I'm coming off my anti-depressants at the moment. I feel the time is right
. I've got something to look forward to which is important. I've got a place I can perform music regularly (well, once a month anyway
), and I'm joining the tennis club soon (about time, as I've had lessons for a few years now
It's important to have interests like that
. Take up a sport or music or something is what advice I'd give. Even if you suck at first if you keep working at it you won't suck forever
Me too right now actually after being on them for a bit over 6 months, though I'm going cold turkey. I just decided one day that I didn't want to take them anymore. Aren't the withdrawal symptoms a bitch though?
During the first few days I seriously felt like falling over all the time from all the vertigo, dizziness and these "brain zaps" that come with the SSRI withdrawal. It's the weirdest feeling, whenever I stood up, made a sudden movement or even moved my eyes quickly I had these weird sensations of spinning or that I was about to faint even.
Another one of the awful withdrawl symptoms was the insomnia, I would hardly sleep at all! =/
Beside that though, like Diamondtieva, I feel like I'm in a much better place now and I don't need to rely on them to stop me getting stuck in those awful negative thinking patterns. Now that I've been off them for about a week and a half the withdrawal symptoms are basically gone, my sleep seems much more normal and I just feel freer if that makes any sense. On the drugs I wasn't depressed but I didn't really have that many extreme highs either, rather I was sort of stuck in this mediocre middle zone. Saying that though, they definitely ARE a good tool when used in the correct circumstances and I don't regret using them at all. It's good to know there is something out there to help me if I ever get to a dark place like that again and can't seem to shake it off.
But yeah like Diamondtieva (aka Aaron) says, people with social anxiety definitely need to try and keep themselves busy and try to keep social (well as possible as you can in your specific situation). Otherwise if you don't you can start just getting much worse and it may get much harder to fix and even start causing other problems like depression, if it hasn't already. I was almost at the stage of being a hermit during my earlier University days but now after a bit of help from a psychologist, anti-depressants/anti-anxiety medication and pushing myself a little I feel much better. Though I'm not really done with my therapy yet and am nowhere near the most socially outgoing person, and probably never will be, I'm starting to get to a stage now where I can go out and do normal things like any old normal person without being left paralysed by my anxiety.
My best suggestion for you if you really want to get better would be to firstly go and see your doctor and see if they can refer you to a good psychologist. It's probably pretty scary, it took me months to make this step, but it definitely is the right one if you want to at least try and get better.