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UPDATE: Please, I need some advice....

Ok so this is a typical gay boy problem so I really hope someone here can give some directions on what to or not to do.

Well so about two weeks ago I met this cute dude at a party, he is a friend of a friend of mine, when we were at the apoggeum of this party I noticed he kept looking me in this weird way like if he wanted to ask me something but he wouldn't, anyway at first I dint' mind but he kept staring so I grew some and started conversation with him, he seemed really nice and sweet but he also stated very clear that he was straight (kept talking about some girls breats and other things I'm not interested about), at the end of the party I went out for some fresh air and I see him staring at me again I pass right by his side but couldn't say a word (I felt overexcited for some reason) but I did smile at him, he smiles back but didn't say a word either. I went home and I couldn't stop thinking about this guy who I wouldn't even notice if he wasn't staring in the first place, I also couldn't even figure out what was in his mind.

Days went by I met with him again at another party and this is where it gets tricky, he almost completely ingnores me the whole time bar the occasional and dicreet stare (he would turn his head around if I would respond at him with a stare, in our first meet I would turn my head because he would make me feel uncomfortable), to this day we cassually say hi to each other when we see each other at our colleges halls but nothing else.

My question is what should I do, should I confront him, should I forget about him, or what?

Deep in my heart I know I should forget about him (my friends feel the same), I know better and I've known alot of straights who will feel a little attracted to guys when the suficient amount of alcohol gets to their system and it doesn't mean it will turn them gay or bi or anything so what do you think?

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Re: Please, I need some advice....

Forget about him. What will you get out of it otherwise?
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Re: Please, I need some advice....

If he's drop dead gorgeous or has a big dick, I'd get him drunk and see if he makes a move. Otherwise, forget it, total loser. Trust your instincts and those of your friends.

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Forget about him. What will you get out of it otherwise?
Nothing good I know, but deep down in my heart I want him to be gay. Honestly speaking I think I just felt flattered by how he was looking at me, my ego felt kissed, hugged and loved for a couple of hours lol

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If he's drop dead gorgeous or has a big dick, I'd get him drunk and see if he makes a move. Otherwise, forget it, total loser. Trust your instincts and those of your friends.
He's really really cute but I wasn't thinking of him as sex partner material lmao

I will wait and see if he makes a move though, he did added me to facebook after all so I guess he at least wants us to stay in touch.

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If you're not interested in him for sex, then what's the point? You could be his friend and it doesn't matter if he's gay or straight if you don't want to sleep with him.

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If you're not interested in him for sex, then what's the point? You could be his friend and it doesn't matter if he's gay or straight if you don't want to sleep with him.
I couldn't be his friend if I feel atracted to him in a romantic way now, could I? The akwardness will ultimately grew us apart. And not everything is about sex.

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Romantic feelings and sex go hand in hand. Unless you're asexual. Maybe it was a language thing but you said you didn't see him as a sex partner i.e. someone you wanted to have sex with.

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Romantic feelings and sex go hand in hand. Unless you're asexual. Maybe it was a language thing but you said you didn't see him as a sex partner i.e. someone you wanted to have sex with.
At first hand no, I reckon when time goes by and you get really close to that person you get to different stages of feelings for that one, so in that case yes, but I don't go around thinking about sex people out even if I feel really attracted to them, mostly so if I don't really know them.

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I don't understand what that means except you were disingenuous with saying you didn't want to have sex with him. It seems you're coming from this at a different point of view where you're hoping he is gay and want a relationship. So my advice is to let it go, since a random sexual encounter is not an option for you. Stick to dating openly gay guys.

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I don't understand what that means except you were disingenuous with saying you didn't want to have sex with him. It seems you're coming from this at a different point of view where you're hoping he is gay and want a relationship. So my advice is to let it go, since a random sexual encounter is not an option for you. Stick to dating openly gay guys.
Yea. Ok, thanks.

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Forget about him. But stay friendly.
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Yea. Ok, thanks.
LOL that seemed dismissive. Just trying to help.

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LOL that seemed dismissive. Just trying to help.
Not at all. You are just too sensitive I guess.

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when we were at the apoggeum of this party
I've never seen that word and party used in the same sentence before

I would bet he probably wasn't staring at you anyway. You just thought that he was because you want it to be true.

Move along before you embarrass yourself and make every time with him awkward for the both of you.

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Not at all. You are just too sensitive I guess.
You've been less than kind to me in the past so I guess I am sensitive in regards to you.

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