that there should be sexual freedom in the country.
[COLOR=#000000]It is true that we are living in a modern society but there should be limits to everything that we do in life.
Don’t forget that we live in a multiracial society where culture and traditions are deeply entrenched.
Thus, why not just keep certain things in the closet?
What kind of argument is this?
Some might argue that by revealing his or her sexual preference, one is being true to himself or herself and is, thus, not being hypocritical.
But having said that, why not take a step further back?
We would then be able to see the consequences of our actions on loved ones, people who are part of our lives and our own families.
Finally, a semblance of an argument appears.
This seems to be a reduction of individualism vs collectivism. Doing what you feel is in your own best interest (in this case, coming out) balanced against the expectation of family and society.
Newsflash: this is something most individuals go through at some point in their life, though to varying degrees. It's not exclusive to gays.
Perhaps Ariff Alfian wanted to share his “excitement” as a newly- wed with the rest of the world. But is it necessary? Did he take a few minutes to consider how his mum’s heart would have broken into little pieces upon seeing the pictures of her son getting “married” to another man?
Or how his father would have to put up with stares and remarks from people in their community? Obviously, Ariff Alfian had little time to take all that into consideration.
I really take exception to his naming of this Ariff person. He obviously has an axe to grind, but it is irresponsible of him to do so in this manner.
Part of growing up is realizing that your parents aren't always correct. You have to navigate the waters yourself, and chart your own course. Sometimes, parents will disagree with it, but they've had a chance to live theirs, and good parents will give you a chance to live yours. (This obviously excludes criminal behaviour).
Is there a need for same-sex cou ples to go out holding hands or displaying their affection for each other in public?
People have largely been quite lenient and tolerant, but there is really no need to stretch their tolerance any further.
Wow! I find this honesty refreshing lol. If only all sneaky homophobes would be like this and just get straight to the point.
This is a very simple thing — if you feel that there are too many restrictions and Malaysian society cannot accept you for who you are, well, you should know what needs to be done.
That is what Seksualiti Merdeka organisers must realise. Freedom of expression has limits and if one were to practise absolute freedom, then chaos and confusion would rule.
What a fail. The writer concludes his article with the title claim that he didn't provide a shred of evidence for.