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post #1 of 51 (permalink) Old Nov 12th, 2002, 04:59 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy A girl from my city hanged herself

She was 16, she left a letter saying that life sucked & there is nothing to live for.

She also wrote that her grades dropped, & her parents made her quit the scouts (where she was already a leader in some big group... Dont know the english word), & she fought with her friends.

Apperantly, alot of kids from my class knew her, a friend of mine was crying for hours.

When will this world stop being crap?

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post #2 of 51 (permalink) Old Nov 12th, 2002, 05:32 PM
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How selfish of her to do that.
I feel bad for her parents!
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Yes, sometimes stuff just is crap, huh?

Suicide is a touchy subject for me, as people very close to me (a best freind, and a couple relatives) have attempted it, and I personally thought about it years ago during my "darker" days.

I feel for the families and freinds of the victim, and the everyone in your community who this will touch
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poor girl

it's probably the most selfish thing you can do..but I can imagine it's sometimes very hard for some people
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Actually I can sympathize! When things are seemingly that bad, it can be a brand of hell. Some people just can't seem to bounce back.
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post #6 of 51 (permalink) Old Nov 12th, 2002, 06:24 PM Thread Starter
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I havent actually heard of her untill today, but some of my friends were so sad, that made me really sad too, almost like i knowed her

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Why is it "the most selfish thing you can do"? In the end everybody needs to live their lifes themselves, it's their life, they don't owe it to others to continue living in a way that they dont like and if suicide is the only way out for them it would be selfish of the others to expect them to keep living that life. Of course friends and family can offer help and support in finding a way out but in the end it's not their life.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend Nimi. At times like this, there seem to be no right words to be said....
Strength to you and all others.

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sometimes life can be hell

I find that "how selfish" a little cruel, nobody does it for fun!

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post #9 of 51 (permalink) Old Nov 12th, 2002, 06:36 PM
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it's very said...
but i don't think that the girl is so poor, i think her family is poor.
the girl ruind their lifes...

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*sigh*

good post josh i agree.
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Difficult to be judgemental about suicide. I understand that sometimes, someone may feel that there is no way out and find it hard to keep the very taste of life.
But suicide is a gesture with tremendous, devastating effects. Even if I felt utmostly miserable, I don't think that I'd kill myself, because I know that it is about the worst thing, the most cruel, the most irreversible thing I could do to those who care for me. I don't blame those who do, but I don't feel the right to annihilate others' lives by blowing up my own.

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Agree with Josh, i don't blame my g/f for committing suicide, sometimes people (like myself) have got to take responsibility for the way loved ones feel, i will always blame myself, as for this girls family and friends, i cannot answer for them, i do not know the situation as such but she obviously felt unloved and un-needed.

Someone should have seen the signs, unfortunately we live in a self-centred world.

Nimi - 'When will this world stop being so crap' It won't, it is ruined, most people are too selfish to care, it's great people saying sorry on a board or even in life, but this girl will be forgotten and people will go back to complaining about there fave mag being out of stock or the price of fish!

It's a world where priorities are wrong
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I agree with Josh and gmt

well if you consider it for yourself, it's not selfish. You decide what you want to do with your life, that's all. And you have the right to do that.

But what gmt said is so true. The consequences of a suicide are huge. Parents, friends will always have a feeling of failure...they did something wrong, they didn't help him/her when he/she was in need. They will never understand why he/she did it.. Especially for parents it's incredible hard imo.
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youth suicide is always sad,very sad.
a boy 15 hanged himself at a school here from the rugby post in the middle of the field,in the middle of the day.....he lived in my town.

JUST DO IT.
Its not over at 22.
No shame, No fear, No sense of guilt...
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I am pretty touchy on this subject, and there was another thread like this about someone's principle killing himself and I didn't write in that one, but I guess I'll write in this one..

Well, suicide is a lot harder when you are in that position...You don't think about how selfsih you are. You just think about killing the pain on the inside, by hurting or harming the pain on the outside. And you only figure out that it doesn't help cure the awful and depressing feeling on the inside. It's just that some poeple(including me.. ) would rather die than go through with their life...And it's really hard to try to keep yourself from hurting yourself. And most people who commit suicide have a depression disorder and half don't even know that, so they weren't able to be treated. And personaly, I dont think it's very selfish...It's your life, why do you have to live for other people when you aren't even happy you're living...All of this is just my opinion...

Nimi, i'm sorry about your friend...

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